Sly Bald Guys Forum
Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: DBM on February 18, 2009, 01:34:04 PM
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I'm curious if how the dating thing has changed, if at all, since you've gone sly?
I just went sly a few days ago, and I'm a happily married man, but just had a woman at the drug store compliment me to the point of almost hitting on me. It's definitely not a common occurance and it threw me for a loop. :o
I think it has something to do with my increased confidence. Either that or my hair was really nasty. ;D
What about you? Has your romantic life changed since going sly?
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That's one of the great benefits of SLYness. I had a stewardess start up a conversation w/ me during the first week and I never had that happen before--nice, until the wife awoke from a nap--scared the girl away. Women do strike up conversations now--and if feels good, especially at my age, married and all. The fact that I'm now deemed more approachable or desirable to the fair sex adds in no small measure to the ego and not in a bad way at all.
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It's hit and miss with all the women I've met. They either absolutely love the bald look or they hate it.
I will say I carry myself differently when bald. I seem to walk with more attitude, more confidence and that is definitely something that attracts women. Definitely good for my ego, haha.
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eh its not much different than when i had hair lol. i didnt pull girls left and right when i had hair and i dont now. i got some girls here and there both ways.
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When I go to pubs women buy ME drinks, even if my woman is with me. O:O
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My wife frowns on me dating. LOL
On the upside, my wife loves me sly and she's the only one that matters.
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I used to date a lot of girls before going sly. But I always had to approach them I never really had any come up to me and ask me out or anything. But now that I'm turning 21 with the bar scene and am sly I will be looking forward to these random women complimenting my head like I've heard so many of you guys talk about. O0
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I used to date a lot of girls before going sly. But I always had to approach them I never really had any come up to me and ask me out or anything. But now that I'm turning 21 with the bar scene and am sly I will be looking forward to these random women complimenting my head like I've heard so many of you guys talk about. O0
I KNOW you will attract the more of girls you want having the slick bald head vs the balding buzzed head...confidence alone bro....
and trust me you WANT that girls that "get" the whole bald head vibe! ^-^ ^-^ ^-^
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The female situation has always been ok but since going sly its been amazing O0 8) O:O
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I get approached by older women now constantly...and its awesome. O:O
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well when i went sly my now ex laughed at me and said she liked me with thinning hair... (?)
we had broken up since then due to other reasons, but i havent really had a date with anybody else, i had my friends sister nad her friend (both HS girls 18y/o) say i looked like a creeper and looked as if i were 70 y/o... that was nice so i said they both looked fat in their prom dresses...
but alas i checked out the online thing for a while since ive been to busy to go out to any bars and i havent really had any body find that found me intresting... Oh well soon enough i think
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well when i went sly my now ex laughed at me and said she liked me with thinning hair... (?)
we had broken up since then due to other reasons, but i havent really had a date with anybody else, i had my friends sister nad her friend (both HS girls 18y/o) say i looked like a creeper and looked as if i were 70 y/o... that was nice so i said they both looked fat in their prom dresses...
but alas i checked out the online thing for a while since ive been to busy to go out to any bars and i havent really had any body find that found me intresting... Oh well soon enough i think
what!?!?! dude thats f***** up. no offense but ur sis and her friend sound shallow as hell. i have a 15 yr old sister whos not even that shallow. she can care less whether a guys bald or not. shes the one that always tells me that its not a big deal that im losing my hair. how many 15 yr olds do you know that can say that? haha. anyways....as far as dating, i have a date tommorow but the chik likes me personality wise. she doesnt like shaved heads. i dunno if that makes me feel good or bad. good for the fact that she likes me or bad that she doesnt find me attractive sly.
other than her though.......i havent had a date in awhile. girls just dont seem attracted to me. i had better luck with hair. but o well. im staying sly. i dont need a g/f if al they care about is physical appearance anyways. they have a choice. me with a shaved head or me with grown out thinning hair lol. im sure if they knew i was balding theyd choose the shaved head. i think they think i just shave my head for the hell of it lol.
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well when i went sly my now ex laughed at me and said she liked me with thinning hair... (?)
