Sly Bald Guys Forum
Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: BlackJamesRackham on September 04, 2008, 08:32:23 AM
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What's up guys and gals?
So I joined a new gym. And there are a bunch of pretty girls there. I was wondering how do you approach girls at the gym. Obviously, most of them are there to work out, and probably not to get hit on. So is there any particular way you've found that works without making you look like a creep?
Thanks
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I've never tried to pick up women at the gym, figuring most would be there for working out.
I've seen guys trying to do that at a gym and it just looks cheesy.
Be polite, and if there is a mutual interest, I'm sure she'll be willing to chat.
Good Luck.
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Thanks, Shro
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If there's one gal in particular that you're interested in, I'd just say "Hey, I know you're here to work out, but I was wondering if you would like to join me for a __________ after working out"?
Or something like that....she'll appreciate that you're respectful of her time at the gym.
Just a thought.
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That's not a bad idea, actually.
Yesterday was my second day at the gym, and this one girl definitely caught my eye. She even came over to ask me about this one exercise I was doing and what it muscles it helped with. So I just explained it to her and didn't make a move or anything, but I figure next time I see her, I'll just smile and say hi and see how she reacts. Hopefully she works out at the same time I do.
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Just make sure your dome is smooth 8).
I would think the fact that she approached you is definitely a good thing.
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You already have an in, with both of you interested in working out....use that as a platform.......but be genuinely interested in either learning from her or teaching her new exercises......after a couple of times ask her out for a friendly lunch or SOMETHING.......keep her at ease, don't make her put her guard up...........try friendship first. O0 O0 O0
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I wouldn't do it, at least not at the gym... if it fails you'll both try to avoid each other in a place you used to go to get away from it all.
Take your time, find out where she hangs out, etc... make an effort to see her somewhere else where the setting is more social.
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If there's one gal in particular that you're interested in, I'd just say "Hey, I know you're here to work out, but I was wondering if you would like to join me for a __________ after working out"?
Or something like that....she'll appreciate that you're respectful of her time at the gym.
Just a thought.
I used something similar to that once. It turned out well. She was a trainer there and we dated for a couple of months. Before asking her out, I used to smile and say hi the few times I saw her at the gym before making the move.
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If there's one gal in particular that you're interested in, I'd just say "Hey, I know you're here to work out, but I was wondering if you would like to join me for a __________ after working out"?
Or something like that....she'll appreciate that you're respectful of her time at the gym.
Just a thought.
I used something similar to that once. It turned out well. She was a trainer there and we dated for a couple of months. Before asking her out, I used to smile and say hi the few times I saw her at the gym before making the move.
And look at you now Tyler, ................married with a kid! :(
Hey James, take my advice, ignore our advice! ;D
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If there's one gal in particular that you're interested in, I'd just say "Hey, I know you're here to work out, but I was wondering if you would like to join me for a __________ after working out"?
Or something like that....she'll appreciate that you're respectful of her time at the gym.
Just a thought.
I used something similar to that once. It turned out well. She was a trainer there and we dated for a couple of months. Before asking her out, I used to smile and say hi the few times I saw her at the gym before making the move.
And look at you now Tyler, ................married with a kid! :(
Hey James, take my advice, ignore our advice! ;D
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Well I'm off to the gym. Wish me luck. I'm actually hoping she's not there today, I'm doing legs, and I make really funny faces when I do my legs :*))
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Read my "Opposite of picking up chicks at the gym" thread.
Go by car.
Leave after her if she is there.
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Turn it around, why would they want to go out with you, are you the best looking, the richest or the one that stands out, if not try something different to get noticed, remember the zz tops song sharp dressed man,
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I agree with Lucky.
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Or you could always go with the Chris Farley "Tommy Boy" approach and make it look like you were jacked, and say "Uh, you know where the gym is, ah nevermind, I 'll find it" and then turn around, smack yourself in the head a few times and then call you self stoopid...another hot chick might see you getting all down on yourself and come over to your rescue!!
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Watch the 1965 film The Knack and how to get it, the playboys diary at the time
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Just do like the Fonz and snap your fingers.
That always brings em running. O:O
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I just smile at them and Lick my eye brows and they just flock to me.....
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I find that I go to the gym with one of the hotties from work, women tend to come to me. Women are weird that way - they don't seem to want you unless you're with someone who's better-looking than they are.
As for how to get one of the hotties from work to go to the gym with you, well, I don't know. They ask me, I say "yes"... [shrug]
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Having spent long hours in the gym, (not because I wanted to) I have seen all kinds of guys get shot down! Let the gym relationship grow first, just have keep saying hello and being polite every time you are there. Let her get used to you not being a creep and she may ask you out! If she talks to you at the gym, than you could be in luck, most gals put up the deflector shields in the parking lot! Good luck!
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Having spent long hours in the gym, (not because I wanted to) I have seen all kinds of guys get shot down! Let the gym relationship grow first, just have keep saying hello and being polite every time you are there. Let her get used to you not being a creep and she may ask you out! If she talks to you at the gym, than you could be in luck, most gals put up the deflector shields in the parking lot! Good luck!
