Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: Bensen on May 13, 2008, 04:22:58 PM
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did your life changed somehow after beeing bald? and how did i t changed your life?
any diffrence meeitng woman, when you are a single and beeing bald ?
Greats
Ben 32
( a newbie in forum)
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Well, that's a tough one to put in one thread...you can find in almost all "newbie thinking about it" threads, once the guy shaved his head smooth most times his life completely changed with one big constant...
a new, more confident attitude!
It's hard to explain, but even having 1/8 of an inch of hair is not as empowering as having a completely hairfree head...
it's a cool, weird thing...
you'll see soon enough my friend!
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It took away alot of stress related to worrying about hairloss and trying to cover it up. The relief is one of the best parts.
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Ben, you've reached that crucial point where you know you're going to shave your head -- it's just a matter of when, not if. And when you get to that point, it's really best to just get it over with, and then you can stop torturing yourself over it. Trust me, it will be a huge relief once it's done. It's not a magic solution that will solve all of your problems, but it does allow you to close the door on the hair loss problem and move on.
When I was at this stage, I was just obsessed with the thought of shaving my head, and I didn't have any peace until I'd finally done it. It's like ripping a bandage off a wound; the anticipation can be frightening, but if you just charge ahead and do it, it's over in a few minutes and then you realize it wasn't so bad after all.
I have yet to come across a single person who was thinning like you are who didn't feel a whole lot better after the shave.
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I shave a full head of hair. When I first started to headshave, everyone wanted to know if I was balding. When I responded to that question with a resounding NO, their next question was then why the hell do you do it?
My response has been.....
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Ffarm3.static.flickr.com%2F2105%2F2491505490_704e02b2d4_o.jpg&hash=2da81563d8d56aad730a1695c82c4abaf90f6403)
I admit that going sans hair has made me even more cockey and self- assured than I was with hair.
There is a SLY confidence that comes with a shaved head. O:O
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I was already with my now wife when I went Sly, but I have noticed a huge change in how people look at me.
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For me, it was a huge boost in my self-confidence.
And having a short buzz cut, even at 1/8-inch, was nothing like the new-found confidence I experienced once I had the barber razor shave it all the way down to the skin in front of a few waiting customers. That day I headshaved for the first time, I think I left the barbershop an inch or two taller than when I entered because I was walking so tall and proud.
Bottom line: With the encouragement of this forum and a couple of my SLY guardian angels, I finally CHOSE to go from being a balding guy to BEING a decidedly BALD guy.
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thank you very much (to every single one of you) for your posts. sharing your thoughts and your expiriences.
it's maybe boring for you to say thank you all the time, but it is very honest !!
i fell so much better since i posted here for the first time 2 days ago!!!
that's just what i needed, to talk about. never had much chances before to do that.
it's good to learn that other have very simliar thoughts and worries and there is a way
to share that. i though i would do crazy by thinking a lot about the balding/bald stuff.
razorx descibed really good the point where i am, better than i could. "closing the door"
is a real good point.
there is one thing for sure that i know nowadays. i decided that i will never spend all my money for
medication stuff, shampoo's, surgeries or hair pieces. that would make it a bigger deal that it should be and
i never would stop thinking. if you know what i mean.
i started to like the bald look more and more and the bald look is cool, as i can see here on the pictures. and slysurfer looks cool though he can have a full head of hair. keept it up sir.
it's like meeting the big bald family in there.
and i hope i'm getting a part of it.
so enough for now. i hope it's not overdone the stuff i wrote, but that how i feel atm.
at the bottomline i just wanna let u know, i apreachiate your posts :)
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we will see how things will go on.
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Nice words Ben...and no, it's not too much...
what you say in these posts will help others too, so keep talking if you want.
Like slysurfer I'm bald by choice and so are a lot of guys here..yea some guys do think bald is cool enough to do it when they don't have to! O0
I'm glad you're feeling better. by the looks of your new avatar, you can totally shave off what is left...you'll look GREAT completely bald...
even better then Slysurfer! ;)
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Yeah, that horseshoe just isn't going to get it. BBC will be much better.
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hmmm....
Did my life change after going bald? No not really... other than my grooming routines. Still had women take interest in me and after going bald maybe more actually.
Realizing I would not have hair again was a realization that I dealt with out the gate but now I cant even imagine having hair nor would I want it. I know I would be BBC if I had hair today.
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I know I would be BBC if I had hair today.
Now THAT'S what I'm talkin' bout! O0 O0 O0
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On my walk to work from the train this morning, I spotted four other sly guys wearing suits -- so it's definitely in the mainstream now. Saw one other sly guy on the train ride home -- sitting next to someone with an MPB buzz cut. And it was the guy with the buzz who looked out of place.
When I was going through the thinning thing, I used to think it would take a tremendous amount of guts to get a buzz cut that short. Now when I see someone with a buzzed fringe, I want to ask them why they don't just shave it all off.
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Ben, I also want to point out that you're almost there, anyway. Your hair is pretty short. Just go for it -- it won't take more than 2 or 3 days to grow back if you don't like it (but you will like it). I'll bet most people won't even notice -- or if they do, they won't say anything. You owe it to yourself to try.
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Realizing I would not have hair again was a realization that I dealt with out the gate but now I cant even imagine having hair nor would I want it. I know I would be BBC if I had hair today.
I would really hate to go back to having hair. And I'm saying this as somebody who didn't want to be bald in the first place. I knew I could live with being bald because I didn't have any choice, but if anybody had ever told me that I would ever like it, I would have thought they were crazy.
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Ben, I also want to point out that you're almost there, anyway. Your hair is pretty short. Just go for it -- it won't take more than 2 or 3 days to grow back if you don't like it (but you will like it). I'll bet most people won't even notice -- or if they do, they won't say anything. You owe it to yourself to try.
Ben, Listen to the man. He knows what he is talking about.
Go for it Brother!!!!
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you @ll make me think more and more to get it done.
there is a possiblity to go an a vacation for 2 week on litle spanish island at the end of may.
just for my own and get a little chance to relax from that working stuff, what is a kind of stressful thing atm.
i just wait for the ok from my boss. i hope i will get the ok.
my plan, that comes with your help, to use the time there try my first close shave. so i can find out if
i will like it without having any stupid comments from people i know. i guess that would be cool. (@ razorX 3 Days of regroth sounds good)
btw, i'm curretnly not as short as my avatar show. it's more like in the little pic on the left.
Ben32
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first action the office, checking the forum ;D
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ben: that would B the best time 2 receive your 1st headshave during your vacation. just think... everyone that sees U will only remember U as a sly guy. O0 anyways... i gotta a feelling that U will like your new look when U decide 2 "do the deed". O0
WARHAWK O0
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Ben, that sounds like a good plan. However, I'm willingly to bet you that you will be surprised on how much of a "nonevent" it is to others. You are more likely to get positive comments if anything.
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Ben, I just recently shaved my head and i went from a head full of grey/white hair to shaved.... yours wouldnt really be a big difference in that its already short. I expected a lot of jokes and kidding when i went to work the first time, but actually the worst comment was one guy who asked if i lost a bet. I also received a lot of comments about how much younger i looked without the white hair, so the positive comments were far more numerous than any negative ones. I say just go for it.
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You bet it changed my life. Let me get rid of a lot of stress and worry about my hairloss. ONe of the best decisions I ever made. O0