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Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: AntSox on August 28, 2008, 03:12:15 PM

Title: This is not easy for me...
Post by: AntSox on August 28, 2008, 03:12:15 PM
Hi, I'm new here.  I'm 26 and I shave my head with clippers (no guard) because I'm not quite ready to shave it completely.  I absolutely have no confidence in myself because I think I look terrible without hair.  I wear hats almost everywhere and it gives me false confidence, every time I talk to women I feel like I am fooling them into thinking I have hair underneath my cap.  I used to get very good looking girls but between my confidence and lack of hair I can't help but think I have to settle for women I'm not attracted to.  I am not superficial, I know looks aren't everything but in the dating process looks play a important part of the initial attraction.
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: wpruitt on August 28, 2008, 04:04:33 PM
Dude:  Welcome ... And if women only want to date you for your hair, and not the whole deal, they they are the ones settling.
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: time2shine on August 28, 2008, 04:13:48 PM
Good to have you here AntSox.
If you feel like you're in a rut, go for the razor shave.  You're showing the ladies you ARE confident and you're owning the look you're going for.
Good luck, have fun.
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: slyinglide on August 28, 2008, 05:38:58 PM
Welcome to the forum........


Hey 9 out of 10 girl down at the strip club likes my bald head.......I asked them right after I gave them each some money! :D :D :D :D
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: Kojack on August 28, 2008, 06:40:43 PM
Welcome AntSox.
That sucks that you feel that way.
Me personally I like the sly look and don't feel inferior to anyone.
I dont think hair gives a guy confidence.
I know guys with full thick heads of hair that are in their 30's and still virgins or haven't dated in years. What do suppose their excuse is?
Do yourself a favor.
Stop making excuses.
Based on your profile pic, you look fine sly. If I was a girl and good looking, I'd want to lick your dome.  :D
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: marty22 on August 28, 2008, 06:44:11 PM
To ANtSox: I hope u can build up some confidence thru this site.
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: GASlick on August 28, 2008, 06:45:02 PM
You look fine to me.  When you grow your confidence INSIDE, the outside becomes less important.  

As you will read on here over and over again.....being SLY is about the attitude.  It's a process and for some people it is more painful than for others.  We're here for you.  

Let us know what we can do to help and I assure you that we are all willing to help.

Welcome aboard.  glad you're here
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: dog20 on August 28, 2008, 07:00:13 PM
First off, you look fine.  You are bringing more attention to your head when you are wearing a hat indoors (and I'm sure a lot of women are thinking, is this guy losing his hair?).  From that avatar, are you losing your hair?  Perhaps you are bald in the back?  It doesn't matter anyways, women are attracted to confidence and attitude!!  Being sly is about those 2 things, you really think women just liked you because of your hair?  Get real bro, they liked you because you were confident and you liked yourself. 

Going from no guard to shave is surprisingly a big difference.  You will look different, so I see why you are scared about making the change.  Plus, you got to worry about reactions from people you know... but in the end, you eventually learn that there is more to life then hair and that you are more important then whats on your head.

You won't be successful with women, until you learn to love yourself.  The first step is to hold your head up high, take the hat off, and don't even worry about your hair or being bald.  Its not as big of a deal as you are making it to be.  IT'S JUST HAIR MAN!

I'm 22 btw!
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: Timmay on August 28, 2008, 08:47:18 PM
Hang in there AntSox...hang out around here and be active.  Once you get use to us all in here then you will feel more confident and it wont be long and we will be reading a thread from you that you FINALLY SHAVED IT!  Slyinglide is still trying to figure out what the IT is....dont no one tell him.  LOL

TImmay
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: dog20 on August 28, 2008, 08:50:39 PM
IT stands for internet technology.
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: The Zook on August 28, 2008, 09:10:25 PM
Information Technology ;)

But I have a feeling that's not the IT he's referring to.

Shave it smooth, what have you got to lose but a few days worth of growth?  O:O

I find myself 100x more confident now than I was with a receding hairline because to me, I took control and made the CHOICE to look this way instead of hiding it or letting it take it's slow agonizing course.
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: Timmay on August 28, 2008, 09:13:49 PM
internal technician
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: GASlick on August 28, 2008, 09:16:56 PM
Internal Tempurature
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: Kojack on August 28, 2008, 09:45:39 PM
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Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: robo21 on August 28, 2008, 09:51:41 PM
I did the no guard cut for years before I finally took the plunge.  After I shaved for the first time I looked in the mirror and wondered why I had not done it before.  I was worried about what people at work would say but it took awhile before some even relized I had shaved it, or hadn't ever shaved it before.  Every comment that I did receive was positive.  If you have a long weekend coming up give it a try.  If you don't like it, it will grow back before you have to return to work. 
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: warhawk on August 28, 2008, 09:58:27 PM
hey antsox:  welcome 2 the sly fraternity.  i'm sorry that U feel that way 'bout yourself.  i hope that it will improve.  as far as your noggin'... it looks good buzzed however, i think it will look better razor-shaved with a quality razor like the fusion (manual), mach3, or headblade.  i promise that U will not regret it once U "take the plunge".  matter of fact... U will B thanking us 4 encouraging U 2 do shave your dome.  anyways... keeps us posted 2 your road 2 slyness.  we hope that U become an active member of the best forum on the internet.   O0

WARHAWK O0
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: R o b 6 on August 28, 2008, 10:01:05 PM
Hi, I'm new here.  I'm 26 and I shave my head with clippers (no guard) because I'm not quite ready to shave it completely.  I absolutely have no confidence in myself because I think I look terrible without hair.  I wear hats almost everywhere and it gives me false confidence, every time I talk to women I feel like I am fooling them into thinking I have hair underneath my cap.  I used to get very good looking girls but between my confidence and lack of hair I can't help but think I have to settle for women I'm not attracted to.  I am not superficial, I know looks aren't everything but in the dating process looks play a important part of the initial attraction.

