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Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: BlackJamesRackham on June 02, 2008, 11:58:00 AM
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You guys think this is a good idea? The bartender at one of my favorite local bars is a real cute chick and really nice. She's always extra friendly with me so it kind of made me wonder if she had a thing for me. But I mean bartenders sometimes do that to get good tips. But anyway, I was thinking of trying to hit on her or ask her out sometime, but then I got to thinking, "If she turns me down, would it ruin the whole vibe of coming back to this bar where she works?" It's not the rejection I'm worried about, it's just that I don't want to feel awkward when I come back. What do you guys think?
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If the bartender at my watering hole was a hot chick and not a dude, I would probably give it a go
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hey, never up, never in.
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you'll never know... if U don't do it... U will always ask yourself why? life's 2 short. go 4 it b4 someone beats U 2 the punch. O0
WARHAWK O0
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Yeah. I guess theres no harm in trying. If it doesnt work out then whatever. I could always find another bar
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If you look anything like your avatar, you might want to put on some weight and lose the swords first :D
J/K, brutha.....
I say GO 4 IT !!
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If you look anything like your avatar, you might want to put on some weight and lose the swords first :D
J/K, brutha.....
I say GO 4 IT !!
Haha yeah I need to work on getting a pic up on here.
Thanks for all the input guys. I'll keep you posted about any developments
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I dated a bartender or two years ago. remember, they are constantly being hit on. I found out that if you're a regular, just chat them up for a while first. Be patient. Chances are she may even drop a not so subtle hint when the time is right...as long as you don't look like that avatar. ;)
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Last time I heard bro we are only on this planet once. Give it your all, ask for her number. Worst thing she can say is no.
One Life,One Chance.
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You have to look into body shaving Jesse.
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Yeah I know Tom,I'm looking into that electro hair removal or epilating.
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I dated a bartender or two years ago. remember, they are constantly being hit on. I found out that if you're a regular, just chat them up for a while first. Be patient. Chances are she may even drop a not so subtle hint when the time is right...as long as you don't look like that avatar. ;)
What? Girls don't like the bag of bones look? ;D
No worries, I'm far from being a bag of bones
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Hitting on the bartender ....WHAT!...I would never hit a lady..
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Hitting on the bartender ....WHAT!...I would never hit a lady..
"cause you're quite the proper English gentleman" Tim. ^-^
James Rackham should ask the gal to a proper English Tea.
That would certainly impress her.
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are we going to be serving crumpets?
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are we going to be serving crumpets?
Those are scones. :Xo!
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Scones make me happy
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Scones make me happy
me too, and also -- FAT.
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I dated a bartender or two years ago. remember, they are constantly being hit on. I found out that if you're a regular, just chat them up for a while first. Be patient. Chances are she may even drop a not so subtle hint when the time is right...
Good point, kozmeister!
This doesn't preclude the "GO FOR IT" cheer....
But this could be a good WAY to "go for it" O0
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Go for it.
Why change bars if she says no? Its all in the fun of living for the moment, just because you are interested in her doesnt mean she is going to hate you for it or things will be uncomfortable unless you allow that.
she says no, just accept it and continue being friends.
beware though, female bartenders are pretty used to being hit on and she may have some reservations about mixing business with pleasure.
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Go for it.
Why change bars if she says no? Its all in the fun of living for the moment, just because you are interested in her doesnt mean she is going to hate you for it or things will be uncomfortable unless you allow that.
she says no, just accept it and continue being friends.
beware though, female bartenders are pretty used to being hit on and she may have some reservations about mixing business with pleasure.
Yeah that is definitely a good point. I will definitely approach with caution, I don't want to appear like another typical drunk dude hitting on her. I'll take Mikekoz13 approach and keep talking to her and see if she drops any hints.
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Yeah that is definitely a good point. I will definitely approach with caution, I don't want to appear like another typical drunk dude hitting on her. I'll take Mikekoz13 approach and keep talking to her and see if she drops any hints.
That's a good route. Ask her where she hangs out when she's not tending bar. See if you can meet her at one of those places sometime.
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Yeah that is definitely a good point. I will definitely approach with caution, I don't want to appear like another typical drunk dude hitting on her. I'll take Mikekoz13 approach and keep talking to her and see if she drops any hints.
That's a good route. Ask her where she hangs out when she's not tending bar. See if you can meet her at one of those places sometime.
Right on, Tyler. Actually, I'm a bit worried. Last time I popped in, she wasn't working, and a new girl was there. I'm praying she just had the night off and isn't gone
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Similar thing for me is happening right now. A good friend of mine works as bartender at this place that has everything, arcade, pool hall, bowling alley, bar, lounge and restaurant. A while back I was there like usual chilling at the bar shooting the sh*t with my buddy and this girl sits down beside me and just chimes in on the conversation then my pal introduces us and says she's a new waitress in the restaurant. So anyway, we get to chatting and I just throw out some subtle hints and the whole thing that the rest of the guys said on here.
