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Offline KW72

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Hello
« on: July 13, 2011, 03:06:12 PM »
This is actually my second post...I just piggy backed on a hair club topic earlier so I hope you won't mind the second intro...

I have been a Hair Club member (how I hate typing this) for nearly 20 years.  Started losing my hair at 17 and by 19 was very thin.  I was going away to school and very self conscious about my hair loss.  I joined HCM a month before going away to school.  It did give me more confidence and I was pleased with my appearance.  I thought I would always have to wear a system since I would look "weird" with no hair and I would be too embarrassed to explain the fact that I wore a hairpiece to everyone. 

I am now 39 with 2 kids (who have never known me without my "hair")  Over the last couple months I have finally come to grips that I am living a lie with the fake hair.  It is too expensive and I am tired about the maintenance and worrying if others know it is fake.  I have spoken to my wife and she is supportive with my decision. 

My plan is to take off a couple days next month.  Shave the hair down with clippers and get some sun on my head.  I am  a little freaked out about showing up to work shaved.  I am just looking for some advice on how to prepare my kids (they are 4 and 7 ) and any tips on how to deal with my return to the office.  I am going to tell a handful of my close firends over the next couple weeks. 

Just wanted to say I am so glad I found this site. 
















 
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Re: Hello
« Reply #1 on: July 13, 2011, 04:26:54 PM »
Welcome to SBGs!!! 8)
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Re: Hello
« Reply #2 on: July 13, 2011, 05:20:59 PM »
Welcome KW. I'm going to say the exact same thing to you that I said to JP:
You're headed in the right direction now. Quit the (fake) hair club, buzz it down, shave it smooth, then stand tall and proud, be yourself and get on with your life of freedom!

Good luck to you and keep us posted.
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Re: Hello
« Reply #3 on: July 13, 2011, 07:07:37 PM »
Welcome to SBG! You'll see my advice in JP's thread.  Basically, just do it and follow the 30 day rule.
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Re: Hello
« Reply #4 on: July 14, 2011, 04:49:57 AM »
Welcome.   Just follow Tyler's and Joe's advice and you should be ok.    As for the kids, they are far more accepting of change than we are.
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Re: Hello
« Reply #5 on: July 15, 2011, 10:55:23 AM »
Welcome.
Congrats on ditching the rug.
In regards to the kids, there is no reason to tell them.
The reaction they give you will be priceless, so let it be a surprise.
I have 3 kids, ages 3, 5, and 7, and gave them and the wife no warning.
The 3 y/o did not even recognize me, and the 5 and 7 year old laughed and joked with me for days.  
« Last Edit: July 15, 2011, 11:00:19 AM by seanmil666 »
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Re: Hello
« Reply #6 on: July 15, 2011, 11:20:56 AM »
You might let your kids help you free yourself of your hair!  Make a game of it!  Play with the "rug" letting your kids try it on!  Throw it around plying don't let the varmit get you!  They"ll probably laugh and remember that day for a long, long time.  Let them take a couple of passes with the clippers through your remaining hair!  Once you have it clipped as short as you can, why not let them help you lather it up.  You can then excuse yourself for the final shave if you plan to shave in the shower, or you can let them cheer you on with each pass of the razor if you are a sink shaver.  Once you are finished, be sure to let them feel and rub your new smooth scalp.

Tell your co-workers if you want to!  But realize if you do that you have no way of backing out if you should chang your mind!  I think that I would just do the deed and show up to work with my head held high and a big grin on my face!  There might be a comment or a joke here or there but most of your co-workers are going to admire your new hair-cut!  I'll bet you'll see another shiney head or two soon after you shave yours.
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Offline KW72

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Re: Hello
« Reply #7 on: July 15, 2011, 02:03:31 PM »
I am not backing out.  Less than a month to go...I have purchased clippers, headblade products, etc.  Not sure if I will shave it initially.  Will buzz down to a zero for sure. I think I will eventually give the full sly look a chance...

I have told my folks and my wife.  Will be telling my brother and a handful of close friends.  I think I will give my boss a heads up and my direct report at work.  This is the correct decision.  More worried about running into people at work.  I told my wife to post a picture of my new look on her Facebook page when the deed is done. 

No idea if I'll look like Bruce Willis or Bull from Night Court but either way it will be better than the alternative
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Offline KW72

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Re: Hello
« Reply #8 on: July 15, 2011, 02:08:08 PM »
One thing I am not sure about.  I have no idea how long my contract is for at HCM.  I know they are for a year, but can't remember when I signed it.  I will need to call their office and tell them I am done...that will be a great phone call.  Not sure if I can break the contract outright or at worst switch to the lowest monthly rate until it expires...

Does anyone have any experience with this? 
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Re: Hello
« Reply #9 on: July 15, 2011, 02:30:34 PM »
Quote from: KW72 on July 15, 2011, 02:08:08 PM
  Not sure if I can break the contract outright or at worst switch to the lowest monthly rate until it expires...
This would depend on the contract language and the laws of your state;, BUT--they can't force you to go there and unless they provide a service or you put in a task order, depending on the contract, it should be the minimum I would think.  If it's an automatic debit to your credit card or checking account, cancel that today and keep evidence. Talk with a lawyer in your area if you know one, and call the Better Business Bureau to check on complaints about your wig shop in particular--they may have some information that can help you.  Would love to hear the call!  If your sales rep wears a toilet seat system--give him the SBG website and tell him to clean up his act! >:D
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Re: Hello
« Reply #10 on: July 15, 2011, 04:30:08 PM »
KW-

As I said in the other thread... Props to you and your Family (for their support).

We can't wait to meet the "real" you. As I said in the other thread... PM me if you like.
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Offline KW72

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Re: Hello
« Reply #11 on: July 20, 2011, 09:44:42 AM »
Here is the latest update...

Talked to my brother about getting rid of the "hair" and he was very supportive.  Got  a long weekend scheduled for early next month.  Going to call HCM to tell them I am done.  T minus less than 3 weeks.  I guess I am going to finally do this.  No backing out.

I can't thank you all enough for all your help.
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Re: Hello
« Reply #12 on: July 20, 2011, 09:58:33 AM »
Welcome to the group. Not to put any pressure on you but why wait 3 weeks. Just go into the bathroom and "do it". You will feel much better.
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Offline KW72

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Re: Hello
« Reply #13 on: July 20, 2011, 10:58:31 AM »
I will feel better for sure.

Talking to my wife/folks has reinforced to me that getting rid of the "system" is the right call.  The encouragement on this site has helped me too.

It took me 20 years to get to this point, I don't think another 20 days will hurt.  I would rather have a little time to prepare myself before I go into the office.  I am going to a concert with a few friends the Friday after I shave down so I'll be able to show them. 

I don't feel any pressure, but I feel better about the decision each passing day.

 
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Re: Hello
« Reply #14 on: July 20, 2011, 11:51:31 AM »
Quote from: KW72 on July 20, 2011, 10:58:31 AM
I feel better about the decision each passing day.

Your only regret will be that you waited so long--and that has been the case for so many of the guys here, yours truly very much included.  You're really going to like this.
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