Sly Bald Guys Forum
New Member Section => Introductions => Topic started by: Bry on February 14, 2009, 05:54:22 PM
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Hi everyone my name is Bryan and I am new here. As I am writing this I am looking at a new pair of hair clippers that I have bought. I guess the time has finally come. I am 30 years old and it seems that I have lost all of my hair overnight. Its embarassing to say that I have been sporting the combover look for about 6 months now and even though I knew it looked terrible couldnt bring myself to shave it off. I have also found that I now have a large collection of baseball hats and the funny thing is that I never used to wear them at any point in my life. I am VERY scared about doing this, I hate to admit it but I am a bit on the vain side, I am not sure how I will look. While some people look good bald I am afraid that I will not fit in that category. :-[ I have been involved in a long distance relationship ( although relationship may not be the right word, but you get the point ) with a woman for awhile now. We have seen each other a few times, because of tough times I have not seen her in about a year now (although we talk often). The last time she saw me I had a FULL head of hair. I will be seeing her soon and I am TERRIFIED of how she will react. If she doesnt have that look in her eye like she did the last time she saw me it will completely crush me. I know there are other fish in the sea, blah, blah, blah but the heart wants what it wants. Anyway, sorry if I am rambleing but I have noone to talk to about what I am going through. This board looks great and I am happy to be a member.
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Welcome, Bry. You've come to a place where encouragement is the watchword. Clearly you have the itch to ditch the combover. And that's the thing to do. It's usual to have the jitters over the big change. I'd suggest buzzing down to about 1/4". That gives your mind and eye a little time to adjust to the new look, and then you can proceed from there. All MPB guys look immeasurably better buzzed than whispy. A short buzz will give you a hint of what to expect when/if you take razor to scalp and go all the way. Ultimately, buzz or shave, you'll experience a freedom from the worry of hair by taking control and making this great SLY style your CHOICE. Shoulders back, chin up, deep breath, and clippers ON! Best wishes,
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I say shave it off, she will probably like the shaved look more than the combover.
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Welcome Bry. The good news is that it is hair and it will grow back. I agree with MLNHD buzz it down some wich will look better than a comb over anyway and see what you like. Then you can go from there. As far as the lady is concerned, if she loves you as much as you love her then it is not a problem. If she doesn't like the look she will tell you but it won't be the end of the world or the end of a relationship. She will just accept you for who you are and life will be good again.
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Welcome Bry!
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Welcome Bry
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Welcome Bry. Glad to have you with us. Most of us have been in your shoes before and believe me it is soo much better on the other side of wanting to shave it all off. My advice to you is to just take a hugh breath and do... Don't think too long about it or you will probably find a reason to talk yourself out of it. Just remember it is only hair... and what you have right now will grow back if you don't like it.
And... the rest of us are here to give you all the advice and encouragement that you need.
Best of luck,
Rick
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Hey Bry! Welcome. I want to let you in on a little secret, bro. Combovers suck!
So do what you gotta do. When I was in your situation, I started with a buzz that I kept making tighter and tighter and then finally shaved. Today, if I were you I would just shave. Only you can decide what path to take, but start on that path NOW.
Whatever you do or don't do, your woman is not going to see you next time as you looked when she saw you last. And I gotta believe you would look a thousand times better with a buzzed or shaved dome, than with a few long hairs carefully arranged to try and hide the reality of your hair loss.
Maybe the above sounds a little brutal. Don't mean it to. But the good news is that there is a handsome buzzed or bald look in your future that will feed into that old vanity of yours.
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Hi welcome. know how you feel. I suggest starting wth a buzz. A #2 is a good place to start. That's about 1/4". Then you can tigten it up as time passes.
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Welcome bro O0
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Welcome to the Forum Bry!
You're experiencing the same feelings that many on this board have. I'll bet most of those guys would tell you that once you've shaved, the feeling is remarkable and liberating.
Combovers ARE NOT cool no matter how you look at them. So if nothing else, ditch the combover.
The smooth head is a turn on to many, many women. Any woman can be with a "combover guy" but only a small portion of lucky women get to be with SLY guys.
If this woman doesn't like you because you shave your head, she was never the one anyway.
Read some of the threads on the Forum and you will find some remarkable comments about how huys felt after first shaving their head.
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welcome BRY i suggest starting at a #2 about a 1/4 inch. when i did it i was suprised by the many responses of gee it's about time that combover wasn't really working for you.
