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Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: Reykjavik on January 31, 2009, 06:00:00 PM
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I know head shape, bumps, etc. are common talk here and you guys are probably sick of it...but I am worried about shaving my head due to how tall it is. I have a huge forehead and I'm afraid shaving it is going to make my head look more like some elongated capsule than a dome. Do you guys have any advice for this sort of situation?
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It would be easier to give advice if you posted a photo. If you've got a receding hairline, shaving your head can make your forehead seem smaller rather than larger.
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Sorry, forgot about that.
Not sure if you remember, but I had a post here not long ago where I shaved my hair off into a buzz. My hairline has been receding and it's turned into an obsession. I should have shaved it with a razor instead of buzzing it so I'd know what it'd look like, but chickened out. I just feel like my head is too tall to achieve slyness. It's really thin too, tends to look wider from straight ahead.
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We are never sick of hearing the same story over and over.
The only problem I find is if you don't shave your head there just isn't much that people can say to change your mind. I or anybody else can come up with the best expressions or words of wisdom as to why you should shave your head, but none of that really matters because everything is in your hands. If you refuse to use a razor on your head then anything that is said really has very minimal use.
So, now what's left is to do it. If you only use clippers to make it short, you will most likely not like it. That's been the experience with many people. You have to use a razor and make it really smooth to see how a shaved head goes on you.
I really feel bad for you that you feel a shaved head will not suit you. It's an unfortunate situation because man shouldn't have such fears. Life is too short. I delayed shaving my head by 3 years because of such fears. I wish I had shaved it off sooner.
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You're absolutely right, Math Guy. There's only one way to find out and that's to do it. I was sooo close to razoring it, but couldn't take myself past the buzz. I just have to face my fears fully and do it, not half way. It would be much easier for me to take the plunge if the shape of my head was more rounded.
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and the thing I would say is why don't you shave it and wear a hat whenever possible? You know if you think you will be nervous showing your shaved head then wear a hat at places where you can (such as going to a store, going out for a walk, etc.). You can do that until you gain the confidence you need.
If you shave your head it might take some time to get used to your new looks, and so during that transition time you can wear a hat as much as you can until you are pleased with what you see.
What do you think?
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You're absolutely right, Math Guy. There's only one way to find out and that's to do it. I was sooo close to razoring it, but couldn't take myself past the buzz. I just have to face my fears fully and do it, not half way. It would be much easier for me to take the plunge if the shape of my head was more rounded.
Your head looks fine. You know what the buzz looks like, so just shave it. If you don't like it, you can be back at the buzz cut length in a couple of days. The worst that can happen is that you won't like how you look for the few days it takes to grow out. Small price to pay to find out for once and for all.
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and the thing I would say is why don't you shave it and wear a hat whenever possible? You know if you think you will be nervous showing your shaved head then wear a hat at places where you can (such as going to a store, going out for a walk, etc.). You can do that until you gain the confidence you need.
If you shave your head it might take some time to get used to your new looks, and so during that transition time you can wear a hat as much as you can until you are pleased with what you see.
What do you think?
I think wearing a hat would be counterproductive. The only way to get over being self-conscious about showing your bald head to the world is to just brazen it out and do it. It's much easier to do out in public around strangers that you'll never see again. It's a little harder to do with family and friends, but you have to just push through and do it. After the first time, it gets easier. And the anticipation of what might happen is always scarier than what actually does happen. Most of the time it's a huge non-issue.
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The only way to get over being self-conscious about showing your bald head to the world is to just brazen it out and do it. It's much easier to do out in public around strangers that you'll never see again. It's a little harder to do with family and friends, but you have to just push through and do it. After the first time, it gets easier. And the anticipation of what might happen is always scarier than what actually does happen. Most of the time it's a huge non-issue.
RazorX, you got that right. I am still using a clipper, not sure when or if i get to shaving, but it's the same going down to a clipper shave. It's really not a big deal to anyone. We create this fear, because it's such a change. It was intimidating to ask my barber to clipper shave it all off; got used to that; then it was intimidating to buy a clipper and commit to doing it myself. But everytime I do, I look at myself and say, gee, this tight buzz looks better than that spikey sparse stuff. My wife even complimented me on doing it myself today.
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and the thing I would say is why don't you shave it and wear a hat whenever possible? You know if you think you will be nervous showing your shaved head then wear a hat at places where you can (such as going to a store, going out for a walk, etc.). You can do that until you gain the confidence you need.
If you shave your head it might take some time to get used to your new looks, and so during that transition time you can wear a hat as much as you can until you are pleased with what you see.
What do you think?
