Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Advantages and Disadvantages to being Bald => Topic started by: SBG Math Guy on February 02, 2009, 07:22:24 PM
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I am just curious because we often hear guys who are in their 20s complaining that they are losing hair too early and how it sux. We hear the argument that if they lost hair in their 40s for example it wouldn't matter because by that age it's normal.
But now I remember back a few years ago, one of my psychology professors had lost most of his year and he was 42. He didn't have much at the top and once a while he would joke about his bald head. You know it was the kind of joke you could tell he didn't feel good about it, that he was sad about it.
Also, we got a member here last week asking for advice because his 40 yrs old cousin wouldn't leave him alone about his bald head. That 40 year old was taking propecia I believe.
I didn't know that some men feel insecure about hairloss or a bald head in their 40s. :/O
I am not 40 so I don't know how I will feel at that time, but it kind of is scary. And in another sense, it's an eye opener to those guys who have hair thinning or are losing hair in their 20s that the grass is always greener on the other side. You might think if you lost hair at 40 you wouldn't care but it is not true.
As Razorx put it, if you lose hair early in life you have the advantage of getting over your hair loss by 40.
I guess it's one of those things that makes you wonder :/O But is there a certain age after which most men wouldn't care about hair loss?
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im 20 now and im badly receding. if my hair is as bad as it is now at 25 i wouldnt care. if i had a horshoe at 30 i wouldnt care THAT MUCH. by 35 i wouldnt care at all.
right now its extremly tough though cuz most people arent as accepting of a 20 yr old whos balding. its good joking material. by 25-30 i feel that its not a big deal in others eyes.
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there is no age for accepting it actually.
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Ok marty I believe you, but it's sad. So a man could start losing hair at 48 for example and he will be sad about it.
I just remember that psychology professor, it looked as though hair loss had destroyed his confidence & happiness.
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Ok marty I believe you, but it's sad. So a man could start losing hair at 48 for example and he will be sad about it.
I just remember that psychology professor, it looked as though hair loss had destroyed his confidence & happiness.
well ya. i mean no ones gonna be happy for losing their hair lol. of course everyones gonna be sad cuz its a big change whether your 20 or 60. hair falling out sucks. some people just accept it better than others.
or at least pretend to.........
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I believe that the older you get, the easier it should be to accept, since you are less likely to be in the minority. It seems like there are plenty of guys in their 40's with some type of hair-loss. It does help a little.
Shaving it all off is like the great equalizer, it's like my revenge against mother nature.
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I believe it depends on many factors. I had a physician call in Propecia last week for a guy in his 50's. The physician mentioned to me "he is really upset about it." This guy was recently divorced. I believe factors such as marital status, overall confidence, etc play into the equation at any age. Just last week I had a really open conversation with a 30 year old friend who has lost quite a bit of hair. He admits that it bothered him much more when he was single.
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I believe it depends on many factors. I had a physician call in Propecia last week for a guy in his 50's. The physician mentioned to me "he is really upset about it." This guy was recently divorced. I believe factors such as marital status, overall confidence, etc play into the equation at any age. Just last week I had a really open conversation with a 30 year old friend who has lost quite a bit of hair. He admits that it bothered him much more when he was single.
I think you hit that one on the head. Most people I've talked to are worried about losing out on opportunities with women that may have given them a chance with a full head of hair. But that shallow person may have not been worth your time anyways. Tough situation
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agreed. if you have a significant other theres no point in worrying about it cuz theres no one left to try to impress. especially if your married or planning on getting married.
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agreed. if you have a significant other theres no point in worrying about it cuz theres no one left to try to impress. especially if your married or planning on getting married.
No but this is exactly the reason why I started this topic. There are many men who lose hair in their 40s and have a beautiful wife, have children, etc. but are worrying about losing more hair. Ghost, it's a fantasy that if you have a sexy girl on your side that worrying about hair loss will be gone. It doesn't go away like that at least for many men who lose hair. The significant other really doesn't help much. It might in the short-run, maybe for a few months but that's it man.
