Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: Sean25 on December 24, 2008, 11:39:20 AM
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Hi everyone! First off I want to say that I've been reading different posts and you guys are the nicest, most genuine people I have never met. I wish I could live in one big city with you guys. Now for my dilemma. I'm 20 years old and have been losing hair quite rapidly over the past 6 months. It's definitely inherited because almost every guy in my family is bald. They all do the horseshoe thing but let me tell you, I don't think I can live with that. I've heard my type of hair loss referred to as a "lightning strike." They say you go through the five stages but lets just say I didn't have time to complete one and start the other one. They are all hitting at once, everyday being different. I constantly am seeing the white little follicles with hairs attached to them. I figure i have to get used to it but when I get some confidence to take my hat off, I get laughs from my "Friends" and everyone else in the room. I have yet to come into contact with any other guy losing his hair and am having the hardest time coping with this and I know its not like I'm sick or dying. I feel selfish. Maybe this was more of a venting thing and I have yet to get a picture up but will get on that asap. It's just a matter of time before I'm a sly guy and I look forward to being a member of this community.
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shave it off and ask questions later!
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Welcome to the forum dude, I too am pretty young, just 21!!
Shaving your head will give you a massive boost to your confidence, because you will have taken control over the situation, your image will improve and with it so will your acceptence of the baldness!!
Ultimatly confidence comes within, but looking good will lead to your confidence!
You have come to right place for support!! O0
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dude , I know it sucks at first,,, but take control of the situation-> razor it off...
it will take time to get used to, but eventually you will living your life like it was meant to be lived.
btw welcome to SBG forum, here you will find good advice and guidance as well as other bald folk, including young ones like myself..
alittle secret, I buzzed my hair(clippers w/out gaurd) for 3 months before I had the courage to shave it. it is helping me to make a smooth transition.
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Sean ~ no "lightning strike" for me -- my mpb was more gradual, so our experiences don't exactly parallel. However, I can encourage you to make the move to Sly. I see mpb as a little cross section of life. In life, we're dealt a series of hands which we don't really have the power to change. What we can change is our attitude and course of action. It is a CHOICE, and we do have power over choices in the way we respond or react. We can grieve, we can moan, we can let the hand we're dealt define us. Or we can adapt, and CHOOSE to have an attitude that lets us get on with life.
If a guy is content with a combover, horseshoe, implants or a rug, more power to him. It's HIS CHOICE. But for me, MY CHOICE, and my contentment, is exemplified by CHOOSING to be bald and not balding. Choosing to be a bald man removes the power of mpb and the conventions of society that suggest losing one's hair is a terrible thing for a man. Every day each of us shaves his head, we disprove that ridiculous notion and PROVE that hair is not everything.
I think you will find going Sly a complete liberation. And as you are one of many mpb guys in your family, it's likely that you will show the way by example to the wonderful freedom from concerns about hair.
Post up a pic soon, and good luck!
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Sean, my young friend, perhaps it is time to take the bull by the horns!
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Welcome to the forum Sean !! O0
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The wisecracks always stop once your head is shaved. You know what you have to do. It takes a little time to come to terms with it, but once you take the bull by the horns, as the others suggested, it gets a lot easier. Keep visiting this site to get all the encouragement you need.
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welcome. when you're ready, you will do it.
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Welcome to SBG... I also struggled with shaving my head but it was the best thing I ever did. I get lots of compliments and I am now seeing three different women...that never happened before I shaved my head...Good luck
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Hello and welcome. I am fairly new to this site. However, I have really enjoyed reading the other posts and the "expert" advice.
I was 17ish when I first started loosing my hair. My wedding pictures has this horse show going on and that is the only thing I wish I could change about it. However, I have shaved my head for sometime and I wouldn't go back.
I was very nervous at first and it was hard getting used to. However, I wouldn't change it for the world.
