Sly Bald Guys Forum
Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: hotrn on November 12, 2008, 10:38:57 AM
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here's my problem. i'm very shy around women. i have no confidence in the way i look , except that my slyness looks good on me. i'll be 22 in dec. and i've never been kissed or THE OTHER before either. ( shocking ain't it!) so can anyone give me some advice on how to get a date. i need help in all areas ( i.e. clothes, actions, words, ect.) any help is appreciated. thx guys.
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Hello, why do you think you look good if you have not had any success, obviously you need to change your look, post a picture of yourself , look at David Beckham,s style and you will not go far wrong, if you look hot you will have us women running.
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hotrn.....you need to check out the candy from strangers thread...maybe that look will be good for you LOL
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hotrn.....you need to check out the candy from strangers thread...maybe that look will be good for you LOL
Your sooooo bad Timmay......lol
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Hey man, I don't really have any pick up lines or advice to give on how to be successful at picking up women. Not everyone is blessed with irresistible charm and knee weakening good looks like me. :/O Some people get women because they're funny, smooth talkers, look good, cool, rich, smart, dorky, or just plain DO IT for their female counterpart.
The biggest improvement you can do in this area starts from within. Try reading Awaken The Giant Within by Anthony Robbins. Seriously. Effin read it. Twice.
It probably sounds like BS or something you can't fix but if you put more effort into building confidence the rest will get easier. A cool shirt and a pair of jeans will only take you so far. There are a lot of lonely women you're age so quit horsing around and fix this confidence thing you have goin on so you can get busy.
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I think that the biggest problem in your statment is, that you said you have NO confidence in yourself!! You should really work on that first, because all the nicest clothes, smoothest pick up lines in the world, won't mean squat if you don't have any confidence in your self. Take pride in who you are as a person and work on your confidence, and all the rest will fall into place.
Clothes and looks are shallow, but combine that with confidence and pride in yourself, and watch out!!!
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hotrn.....you need to check out the candy from strangers thread...maybe that look will be good for you LOL
But.....they say I am fun....
Your sooooo bad Timmay......lol
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What Tom said,
Women are attracted to confidence.
you need to project an aire of "they want what i got more than i want what they got" and you have to believe it.
without it, all is lost
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Dude.... confidence and a sense of humor.
Women love confident, funny guys.............
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I got the funny part down, but looks ain't everything!!!
Seriously, confidence is the biggest thing. Maybe persistence too, not to the point of stalking someone though.
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i also agree with a sense of humor being very important, but i think you also need to be confident to display that as well.
nothing gets someone to drop their guard better, than making them laugh.
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brother good looks and cool clothes are good
being funny is great but....
if you lack the CONFIDENCE to put it all together your lost
you have got to work on your CONFIDENCE with out it nothing else matters
sure you might get "lucky" once in a while but you'll never get anything real
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one name "Quagmire" thats all ya need to know lmao... just kidding but seriously first off just be yourself im 20 going on 21 and i got girls all the time back in high school but it all comes from within you have to be confident and be happy with yourself and be calm cool and just be yourself!!!!!!
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Confidence is the key. In yourself.
I'm amazed you're 22 and never been kissed. The other, well I can understand that. I was in college before I did IT.
But, kissed?
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YEA, SAD AIN'T IT! i've never been kissed. that's no lie or strecth of the truth. not even a peck on the cheek! :'(
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hey h-rn: like my sly brothers have mentioned... once U get that confidence everything else will follow. O0 btw... judging from your avatar name (hotrn)... if U work as a registered nurse in a hospital... u must work with a lot of women. if so... how do U relate 2 your female co-workers?
WARHAWK O0
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Confidence, clothes and a bit of panache certainly help.
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i don't work in a hospital. i work in an all male prision as the 3rd shift rn.
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i don't work in a hospital. i work in an all male prision as the 3rd shift rn.
why don't U try 2 work in a hospital? we need more RNs in hospitals.
WARHAWK O0
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Hey man, I don't really have any pick up lines or advice to give on how to be successful at picking up women. Not everyone is blessed with irresistible charm and knee weakening good looks like me. :/O Some people get women because they're funny, smooth talkers, look good, cool, rich, smart, dorky, or just plain DO IT for their female counterpart.
The biggest improvement you can do in this area starts from within. Try reading Awaken The Giant Within by Anthony Robbins. Seriously. Effin read it. Twice.
It probably sounds like BS or something you can't fix but if you put more effort into building confidence the rest will get easier. A cool shirt and a pair of jeans will only take you so far. There are a lot of lonely women you're age so quit horsing around and fix this confidence thing you have goin on so you can get busy.