Then I don't see her for a while cause I had been working a lot of overtime and when I had gone in for a few pints she wasn't around. So then one day I get home and see a message on Facebook asking where I've been cause she hasn't seen me in a while. Yeah, SHE came looking for me through my pals friends list. We talk quite a bit now and we've been out a few times.
So anyway BlackJamesRackham, just give it time, keep going back to the bar, and if you don't see her for a bit, just throw out the question to one of the other regular bartenders there asking where she is. Who knows, maybe she just took some time off or got a job at another bar. Just keep your hopes up bro, things always work out as they're supposed to.
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So anyway BlackJamesRackham, just give it time, keep going back to the bar, and if you don't see her for a bit, just throw out the question to one of the other regular bartenders there asking where she is. Who knows, maybe she just took some time off or got a job at another bar. Just keep your hopes up bro, things always work out as they're supposed to.
Thanks for the encouragement, Fortin. I'll be popping by this weekend so hopefully she's around.
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Try and talk to her after she is done working.
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Scones make me happy
me too, and also -- FAT.
I'd never read this thread before... but wtf is that all about?!!! :D
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SSHHHHHHHHHHH EVERYONE.....Magma is spyin in on us.................Did you see that Baseball game??
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SSHHHHHHHHHHH EVERYONE.....Magma is spyin in on us.................Did you see that Baseball game??
Oh yeah eh! that was ummm... pretty great eh, when uhhhh... that guy from the one team hit the ball really hard, but then the other guy caught it! :*))
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SSHHHHHHHHHHH EVERYONE.....Magma is spyin in on us.................Did you see that Baseball game??
Oh yeah eh! that was ummm... pretty great eh, when uhhhh... that guy from the one team hit the ball really hard, but then the other guy caught it! :*))
:*)) :-X
I didn't get the scones thing either...I don't even recall reading it in the first place
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SSHHHHHHHHHHH EVERYONE.....Magma is spyin in on us.................Did you see that Baseball game??
Oh yeah eh! that was ummm... pretty great eh, when uhhhh... that guy from the one team hit the ball really hard, but then the other guy caught it! :*))
......but then he dropped it and so he ummm bent over to pick it up and MAN O MAN talk about saying no to CRACK!
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SSHHHHHHHHHHH EVERYONE.....Magma is spyin in on us.................Did you see that Baseball game??
Oh yeah eh! that was ummm... pretty great eh, when uhhhh... that guy from the one team hit the ball really hard, but then the other guy caught it! :*))
......but then he dropped it and so he ummm bent over to pick it up and MAN O MAN talk about saying no to CRACK!
*ignores the baseball talk*
hmm.. there's been a lot of 'bending over' talk from you of late Tim ^-^
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SSHHHHHHHHHHH EVERYONE.....Magma is spyin in on us.................Did you see that Baseball game??
That in itself kinda scares me too magma...because I was out cold for at least 8 hours .........
Oh yeah eh! that was ummm... pretty great eh, when uhhhh... that guy from the one team hit the ball really hard, but then the other guy caught it! :*))
......but then he dropped it and so he ummm bent over to pick it up and MAN O MAN talk about saying no to CRACK!
*ignores the baseball talk*
hmm.. there's been a lot of 'bending over' talk from you of late Tim ^-^
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Wow MB, I think you left him speechless with that! :*))
I'm rather impressed!
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Wow MB, I think you left him speechless with that! :*))
I'm rather impressed!
lmao, naah, he's just sitting there trying to think of a decent comeback.
and there aint one!! hahahaha!
it's true though, I have noticed!! ;)
I love you Timmay lol!!
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no i made my reply....just posted it in the wrong line....
I said it has me worried too because I was out cold for about 8 hours................
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Riiiiiiiight!!!! ::)
We know you just edited it... it's ok though Timmay cause you're our 'special' friend!
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OH JEZZZ that makes me feel real comfortable. The only thing though that has me confused...why did my throat hurt so bad saturday morning..lol
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Oh, trust me, you REALLY don't want to know the answer to THAT!!! :*))
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oh God!! :D
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OH JEZZZ that makes me feel real comfortable. The only thing though that has me confused...why did my throat hurt so bad saturday morning..lol
I can't believe there's no pictures of THAT!!!! :*))
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DONT GIVE THEM ANY IDEAS!! PLEASE!
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Ok... just read this thread.. and Black... HOLDUP!!
