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Various Non-Bald Discussions => General Discussion => Topic started by: TANK25 on February 07, 2009, 04:13:59 PM
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DO you know any? How do you deal with them?
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I only know one and I divorced her. lol
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The only ones I knew are no longer part of my life
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I know one at work and she is a supervisor but I juist ignore her and do what I know is right.
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I only know one and I divorced her. lol
LMAO,that was a good one O0
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Once again, CHeese seems to be one step ahead of me, and my alter ego:)
Though I knew two. One gave birth to me. The other one I married after moving 2,000 miles away from my mom, saying proudly how "over it" I was.
Freud sucks, man :D
In all seriousness, what made you ask the question? Who is freakishly controlling in your world?
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Sorry; you asked how we deal with them.
First, for me, pertains to what role they have in my life. If they are merely in the outer circle, I step away.
if they are in the inner circle; I will choose from a range that includes: stepping away; tolerating for small periods; and speaking my mind directly.
If they are in my immediate career or familial circle, then details are really important as there is not a general approach that works all the time.
Would love to learn more.
Dman
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I worked with one. She is history now tho
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I worked with one, too. you just gotta let them get on with it and walk away from them when you can. There's no curing a control-freak :/O
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WELL HELLO ? I like DMAN had one give birth to me and unfortunatly at my age 49 im still allowing it to happen !but momz 86, i have no brothers/sisters my dads passed 25 years ago (i think he secretly commited sucicide somehow to get away) and she was a very good teacher because i do the same thingz i despise in her ! YES i have control issues and ive ruined a few good relationships because i smothered them (NOT literally) i did most of it because i thought i :@` them but all it caused was >:( they thought i was :/O well i THINK ive learned the tell tale signs of it and really try to CONTROL MYSELF instead !
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My wife, and no there is not nearly enough time on how I deal with it. Another story.....
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I only know one and I divorced her. lol
LOL! :*))
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My wife's mother - limited interaction is how I deal with it. My wife gets that way every once in a while. I just put it down before it gets started. I don't do drama!
If the control freak doesn't have a direct impact on my life - I just ignore it
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the last ex girlfriend was a control freak, that is the reason why i dumped her.
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I deal with one in a work situation every day. I avoid contact as much as possible and only interact with this person when I absolutely have to. I just try to keep it all professional and stay detached.
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I have only known one real control freak and like many others it was my mother. She tried to control everything that I did. I think she did it because she messed up on my two older brothers so she wanted me to turn out better. I delt with her by moving out.
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WELL HELLO ? I like DMAN had one give birth to me and unfortunatly at my age 49 im still allowing it to happen !but momz 86, i have no brothers/sisters my dads passed 25 years ago (i think he secretly commited sucicide somehow to get away)
A study was done regarding the very real statistic of men dying 7 years earlier than their wives and the answer that the researchers came up with for why this happens was.....
BECAUSE THEY WANT TO!!!!!
IMO, and I could certainly be wrong, control freaks become the way they are as adults out of necessity because their lives as children, or drastic parts of their childhoods, were totally out of control to the point where they experienced strong emotions most of the time, mostly negative. I don't think people make a conscious decision to be control freaks as adults, they strive to have order in their lives but the fear never goes away and, as a result, they attempt to gain order by whatever means they deem necessary. Most of the time it involves controlling the actions of those closest to them because, as children, it was those closest to them who violated their trust.
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My cousin (like a sister) fits this catagory!!!!! I used to tolerate her insistant control. I have told her repeatedly that I am 63 Y/O and have made it this far without her help. Now when she starts, I simply say "Back off". It usually works.