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Welcome, Bry. You've come to a place where encouragement is the watchword. Clearly you have the itch to ditch the combover. And that's the thing to do. It's usual to have the jitters over the big change. I'd suggest buzzing down to about 1/4". That gives your mind and eye a little time to adjust to the new look, and then you can proceed from there. All MPB guys look immeasurably better buzzed than whispy. A short buzz will give you a hint of what to expect when/if you take razor to scalp and go all the way. Ultimately, buzz or shave, you'll experience a freedom from the worry of hair by taking control and making this great SLY style your CHOICE. Shoulders back, chin up, deep breath, and clippers ON! Best wishes,
Welcome to the boards Bry.
Listen to MLNHD. As for your lady, I'll bet she'll really dig the new look. I understand your "shock" concerns but it's a safe bet your relationship wasn't/isn't based on the quality of your hair.
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Welcome Bry. I was in your same shoes recently, except for the comb-over part. I buzzed my hair shorter and shorter, until I got down to no guard. That gave me a great idea of how I would look shaved.
I took the final step on Friday. I shaved it all off and I absolutely love it. My wife loves it and other ladies have commented on it too. I am very happy that I did it.
I am also new here, but the guys on this forum really helped. I read through a bunch of posts, before joining and getting involved. There is one common theme here....these are a bunch of guys that are proud to be Sly and they support each other. Check out how many times you read one guy telling another that he looks good. I thought that was so cool.
Anyways, go for it. If your lady loves you over the phone for a year, she'll love you no matter what your hair looks like. If you shave it off and end up feeling better about yourself, it will show in your demeanor and she will notice your confidence. The most important thing is to feel good about yourself. That is what I needed and I have that self confidence now. O0
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Welcome Bry!
You got very good advices. Think about what you want and then maybe you do the deed.
Best wishes. O0
J
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Bry, sorry I'm so late in my welcome to you. This site is like lying on the Psych. couch. The prognosis is alway good when you listen to these great guys.
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thanks for the kind words guys 8)
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Welcome bro.
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Welcome Bry O0
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I'm 30. I know how you feel. Hairloss sucks. I recently shaved and it's a great feeling. Go for it. I doubt you'll regret it.
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Hey, welcome Bry: you'll get the BEST advice here 8)
If you admit to bein a bit vain (and let's face it, who doesnt? :D) Then a SLY head is a good reason to be justafiably vain: ;) a much better excuse than a comb-over. You'll love it I'm sure O0
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Bry dude, I too am sorry for the incredibly late welcome!!
But let me say to you now, Welcome to the SBG Family, there are alot of great people on here. Please make yourself at home and jump right in.
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O0 O0 Welcome, Bryan. Sorry for the late reply. Definitely go for it. The clean shaved dome will make you appear far more attractive to your distant lady than the comb-over. I carried on a long-distance romance with the woman who became my wife for SEVEN years. She is now the strongest advocate of my slyness. Don't go to you reunion expecting to be "crushed." If you do, you will be. Go sporting a crisp, new look that strikes an affirmative note. Attitude will put the sparkle in your eyes and that will be reflected in hers. Take-charge is infinitely better than sufferance. It's your choice. Good luck, Professor Melon
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Bite the bullet, it's only hair and will grow back if you're not happy. You've got moral support here so jump in with both feet.
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Go for it man. Loose the combover. And like it has been said before if you hate it it will grow back. O:O
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DEFINITELY don't go there thinkin she's gonna hate the SLY look: go there proud of the new look and you'll be ok O0 She'll love the new you 8)
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Hey Bry, a late welcome to you, and good to have you join us.
I will echo the Professor, who said it best; take charge. That's the only way to go.
It's a tremendous show of confidence, and an even better feeling of freedom.
A helluva lot better than a wispy combover.
Like some of the other guys said, if the lady doesn't like it, then better to know what she's about earlier in the relationship.
Once you do go smooth, you won't have to worry about attention from the ladies at all. ;)
Good luck, get it smooth, and let us know how things go. O0
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Welcome to the forum Bryan !! O0
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Welcome to the group Bry.
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Welcome Bry... and as for the vain thing: you will buy more products, spend more time grooming, and devote more hours admiring yourself in the mirror than you ever did before. Strange hands will be drawn inexorably toward your smooth babe magnet (gal in church rubs mine weekly! lol), you will recieve all the positive attention that you could ever want, and people will stand in awe of your new found shiny manliness! Go for it my brother!