Author Topic: The Human Hemorroid (Read 3390 times)

don · « **on:** August 13, 2007, 11:05:18 PM »

I have a friend who I think I mentioned before that's really working his way out of my heart. He had hair transplants done a few years back and now he says he wants to take me to a free consultation at Bosley for hair transplantation. I told him I wasn't interested and he said to just let them look at you and see if you qualify. He mentioned this several months ago too. Being an actor he's probably more vain but he insisted that lots of non actors have it done too.I told him I'm afraid of getting cut and he said that it dosen't hurt,just a little mild discomfort after it's over.When I told him that confidence comes from within he agreed with me but still said that if there are things out there to help you look better why not take advantage of them. He said wigs are nice but they wind up being put back in the closet where as transplantation is permanent and it's your own hair. Needless to say he really ruffled my feathers and made me so self concious of my appearance that I felt unattractive. Why the hell is this stupid hedge hog so obsessed with my hair.Does it bother him to look at my thinning hair! The bottom line is that he won because today I wore my hairpiece again. I woke up depressed this morning and started cursing mother nature for letting this happen to me. I envy men who still have their own hair. He really got on my last nerve.How should I handle this a$$hole?

JDog · « **Reply #1 on:** August 13, 2007, 11:34:39 PM »

My advice would be to really consider whether this person is a true friend or not.

shyslyguy · « **Reply #2 on:** August 14, 2007, 01:40:54 AM »

Hi Don,

Why don't you tell your friend that you prefer to go natural now as you don't see anything intrinsically wrong with a man thinning as he gets older as it's a natural occurance & that you believe that the hair transplant industry is holding men back from being happy with themselves as they are & are trading on men's insecurities .... & that you'd rather not buy into that idea anymore.
You could also say many people find a man who can be happy, & make the best of himself as he truly is, far more attractive than men who are constantly trying to hold on to some youthful ideal of themselves? That might shut him up - you are not the victim here - he is! He's the one who needs his disguise to face the world ... not you!

Good on you by the way for trying to ditch the hairpiece too. I know it's not always easy (especially with people like your "friend" around) but I think you are doing the right thing

Good luck with it all

Timmay · « **Reply #3 on:** August 14, 2007, 07:48:15 AM »

Yes I agree with the others...whats wrong with going natural. You know..about 5 years ago I was sorta worried about the balding thing...but now being a BBC...I wish it was all natural. Not that I dont like shaving and all...because it is part of my morning and sometimes an evening shave will get slipped in when I want to feel extra smooth for the evening. Most important thing Don....is to do what makes you feel happy. God has created us and we are who we are. Only other advice is if you are going to wear a headpiece....please by the love of God....make sure it looks real. I dont think there would be anything more embarassing than to find out that the headpiece i was wearing looked really fake and everyone knew it but was too kind to point it out. Like I said before ..nothing like seeing a 80 year old man wiht coal black hair....if it is just because he likes it that way ....thats fine...but if he is doing it because he thinks he is fooling people....Come On...get real...
Good luck in what ever you decide to do there Mr Don....but some will find that once you shave..you never go back.
So far...Im staying BBC

JDog · « **Reply #4 on:** August 14, 2007, 07:51:07 AM »

I reciprocate Tims sentiments.

A fresh headshave when you get home from work to prepare for the evening relax,meal and family socializing is a wonderful feeling.

don · « **Reply #5 on:** August 14, 2007, 10:27:15 PM »

Thanks so much guys for the replies. To be honest I only wear the hairpiece once in a blue moon and it is natural looking.Now that I'm going natural most of the time,I must admit that when I do wear the piece on certain occasions it's a pain in the ass to have to put on and style. The thing is I think I look ok natural and I get mad at myself for letting this horses ass make me feel like my balding is a deformity.I'm trying to avoid this pathetic loser as much as I can and all my other friends assured me that I still look handsome in my natural state.

jusbnme · « **Reply #6 on:** August 14, 2007, 10:33:56 PM »

The others covered it very well but I would also go for the straight up, blunt approach with this guy. I would tell him that you are happy with your hair the way it is and that you are even considering shaving it all off. Let him know that his comments are starting to really bother you and making you question him as a "true friend." Tell him that you don't want to hear anything about your hair anymore and that if he is a true friend he will respect this wish and except you just the way you are. If he can't except you how you feel happy with yourself then maybe he isn't a friend after all. Good luck and know you have plenty of support from some good guys here.