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ya true i guess. all i know is hairloss sucks. i wish more girls could experience hairloss so they could relate to us guys lol.
maybe if men and woman both suffered from hairloss than it wouldnt be a big deal at all.
i think mother nature needs to change her ways and at least make EVERY SINGLE male experience hairloss instead of just 50% haha.
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lol Ghost, who knows maybe 25 years from now most men will be bald by 30.
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maybe 25 years from now babies will remain bald after birth haha. then the whole world can be sly.
i like that idea O0
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everyone is different, we have all had different life experiences that have shaped us into who we are today... people will cope with losing hair differently...
but personally I believe that women are attracted to confident and intrinsically happy men.
which means find away to get over you hair loss, be yourself and be proud and happy to be yourself.
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The problem with losing your hair when you're older is you're likely already dealing with age-related issues, especially starting to look older. The hair loss is just one more unwelcome thing to contend with.
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I think there is no one age where guys just accept it. Duff sort of hit on it when he said it's about life experiences.
I think a young guy.... let's say 20 years old...... who has dealt with REAL tragedy in his life could much more easily accept hair loss than a guy that is 50 who has never had to deal with anything in his life.
Then there are guys like me who couldn't care less about their hair. Confident, happy guys are going to be confident happy guys pretty much no matter what.
I have NEVER accepted my hair loss because it was never an issue for me..... I just didn't care so there was nothing to accept. It is what it is. I started losing it pretty badly in my early 20's and by 30 it was pretty bad. I never thought about it for a single minute and I never had any problem dating (which is a big concern for many guys).
Confidence, a sense of humor, and a passion for life are what REAL women want in a man.......... The story that GHOST told a few weeks back about the two young women in the fast food place is a great example. One girl thought he was cute and the other went "EWWWW!"......... That's a REAL woman vs. a superficial "girl".
Stand tall gentlemen..... it's not about acceptance, it's about WHAT you are as a Man.
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Stand tall gentlemen..... it's not about acceptance, it's about WHAT you are as a Man.
Well said Kozster!!
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Life experiences have a lot to do with it. Imagine a studly man with women falling all over him suddenly starts going bald. What must that do to his confidence? People like me, not particularly good looking who found a good woman, could care less about hair loss. Which boils down to the fact that each person regardless of age and life experiences reacts differently. At my age (63) I am just now starting to thin on top. So What! Guess this is the reason I'm BBC and just being me.
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It is a shocker I think at any age to realize that you have the indications of impending baldness. Younger is worse, there isn't much company to go down that path with you. But since 50% of men have some degree of baldness by 50, that is probably the easiest age except that as a "sign of age" worries of its effect on peoples' perception of you in the business world becomes an issue. Are you too old to continue up the ladder, or would a perceived younger guy be a better choice?
In both cases however, as far as I'm concerned, it just works out better if you blow through the balding part to a shaved head. Age isn't a big thing then, since one of its major symptoms is gone. It's the wispy, combover, etc. cr_p that got to me, and frankly I really don't like to see it in others. But that's their problem, my only worry is--how's the shine O:O O:O O:O. working today? O0 As far as other aging issues, just turn the a/c down to 32 every night so you don't age in your sleep. Problem solved, NEXT!!!
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I could deal with it after my laser at 50+. At 20, I couldnt deal with it at all.
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I think it has a lot to do with how much hair you're losing. I had receding temples at about eighteen or nineteen and they got higher through my twenties, but it never really bothered me because I didnt consider myself to be bald anywhere else, just the temples.
If I'd lost most of the top during my twenties it might have been a different matter.
AS it stands, I guess I accepted what hairloss I had when I was twenty, but that wasnt really a lot, not like full balding.
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I guess I'm atypical as not only do I seem to be missing the "likes football" gene, I also seem to be missing the "freak out about hair loss" gene. I started losing my hair in my 20's, just shrugged, and started buzzing my head long before it was "in".
So I guess you'll get all kinds of answers (as we've seen)...
