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Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: Jtro on April 09, 2009, 05:44:32 AM
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Alright guys heres my dilemma, Theres this woman i know who is awesome, we've talked alot lately and I have noticed we have alot in common, she has a wonderful sense of humor, good values and moral and just an all around good person I believe. We always joke together and you can tell there is flirting going on, I've had several people notice that "sparks were flying" Whats kinda weird to me is that i went on a few dates with her older sister, right away I noticed that she was definitely not my type, so that quickly came to an end, but with Alisha its different. I can hold a conversation with her laugh and we seem to hit off almost perfectly. Since the first day i met her several years ago we've always been cool with eachother but now things seems to be getting alittle closer. We both are the type to love, live and laugh... I just dont know what the next step should be? should i ask her out for a non romantic date like mini golf or go carts? I would love to hear your guys input!
thanks a million!
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NOT mini golf or go carts. How about some nice food. Nowhere to fancy. Or a film that you think you would both like. And not in the back row.....YET O0
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Sounds to me like you want to and you will never know unless you give it a try. Just be cool about the whole thing and have fun.
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Ask her out...a nice meal is a good call. Something where more conversation can occur.
Just play it cool, don't rush into anything.
Oh, let her give you head rubs whenever she wants!
Good luck.
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WHOA WHOA WHOA! Back up Back Up! What do you mean NO to the mini golf and go carts? Dudes! My first date with my wife 19 years ago happened on a mini golf course/go cart, and we are celebrating our 17th anniversary this year. After that we went to eat and then a movie. Obviously Jtro knows what she likes. Sounds like they have alot of fun together. They have already sat and talked, laughed, lived and loved. So what is your hold up? Ask her out, before you lose your chance. I see a relationship taking off here. SOunds good Bro, go for it!
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sounds like you're well on your way to starting a nice relationship bro! definitely ask her out, and you guys should do something that both like or maybe something you've both been meaning to try. good luck and keep us updated O0
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Parks are a great place that can be romantic or not, and they are free. Pack a picnic and your set bro.
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Definitely ask her out, J. Don't let it pass, it sounds like you guys have clicked so far.
Do the mini golf/go karts thing, and then go for a bite to eat if things are going well. Have fun. O0
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You have to ask her out. You'll kick yourself if you don't.
I like the nice dinner idea. Girls like to be taken out to different places, so I'd do dinner in one spot, then go get dessert somewhere else, somewhere low key and fun. That might be enough for the first date, but you could also go for a late walk or something too.
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MINI GOLF! MINI GOLF! MINI GOLF! LOL...sorry for the outburst...it jsut happens sometimes.
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MINI GOLF! MINI GOLF! MINI GOLF! LOL...sorry for the outburst...it jsut happens sometimes.
You mean it OFTEN happens!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :*)) :*)) :*))
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My question to you would be.... Why not ask her out??? You could have already asked instead of coming here silly man!!!! :*))
Look.... if you don't ask, and I'm guessing she's waiting for you to ask, somebody else might. STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS HOT MAN!!!
As far as her sister goes.... who cares! You guys didn't hit it off, no big deal.
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You gotta make the next move bro. You both know that you should. Go with the flow and let nature take it's course. She more than likely is waiting for you to take it to another level.
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Thanks guys! Most likely i'm going to see her tomorrow, when i do see her i'll just ask hey you wanna do something fun? i know she would love the mini golf and go carts idea... shes just a fun person like that... I'm a little hesitant on the dinner thing because i just want to play it cool.. no rushing right? :D once again thanks guys! i really needed some advice and this helped big time!!
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go for it.
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Yeah man go for it. Just don't be in the friend zone and make that clear through your actions. I don't mean to be nasty. I mean be protective, guide her a bit by holding her elbow gently to turn her, touch her hand like you don't realize that you are doing it. If walking on the side walk and she is on the roadside gently move her to the inside (away from traffic). Those are actions that show that this is not a "just as friends" thing. It may seem bit sexist but i have never been out with a girl that thought that of me. Most told me that they felt safe with me and that I showed confidence that they had not experienced often. It's not an "I'm the boss thing" it's a "You're important to me." thing.
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go for it bro and go with the fun deal but don't be afraid of doing the dinner afterward.
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hey jtro: whatever U do... ask her out and have some fun. sounds like this could lead 2 something good. keep us posted. O0
WARHAWK O0
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Go for it! Take her where you will feel comfortable and confident.
Don't worry about dating her sister, I once dated the twin sister of a girl I dated once I found I was more compatible with the twin.
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Not much else to say that hasn't been said. Just do something that you're comfortable with and you both will enjoy so there isn't any pressure. Keep it relaxed but fun and intimate (as in just the 2 of you, no friends along)
Go for it! Take her where you will feel comfortable and confident.
Don't worry about dating her sister, I once dated the twin sister of a girl I dated once I found I was more compatible with the twin.
TWINS??? That's like every mans dream!!!
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I havent asked her out yet! I'm still unsure if she likes me or not! today i was at work and actually spent almost 5 hours talking to her on facebook! I dont know whats wrong with me. I think the best thing i should do is just move on and forget about it. Thanks for your help guys...
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Don't you dare forget about it brother! I say you go for it, if it is evident you two are flirty and even your friends notice, you should definitely ask her out. I bet she's just waiting for you to ask the big question O0
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Iceball theory: No matter what you do now, people will not remember it 2 million years from now, next year, next month, and probably not even next week. And since the conversation would be just between the two of you, it's not that big of deal if it doesn't go your way.
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If she spent 5 hours with you online, she will spend a couple hours with you on a date.
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Yeah, I think it's pretty obvious you two have a thing going on. Go for it man, you'll have regrets if you don't.