Best advice... from TY... but even still... think about it. This is your comfortable zone... where you can hit on patrons and still come back the next week. You know who is usual and who can be zoned in on for the night.
Are you wanting to tag the bartender or start some kind of ..dare I say the word... relationship?
If its just a tag, even a prospect for a occasional tag, then you need to make it known at the get go. No harm no foul. If its a relationship, you will need to find another bar once in it. Be prepared to make the sacrifice.
Lets take for instance my local, there is a bartender there who I have had conversation, had her show me her perfect breast, and I have told her that one day I am going to take her home with me and knock the bottom out...we have had some interesting conversations. I have even been introduced to her parents....
I have yet to tag her because I have not had the definate agreement... yet.
Timmj, I wish I made the outing... but then again can you imagine if I did how much money we would be paying out for pics not to be published :o
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Ok... just read this thread.. and Black... HOLDUP!!
Best advice... from TY... but even still... think about it. This is your comfortable zone... where you can hit on patrons and still come back the next week. You know who is usual and who can be zoned in on for the night.
Are you wanting to tag the bartender or start some kind of ..dare I say the word... relationship?
If its just a tag, even a prospect for a occasional tag, then you need to make it known at the get go. No harm no foul. If its a relationship, you will need to find another bar once in it. Be prepared to make the sacrifice.
Lets take for instance my local, there is a bartender there who I have had conversation, had her show me her perfect breast, and I have told her that one day I am going to take her home with me and knock the bottom out...we have had some interesting conversations. I have even been introduced to her parents....
I have yet to tag her because I have not had the definate agreement... yet.
Timmj, I wish I made the outing... but then again can you imagine if I did how much money we would be paying out for pics not to be published :o
Good advice bro, thanks!
Just to update...I actually haven't been back in a couple of months. Weekends have just been busy with other parties, weddings, birthdays, etc and so I haven't made it back there. Hopefully this weekend. I think I need to think about what Champ just said though.
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Ok... just read this thread.. and Black... HOLDUP!!
Best advice... from TY... but even still... think about it. This is your comfortable zone... where you can hit on patrons and still come back the next week. You know who is usual and who can be zoned in on for the night.
Are you wanting to tag the bartender or start some kind of ..dare I say the word... relationship?
If its just a tag, even a prospect for a occasional tag, then you need to make it known at the get go. No harm no foul. If its a relationship, you will need to find another bar once in it. Be prepared to make the sacrifice.
Lets take for instance my local, there is a bartender there who I have had conversation, had her show me her perfect breast, and I have told her that one day I am going to take her home with me and knock the bottom out...we have had some interesting conversations. I have even been introduced to her parents....
I have yet to tag her because I have not had the definate agreement... yet.
Timmj, I wish I made the outing... but then again can you imagine if I did how much money we would be paying out for pics not to be published :o
Good advice bro, thanks!
Just to update...I actually haven't been back in a couple of months. Weekends have just been busy with other parties, weddings, birthdays, etc and so I haven't made it back there. Hopefully this weekend. I think I need to think about what Champ just said though.
My first trip to what would become my favorite watering hole in Japan, the 19-year-old bar hostess asked for my card. I had my drinks and went home. She was ringing my doorbell later that night after the bar closed.
You have to have the alpha male aura to get those results. They can smell confidence.
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Ok... just read this thread.. and Black... HOLDUP!!
Best advice... from TY... but even still... think about it. This is your comfortable zone... where you can hit on patrons and still come back the next week. You know who is usual and who can be zoned in on for the night.
Are you wanting to tag the bartender or start some kind of ..dare I say the word... relationship?
If its just a tag, even a prospect for a occasional tag, then you need to make it known at the get go. No harm no foul. If its a relationship, you will need to find another bar once in it. Be prepared to make the sacrifice.
Lets take for instance my local, there is a bartender there who I have had conversation, had her show me her perfect breast, and I have told her that one day I am going to take her home with me and knock the bottom out...we have had some interesting conversations. I have even been introduced to her parents....
I have yet to tag her because I have not had the definate agreement... yet.
Timmj, I wish I made the outing... but then again can you imagine if I did how much money we would be paying out for pics not to be published :o
Good advice bro, thanks!
Just to update...I actually haven't been back in a couple of months. Weekends have just been busy with other parties, weddings, birthdays, etc and so I haven't made it back there. Hopefully this weekend. I think I need to think about what Champ just said though.
My first trip to what would become my favorite watering hole in Japan, the 19-year-old bar hostess asked for my card. I had my drinks and went home. She was ringing my doorbell later that night after the bar closed.
You have to have the alpha male aura to get those results. They can smell confidence.
hope you got your hours worth O0
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Ok... just read this thread.. and Black... HOLDUP!!