You might be surprised how removing that last 1/8-inch of hair down to the skin can boost your confidence. In a weird way, it's kind of a reverse Samson effect (one of the SLY bros taught me that when I took the leap)...like a clean slate, in a take-me-as-I-am attitude. The title of your post "This isn't Easy for Me" says it all. If it were easy, everyone would be doing it! Hang out a while and read some of the experiences and obstacles some of us overcame. No rush or pressure to do anything. And welcome to the site.
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: c16188 on August 29, 2008, 01:04:13 AM
Hi AntSox,

you're a man, you are you, so take the plunge and shave your head smooth.
You'll like it and you'll feel well with the ladies; 
Believe the members of this forum: you won't regret it and it feels really good
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: Mikekoz13 on August 29, 2008, 05:06:55 AM
Welcome to the Forum AntSox! Look at what Brother Pruitt said....... he is wise.
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: PowerOfCheese on August 29, 2008, 09:17:25 AM
I say give it a go. If you already cut it short it'll grow back after a shave in a week or so. In my case only a few people noticed or even cared. Nobody will care more about the hair on your head than you. Shave it and be free or shave it and wear a hat for a week or two. Not much to lose bro.

The way I see it is I have 40-60 years of life left tops (God willing). I don't plan on spending it with a personalty based entirely on the quality of my hair. What I like most about being sly is that I stand out. I want to stand out, don't you? Chicks seem to dig it.

All those other sheeple can mingle amongst themselves.
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: PowerOfCheese on August 29, 2008, 09:19:43 AM
Quote
You might be surprised how removing that last 1/8-inch of hair down to the skin can boost your confidence. In a weird way, it's kind of a reverse Samson effect (one of the SLY bros taught me that when I took the leap)...like a clean slate, in a take-me-as-I-am attitude. The title of your post "This isn't Easy for Me" says it all. If it were easy, everyone would be doing it! Hang out a while and read some of the experiences and obstacles some of us overcame. No rush or pressure to do anything. And welcome to the site.

Yeah, and what Rob6 said. Take-me-as-I-am attitude is a beautiful thing to have to live with. It's contagious and causes envy.
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: Northernlion on August 29, 2008, 10:43:08 AM
if you're balding, shaving your head isn't going to f**k up your dating life

end of story

'If you can't hide your flaws, highlight them" -Neil Strauss
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: AntSox on August 29, 2008, 04:34:30 PM
hey thanks a lot guys, you all made some great points.  thanks for welcoming me here...now i have to go get ready for a blind date!
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: PowerOfCheese on August 29, 2008, 05:16:47 PM
If your date is blind then why worry about your hair?  ;D
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: Kojack on September 07, 2008, 02:48:40 AM
hey thanks a lot guys, you all made some great points.  thanks for welcoming me here...now i have to go get ready for a blind date!

I'm going to assume the date didnt go so well since you didn't share??

Rest assured, if it did not go so well, it's nothing to be embarrassed about.
Bottom line.....Most blind dates don't go so well, and I know from experience, but on the off chance everything was peachy keen.

Let us know.
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: abdominator3 on September 08, 2008, 07:08:28 AM
hey man,ways good.   I kno wat u mean,i think u just thinking too much about ur head man,well take my suggestion work on ur body get fit and buff,that is gunna shoot up ur confidence sky high and trust me sly head and fit body is a killing combo..girls love it too.well am just 21 keeping it sly or use zero clipper like u since wen I was 19! All the girls I kno love the sly look.everything is in the mind azwell,if u feel good u gunna posess confidence.well good luck man,hope u get all the girls u want,and they like both ya bald heads if u kno wat  I mean lol.   

Keep it slick and sly...
cheers
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: hotrn on November 12, 2008, 10:09:13 AM
dude, i was scared for a while too. but, once i took the plunge, i wished that i had did it sooner! so, take the plunge! you won't regret it!!
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: Wil87 on November 25, 2008, 08:10:49 AM
If your date is blind then why worry about your hair?  ;D

HA HA Cheese, you just made me spit coke all down my self!!  :*))

But seriously man, you will be amazed at the confidence you will gain from shaving, its like your taking a positive step and controlling your hair, not letting it control you!!
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: Papa Don on December 07, 2008, 11:31:25 AM
Welcome Antsox.  You look fine to me.  Bald always shines in my eyes!
Title: Re: This is not easy for me...
Post by: The Scottish Ambassador on December 07, 2008, 12:11:39 PM
Welcome m8. I just shaved mine this week after an age of dithering and a week of confidence building from the great guys in here. Just go for it. If you are already using clippers without a guard, it wont take long for hair to grow to that length again if u decide you dont like it.

Good Luck and keep us informed