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Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: Ghost1988 on January 20, 2009, 07:46:49 PM
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tonight after class i stopped at tacobell and since the drivethru line was so long i decided to just go in and order. there were 2 girls (which appeared to be in HS) sitting down at a table close to the counter where i was ordering from. one of the girls saw me and i overheard her whisper to her friend "hes kinda cute". Her friend responded louder by saying "EEEEW hes balding!" and then quickly covered her mouth with her hand like she just realized how loud she said that. i just looked at her and walked out of the place pissed off. i wanted to say something to her so bad but im one of the most non-confrontational people youll ever meet so i just let it go. i was ready to say "how the hell is that eeew? its just a receding hairline, its not like i have a disease"
people piss me off...... :Xo!
has anyone else ever had something as rude and ignorant as this happen to them before?
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Hey, Brother. Don't let it get you down. You need to focus on the smart one that thought you were cute. She's the one I would be concerned with.
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Listen to Rick...why focus on the rude one...the other said you were cute...
I bet the rude one liked ya too...girls are a mystery bro!
BTW all it takes is one...and if you dig her...
that's all ya need to have fun ^-^!
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well Ghost the glass is half full and half empty. So, the question you have to think about is do I consider it full or do I consider it empty? Happiness will not wait for you...........so why should you wait for happiness?
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yeh i have it... it blows when it happens but i usually forget within minutes ne way...
but at least the one girl thought u were cute!
plus i think the media is spammed with anti hairloss products that try to make baldness sound like a disease so just feel sorry for the girl that said eww because she is just a missinformed cow....
(by cow i mean she prolly stands all day and just flaps her gums)
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well Ghost the glass is half full and half empty. So, the question you have to think about is do I consider it full or do I consider it empty? Happiness will not wait for you...........so why should you wait for happiness?
whatta you mean?
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people piss me off...... :Xo!
has anyone else ever had something as rude and ignorant as this happen to them before?
i work with the general public & people say rude, ignorant, racial, & hateful things 2 me all the time. i just "LMAO" :*)) :*)) :*)) :*)) in my mind & keep going. it just doesn't make sense that some people can B that hateful or rude. :/O :/O anyways... i luv life so much 2 waste any type of "energy" 2 ignorant people. U can luv or hate me because i'm going 2 B me: super, slick, shiny, smoooooth dome with a big "cheesy" grin. 8) O0 O0
WARHAWK O0
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I hear you there man. It seems like younger people don't know how to act. They don't have the maturity to realize that they actually hurt some people with comments like that. You should have for sure talked to the one that said you were cute and showed the immature one how cool bald guys are. It's not gonna take away any of those comments but keep your head up man, I'm with you. Next time I hear a comment like that I'm going to confront whoever said it and let you know how it goes.
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i work with the general public & people say rude, ignorant, racial, & hateful things 2 me all the time. i just "LMAO" :*)) :*)) :*)) :*)) in my mind & keep going. it just doesn't make sense that some people can B that hateful or rude. :/O :/O anyways... i luv life so much 2 waste any type of "energy" 2 ignorant people. U can luv or hate me because i'm going 2 B me: super, slick, shiny, smoooooth dome with a big "cheesy" grin. 8) O0 O0
WARHAWK O0
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Ha, your the man warhawk. Next time I get hurt or sick im for sure coming to your hospital
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Next time I hear a comment like that I'm going to confront whoever said it and let you know how it goes.
dude... confrontation towards an ignorant person that made an ignorant comment will only equal 2 an ignorant ending. it's just a waste of time. one thing that will never go away is ignorant people with ignorant comments. just walk away, give your self a head rub & focus your energy on something positive. O0
WARHAWK O0
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Oh not a violent or angry confrontation, I'm just gonna ask them why they felt the need to say something. Try and get them to feel bad or maybe stop a future comment.. who knows maybe it will work. Just to see what kind of reaction i get.
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well said warhawk!! well said
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THANKS sean! matter of fact... i took care of an ignorant patient a couple of days ago. :/O as much as i didn't want 2 take care of that patient i had 2 B "professional". thank goodness... that patient did not have the super power ability 2 read my mind. :px
WARHAWK O0
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all i know is i wish i had your confidence warhawk lol. my buddies the same way. (no offense to him) but hes not attractive, hes balding, and hes chubby, but he walks around with such a swagger its remarkable. he flirts with EVERY girl, talks to EVERYONE, gets some hot g/fs, and has TONS of friends. and the thing is he knows hes not that attractive cuz he always says "he has a lot of confidence for how he looks". then i always feel dumb when im with him cuz im so busy feelin sorry for my hairloss i cant even talk to a lady lol.
i envy that.
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hey g: U will get the confidence in due time & when U do>>>>> look out world!!!!!!!! confidence is a powerful thing. 8) O0
WARHAWK O0
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Ghost...bro.. dont let it get you down. I would have walked up to them and said something like...well the few who say ewwwwwwwwwwww have changed that to a WOOWWWWWWWWWWWW after they rubbed on it a few times lol.No but seriously bro, you hit it right on target when you said they were H.Schoolers. They are still growing and maturing, let it slide. You will get past this I promise. We have all experienced it and now, I hardly ever hear a negative comment, I promise.