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The age hairloss is not an issue occurs when the hair looser accepts the facts. I believe acceptance (difficulties with which are all over the map, as shown by responses to your question) is a choice, and when one chooses to accept it, the real angst diminishes. I never morned my hair loss and I began receding in my early 20s. I have the genetics, there are a lot of thin heads of hair in my gene pool, I've never measured my virility or attractiveness by follicle population, and I don't think I suffered because I have a lot less hair than Fabio. I DO think more young fellas may tend to agonize over hair loss more than guys who begin thinning in middle age. But they CAN choose to accept it and move on! Just look at all the young scalps on this site!
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Yeah, and it's a lot easier to accept hairloss nowadays than it was twenty or thirty years ago, when somehow it was 'taboo'. Now its a cool look to be bald, as we all know! 8)
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I'm 20 and was losing my hair. For a while it was really devastating and I never left the house without a hat. Then I stumbled upon this website and decided to go Sly. This website helped me regain my confidence and I love the new look. I guess it stopped being an issue when I decided to go Sly. 8)
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I'm 20 and was losing my hair. For a while it was really devastating and I never left the house without a hat. Then I stumbled upon this website and decided to go Sly. This website helped me regain my confidence and I love the new look. I guess it stopped being an issue when I decided to go Sly. 8)
There you go. O0 TYler would surely be pleased to hear this (that's why he created this web-site). I was in the same situation, I had hair thinning but after lurking on this site for some time I thought hey this might work. It was difficult to picture myself bald but I looked at all the pictures from the guys on this site, they don't look bad at all.....so I thought I can pull it off too, and I do lol.
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It is an interesting subject. I first shaved about ten years ago as I was curious to try the bald look. I was not experiencing any hair loss. I have to be honest, I really love having a bald head. I feel best when I am bald, can't explain it but it just works. I am now in my early 40's and from time to time I have grown out the hair for longer than I sometimes wanted. In the past few months I began to notice a definate thinning toward the front of my head and along the top toward the crown. Some guys may freak out, I was the quite the opposite, about time I thought. Perhaps all you like minded guys can understand this. For me some assistance from nature is totally cool.
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It is an interesting subject. I first shaved about ten years ago as I was curious to try the bald look. I was not experiencing any hair loss. I have to be honest, I really love having a bald head. I feel best when I am bald, can't explain it but it just works. I am now in my early 40's and from time to time I have grown out the hair for longer than I sometimes wanted. In the past few months I began to notice a definate thinning toward the front of my head and along the top toward the crown. Some guys may freak out, I was the quite the opposite, about time I thought. Perhaps all you like minded guys can understand this. For me some assistance from nature is totally cool.
Ben-
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I first noticed my hair falling off when i was 22 years old. I´m 26 and i still have a full head of hair although there´s some places that i´m starting to notice my scalp showing but i´m still in the point where other people still haven´t noticed.
It bothers me that i can´t use the same style i´ve used some years ago that were a success with women but i already know where my head will look like some years down the road (or months) so i guess it wont be a big deal for me. I started bodybuild when i was 17 years old meaning i´m always improving and will only stop when i reach my goals...this is a hobbie that makes me happy.
Afterall we are in this world to do what we most love to right?
I still haven´t shaved my hair but seeing the guys from here and those ones that i see everyday in the street, makes me believe it wont be a big deal because there´s alot of shaved guys that look good. Vin Diesel is a great example.
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I think when you're young you're still figuring out what makes you unique and special to other people.
Eventually, you reach an age where you realize it's almost certainly not your hair.
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I think it depends on each person. Once exceptance sets in and it is no longer effecting your self esteem or what you think you can accomplish anymore I think it starts to no longer become an issue. I think it is different for each individual but I know it tends to be harder for those in their early twenties.
Frank
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20? Try 16. Hell, 14. Now it's like a V... I don't think I even have the proper headshape for it (I buzzed it with the bare blade, and that was possibly a mistake, as in, I did it too early) and it doesn't seem too smooth.
In my 20's I'd be out of high school and probably wouldn't care, but I've got 3 years of HS left and it will be horrible.
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40+
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I don't think it has anything to do with age. It's just the way it is! So, I think wether you're 15 or 99 it's all in the attitude! I didn't start losing hair till my late 40s but I really sort of like it. I am no longer one of the crowd. I'm free to be me!! It's all in the attitude, attitude, attitude!!