I think wearing a hat would be counterproductive. The only way to get over being self-conscious about showing your bald head to the world is to just brazen it out and do it. It's much easier to do out in public around strangers that you'll never see again. It's a little harder to do with family and friends, but you have to just push through and do it. After the first time, it gets easier. And the anticipation of what might happen is always scarier than what actually does happen. Most of the time it's a huge non-issue.
One step at a time Razor. I understand what you are saying but for a guy that has not shaved his head yet, it might be too much pressure. A guy who hasn't shaved his head yet and is nervous about it probably doesn't want to think of having to show his bald head to everyone he sees. Once he shaves his head there will be opportunity to grow in confidence. He needs to understand that he doesn't have to show his bald head to everyone he meets. Once he realizes that a shaved head is good then he will consider showing his head to everyone around.
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One step at a time Razor. I understand what you are saying but for a guy that has not shaved his head yet, it might be too much pressure. A guy who hasn't shaved his head yet and is nervous about it probably doesn't want to think of having to show his bald head to everyone he sees. Once he shaves his head there will be opportunity to grow in confidence. He needs to understand that he doesn't have to show his bald head to everyone he meets. Once he realizes that a shaved head is good then he will consider showing his head to everyone around.
I'm sorry, but there's no point in shaving your head and hiding it under a hat. If you're going to do that, then you're just not ready to shave yet. And exposing a bald head to people you don't know isn't really a big deal. It's a common enough look that nobody is going to take any particular notice of it. Trust me, I was probably the most nervous person in the world about what people would think about my newly shaved head, and even I didn't care about what strangers thought.
In fact, showing your bald head among strangers is a great way to boost your confidence for showing it to the people you really do care about. That's why so many guys do it when they're on vacation -- so they can get used to it before they go home and face friends, family and co-workers.
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RazorX, you got that right. I am still using a clipper, not sure when or if i get to shaving, but it's the same going down to a clipper shave. It's really not a big deal to anyone. We create this fear, because it's such a change. It was intimidating to ask my barber to clipper shave it all off; got used to that; then it was intimidating to buy a clipper and commit to doing it myself. But everytime I do, I look at myself and say, gee, this tight buzz looks better than that spikey sparse stuff. My wife even complimented me on doing it myself today.
And you know, you'll be surprised at how many people won't even notice the difference between the tight buzz and shaved smooth. As far as most people are concerned, your head is already shaved.
You're right -- we create all this anxiety and fear in our minds. I used to have a whole list of reasons why I couldn't shave my head -- they might not approve at work, my family would give me a hard time, I was too pale, might not have the right head shape, etc., etc. All the usual excuses. And then suddenly one day I realized that the only thing that was preventing me from doing it was me. It occurred to me that if I could just find the strength to do it, the rest of the world would have no choice but to deal with it whether they liked it or not.
This is where the therapeutic aspects of going sly come into play. It's therapeutic because you're putting yourself first for a change, and doing what you want to do. It's therapeutic because you're confronting a fear -- and there is no better feeling in the world than confronting and conquering a fear. It's well worth the slight risk that it might not look good. Even if it looks horrible, it grows back to #1 buzz cut length in about a week and in one more week, the world will have forgotten all about it.
Guys, I know it's a scary thing. But if you're down to a #1 buzz or shorter, that's less than 1/8" of hair that's standing between you and a fresh start. Take that leap of faith and you won't be sorry. If I can do it, anyone can.
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you kinda mislead me. your head looks FINE i would hardly say your hairlines receding. take a look at my hairline. when i grow it out i look like jason statham lol. and you forehead isnt big AT ALL. i thought you were joking at first when you said that. it looks normal to me? i have a very long face and big forehead so trust me i know big foreheads lol.
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Razor, I still think if a guy shaves his head & wears a hat for one year it's still better than
not shaving your head because of what you believe others will think of you.
Many people refuse to shave because of that. I think if you have a shaved head for a year or even a few months
then you can maybe learn that it is not such a big deal. Maybe you need some extra time you know. So during this transition period the hat can relieve some stress.
If you haven't shaved your head at all then you will never know. But if you have a shaved head then you can have more rational thoughts. I guess I'm looking at the lesser evil here. Maybe the person is nervous about showing his bald head to complete strangers. That shouldn't mean he is not ready to shave it off. There can be much good in a shaved head, even if you wear a hat.
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you kinda mislead me. your head looks FINE i would hardly say your hairlines receding. take a look at my hairline. when i grow it out i look like jason statham lol. and you forehead isnt big AT ALL. i thought you were joking at first when you said that. it looks normal to me? i have a very long face and big forehead so trust me i know big foreheads lol.
If you think you've got a badly shaped head, remember it can always be worse:
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Razor, I still think if a guy shaves his head & wears a hat for one year it's still better than
not shaving your head because of what you believe others will think of you.