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Teenage girls have a well-deserved reputation for being obnoxious. You've just run into one of those people. On the bright side, the girl she was with didn't have the same reaction. And anyway, now that you're out of high school, the opinions of t hose who are still there shouldn't count for squat anyway. You've got bigger fish to fry. ;)
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all i know is i wish i had your confidence warhawk lol. my buddies the same way. (no offense to him) but hes not attractive, hes balding, and hes chubby, but he walks around with such a swagger its remarkable. he flirts with EVERY girl, talks to EVERYONE, gets some hot g/fs, and has TONS of friends. and the thing is he knows hes not that attractive cuz he always says "he has a lot of confidence for how he looks". then i always feel dumb when im with him cuz im so busy feelin sorry for my hairloss i cant even talk to a lady lol.
i envy that.
It's called the Beauty and the Beast theory. Read To Be or Not Be Intimidated? That is the question. By Robert Ringer to learn what I'm talking about.
That was one of my cornerstones for getting dates since my freshman year in college.
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Part of life is about seizing opportunities when they present themselves. By getting mad at the ignorant girls' comment, you missed a great opportunity.
Let's say you did not get mad.............. You could have gone over to them, politely asked the girl that thought you were cute if you could join them, and then sat down and chatted her up.
Instead you mised the opportunity because you only saw the negative in the situation.
There are rude people everywhere my friend........ignoring them is usually the best thing to do.
Grasp the opportunities my friend. The glass is indeed half full.
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Teenage girls especially have a habit of opening their mouth before they think about what they are saying. (Trust me on this..I have a teenage daughter) Don't let what one person said get you down. I know how it can be though. Yesterday at the end of Obama's inaguration, Rev. Lowery made a closing commment that I found very offensive against my race. ("The white will embrace what is right") Man I STEWED on that one all day and last night. But I realize that even though he was wrong in what he said he will probably never know how angry I was about his statement. So I got up this morning and decided to the best of my ability not to put any more energy toward an ignorant comment like that. Yes, people will sometimes say dumb things but as I was reminded in myself, they can only hurt you....if YOU give them permission.
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Amen Hammer!! I believe that the teenagers are not taught proper manners by their parents. If I were ever caught (as a child) making remarks as to one's appearence, Lord help me. Recently I was asked by a family member why I never voiced and opinion to which I replied "I do have opinions about people, but they are mine and they really don't mean a damn to anyone else". It's a shame the rest of the world can't follow suit.
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I do have opinions about people, but they are mine and they really don't mean a damn to anyone else". It's a shame the rest of the world can't follow suit.
well said...
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Having raised two girls I can only support what the other brothers say. From age 11 to 20 they're b_tches, just b_tches. Happens to all of them, then around 20 they become human again. And, I guess there is something like that concerning men, I just haven't seen it. Ghost, you're going to have a good life, you're very young and have all the time in the world to meet wonderful people and you will meet girls, lots of them, that are going to like you, like you a lot.
Although we older baldies can regret the passage of time, the type of times you're going through I don't miss at all--and we've all had those too. That is one consolation of getting old.
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Having raised two girls I can only support what the other brothers say. From age 11 to 20 they're b_tches, just b_tches. Happens to all of them, then around 20 they become human again. And, I guess there is something like that concerning men, I just haven't seen it. Ghost, you're going to have a good life, you're very young and have all the time in the world to meet wonderful people and you will meet girls, lots of them, that are going to like you, like you a lot.
Although we older baldies can regret the passage of time, the type of times you're going through I don't miss at all--and we've all had those too. That is one consolation of getting old.
Genius!!
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Don't sweat it, Ghost.
The expression of opinions falls under the catagory of "Manners, or Lack Thereof." Loudmouth's lack of them (manners) surfaced when she gave her opinion to her friend a bit too loudly. But whether you heard her or not, that was her opinion, and she's entitled to have one.
Rude, inconsiderate, uncivil, thoughtless types are all over the place in this world. Their opinion, and lack of manners in giving it, unsolicited, hold no sway over me because I don't have any personal regard for them in the first place. My obligation (manners) is to be civil to them, not to relish their opinions.
Personal taste and style vary from person to person. Hearing someone spout an opinion that indicates bald is undesireable takes nothing away from you. It's their opinion, even if they are too gauche to keep it to themselves. Take the high road, based on the cool dude that you are.
The point is, your happiness and contentment do not hinge on that girl's opinion......unless you choose to hang your happiness on the opinions of complete strangers. Buck up, mate. You're a fine lookin' bald man. Don't let perfect strangers ruin your day.
Hang in there!
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First off,remember that the one girl thought you were cute! Now let me share something with you. When I young I use always worry about what people thought about me. I use to get upset when people did not like me or said something about me I didn`t like. Then one day I just woke up and said F`it! No matter what I do ,there will always be someone who doesn`t like me. From that day on ,I could give a crap about what other people think about me and if you ever see me on the street.You would see it in the way I carry myself. I wear what I like and do things that I find fun and F anyone who doesn`t like it.
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True words MLNHD, couldn't have put it better myself
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let it go-they're HS kids.
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My two (words|cents) on less than ideal situations:
Fug/Frack/Frell him/her/them/it.
Whatever the situation is/was it is probably not worth the time and effort to dwell on it.
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HS kids have a totally different point of view than adults do. I remember jumping off a moving bus in HS and looking at the bus driver freak out in his mirror before leaping. I wouldn't do that now. Kids are just in a different mindset.
Anyway that's why I shave my hair all off so no one says that I'm balding. Hey I'm completely bald and that's the way I likes it.