Anvil is right the only way I could see it working in the gym is to really make it seem like your not interested in dating, but demonstrate a higher value to her and then she'll come after you. Women but up big walls when they go to the gym because every musclehead there is trying to cram them.
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Having spent long hours in the gym, (not because I wanted to) I have seen all kinds of guys get shot down! Let the gym relationship grow first, just have keep saying hello and being polite every time you are there. Let her get used to you not being a creep and she may ask you out! If she talks to you at the gym, than you could be in luck, most gals put up the deflector shields in the parking lot! Good luck!
Anvil is right the only way I could see it working in the gym is to really make it seem like your not interested in dating, but demonstrate a higher value to her and then she'll come after you. Women but up big walls when they go to the gym because every musclehead there is trying to cram them.
I agree with both of you guys. Unfortunately, I have yet to see her again :(
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Well now you have to go into straight stalker mode, we can't let her get away now can we. :px First crated a diversion pulling the staff and folks in the gym away from the front desk. (giving you time with the gym's computer) I would suggest smacking a person in the free weight room (five pounder will work well, do not kill them!) in such a manner that they are rendered unconcious. :x! Now scream for help that this person is having a stroke or heart attack! (they are not, so don't feel bad remember you have to find your true love!) :@`
Now that everyone has come running to "Sleepy's" side, hit the computer data base and depending on the system try to narrow your search to young females, there should be pictures for the staff to verify people in to the gym. ~! Once you have foung her make sure you take all of her info down on paper, there will be some in front of you I am sure, either post it pads or the front desk kid's Biology notebook. When you get better at this just commit the info to your brain, less of a trail to you!
Now you have to do this next part pretty SLY, post yourself outside of her place and wait, I think a wig should be worn (mullet) just in the case she gets a look at you, she will not realize who you are. (she may like you form what we know, and have vivid picture burned into her mind of that killer bald head!) You may feel a little a bit strange going to these lengths but, she is the one, stay the course!
When she departs from home follow her and go to the place she goes, there you can have a "random" encounter with her. If she is buying "Girl Products" at the store, tell her you use tampons where you coach to stop nose bleeds, and that you work with inner city youth boxing programs. (To keep good kids off the street.) b0x3r ( This is just an example, be quick and make sure your little cover story paints you as a caring person, looking to better the world!)
Tell her you have missed her at the gym, but not in a "funny stalker" way! She will laugh and more than likely blush, now go for the throat, ask her out! You will end up married and live happily ever after, I am sure....................Now about those loose ends, you are going to have to find your victim (Sleepy) fom the gym, he/she may have seen you, not good bro, not good!!!! :x!
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LOL anvil....you sure you have never used that tactic???
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LOL anvil....you sure you have never used that tactic???
Tactics wins battles! O0 Stalking is wrong and so is assault, so just forget about my story, it seems bad to me now!
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That's not a bad idea, actually.
Yesterday was my second day at the gym, and this one girl definitely caught my eye. She even came over to ask me about this one exercise I was doing and what it muscles it helped with. So I just explained it to her and didn't make a move or anything, but I figure next time I see her, I'll just smile and say hi and see how she reacts. Hopefully she works out at the same time I do.
First- Anytime your asked what muscles your exercise helps, tell her its the muscles in your pelvic area.. no matter what exercise your doing. Then tell her it helps with your stamina, that you can go at it like a rabbit for hours!
The explain how having a partner can have a mutual benifit and ask if she might be game one night! >:D
Approaching- don't! Its better to just grab a dumbell, walk behind the treadmill she is running on and do some curls while you stare straight at her a$$ and moan - not groan- in ectasy on every curl. ;)
Anvil- You forgot the duct tape in case she tries to pepper spray you :D
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That's not a bad idea, actually.
Yesterday was my second day at the gym, and this one girl definitely caught my eye. She even came over to ask me about this one exercise I was doing and what it muscles it helped with. So I just explained it to her and didn't make a move or anything, but I figure next time I see her, I'll just smile and say hi and see how she reacts. Hopefully she works out at the same time I do.
First- Anytime your asked what muscles your exercise helps, tell her its the muscles in your pelvic area.. no matter what exercise your doing. Then tell her it helps with your stamina, that you can go at it like a rabbit for hours!
The explain how having a partner can have a mutual benifit and ask if she might be game one night! >:D
Approaching- don't! Its better to just grab a dumbell, walk behind the treadmill she is running on and do some curls while you stare straight at her a$$ and moan - not groan- in ectasy on every curl. ;)
Anvil- You forgot the duct tape in case she tries to pepper spray you :D
LMAO
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Approaching- don't! Its better to just grab a dumbell, walk behind the treadmill she is running on and do some curls while you stare straight at her a$$ and moan - not groan- in ectasy on every curl.
whoa... weird. That's exactly what I do. Hasn't worked yet but I remain optimistic. I also like waiting until they get close and then start grunting while counting "1001, 1002, 1003" during my reps.
Remember: use the technical names for all body parts. ex: Chest = pecs; shoulders = delts; back of leg = hammie; and most importantly arms should always be referred to as guns. The ladies LOVE it!