Best advice... from TY... but even still... think about it. This is your comfortable zone... where you can hit on patrons and still come back the next week. You know who is usual and who can be zoned in on for the night.
Are you wanting to tag the bartender or start some kind of ..dare I say the word... relationship?
If its just a tag, even a prospect for a occasional tag, then you need to make it known at the get go. No harm no foul. If its a relationship, you will need to find another bar once in it. Be prepared to make the sacrifice.
Lets take for instance my local, there is a bartender there who I have had conversation, had her show me her perfect breast, and I have told her that one day I am going to take her home with me and knock the bottom out...we have had some interesting conversations. I have even been introduced to her parents....
I have yet to tag her because I have not had the definate agreement... yet.
Timmj, I wish I made the outing... but then again can you imagine if I did how much money we would be paying out for pics not to be published :o
Good advice bro, thanks!
Just to update...I actually haven't been back in a couple of months. Weekends have just been busy with other parties, weddings, birthdays, etc and so I haven't made it back there. Hopefully this weekend. I think I need to think about what Champ just said though.
My first trip to what would become my favorite watering hole in Japan, the 19-year-old bar hostess asked for my card. I had my drinks and went home. She was ringing my doorbell later that night after the bar closed.
You have to have the alpha male aura to get those results. They can smell confidence.
hope you got your hours worth O0
Is one hour all you can get out of Mr. MagmaBabe? I feel sorry for you. :'(
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Time.....Last time I was in London there were refurbishing Big Ben. Am I going to get to see it in all its glory if we make the trip there Magma?
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Ok... just read this thread.. and Black... HOLDUP!!
Best advice... from TY... but even still... think about it. This is your comfortable zone... where you can hit on patrons and still come back the next week. You know who is usual and who can be zoned in on for the night.
Are you wanting to tag the bartender or start some kind of ..dare I say the word... relationship?
If its just a tag, even a prospect for a occasional tag, then you need to make it known at the get go. No harm no foul. If its a relationship, you will need to find another bar once in it. Be prepared to make the sacrifice.
Lets take for instance my local, there is a bartender there who I have had conversation, had her show me her perfect breast, and I have told her that one day I am going to take her home with me and knock the bottom out...we have had some interesting conversations. I have even been introduced to her parents....
I have yet to tag her because I have not had the definate agreement... yet.
Timmj, I wish I made the outing... but then again can you imagine if I did how much money we would be paying out for pics not to be published :o
Good advice bro, thanks!
Just to update...I actually haven't been back in a couple of months. Weekends have just been busy with other parties, weddings, birthdays, etc and so I haven't made it back there. Hopefully this weekend. I think I need to think about what Champ just said though.
My first trip to what would become my favorite watering hole in Japan, the 19-year-old bar hostess asked for my card. I had my drinks and went home. She was ringing my doorbell later that night after the bar closed.
You have to have the alpha male aura to get those results. They can smell confidence.
hope you got your hours worth O0
Is one hour all you can get out of Mr. MagmaBabe? I feel sorry for you. :'(
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Time.....Last time I was in London there were refurbishing Big Ben. Am I going to get to see it in all its glory if we make the trip there Magma?
I can't see that being a problem, depends how much time you guy's have on your hands ;)
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Ok... just read this thread.. and Black... HOLDUP!!
Best advice... from TY... but even still... think about it. This is your comfortable zone... where you can hit on patrons and still come back the next week. You know who is usual and who can be zoned in on for the night.
Are you wanting to tag the bartender or start some kind of ..dare I say the word... relationship?
If its just a tag, even a prospect for a occasional tag, then you need to make it known at the get go. No harm no foul. If its a relationship, you will need to find another bar once in it. Be prepared to make the sacrifice.
Lets take for instance my local, there is a bartender there who I have had conversation, had her show me her perfect breast, and I have told her that one day I am going to take her home with me and knock the bottom out...we have had some interesting conversations. I have even been introduced to her parents....
I have yet to tag her because I have not had the definate agreement... yet.
Timmj, I wish I made the outing... but then again can you imagine if I did how much money we would be paying out for pics not to be published :o
Good advice bro, thanks!
Just to update...I actually haven't been back in a couple of months. Weekends have just been busy with other parties, weddings, birthdays, etc and so I haven't made it back there. Hopefully this weekend. I think I need to think about what Champ just said though.
My first trip to what would become my favorite watering hole in Japan, the 19-year-old bar hostess asked for my card. I had my drinks and went home. She was ringing my doorbell later that night after the bar closed.
You have to have the alpha male aura to get those results. They can smell confidence.
hope you got your hours worth O0
Is one hour all you can get out of Mr. MagmaBabe? I feel sorry for you. :'(
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:*)) Irony at its finest!!
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Oh boy... :/O