Bolohead · « **Reply #7 on:** August 15, 2007, 06:50:47 AM »

Don

It sound like to me that he has a problem, and it is his problem of not feeling confident about himself, and that is within his own person he is at a loss. Don't fall into his personal problems of acceptance. It's like real fat people have a history of hanging around other fatter people to make themself feel acceptable or better. They rarely hang around well fit people because they can't keep up or look as good as the well maintained body that is in shape.

Your friend is vain about hair, so be it... go totally Sly and just tell him to deal with it.... if he can't I hope you shed the type of people that make you feel self concious about how much better you feel about yourself.

Just my advice though, but that is the way I am. I don't take stock in a persons acting, and heaven knows we have plenty of movie stars as well as musical people show up and move to where I live here in the Flathead Valley.... they put their pants on the same way I do, one leg at a time. When I meet them, I don't want to talk about their movies, or albums but only life in general.. fishing, hunting and if they can't accept me for who I am... then I don't care.

warhawk · « **Reply #8 on:** August 16, 2007, 09:59:02 AM »

gr8 responses by r sly brahs. don.... please don't ever let your friend or anyone else make u feel depressed & start cursing mother nature of your thinning hair. BTW.... have u done the deed by shaving your head? it sounds like that u have not taken the plunge. anyways..... i hope that u will SOON b ready 2 put a quality razor on your dome. why hide your thinning hair. when after u shave your head...all worries about thinning hair will b gone.

anyways... this is only my 2 cents. remember a true friend is someone that accepts U 4 .....U. anyways... keep us posted w/ your road 2 slyness. take care!

WARHAWK

wpruitt · « **Reply #9 on:** August 16, 2007, 09:31:52 PM »

Here's how I see it:
1. Was he insistent and did he continually harp on the transplant or was it just a passing conversation? If he were overly insistent and kept harping on it, then he may or may not be a friend. A friend would have thrown out the idea to you, then let you think on it.
2. He may have thought he was doing you a favor and wanted to make you fully aware of what the transplant entailed - perhaps to dispel any myths you might hold. If that were the case, you could politely listen - hearing a voice like Charlie Brown's teacher.
3. He is fully brainwashed by the hair transplant folk. Nothing short of an intervention lead by Tyler could help him

That said, Don, you did let him get the best of you. It sounds like you may still have some reservations about your shaved head. A true sly guy would have laughed it off and gone on to shine up the dome. Get with "Slyness". Don't let him get you down about it ... and for God's sake, give that rug to the theater department at the high school! They always need props - and you won't be tempted to wear it again!

don · « **Reply #10 on:** August 16, 2007, 09:50:41 PM »

Thanks guys,great replies. I feel a lot better now. My look is more and more natural for a man my age. I'm trying to avoid this person as much as I can. He tends to repeat things constantly until they are extremely sickening. He says he's in therapy but I don't think it's helping. He says he's thinking of going for a few more transplants to have more hair.He can't even take care of the friggen hair he has now. It flips up in the back,he still has a slight bald spot and when the wind blows he looks like an escaped psycho from the nuthouse. Then he has the Goddamm nerve to talk about me. Sorry to blow off steam like this but it makes me furious when I think about it.

PBurke · « **Reply #11 on:** August 17, 2007, 08:26:52 PM »

don. take the guy for a couple beers. ask ladies for opinions. so what if you look silly for a few minutes to some strange ladies that you don't have to see anymore. maybe hearing it from them will wake/shut this cat up. if that doesn't work, you could always just bust him in the mouth. just my take on it.

Kajun · « **Reply #12 on:** August 17, 2007, 08:42:04 PM »

don.....everytime he opens his mouth about your hair...just remember ONE thing......"MISERY LOVES COMPANY!"

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