Dude, my ex just laughed at me for 5 minutes straight while I was picking up my son for spring break. No "hi," no "screw you," no "where's my child support??" Just laughing and pointing.
i had my friends sister nad her friend (both HS girls 18y/o) say i looked like a creeper and looked as if i were 70 y/o... that was nice so i said they both looked fat in their prom dresses...
That's classic! Reminds me of...
Guy at nightclub, "hey, do you want to dance?"
Girl at nightclub, "No! not with you..."
Guy at nightclub, "WHAT!? Oh! No you misunderstood me. I said you look fat in those pants!"
HAHAHA
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what!?!?! dude thats f***** up. no offense but ur sis and her friend sound shallow as hell. i have a 15 yr old sister whos not even that shallow. she can care less whether a guys bald or not. shes the one that always tells me that its not a big deal that im losing my hair. how many 15 yr olds do you know that can say that? haha. anyways....as far as dating, i have a date tommorow but the chik likes me personality wise. she doesnt like shaved heads. i dunno if that makes me feel good or bad. good for the fact that she likes me or bad that she doesnt find me attractive sly.
other than her though.......i havent had a date in awhile. girls just dont seem attracted to me. i had better luck with hair. but o well. im staying sly. i dont need a g/f if al they care about is physical appearance anyways. they have a choice. me with a shaved head or me with grown out thinning hair lol. im sure if they knew i was balding theyd choose the shaved head. i think they think i just shave my head for the hell of it lol.
Yeh i know they are shallow as hell. I think i may have my goals set too high, its been tough trying to find a date lately, just like u said people around here dont really seem to go for sly guys. But Im glad to hear u got a date so that gives me a little hope hahaha... take her out and have some fun i hope everything works out. maybe u can change her mind on shaved heads lol
Dude, my ex just laughed at me for 5 minutes straight while I was picking up my son for spring break. No "hi," no "screw you," no "where's my child support??" Just laughing and pointing.
damn really? i was out to dinner with her when we were still kinda talking for a bit, i pulled off the cap to show her and then she laughed for 5 min as well... I almost wanted to get and leave
That's classic! Reminds me of...
Guy at nightclub, "hey, do you want to dance?"
Girl at nightclub, "No! not with you..."
Guy at nightclub, "WHAT!? Oh! No you misunderstood me. I said you look fat in those pants!"
HAHAHA
^hahaha thats funny and it was kinda like that!!
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All I can say is I have had more legs spread my way than before. Of course I have always been able to get a girl drunk and then knock her on the head and drag her home by her hair.... caveman style >:D
Its not about shaving your head, its all about confidence. Women are easy, getting rid of them is the complicated part. ;)
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All I can say is I have had more legs spread my way than before. Of course I have always been able to get a girl drunk and then knock her on the head and drag her home by her hair.... caveman style >:D
Its not about shaving your head, its all about confidence. Women are easy, getting rid of them is the complicated part. ;)
Oh trust me its not the confidence thing that gives me problems i go out there with a big smile on m face like i just beat the president in a pie eating contest... and i enjoy talkin to the ladies... its gauging their attitude towards thigns whether they wanna be friends or somethin more...
i like many men have not mastered that yet...
and yes gettin rid of women is tough too
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Since going sly i get the ladies looking more , i look back and wish and then i realise the wife is calling me.
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i sincerely doubt things will be better for most. then again, for many it wont get worse.
however, theres something to be said about knowing the score.
pretty amazing how they react, considering their entire self image and ego comes out of a compact and a bra.
age also doesnt matter, as youre likely run into the neurotic aging types who wont be seen with you because it makes them face the facts.
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my dating life has actually improved. Last week i had a date with a great girl, and i have a really good feeling that its going well. But, i dont think it was my newly shaved head that won her over. before going sly, i had long, shoulder length hair that was starting to thin out up top (at the ripe old age of 23). shaving my head gave me a lot of confidence that i didnt have before, and thats what most women find attactive.
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shaving my head gave me a lot of confidence that i didnt have before, and thats what most women find attactive.
That is correct!!! O0
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It really sucks. My Ol' Lady won't let me date anybody...
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It really sucks. My Ol' Lady won't let me date anybody...
