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Discussions About Being Bald => General Discussion => Topic started by: BALDANDRE on October 14, 2008, 06:01:03 PM
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As per Rob's request...
Here's the thread for SLY in a tux..or any thing formal sly!
Here's mine...
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Baldandre,I'd forgotten how good you looked with the facial hair.You look good either way but it's just that I hadn't seen you with the facial hair in a long time.
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Ugh. I hate suits and tuxes. I didn't even wear a tux at my own wedding. I wore a white shirt, khaki pants, brown worn-in coat (all from J.Crew), and flip-flops.
This weekend I'll be snazzed up for a reunion, so I'll try to take a pic. But it won't be "formal!"
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Ugh. I hate suits and tuxes. I didn't even wear a tux at my own wedding. I wore a white shirt, khaki pants, brown worn-in coat (all from J.Crew), and flip-flops.
This weekend I'll be snazzed up for a reunion, so I'll try to take a pic. But it won't be "formal!"
Jeeezz.... does ANYBODY dress up anymore? .......
Some situations just require a little more formality than usual. Don't mean to diss your wedding, SlyHigh; but that's sounds like how you might dress every day. ... To each his own, live and let live, and all that , but. .... I guess I'm just commenting on the GENERAL lack of formality in our culture.
John
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You look great formal..and I agree..some aspects of society could use a little more formailty.
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The last time I was in a tux was at my wedding in 1992. We are going to renew our vows in 2012 for our 20th on the beach outside Charleston, SC. Linen pants and flip-flops for that one. Already have it planned.
I don't even wear a tie to church. I don't go anywhere that requires formal attire. This is Griffin, GA for heaven's sake. ;D I do wear a coat and tie to funerals though. I don't even own a suit.
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I work part time for a local funeral home and it's about the only time I wear a suit and tie. I never wear a tux unless I'm in a wedding or something.
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I wear a suit and tie everyday for work.
I went to a ball last month and it was a full-on penguin suit affair:
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I wear a suit and tie everyday for work.
I went to a ball last month and it was a full-on penguin suit affair:
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Looking sharp Dave !! O0
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A lot of the formality issues come down to culture and personal preference. In some situations (work, weddings, etc.) there is a line between what's acceptable and not, but that line is rather blurry. I don't see a tux or a suit as a reflection of one's respect or attitude. I often regard the expectation to dress a certain way as superficial. Who says you must wear a tux at your wedding? Just because? I see no clear logical reason.
In our wedding my wife had a traditional white dress (even though she was barefoot). Our dog was the ringbearer. We had pizza and quesadillas at the reception (those are two of our favorite foods). Many, many people (including those who are very traditional and conservative) told us it was the best wedding they've ever attended. We figured if our wedding was done by the book of tradition no one would remember it and it would not be a reflection of who we are. I laugh and said people will remember the canine ringbearer for the rest of their lives!
Like GASlick, I don't wear a tie to church. Most of the time it's jeans. And I play in the worship band on stage.
I'm just one who doesn't go along with tradition for tradition's sake.
Now I'm not knocking anyone who believes in formal attire and prefers to dress that way. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I don't judge them.
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A lot of the formality issues come down to culture and personal preference. In some situations (work, weddings, etc.) there is a line between what's acceptable and not, but that line is rather blurry. I don't see a tux or a suit as a reflection of one's respect or attitude. I often regard the expectation to dress a certain way as superficial. Who says you must wear a tux at your wedding? Just because? I see no clear logical reason.
In our wedding my wife had a traditional white dress (even though she was barefoot). Our dog was the ringbearer. We had pizza and quesadillas at the reception (those are two of our favorite foods). Many, many people (including those who are very traditional and conservative) told us it was the best wedding they've ever attended. We figured if our wedding was done by the book of tradition no one would remember it and it would not be a reflection of who we are. I laugh and said people will remember the canine ringbearer for the rest of their lives!
Like GASlick, I don't wear a tie to church. Most of the time it's jeans. And I play in the worship band on stage.
I'm just one who doesn't go along with tradition for tradition's sake.
