Sly Bald Guys Forum
Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: PBurke on August 25, 2008, 04:25:06 PM
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Do any of you guys/gals suffer from this? sometimes i think i do. Everyone thinks i am this very confident person. in reality it ain't so. about some things maybe, but in general i have learned how to fake it real well. when i go out with friends i get looks and smiles from lay-days and still am not usually confident enough to talk to them. or if i do, i find myself apologizing alot. what is really weird about it is, i can watch my buddies and help them out. give them ideas on how to get the women like them and talk more. but i can't seem to do it myself. anyone have any ideas how i can change this or at least feel better about myself? thanks in advance guys/gals
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Man your not alone........even the most confident person in the world still has self doubt in some aspects of their life. It's a truly CONFIDENT person that knows these weaknesses and strives to overcome them......
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One of the things that helped me with women and other confidence issues is knowing that when I talked to a woman and got rejected, the reality is that she will forget about that event within 24 hours of me being rejected. This lead me to forget about being embarrassed when this happens and to just move on to the next one.
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One of the things that helped me with women and other confidence issues is knowing that when I talked to a woman and got rejected, the reality is that she will forget about that event within 24 hours of me being rejected. This lead me to forget about being embarrassed when this happens and to just move on to the next one.
Another thing to add to this is that when a woman rejects you or your approach, don't make the mistake of taking it personally. I repeat: Do Not Take It Personally. What she rejected was your game, your tactic, your approach.....not YOU. If you take it as YOU, you will simply hurt yourself and stifle your future efforts. If anything, take it like this: What would you do if you DID kick up a convo with her, got to expressing your opinion (though this is fact), that Batman The Dark Knight is the greatest movie of all time and she tells you no, Brokeback Mountain (or whatever) is....What's wrong with her in this respect. I'll tell you what's wrong with her: She has TERRIBLE TASTE. Who's to say her sense of terrible taste doesn't permeate every facet of her life, INCLUDING (but not limited to) her taste in men??? A rejection by a woman is not a rejection of YOU. Period. Get over it, learn from it, and move on.
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Another thing to look at is that talking to women is like anything else you do in life it takes practice. the first time you played ball or shot pool you probably weren't the best at it but you kept playing and got better, its the same thing with talking to ladies or anyone else for that matter. You have to practice, go out as much as you can and practice, you will get shot down from time to time, just learn what you might have done wrong and fix it. The more you do this the better you'll get at it
People don't remember the rejections you get they remember the conquests you made O0
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Well i know this will sound conceited but it is not meant to be. I never worried about being turned down by a woman. I would always just say, "No problem" and move on. I always looked at it like this......their loss. Why? Because it was a chance for them to go out with someone that was a lot of fun and would treat them with respect. A guy with a sharp wit and a passion for life. I also always believed that if they said no, they weren't the "one" anyway.
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Women should just approach us, its not like we will say no... unless they are ugly.
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Women should just approach us...
Join or start a serious rock band....
Otherwise....the universe just don't work like that
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Or just get an AWESOME grill.
The ladies love 'em.
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Well u most be doing something wrong if the lay-Days are not comeing to you...
:-X :XX
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Read The Game/other pickup resources and PRACTICE THEM if this is a significant source of stress for you. It's like math -- some people are just naturally gifted and some people aren't. If you aren't, you can't just ask how to be better at math, you have to read books/take classes/practice, practice, practice.
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I have already confronted birdman
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OH yes I did Birdman...did I not send you a pm ?
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I can see it now...
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi85.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fk62%2Fmorgothaod%2Ffail.jpg&hash=d795bcfb35c71cd11f664d2c998cfb2983499586)
just kidding :P, you just gotta put yourself out there bro and keep on trying.
edit: aww crap, good luck reading that guys lol!
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quit being a jackass and take it off birdman...is it that hard to understand?
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wtf birdman!! >:(
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I haven't felt a need to try to pick up a member of the fairer sex for years.
I'm married to the best wife ever. I think I'd probably be really bad at it as I can struggle with relating to other people at times - I reckon I know where my son's autistic issues stem from.
I just treat boys and girls as fellow human beings and try to be nice to them all. I think I come across as confident as there isn't any pressure to impress and I am usually pretty confident in myself.
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I hate to burst your bubble Birdman, but I'm a fat bald guy and I have no problem with the ladies. When I go looking I find them. It has nothing to do with your looks, although for some it might be easier, but it has to do more with your level of confidence, how you talk to them and not coming off as needy. So you can get off your 90 year old big pimpin' soap box any time.
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wow. i am not really that bad off. just thought it would make a good thread for people who may be having some problems. then some little gremlin looking freak insults me and i don't even get to see it. damn the luck. thanks guys.