:*))
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I have found that people are attracted to bald guys - -I have met more bald guys and talked to many about being BALD since being SLY BALD
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I've got to vent.
So I spent the last year and half or so on the West Coast for work. Moved out there with one of my best friends. So about 6 months before I left I met a great girl. We dated. Things were great. But then I had to move again. So now that I'm back on the East Coast, my best friend has been spending a lot of time with this girl back out West. I had introduced her to him after we had dated for a couple months, so they're friends. But anyway, he knows quite well that this girl and I still have a mutual interest in each other. He hasn't done anything wrong. He's my best friend. Yet I can't help but feel...I can't describe it. It just sucks. I'm not mad at him, but I don't know. I feel like when a guy and a girl hang out a lot, things are bound to get more than strictly platonic. Any advice on how to just get rid of this feeling or about anything I can do? I can't exactly tell him to stop hanging out with her, cause they are friends.
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Guys, really... its all about confidence! I have dated two models and hooked up with a good chunk of woman since I became single. In about 3 months I have been with over 10 girls. When I first was single, it sucked.. no confidence adn thought everyone would judge me about being bald.
Now I realize how much confidence is key an also joke about it.
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good look nabstar!
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When I shaved my head, I knew very quickly that I was being the person I wanted to be, and looking the way I wanted to look. Sure there was the initial trepidation about how others would see me, but this was a real burst of confidence for me and I think it is this confidence that attracts women. I have found it much easier to get a woman's interest as a bald man than when I had hair. Women love confidence and shaving your head will give off the message that you are confident.
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CONFIDENCE--CONFIDENCE--CONFIDENCE!!! Not overbearing or pompous.......be decent and confident. Remember, decent and confident!
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well when i went sly my now ex laughed at me and said she liked me with thinning hair... (?)
we had broken up since then due to other reasons, but i havent really had a date with anybody else, i had my friends sister nad her friend (both HS girls 18y/o) say i looked like a creeper and looked as if i were 70 y/o... that was nice so i said they both looked fat in their prom dresses...
but alas i checked out the online thing for a while since ive been to busy to go out to any bars and i havent really had any body find that found me intresting... Oh well soon enough i think
what!?!?! dude thats f***** up. no offense but ur sis and her friend sound shallow as hell. i have a 15 yr old sister whos not even that shallow. she can care less whether a guys bald or not. shes the one that always tells me that its not a big deal that im losing my hair. how many 15 yr olds do you know that can say that? haha. anyways....as far as dating, i have a date tommorow but the chik likes me personality wise. she doesnt like shaved heads. i dunno if that makes me feel good or bad. good for the fact that she likes me or bad that she doesnt find me attractive sly.
other than her though.......i havent had a date in awhile. girls just dont seem attracted to me. i had better luck with hair. but o well. im staying sly. i dont need a g/f if al they care about is physical appearance anyways. they have a choice. me with a shaved head or me with grown out thinning hair lol. im sure if they knew i was balding theyd choose the shaved head. i think they think i just shave my head for the hell of it lol.
I don't get it. You have so much potential--come on man just suck it up. Hit the gym and forget about anyone that stayed in your way. There's this guy on youtube called: Playersupreme. He's sly too and talks about the same thing you're saying in his younger years, but coughed it up--gained some muscle by going to the gym and doing professional bodybuilding, gaining confidence and even did modeling/dancing in various clubs. You can't impress everyone.
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Sorry for bringing up an old thread, but since it's new to me, what the heck, I'm goin' for it. I was married for a quadrillion years and have been divorced now for hmmm..a little over two. My ex had known for our entire relationship my desire to shave my head, and as long is it remained just talk, apparently, all was cool. As it got shorter and shorter, the complaints and emotional distance grew. My baldness wasn't the only issue, mind you, it just exacerbated an already downward-spiraling situation.
I live in northern MN in a largely conservative community. And as I want to spend time with someone who will embrace me, bald head and all, I'm not about to grow any significant amount of hair just to up my chances of meeting a guy. That would be selling myself out. I joined a dating site for a month, and talked here and there, but that whole vibe was weird to me. Maybe I just didn't give it enough time, who knows.