Now I'm not knocking anyone who believes in formal attire and prefers to dress that way. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I don't judge them.
I fully agree with your statement. My wedding will be similar.
The thing that bothers me is when people feel personally disrepected if you're not wearing the "correct" attire. Is this something to be worked up about? These are generally the same people who do not like shaved heads ;)
Bottom line is its cultural. Who knows, I will most likely complain 40 years down the road, when kids are wearing tinsel jumpsuits. ???
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Hmmm, quite a debate from a suit!
But where I stand is this,,,yes, who says you should wear something particular to a wedding or event..
hey if the bride and groom want casual...that is their day...their way...
flipflops and shorts.... great!
But for me it's respect when you dress nicely for an occasion that is supposed to be formal or dressy...
period...
it is not the time to be a rebel...and wear what YOU want...it disrespects THEM..
they are throwing the event they want to throw..and shelling out a lot of money to do it..
to me it's just respect..
now I say this as a guy that wears shorts about all year long, and has made casual apparel for most of his living.
I also do the shorts wearing through the northwest winters when i can deal with it..I'm casual 99% of the time !
Like you said, cool to do what you want...
it's a reflection on you in the end anyways..
BTW....Our wedding was formal and like you, people said it was the most fun and memorable they've ever had..
I guess the patron tequila shot toast and 5 hour open bar saw to that!
Formal was the attire...
not the function ;)
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Hmmm, quite a debate from a suit!
But where I stand is this,,,yes, who says you should wear something particular to a wedding or event..
hey if the bride and groom want casual...that is their day...their way...
flipflops and shorts.... great!
But for me it's respect when you dress nicely for an occasion that is supposed to be formal or dressy...
period...
it is not the time to be a rebel...and wear what YOU want...it disrespects THEM..
they are throwing the event they want to throw..and shelling out a lot of money to do it..
to me it's just respect..
now I say this as a guy that wears shorts about all year long, and has made casual apparel for most of his living.
I also do the shorts wearing through the northwest winters when i can deal with it..I'm casual 99% of the time !
Like you said, cool to do what you want...
it's a reflection on you in the end anyways..
BTW....Our wedding was formal and like you, people said it was the most fun and memorable they've ever had..
I guess the patron tequila shot toast and 5 hour open bar saw to that!
Formal was the attire...
not the function ;)
BA, I definitely agree with you when someone hosts a function and there is a determined dress code, to dress appropriately.
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Hmmm, quite a debate from a suit!
But where I stand is this,,,yes, who says you should wear something particular to a wedding or event..
hey if the bride and groom want casual...that is their day...their way...
flipflops and shorts.... great!
But for me it's respect when you dress nicely for an occasion that is supposed to be formal or dressy...
period...
it is not the time to be a rebel...and wear what YOU want...it disrespects THEM..
they are throwing the event they want to throw..and shelling out a lot of money to do it..
to me it's just respect..
now I say this as a guy that wears shorts about all year long, and has made casual apparel for most of his living.
I also do the shorts wearing through the northwest winters when i can deal with it..I'm casual 99% of the time !
Like you said, cool to do what you want...
it's a reflection on you in the end anyways..
BTW....Our wedding was formal and like you, people said it was the most fun and memorable they've ever had..
I guess the patron tequila shot toast and 5 hour open bar saw to that!
Formal was the attire...
not the function ;)
BA, I definitely agree with you when someone hosts a function and there is a determined dress code, to dress appropriately.
Nice..you seemed like too cool of a guy not the think that way!
Def. have a wedding that's YOU and her bro...
and have fun with it...
that's how a memorable one is made!
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I wear a suit and tie everyday for work.
I went to a ball last month and it was a full-on penguin suit affair:
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.creatinginclay.co.uk%2Fimages%2F0002.jpg&hash=aa1d3b69fdb14558240e2ecdbee0325e838c34c2)
VERY cool, Stumpy .