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I too was scared of the rejection and the bald jokes like hey combover, what's up recedding hairline, etc. I just told myself I would shave it and I did. My wife freaked out at first but now she accepts it like it was normal. Believe me, it nothing to be scared of. Most men fear losing hair because they will feel rejected but that won't happen and after you get over it, being sly will be a normal thing.
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Welcome to the Forum Sean! Just give shaving your head a try.... it will always grow back if you don't like it.
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Look at it as a chance to reinvent yourself. You can create a whole new look.
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Now's the best time to headshave. This way you'll start the New Year off as a cool new you.
Rodger, Over and Out O0
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Welcome to the gang. When you decide to go sly you may get some laughs. I see it this way the guys laugh because they feel intimidated because they don't have the confidence to do it and know how good you look to steal all the hotties they might have gotten, and the ladies laugh because they love it and don't want to be obvious about it. As has been said many times Sly isn't just about shaving your head it's all about confidence in YOU! When you do it go to the most public place you can with as many people as you can find NO hat! You will get stares and snickers but I Guarantee you this, you will, have some of the hottest chicks staring at you and might come home with a few numbers. One more thing you would ROCK a slick dome!
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Welcome Sean!
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Howdy Sean! Like all the others have said...try it! If you don't like it, it will grow back. But if you're like most of us here, you'll like it too much to go back. And wait until you feel some of our Chicago snow on your Sly dome! It's awesome!
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Sean, it looks like you are already doing the next best thing to shaving... short buzz. From the looks of it, you have a great shaped head to pull off the slick dome. As much as it sucks to lose hair at a young age, at least it's happening quickly. It's much worse to watch it slowly go over a period of years and wonder what you should do... plug, drugs, rugs. You will find it extremely empowering once you go sly, and you can get on with life. People will soon forget what you looked like with hair, and believe me, you WILL watch friends as the years pass begin to lose their hair and struggle. Those days will be long past for you. Many of the younger guys have found a whole new world of ladies who dig the slick look, and I'm sure the same thing will happen to you. Good luck!
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Sean I was way more embarrassed when I had the horseshoe thing than when I shaved it all off.
And even if someone says something negative to you it's not because of you being bald. It's because of them having to poke fun at someone to feel better about themselves.
The first time you feel a woman's hand on your sly dome you will be sly 4 life!
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I really appreciate the support, It's awesome. Still having some trouble with all of this but I'll try and keep you updated.
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Welcome Sean. You're at the right place.
Good luck, bro.
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Also, once you shave it, you should keep it shaved for THIRTY DAYS!!! Around here, that is known as the 30 day rule. If you do that, you should know if SLY is for you. But I suspect that you will probably enjoy being Sly. I have not known too many balding guys who have regretted going sly. I certainly haven't regretted it!
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I'm as new as you to this site but I say go for it, you're almost there from the pic. I started losing when I was 13, lost the whole top by 20. Unfortunately I rushed into surgery then moved over to a "piece" now at 27 I regret both. I wish I had just went sly at the first signs, and know now that I would never have looked back...
So again I think the sooner you are comfortable doing it - the better, the longer you wait the more time you waste worrying and stressing and the harder it gets to transition.
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I'm as new as you to this site but I say go for it, you're almost there from the pic. I started losing when I was 13, lost the whole top by 20. Unfortunately I rushed into surgery then moved over to a "piece" now at 27 I regret both. I wish I had just went sly at the first signs, and know now that I would never have looked back...
So again I think the sooner you are comfortable doing it - the better, the longer you wait the more time you waste worrying and stressing and the harder it gets to transition.
Hey Killjoy welcome to the site bro. I'm sorry for your situation. You are so right. Some people keep delaying and grow longer hair, wait until their 30s and then it gets to 40s. That's about 20 years of worrying. I don't know but I don't think I would be able to bear that. I have had hair thinning for 4 years and I couldn't it take it. Thank God I'm out of that situation. Oh yeah, it was thanks to this site of course.