Great book! I also have it on audio book so I can listen to it on the bus. Love his stuff.
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i can't afford to go to a hospital. i will have to take a $6 an hr. pay cut!!!! i am trying to get a rn management job with a large hospice group here. that will free up my nights and weekends so i can go out more.
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hey h-rn: wow... that's a huge pay cut. ??? well... maybe when U get that hospice job that will definitely give U a much higher percentage with working with women. sorry... 2 hear about your lack of confidence. hopefully... your new look will give U the "foundation" 4 some confidence. O0
WARHAWK O0
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Do you make the effort? Do you ask women out or do you wait for them to show you signs that they like you? You got to make things happen instead of waiting for them to happen. I bet if you asked out 10 girls, 1 would say yes.
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Read the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss. It should introduce you the world of PUA and how to build your confidence.
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Get rid of the shyness and learn how to talk to women. Practice of any woman you meet, see how many you can make smile.
Clothes don't make a man and women know this, but they do like you to look nice.
Soon things will fall into place.
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Having trouble talkin to the women?? Well maybe you should host a fingernail painting party LOL
Sorry bro, just being a wise arse today...
I never really had that problem but I do know it exists, because I have a friend who clams up when a woman approaches him..You should see him when a group of women approach him...he is basically lathargic..lol Just hang in there an dthe more you go out and try...the easier it will come to you.
Good Luck
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Just remember, if that weird-looking Mystery dude from that show The Pickup Artist can be a master at getting women, you sure as hell can.
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Well, here are the secrets to my A game.
High confidence, portray a high self esteem.
wear your favorite outfit(usually the newest and trendiest)
find your comfort zone, Talk to them(eventually work in a few lines/jokes)
usually alcohol is involved(gets me loose)
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I've found that grocery stores are great places to meet women. Pretend you have no idea about cooking and ask a woman a question about something. Like "excuse me I'm a horrible cook and was wondering if you could tell me if these are easy to fix?". Or if there is a cute cashier go through her line every time you go there.
Laundromats are good too because the women are bored and have nothing to do for awhile. Ask them a question like "do you know how to work this thing?" while pointing to a washing machine. Just make sure you don't let her your drawers. lol
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Lots of good advice already. Pick up lines are not the way to go. The key is to have confidence and believe in yourself. Just like other aspects of life, you will have some failures. Just keep trying to find the right one and you will find the right woman for you.
One of the keys is to be yourself. If you are humerous, woman love a funny man. Go to places where you can meet woman in a natural setting just to have a regular conversation to start building your confidence. Taking baby steps is a great way to boost your confidence.
You could take dancing lessons, where there should be many more woman than men. This will really help your odds. Do not try too hard to impress them. If you are a good guy, they will see it.
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Read the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss. It should introduce you the world of PUA and how to build your confidence.
This book is a must for any man. Style is the man.Reading it alone will give you confidence.
One of the things that I learned years ago when I was pretty shy was to notice how those really high maintenance hot women act and emulate that in my head. Act as if women are competing for you because with that attitude eventually they will be. The idea is not to be a snob or arrogant it's to be confident. Those type of women are really confident. Also having a quick wit helps loads. Be a smarta$$, but do it in a playful way. Learn to have quick comebacks because women will try to throw stuff at you to rattle you, it's their way of seeing if you are worthy of their time. You can practice being "clever" with anyone as long as you can do it with a smile. I have a female professor (that I have zero interest in) that I feed a lot of crap to and she just loves it and feeds it back. That's the best to me too when a woman can bust my balls as good(almost lol) as I can bust hers. To me that's flirting at it's best.
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Read the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss. It should introduce you the world of PUA and how to build your confidence.
This book is a must for any man. Style is the man.Reading it alone will give you confidence.
One of the things that I learned years ago when I was pretty shy was to notice how those really high maintenance hot women act and emulate that in my head. Act as if women are competing for you because with that attitude eventually they will be. The idea is not to be a snob or arrogant it's to be confident. Those type of women are really confident. Also having a quick wit helps loads. Be a smarta$$, but do it in a playful way. Learn to have quick comebacks because women will try to throw stuff at you to rattle you, it's their way of seeing if you are worthy of their time. You can practice being "clever" with anyone as long as you can do it with a smile. I have a female professor (that I have zero interest in) that I feed a lot of crap to and she just loves it and feeds it back. That's the best to me too when a woman can bust my balls as good(almost lol) as I can bust hers. To me that's flirting at it's best.
Yep. Act as if!