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Just wanted to add, or reiterate, is that in general, tradition, ritual, formality; whatever you want to call it is disappearing from our society. It really is "all about me" (or you , or whoever is talking at the moment). There are no societal expectations. I'm not saying anyone is bad for having a casual wedding, etc. ... and if I was invited to TimeToShine's or High Sly's weddings (and such invitations would be a great honour) I certainly wouldn't wear a suit; since the occasions were determined to be casua, informal ( my own wedding was a "hippie wedding; buy the way; outdoors, under a tree; wore an Indian tunic ... and had about 6 inches of hair!) ... But what I find, and what a lot of the comments here reveal; is that formality, tradition, etc. is seen to be irrelevant and meaningless, and gets in the way of free expression. I'm saying this disappearance of tradition and formallity is something that diminishes us; makes us self-centered and separates us from society as Community. Something that showed this to me very strongly was a couple of funerals that I attended. Varioius people; like the BROTHER of the deceased, who gave part of tlhe eulogy; and other men in attendance; wore jeans; t shirts; polo shirts ...... I'm not saying they were "bad" to do so; but it just showed that something was missing; that even an occasion like this didn't require any special "vestmetnts" I mean ; the guys probably didn't even own a suit and tie; and weren't about to go out and buy one just because their brother died ...
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For the record, y'all can come to my funeral in short and flip flops if you want. :)
I agree it's important to match the expectations of the event. I think for our wedding we even put on the invitations that casual dress is ok.
We are definitely seeing a shift away from traditions and formality. I don't really see this as a bad thing, because I know there will always be a balance.
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Everything changes over time including dress. We have a county fair here in my hometown and if you look at the pictures of 100 years ago, all the men wore suits and tie to the fair ! Can you imagine going to the county or state fair in a suit and tie? Another example is my Grandmothers, I never seen either of them in anything but a dress and stockings. They are both long gone now but I never seen them in a pair of pants.
We had a dress code in school in the 60's ...girls had to wear dresses and boys had to wear slacks....no jeans, t shirts, sneakers, shorts, etc . Look what the kids wear to school now.
Time stands still for no man and neither does customs, traditions or whatever you want to call them.....JMO
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I dress according to the event. Again, if the invitation indicates casual dress, then so be it. I enjoyed being formal for my wedding, but it was what we wanted. The invitation indicated this as well. There are restaurants in Atlanta and I'm sure in other cities, that REQUIRE coat & tie. And that is fun to do as well every once in a while.
I just live a casual life I guess. I could live in shorts and flip flops, but when I'm making sales calls I wear khakis and a nice shirt.
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Its really funny how all the SBG's who don't own a tux have replied to this post, but those with tux's havent! ;D
I like casual and dressed up, and anything goes, really, but have worn evening suit etc for a couple of Christmas dinner dances and of course, as I'm an amateur musical performer I often wear one on stage if the part calls for it.
Anyone else? O0
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I guess after having to wear a three-piece suit everyday at my last job, and at the same time being on my hands and knees, taping down XLR cables, I have not been a huge fan of wearing suits. Blue collar work in white collar clothes = thumbs down. [I was an AV tech for banquets and events at the Grand Hyatt]
Anyway, I admit it is fun to dress up on occasion. And post up those tux shots, boys O0
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wish i had a tux ... actually; have never worn one, even rented. The closest I have is a black suit. Maybe I'll get dressed up soon and send in a pic
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I could be way off base and wrong but I don't think there are many guys who own their own tuxedo's.....at least the guys I know anyway..... :-\
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I don't own a tux because I don't need one. LOL
I've worn a tux twice Senior Prom and my wedding. My guess is that most guys don't own one.
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I used to own one, until it got too small :'(
The one in the photo is actually a black suit 8)
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I used to own one, until it got too small :'(
The one in the photo is actually a black suit 8)
It looks authentic, Rob; I guess because of the tux bow tie ??
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I have never worn a tux in my life- That being said, I wouldn't mind it - I think Tuxes are super cool! I am, 99.999% of the time, a jeans and a t-shirt kind of guy. BUT!
Every now and then, I'll be watching an old movie with wifey, and notice how dapper all the guys (and ladies!) looked - all the time, with their suits and ties, and how they wouldn't leave the house without their hats. There is definitely something elegant about that time, and the more formal look everyone had then.