Many people refuse to shave because of that. I think if you have a shaved head for a year or even a few months
then you can maybe learn that it is not such a big deal. Maybe you need some extra time you know. So during this transition period the hat can relieve some stress.
If you haven't shaved your head at all then you will never know. But if you have a shaved head then you can have more rational thoughts. I guess I'm looking at the lesser evil here. Maybe the person is nervous about showing his bald head to complete strangers. That shouldn't mean he is not ready to shave it off. There can be much good in a shaved head, even if you wear a hat.
Wearing a hat completely defeats the purpose of shaving your head. And wearing a hat in public for a year will only make things harder, not easier. And the vast majority of people who are contemplating shaving their heads aren't worried about what complete strangers think -- they're worried about the people they deal with on a day-to-day basis think. If you're that concerned with the opinions of people you're passing by on the street, then you aren't ready to shave.
If anybody here after shaving for the first time found it more difficult to walk down the street among strangers than it was facing family, friends and co-workers, please speak up and I'll gladly stand corrected.
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Ok ok fine Razor. :) But it is still better to shave your head and wear a hat than to sit there for hours everyday trying to cover up your bald spots and wonder what you would look like with a shaved head.
That's crazy! It's not healthy and one shouldn't have to go through such times. One should move on from thinking of hairloss everyday, and that can only happen if you shave your head. Who cares if you wear a hat. It's still better than keeping your hair, which you know will be gone soon anyway.
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Ok ok fine Razor. :) But it is still better to shave your head and wear a hat than to sit there for hours everyday trying to cover up your bald spots and wonder what you would look like with a shaved head.
That's crazy! It's not healthy and one shouldn't have to go through such times. One should move on from thinking of hairloss everyday, and that can only happen if you shave your head. Who cares if you wear a hat. It's still better than keeping your hair, which you know will be gone soon anyway.
They both amount to the same thing -- covering up a bald head. It's immaterial whether hair or a hat is used to do the covering. In both cases, the person needs to accept what's happening and take control of the situation.
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Ok ok fine Razor. :) But it is still better to shave your head and wear a hat than to sit there for hours everyday trying to cover up your bald spots and wonder what you would look like with a shaved head.
That's crazy! It's not healthy and one shouldn't have to go through such times. One should move on from thinking of hairloss everyday, and that can only happen if you shave your head. Who cares if you wear a hat. It's still better than keeping your hair, which you know will be gone soon anyway.
They both amount to the same thing -- covering up a bald head. It's immaterial whether hair or a hat is used to do the covering. In both cases, the person needs to accept what's happening and take control of the situation.
So true, Raz. No hats, no combovers, or any other false cover-ups for that matter.
Get it shaved, stand tall and feel the confidence! Get a "sac", already! O0
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I just don't see the point in shaving and then putting on a hat. I don't even like wearing a hat when the weather turns cold. 8) The whole point of being sly, surely, is to show off the dome and give yourself confidence. If it's hidden under a hat you may as well wear a wig :o
On the other hand, you just gotta do what you're comfortable with, I guess ???
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oh now I get it lol. I guess the way Rob & xnewyawka made their points really made me realize lol.
Right, wearing a hat is equivalent to wearing a wig. So yeah you might as well wear a wig. lol
Sorry for my ignorance Razor. B@n%
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oh now I get it lol. I guess the way Rob & xnewyawka made their points really made me realize lol.
Right, wearing a hat is equivalent to wearing a wig. So yeah you might as well wear a wig. lol
Sorry for my ignorance Razor. B@n%
No problem. ;D
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just thought I could shed some light here... ok more like throw in my 2 cents...
I got a boat load of respect for ya SBG Math guy...
but as someone who is losing his hair I have to tell you that wearing hat is equivalent to a crutch. and it is a damn hard crutch to let go of.
I have done more than my fair share of hiding behind/under a hat. I love hats, always have, love them to death. but I hate how I've used them for the past 3 years.
IF YOU'RE GOING TO BE A SBG, YOU CAN'T HIDE YOUR BALD HEAD. YOU GOT TO DISPLAY IT< SO EVERYONE CAN SEE IT AND SAY DAMN THAT DUDE IS BALD AND HE LOOKS COOL AS sh*t>
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All this hat talk is making me want to talk about it. I agree with it being a crutch. Since I started losing my hair I look for people who wear hats a lot and when I catch them take it off for a second, they usually have some thinning or receding going on. I am that guy but I've played baseball my whole life and even before I started losing my hair i wore hats ALL the time. Plus I play baseball so even after shaving my head I'm going to be wearing hats. I think it may be hard to convince people that its not so much a crutch as just me being me.. Another bump in the road. Do any of you still wear hats? Is it going to bother my head if I wear them somewhat often?