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Ok, I give in I apologise if i insulted you it was not aimed at you just generolising.Hope you are not offended and anyone else who read it.I still think a well toned bald headed well dressed man has the advantage.I see you still insult me, all part of the game, sorry again
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Ok, I give in I apologise if i insulted you it was not aimed at you just generolising.Hope you are not offended and anyone else who read it.I still think a well toned bald headed well dressed man has the advantage.I see you still insult me, all part of the game, sorry again
did that insult you? wow, my bad. i meant to insult the gremlins.
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Careful now, don't let your brains go to your head
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1,2....look at you. 3-4 slam the door!
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Do any of you guys/gals suffer from this? sometimes i think i do. Everyone thinks i am this very confident person. in reality it ain't so. about some things maybe, but in general i have learned how to fake it real well. when i go out with friends i get looks and smiles from lay-days and still am not usually confident enough to talk to them. or if i do, i find myself apologizing alot. what is really weird about it is, i can watch my buddies and help them out. give them ideas on how to get the women like them and talk more. but i can't seem to do it myself. anyone have any ideas how i can change this or at least feel better about myself? thanks in advance guys/gals
Good thread PBurke, same here!
And still no good idea to change that. :-\
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Or just get an AWESOME grill.
The ladies love 'em.
Yea as long as their on a BMW, Mercedes, Porsche, Bentley...................... :D
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I'm not really sure how the BIRDMAN has the ladies running to him with that attitude...... I'm guessing they're not the ladies I would be interested in.
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I'm not really sure how the BIRDMAN has the ladies running to him with that attitude...... I'm guessing they're not the ladies I would be interested in.
Didnt he mention one time that he is single?? That would answer your question Mike..
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Ok, I give in I apologise if i insulted you it was not aimed at you just generolising.Hope you are not offended and anyone else who read it.I still think a well toned bald headed well dressed man has the advantage.I see you still insult me, all part of the game, sorry again
Birdman, I was insulted not because I thought you were adressing me but because this is not the first time you have downed people for not being the epitomy of the male specimen. A well groomed and dressed man usually has an advantage but if he has no game then all that exercise and nice clothes do him no good.
As far as me insulting you, that may have been out of hand, but I have let your comments go for some time and could not do it this time. This has nothing to do with pussyfooting around, you just need to show some decorum in how you make your comments.
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At least I was man enough to apologise in public,English gentlemen do that, some of u are not man enough to accept it.
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At least I was man enough to apologise in public,English gentlemen do that, some of u are not man enough to accept it.
I did apologise in a round about way, but because I'm not an "english gentleman", let me formally apologise to you for not formally accepting your apology and offer mine in return. I just ask that you please use some decorum in your responses so we don't have to play these silly games again.
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Thank you, in England there is a saying manners maketh the man, costs nothing, if I say something out of place I admit it, no need for personel insults and insulting pms off people who are old enough and should no better, they know who they are.
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At least I was man enough to apologise in public,English gentlemen do that, some of u are not man enough to accept it.
I'm thinking that an English gentleman wouldn't have said what you said in the first place.....
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Did u read what I said
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Did u read what I said
i did. and you still insult people. in an english gentlman kind of way. i am a southern gentlman birdie. i guess what that means is, i will treat a lady like she needs to be treated, and treat an idiot accordingly.
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You said you missed it previously, come on tell the truth.
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ok guys. birdman and i have decided to drop the crap and quit taking shots at each other. please do the same guys. let's get this one back on track. thanks for your cooperation.
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I haven't felt a need to try to pick up a member of the fairer sex for years.
I'm married to the best wife ever. I think I'd probably be really bad at it as I can struggle with relating to other people at times - I reckon I know where my son's autistic issues stem from.
I just treat boys and girls as fellow human beings and try to be nice to them all. I think I come across as confident as there isn't any pressure to impress and I am usually pretty confident in myself.
+1 Dave O0
<-----------NICE GRILL :*))
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+ 1 for the Americans..lol
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100 plus for the british, at least I say it on here and not behind a insulting pm to make everyone think I am the nice guy/clown.If I am wrong I admit it , if i say something you do not agree with ok answer back in a polite manner.What i said for those of u who did not read it and upset a few was WERE I LIVE there are alot of bald/fat guys. now how that insults anyone on here I do not know. It did not refer to anyone but a general observastion.Some got on there high horse and said I was insulting them, god knows how.Some will try to twist it round but i have apologised to pburke personaly and like 2 grown ups we do not take it as a personal insult, we have done it before and no offence has been taken.
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There is a lot of high horses around here.
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Problem?
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PBurke, I'm the same way. My friends and people I meet think it's so easy for me to get chicks, but it really isn't. I have the same problem with approaching them. But I'm working on it...
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I think it's sort of a "snowball" effect. One success leads to another to another, etc. I've often found my self saying "when it rains, it pours" - though a lot of the time it feels like it's a drought.