Hopefully someone will open a new gym near me soon since those other jerks won't let me in theirs anymore.
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Approaching- don't! Its better to just grab a dumbell, walk behind the treadmill she is running on and do some curls while you stare straight at her a$$ and moan - not groan- in ectasy on every curl.
Hopefully someone will open a new gym near me soon since those other jerks won't let me in theirs anymore.
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at the gym, I work out, and go home. Howver; there are a few Russian hotties that excite the hell out of me. And they're all 5ft9.
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at the gym, I work out, and go home. Howver; there are a few Russian hotties that excite the hell out of me. And they're all 5ft9.
It's harder for me to approach taller women. I'm 5'7! Should I be intimated? hahah
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at the gym, I work out, and go home. Howver; there are a few Russian hotties that excite the hell out of me. And they're all 5ft9.
It's harder for me to approach taller women. I'm 5'7! Should I be intimated? hahah
;D Same here. I'm 5'7"
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;D Same here. I'm 5'7"
We need our Confidence Coach back on the forum. At 5'6' tall BaldAndre is the tallest Sly guy I know. Why? IronClad confidence. O0
Red
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at the gym, I work out, and go home. Howver; there are a few Russian hotties that excite the hell out of me. And they're all 5ft9.
And where was that gym again? I am 6'2".....oh I forgot,,I am married, well chucks.......j/k.... :*))..very happily married here..
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for you single guys. It all depends on what you wear too. You might want to try wearing those loose fitting shorts...that are like short short...really short. No undies or jock. Then lay on the bench to do presses...and keep legs spread wide open. Oh yeah and make sure it is a bench facing the chicks on the olipitcals....lol
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For some girls I know it does make a difference, but not all, my sister is 5'10"/5'11" and I think her boyfriend is about 5'8" (I call him "The Hobbit" just to piss her off, sorry shorter guys, but I have to it's my sister!) she could care less as long as the guy treats her well. I really only remember her dating one guy over 6 foot, and my sister is pretty damn good lookin!
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at the gym, I work out, and go home. Howver; there are a few Russian hotties that excite the hell out of me. And they're all 5ft9.
It's harder for me to approach taller women. I'm 5'7! Should I be intimated? hahah
;D Same here. I'm 5'7"
Same here I'm 5'17" it sucks but you just got to be confident.
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at the gym, I work out, and go home. Howver; there are a few Russian hotties that excite the hell out of me. And they're all 5ft9.
It's harder for me to approach taller women. I'm 5'7! Should I be intimated? hahah
;D Same here. I'm 5'7"
Same here I'm 5'17" it sucks but you just got to be confident.
That was awesome! ;D
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Usually I'm so focused on my workout and don't have much time so I haven't really hit on girls much at the gym.
If she initiates conversation and appears interested it's on though.
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I really enjoy physical fitness and staying in shape. For me the gym is one of my favorite places to meet people. The gym I go to has women that ....... Well none of you would believe it unless you actually saw it. But they are almost all 9s. When I meet someone there, I already know we have a similar interest. But of course you need to be extra tactful not interrupt someones workout.
I always just start with a big smile and say Hello followed with silence. Then I observe and carefully gauge their reaction before going any further. If they are or are not interested they will let you know right there and you don't need to make a fool of yourself.
In your case she is already interested. O0 But you should try saying hello to some other ones, just in case you never see her again.
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I dunno, I'm too out of shape to go to a gym. Once I get in shape I'm going to go. I know that sounds crazy. Like cleaning your house before the cleaning lady comes over. :*))
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;D Same here. I'm 5'7"
We need our Confidence Coach back on the forum. At 5'6' tall BaldAndre is the tallest Sly guy I know. Why? IronClad confidence. O0
Red
Whoa...missed this cool nod....
thanks for the nice words Red! O0
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If there's one gal in particular that you're interested in, I'd just say "Hey, I know you're here to work out, but I was wondering if you would like to join me for a ___F***_______ after working out"?.
just dont say that ^^^^ lol.
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I'm with Danny. I would love to get some abs, but I'm not going to a gym with my mini-keg. LOL
Got a treadmill at home, maybe start there. I can pick up my wife maybe. LOL
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I dunno, I'm too out of shape to go to a gym. Once I get in shape I'm going to go. I know that sounds crazy. Like cleaning your house before the cleaning lady comes over. :*))
no way dude, everyone starts somewhere- Every journey has a beginning...
it all depends on how much you want it.
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at the gym, I work out, and go home. Howver; there are a few Russian hotties that excite the hell out of me. And they're all 5ft9.
It's harder for me to approach taller women. I'm 5'7! Should I be intimated? hahah
;D Same here. I'm 5'7"
I'm a towering 5'10... and girls 5'9 often feels taller than me... and I too find them intimidating
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I actually work behind the front desk at the gym....awesome way to meet girls...sometimes when i'm away from work they will approach me and say Hey! you're the dude from the gym!...instant conversation starter...but after working there and observing the members, I must admit it's not the best place to speak to girls, theyre usually on a mission and wanting to just get in and out...but i'm not speaking for all of them, it's worth a shot right? Hard to resist a girl in her gym gear ;)