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My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence by Glottonym on 20 Sep, 2012 09:04
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If you are losing your hair as a man in your early twenties, then this might mean that you have noticed first signs even before that. And however standards of beauty have changed over the years, it really drags you down. I spent years avoiding mirrors whenever possible because I felt terribly unattractive, terribly self-conscious (interpreting any giggling as a sneering comment on my lack of hair), not worthy of the loving attention of anybody.
It somehow changed over night, I do not know why. Possibly Andre Agassi played a major part in this, because suddenly there was somebody genuinely bald, somebody my age, and somebody that not only many people but also I found really attractive despite or to a certain extent also because of his baldness. And one day I took a digital camera and took photos of my head, from every possible angle, from any possible perspective. What I saw was not what I would have liked to look like when I was 16, but what I saw was me, my authentic self, bald, but not completely ugly, not completely unattractive. I saw flashes of a beauty that was mine and mine only.
Today, I can face any mirror, I can face myself, I'm bald, but I'm attractive in my own way with it, physically, mentally and socially (hopefully ;-) -
#1 by Paul the Headblader on 20 Sep, 2012 09:34
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straighten up
bald is the way. -
#2 by TheSlyBear on 20 Sep, 2012 09:42
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Welcome to SBG, Glottonym!
Good story. Good to hear that you've discovered yourself. Some guys have a hard time making that journey. -
#3 by BaldRunnerFL on 20 Sep, 2012 10:30
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Welcome, Glottonym!
Hopefully your story is an inspiration to those on the fence. -
#4 by Skimdude on 20 Sep, 2012 10:57
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Welcome! That´s the right attitude
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#5 by -Doug- on 20 Sep, 2012 11:16
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Glad to have you with us Glottonym. Fencers should read your intro.
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#6 by Hingatao on 20 Sep, 2012 11:24
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Welcome to the club, glottonym.
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#7 by Andrei on 20 Sep, 2012 13:49
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Welcome to the forum!
Nice post. It's important to be pleased with who you are, to feel comfortable in your skin. If a haircut helps then it's great, but usually greater issues are involved.
Glad you found your balance. -
#8 by Slynito on 20 Sep, 2012 18:44
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Welcome! Sitting on a fence can hurt...
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#9 by xnewyawka on 20 Sep, 2012 20:27
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Welcome to the forum.
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#10 by Frontier Guy on 20 Sep, 2012 20:28
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Welcome Glottonym ... if your comfortable, how about a picture? That's the great thing about bald - there's always room for one more photo in the Sly album.
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#11 by warhawk on 20 Sep, 2012 21:00
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Hey Glottonym: Welcome 2 the sly fraternity. Glad that ya joined us.
WARHAWK
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#12 by Sir Harry on 20 Sep, 2012 21:04
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Welcome aboard. Nice first post!
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#13 by Glottonym on 21 Sep, 2012 01:34
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Thanks for the welcome.
I wished describing how I went from despair (it is very difficult to actually describe how great the problem was at the time) to some kind of confidence (still being self-conscious in some situations and catch myself putting on a cap) could be an inspiration. I just fear that you have to go through it yourself. If you had offered me propecia or one of the drugs that are a safer bet to actually have some effect, I would definitely have taken it (if I had dared to go to a doctor and somehow admitted that I knew that I was losing my head - I was in denial mode for most of my life).
As you can see from the photo, bald and glasses, my childhood nightmares come true. And I'm still alive and much more comfortable with myself than I was 20 years ago. -
#14 by mrzed on 21 Sep, 2012 03:46
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Welcome! Sitting on a fence can hurt...
Especially if it is a white picket fence, or has razor wire on top of it!
Welcome. The guys here are very supportive of those with bald heads, or those wishing they would have the ... to shave their heads.