Welcome RuddyR. I'm probably just going to end up echoing what my other sly bros have said but I would shave it, or clip it if that makes you feel more comfortable for now, and give at least a month so the awkward period will pass. Because you will probably be a little shocked by it at first but it will pass given enough time. Good luck man.
I dont talk about it with ANYONE. A couple of my buddies are in worst shape. Everyone knows theyre balding, but no one talks about it. They know im balding too, but again, not a word about it is said. I think its sort of an unspoken, hidden social club that we're all in. I look at his hair, he looks at mine, we look at eachother for 2 seconds knowing we're thinking about the same thing and just move on.
Quote from: RuddyR on April 01, 2007, 06:49:50 PM I dont talk about it with ANYONE. A couple of my buddies are in worst shape. Everyone knows theyre balding, but no one talks about it. They know im balding too, but again, not a word about it is said. I think its sort of an unspoken, hidden social club that we're all in. I look at his hair, he looks at mine, we look at eachother for 2 seconds knowing we're thinking about the same thing and just move on. welcome Ruddy....heres what ya do...gather up all your buddys that are balding in one place and TALK about it....just come right out and say it..."hey we're all going bald..what are we gonna do about it"...then ask them what they think about shaving their heads...if they say no..say "well i been thinking about it and i'm GONNA do it......anyone in on this?",explain to them that you dont want to take drugs or get transplants or try to hide it.... maybe a few will shave with ya ...also do the donate the hair thing...if someone asks you why you did it..you did it to donate for cancer research...win win situation...i get anxiety also...it sucks..but let me tell you...its ALOT better now that i've shaved it off....i used to avoid any situation that i couldnt wear a hat ...and thats alot of things in life i've missed..stop it before it gets worst.dont fall for the plugs and drugs and rugs....you dont want to look like this later in life...
Hi,My names Ruddy and im a 22 year old college student. Id like to start off by saying that im pretty happy i found this forum. I wasnt really looking for one til about 20 min ago...mostly cause its a boring night, got tired of studying for my exams and all my roommates are home for the weekend, so i thought; "why not". Heres my story. I think im balding! I started noticing a "thinning" look when i was a senior in high school. I didnt think much of it i guess. It was just a; "hmm, thats weird..oh well" kinda thing. But over the years, ive noticed that my hair has been thinning more and more, and the tell u guys the truth, its eating me up inside..pretty bad too. My family and friends know im losing my lush, theyre not stupid, but they never say anything about it. I feel like everytime i take off my baseball cap - which by the way i never leave the house without - i feel like everyones looking at my hair and thinking; "oh, Ruddy's balding," so i never take it off. When im on the bus, i always compare my hair to other guys' and try to accept the fact that "its okay". Sometimes i feel a little releived spotting a guy my age whos losing it too, makes me feel like im not the only one and maybe, just maybe, i could feel fine about it...but i never do. I just keep my hat on and pretend that its not happening to me...maybe it'll go away. I buzzed my head once - lost a bet, long story - it felt pretty good, but i didnt look good. My heads got a weird shape and it made me feel even worst..soooo embarrassing. I always had long hair, ever since i can remember and the fact that i wont have any in a few years is killing me. Im so self-conscious about it. I dont talk about it with ANYONE. A couple of my buddies are in worst shape. Everyone knows theyre balding, but no one talks about it. They know im balding too, but again, not a word about it is said. I think its sort of an unspoken, hidden social club that we're all in. I look at his air, he looks at mine, we look at eachother for 2 seconds knowing we're thinking about the same thing and just move on. Im not really crying and complaining about all this. I know im balding, i know i'll be regularly shaving my head in a couple of years but i think im just dumbfounded that its happening. I also dont know how to deal with it..emotionallyI dont really know where im going with this, I kinda felt like opening up i guess...see what you experts would say. I lurked around before registering and thought; "hey, these guys are pretty cool". What do u guys think? *brings in a smooth, cool case of beers for everyone*CHEERS!Ruddy!
Quote from: RuddyR on April 01, 2007, 06:49:50 PMWOW Wish I could wave a magic wand and make you feel better. I started loosing my hair at your age and being a 70's guy... it drove me crazy. Long hair in my teens. Loosing my hair in my early 20's, I thought I was not attractive and much more. In my early 30's I chose to get hair transplants. Long story. Then I wore hair... More long story... I was told I was attractive with the fake hair but, still not the same... Shaved it just before Christmas of 2006. Now I just don't give a damn what they say. This is me. Bottom line: I still have a problem dealing with this....I think most of us have appearance-related insecurities. And in my experience, if it's not your hair, it's something else. I started obsessing over mine in my early 20s when I first noticed it was beginning to thin and recede. I checked it on a daily basis to see if it was getting worse or not. It progressed so slowly, and for a long time it was not really obvious to others, but I dreaded the day when it did become obvious. Eventually, I shaved my head and that was the end of my hair worries. I was happy for a while, but then the novelty wore off and I started to obsess over my weak chin, which seemed more noticeable now that I didn't have hair on my head for people to focus on. So I grew a goatee to cover up the weak chin. Then I started to obsess over my weight. I joined a gym , built up some muscle and lost some fat. I am finally starting to feel better about that but I'm still fighting that battle. If and when I ever win that war, I'm sure I will find something else that I don't like about myself.Bottom line: none of us is perfect and we're often our own harshest critics. When was the last time you saw a bald guy and thought, "Oh my God, that guy is REALLY bald." You just don't because you see bald guys every day and don't think anything of it. And other people don't think anything one way or the other about your bald head. Just do the best you can with what God gave you to work with. That's all any of us can do in the end.
WOW Wish I could wave a magic wand and make you feel better. I started loosing my hair at your age and being a 70's guy... it drove me crazy. Long hair in my teens. Loosing my hair in my early 20's, I thought I was not attractive and much more. In my early 30's I chose to get hair transplants. Long story. Then I wore hair... More long story... I was told I was attractive with the fake hair but, still not the same... Shaved it just before Christmas of 2006. Now I just don't give a damn what they say. This is me. Bottom line: I still have a problem dealing with this....
Its like driving a Kia and buying an M5 the next day. People are gonna be shocked!
thanks everybody. Looks like its a lot easier to encourage shaving your head once youve actually done it. I bet you guys debated with yourselves and wondered whether or not shaving it would be the best idea. I know that once i do it i'll feel alright with it but right now, its a matter of actually doing it. Its like i said earlier, i'll wait til schools done and then i'll feel a little better in shaving it off. I'll send you guys before and after pics aswell, of course
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