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All this hat talk is making me want to talk about it. I agree with it being a crutch. Since I started losing my hair I look for people who wear hats a lot and when I catch them take it off for a second, they usually have some thinning or receding going on. I am that guy but I've played baseball my whole life and even before I started losing my hair i wore hats ALL the time. Plus I play baseball so even after shaving my head I'm going to be wearing hats. I think it may be hard to convince people that its not so much a crutch as just me being me.. Another bump in the road. Do any of you still wear hats? Is it going to bother my head if I wear them somewhat often?
it wont bother your head but itll bother your confidence. i feel guilty as hell whenever i wear a hat now and im always nervous cuz if i take it off its obvious im balding, so i dont want to like meet a girl one day with a hat on then take it off the next time i see her cuz itll be a shock to people of how i look. ide rather show my receding hairline off so people can see the real me and get used to it instead of covering it up so they have no idea anythings wrong.
it kinda sucks though cuz i used to ALWAYS wear a hat when i had hair cuz i dressed "ghetto" or w/e you wanna call it for awhile so i pretty much had a matching hat with every outfit i wore lol. now i cant do that cuz i feel uncomfortable.
the only time i ever wear a hat now is when i was too lazy too shave and my hair started to grow back. it looks like s*** so ill throw a hat on. its a rarity though.
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just thought I could shed some light here... ok more like throw in my 2 cents...
I got a boat load of respect for ya SBG Math guy...
but as someone who is losing his hair I have to tell you that wearing hat is equivalent to a crutch. and it is a damn hard crutch to let go of.
I have done more than my fair share of hiding behind/under a hat. I love hats, always have, love them to death. but I hate how I've used them for the past 3 years.
IF YOU'RE GOING TO BE A SBG, YOU CAN'T HIDE YOUR BALD HEAD. YOU GOT TO DISPLAY IT< SO EVERYONE CAN SEE IT AND SAY DAMN THAT DUDE IS BALD AND HE LOOKS COOL AS sh*t>
Thanks for the respect bro, likewise I have lots of respect for you. Very good points. O0
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I'm in the same boat as Sean, I always wore a hat growing up (pre-MPB), and I still will wear a hat (not as often), because it's something I'm used to. On the same hand, I also completely agree with the point that a hat could be used as a crutch, as you are almost deceiving a person the first time you meet them. But honestly, I don't think it's something to get worked up about.
Everybody I know, knows I'm bald, and I choose to be bald. Fellow sly guys may disagree with me, but wearing a hat once and awhile isn't going to harm my relationships. I'm just not an extremist when it comes to the hat subject.
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everyone wears a hat once in a while, even me :o Its only when we start hiding behind it like a wig that it becomes a problem O0
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everyone wears a hat once in a while, even me :o Its only when we start hiding behind it like a wig that it becomes a problem O0
Exactly.
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Welcome, Reykjevik ~
Most, if not all of us on this forum have spent prodigious amounts of time with the hand mirror twisting this way and that in front of the big mirror, trying to ascertain what shape our noggin is, and what will it look like razored down to the nubbin. We naturally agonize over whether this feature or that will be highlighted, just how noticeable this palpable bump will be, and what the heck the overall look will turn out to be.
You've no doubt noticed that every face on this forum looks different. And, you've also probably seen that no two bald heads are the same. Guess what! That's because we are different! A longish face doesn't preclude a slick head. I think what you'll notice when you shave is that without hair, your forehead sort of goes away, and what people's eyes will be drawn to are your eyebrows, eyes, and facial features. Give it a go. You're a good lookin' chap and skinning it down is the only way to satisfy your curiosity. You will have, as each of us has, your own, unique look. Go for it!
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Don't forget as well that any odd shapes we might notice ourselves in the mirror are often not noticable to the casual passer-by, or when we are on the move. We know where to look for them, and its all too easy to be self critical. For example, the left side of my noggin sticks out kinda square compared to the right hand side, but I can't do anything about it except take a chain-saw to it! :D ;D
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Your forehead is small and your head is small too. Just take a look at mine, my head is really oblong.
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Your forehead is small and your head is small too. Just take a look at mine, my head is really oblong.
Oh woe is you, give it up already, will ya! :/O
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You can't deny that my head is more oblong than usual... :P
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not again! :/O
Your head looks perfect to me, just as normal as anybody elses. No problem that I can see. 8)
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You can't deny that my head is more oblong than usual... :P
you have a good jaw/chin combo working, that makes your face evenly proportionate, for your own sake you should stop focusing on just one aspect.
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its not oblong-rest up today would ya!