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So I get a message from a guy on the dating site, "You must be fighting cancer. Your hair kinda says that." So when i replied that I was indeed not, that my baldness is by choice, he replied, "You're a crazy a**. Only women who are butch shave their heads. What a dou***."
I'm still reeling from the punch in the gut. I of course blocked him from any further contact, but maaaaaaan. That one was rough.
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He's an idiot!
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Oh Carla, there is SO much fun you could have with that idiot.
All at the other persons expense. 1) say "I have way better self esteem than you have, I feel sorry for how low you feel about yourself".
Or "Im beautiful with hair or without hair, you are ugly inside or out".
Or "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and you wont' be beholding me ever, so why do you care"
Or anything else.
WOW, I'm just speechless. RUDE!
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Or to paraphrase Winston Churchill's famous putdown: In the morning I will have hair, but you will still be an idiot!
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What a dou***."
His last name isn't Massengill, is it?
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Carla, I wouldn't give that loser a second thought. He's definitely a closed-minded idiot!
Hang in there.
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So, so nice, you guys. I totally appreciate your kind words and support, your positivity is the 'steak on my black eye'. Yeah, I'm rollin' on up from hitting the ground and not gonna spend good energy on the bad. Thanks, my buds.
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Carla, people acting like him are usually not happy with their life for some reason and their frustration turns into anger against others. I hardly beleive you are the first one that he is trying to provoke and hurt.
Scared and insecure dogs barks the most.
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You've nailed it, Baller. I especially like the dog analogy!
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Dating sights are a tricky animal, Carla. I know this from two years of experience! I was on and off two dating sights for a two year period. During that time I met and dated a few guys (most were crazy guys, and awful dates)It was not for me. My ex boyfriend who was a creep and my current boyfriend who I absolutely love I met off-line.
Before you think I'm completely against online dating I do believe it works for some. My cousin met her girlfriend on one of the sites I used and they've been together for a year. I think it's just about finding what works for you.
As for what that guy said, Carla, I cannot believe he had the nerve. It is clear that some men have no idea what makes a woman and he is a perfect example. If he is unable to see how beautiful you are, shaved head and all mthen he is obviously not worth your or any womans time. Perhaps he should order a custom robot fits his (incorrect) standards of womanhood to a T. Find what works for you Carla and you will soon find the right man.
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Thank you, FF4, for your support, encouragement and compliments. The online dating phenomenon does work out for many but for me, it's not a good fit. The whole idea seems contrived. So I'll go about my happy little life and if someone comes along who would be fun to hang out with here and there, beautiful. If not..cool, too.
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carla: u look grand as is!
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So I get a message from a guy on the dating site, "You must be fighting cancer. Your hair kinda says that." So when i replied that I was indeed not, that my baldness is by choice, he replied, "You're a crazy a**. Only women who are butch shave their heads. What a dou***."
I'm still reeling from the punch in the gut. I of course blocked him from any further contact, but maaaaaaan. That one was rough.
Personally I think you look great. I find you intriguing and determined, it was your confidence that scared him away.
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Carla, You look great. That guy is not worth it. How rude can a person be.
Hang in there.
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Marty..Bronco..Joe.. Yikes, I'm blushing! Thank you for your sweet kindness.
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I definitely think that "traditional roles" played a huge part in your interaction unfortunately, Carla. It's sad that people still fall in to that trap. Bald is a projection of confidence, and there are way too many guys out there that think women can't have that. You intimidated him because he's not comfortable seeing a woman that projects a feeling of being on equal ground with him. Keep looking! You will find the perfect person in the most unlikely of places. Heck you may already have met him and just don't know it yet!
As for my dating experiences since going Sly... I definitely have to say that the bald head is a pick up line in itself. It's almost always one of the first questions the opposite sex asks me: "Can I touch your head?!" After that things are smooth sailing. O0 . I have to say that women flirt with me ALL the time now that I'm bald...unfortunately success past that phase is kinda hit and miss. Though I am likely to get back together with the love of my life here soon, I still appreciate the way women "smile" with their eyes. I'm sure you guys all know what I mean!