I really feel like it's feared by too many. IT IS JUST HAIR! don't let it, or the loss of it, ruin your life, your attitude, your self esteem, your luck with the ladies or anything else!!!
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I'm actually a little surprised to hear that MPB is still such a big issue among the younger crowd. It's not that I don't understand what it's like, it's just that I thought by now with all the positive examples of clean-shaven domes from athletes, actors, musicians, etc., that bald was more of a "cool" thing these days.
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Bald shouldn't be an "issue" at any age, but "going bald" that sense when you realize that the fates and your genes have decided you will not have a full head of hair is uncomfortable at any age. Fortunately, once you accept the fact it's going to happen your choices are clear; 1) let it go and accept the thinning, combovers, etc., 2) get a toupee and learn to live w/ a thing on your head that only pleases you in most cases if it does that, 3) medicate externally and internally w/ questionable results, 4) endure painful and disfiguring surgery--leaving the expense to the side for this discussion, and 5) shave completely. If any of these make you happy that's the answer to the "going bald" issue--I don't think I've missed any. Fretting about it doesn't do a thing. For SBG, we've made what we believe is the most satisfactory answer. That answer is valid no matter what age you are. It solves the problem, and sets you on a quest of the perfect shave. And that's another thread entirely.
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IMO hairloss becomes a non-issue at the age at which a person has matured in a way that renders it so. This has a lot to do with the idea that everything is impermanent. My car one day will stop running, my favorite jeans one day will need to be replaced, my hair one day will start to fall out, my heart one day will stop beating.
The big one is the heart because at that point all else becomes unimportant. I found out years ago how impermanent life is and how quickly and unexpectedly death visits. What I mean is I know one day I will die. When I realized that truth all the rest became petty in contrast.
Not to say that replacing the car or the jeans isn't an aggravation but it isn't something that causes me to suffer. Losing my hair didn't either.
I wonder if I will be bald in the next life.
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Well, I'm guessing that the majority of guys are hit pretty hard when they realise they are losing their hair. regardless of their age. It's a pretty noticeable physical change to go through, and an obvious reminder of our own mortality. None of us is as young as we once were! Even the teenagers on here! I know it hit me pretty hard when it first started to happen.
I don't think there is an age at when it becomes a non issue (beyond 75 perhaps???), but there is definitely a point, that point being when we accept it and realise that it does not change who we are.
And the best way to do that? Haha, everyone here knows the answer!
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I'm actually a little surprised to hear that MPB is still such a big issue among the younger crowd. It's not that I don't understand what it's like, it's just that I thought by now with all the positive examples of clean-shaven domes from athletes, actors, musicians, etc., that bald was more of a "cool" thing these days.
Yes, the Michael Jordans, Chris Daughtry's, Howie Mandel's of the world did help me cope with it, but I still felt like I had to make it cool for me.
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I'm actually a little surprised to hear that MPB is still such a big issue among the younger crowd. It's not that I don't understand what it's like, it's just that I thought by now with all the positive examples of clean-shaven domes from athletes, actors, musicians, etc., that bald was more of a "cool" thing these days.
Yes, the Michael Jordans, Chris Daughtry's, Howie Mandel's of the world did help me cope with it, but I still felt like I had to make it cool for me.
I know exactly where you are coming from dude!! Its one thing to see all these awesome sly dudes in the public eye, who make it cool. But for a young dude, its still not as common as having hair (obviously) so I really felt I had to be doubly awesome with the bald head! Now I love it, people I know love it, the people that don't love it I don't wanna know :D
However in answer to the initial question. I believe there is no age when a dude gets used to MPB, in fact I doubt they ever do, what they do become is comfortable in there own skin, this could happen age 21 (e.g. me), or aged 100! Any one who can achieve this is one the road to a winner!!
It really is a pretty powerful thing we are offering here at SBG, MPB can be a life shattering experience for some guys, we try and give people back that confidence so they can realise that life doesnt end at baldness, it f-ing begins baby!!