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on the other hand, I don't wear my tux or bowtie every day... :D ;D
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I have never worn a tux in my life- That being said, I wouldn't mind it - I think Tuxes are super cool! I am, 99.999% of the time, a jeans and a t-shirt kind of guy. BUT!
Every now and then, I'll be watching an old movie with wifey, and notice how dapper all the guys (and ladies!) looked - all the time, with their suits and ties, and how they wouldn't leave the house without their hats. There is definitely something elegant about that time, and the more formal look everyone had then.
Yeah; that's what i was trying to get at in my previous posts; its a sense of elegance that has been lost in our everyday lives. I'm a jeans and t-shirt guy most of the time too. I can't imagine getting into a suit of everyday occasions (my Mom mentioned some time ago that her father used to put on a suit to go to the movies -- and he was 'blue collar' --an electrician. Died in 1994 at 90; just to give the time line). It's that 1930s to 40s (maybe even 50s and 60s); where it was only proper to dress up if you were going out in public outside of work . So; we have lost something ...
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Don't like tuxes here; much more casual than I used to be.
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John, the last time I was in Moosejaw I certainly needed a lot more than jeans and a t shirt...LOL.... :o
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Yeah; that's what i was trying to get at in my previous posts; its a sense of elegance that has been lost in our everyday lives. I'm a jeans and t-shirt guy most of the time too. I can't imagine getting into a suit of everyday occasions (my Mom mentioned some time ago that her father used to put on a suit to go to the movies -- and he was 'blue collar' --an electrician. Died in 1994 at 90; just to give the time line). It's that 1930s to 40s (maybe even 50s and 60s); where it was only proper to dress up if you were going out in public outside of work . So; we have lost something ...
I would also venture that it generally made for more civilized behavior, too. I mean - would you get in a tussle wearing your $500 suit? I think not.
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Yeah; that's what i was trying to get at in my previous posts; its a sense of elegance that has been lost in our everyday lives. I'm a jeans and t-shirt guy most of the time too. I can't imagine getting into a suit of everyday occasions (my Mom mentioned some time ago that her father used to put on a suit to go to the movies -- and he was 'blue collar' --an electrician. Died in 1994 at 90; just to give the time line). It's that 1930s to 40s (maybe even 50s and 60s); where it was only proper to dress up if you were going out in public outside of work . So; we have lost something ...
Tell that to Al Capone and Clyde Barrow...... :*)) :*)) :*))
I would also venture that it generally made for more civilized behavior, too. I mean - would you get in a tussle wearing your $500 suit? I think not.
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For the the first three years of my career after college I had to wear a uniform. So I became envious of those who had a choice to more or less wear what they want to work. I recently got promoted at my current employer, whose dress code is business casual. But me and some of my coworkers have "dress-up Wednesdays" (which essentially means I wear a tie with a dress shirt. No suits or sport coats). I love it. It gives me a chance to look really professional on a regular basis, but not too often where I get sick of it. And of course, many have told me I look better on dress up Wednesdays with my new Sly look. I think its because I don't have an average, receding hairstyle dulling down my otherwise "dressy" clothes. Rather, I now have a unique look that adds class.
So to all my classy, Sly Bruthas (as Andre would say), those are my two cents.
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So to all my classy, Sly Bruthas (as Andre would say), those are my two cents.
We've learned you well, my bald bro! ;) O0
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Last time I wore a suit was in early February for my grandpa's funeral. I wore half a tux to my wedding. Black Wrangler jeans, black boots, tux shirt and tie and a high cut jacket with tails. Told the wife to pick it, I was wearing Wranglers or a kilt. She was afraid the wind may kick up....lol
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Last time I wore a suit was in early February for my grandpa's funeral. I wore half a tux to my wedding. Black Wrangler jeans, black boots, tux shirt and tie and a high cut jacket with tails. Told the wife to pick it, I was wearing Wranglers or a kilt. She was afraid the wind may kick up....lol
You're wife sounds like a smart woman. :*))