Sly Bald Guys Forum
Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: BaldRob on December 27, 2006, 10:41:01 AM
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Match.com (http://Match.com) has been around for a long time...
It is a great online dating site and if I'm not mistaken, the biggest!
The greatest benefit is that most members have pictures up. While love is blind, attraction is not. It's always good to see the picture because honestly, no matter how cool they seem in their profile, if their picture doesn't cause a spark, chances are there won't be attraction in person (obviously this isn't always the case).
When creating a profile, be honest!!!! Don't even tell little white lies, because it could turn around and bite you down the road. Also, choose current pictures to post.
The next step is to start searching. When setting up your search, check off everything that you want. Now, if you're too picky, you might not get any matches. So, if the color of her hair really doesn't matter, check any. But if you want a woman that doesn't smoke and it really matters, then check "No Way"! But also be open to traits that you might not have considered before.
Match.com also does a mutual and reverse matching for you, based on the statements in your profile.
That's all for now, but if any of you have used match.com, please share any tips with the rest of us SSBGs!
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Rob,
I agree with you that honesty is the best policy. With that being said, don't be too honest about yourself. Be vague on some things so that when you do get a date you have somehting to talk about.
If you compete in professional surfing, don't write that. Just write you enjoy surfing, then when on the date you "wow" her with the fact that you comete professionally. It also keeps you from falling into the trap of bragging.
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Also, don't be boring in your profile. In online dating WOMEN HAVE THE ADVANTAGE. They get 5 e-mails to every one that a guy gets. So when they see your profile, be unique or funny.
Don't write that you are a "nice guy" or looking for a "nice girl" or that you are looking for the "right person"
In the word of Homer "BO-RING"
Think of it as on-line marketing, not dating. Make people want to talk to you.
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i find the Booty Call works best for me! lol to hell with dating..there's plenty of women out there that just want to get laid just like us guys do....now not everyone of them will be model material lol so you may have to hit a big chick or an older chick every now and then.
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i find the Booty Call works best for me! lol to hell with dating..there's plenty of women out there that just want to get laid just like us guys do....now not everyone of them will be model material lol so you may have to hit a big chick or an older chick every now and then.
Everybody needs a little love, right?
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thats right ! lol
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Also, don't be boring in your profile. In online dating WOMEN HAVE THE ADVANTAGE. They get 5 e-mails to every one that a guy gets. So when they see your profile, be unique or funny.
Don't write that you are a "nice guy" or looking for a "nice girl" or that you are looking for the "right person"
In the word of Homer "BO-RING"
Think of it as on-line marketing, not dating. Make people want to talk to you.
I'm leary of guys that say "I'm a nice guy" Usually that means they're not, no real nice guy would have to tell me they are...they can prove it, and the same goes for women!
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i find the Booty Call works best for me! lol to hell with dating..there's plenty of women out there that just want to get laid just like us guys do....now not everyone of them will be model material lol so you may have to hit a big chick or an older chick every now and then.
Mate that made me laugh out loud ;D
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Kajun, thats some brutal honesty, but damn don't we all do that from time to time...check out www.fling.com too,
don't let JohnMont hear about this tho....lol
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What can I say........I'll always be brutally honest and I would want my friends to be the same way!!!! You wouldn't let your friend walk into a bar with a Boggie hanging out their nose would you!?!
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hotcajun....welcome back. how's school going 4 u? don't b such a stranger & visit more often. anyways.... hope u r doing fine. take care & c ya 'round the forum. O0
WARHAWK O0
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You wouldn't let your friend walk into a bar with a Boggie hanging out their nose would you!?!
I probably would if it was Tim, lol. :*)) j/k buddy ;)
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What can I say........I'll always be brutally honest and I would want my friends to be the same way!!!! You wouldn't let your friend walk into a bar with a Boggie hanging out their nose would you!?!
If it was gonna be real funny, you're damn right I'd let him walk in with a bat in the tunnel. Because my friends would do the same damn thing to me. :D :px
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Kajun you hit it right on.. B@^ before I met my wife. that was my life style.
man I was 20 or 19 .. hit some ladies (40somethings) and some my age to. O0
but at some point in life depending what you want...well I at 29 I decided it was enought.. and put the >:D aside.
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BaldRob, dont tell me YOU are single????
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BaldRob, dont tell me YOU are single????
Well, I'm not single... ;) :@`
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BaldRob, dont tell me YOU are single????
Well, I'm not single... ;) :@`
Oh yeah Mr Z, something you're not telling us? ^-^ :Xo!
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BaldRob, dont tell me YOU are single????
Well, I'm not single... ;) :@`
Oh yeah Mr Z, something you're not telling us? ^-^ :Xo!
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Magma... you know my heart only belongs to one... :@` :@` :@`
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rob is not single? wtf? that gives me hope. if he can find someone, hell i should be fine. ha ha ha
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rob is not single? wtf? that gives me hope. if he can find someone, hell i should be fine. ha ha ha
HA! Don't worry Paulie... we'll find you someone! Though, you might have to shake your hips dancing during the convention with some hot young thing!! :*)) :*)) :*))
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i can do that.if i have to. although it may leave mental scars. ha ha a
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i can do that.if i have to. although it may leave mental scars. ha ha a
We'll all just look the other way... so the image isn't burned into our retinas!!
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I am very happy to be single! After two failed marriages I like living for me!
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rob is not single? wtf? that gives me hope. if he can find someone, hell i should be fine. ha ha ha
HA! Don't worry Paulie... we'll find you someone! Though, you might have to shake your hips dancing during the convention with some hot young thing!! :*)) :*)) :*))
Well, as long as there's liquid courage I'll be there dancing too! With me there're you'll look like someone off of Soul Train!
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fcreativebits.org%2Ffiles%2FBM1185%7EBeer-White-Guys-Dance-Posters.jpg&hash=7b2db723f8ace382fa6fe111e3506f428c61be8f)
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sweet, another wingman. ha ha >:D
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sweet, another wingman. ha ha >:D
Hell yeah! Just watch this and imagine a Sly guy doing it!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uIf8y0h3lH0
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sweet, another wingman. ha ha >:D
Hell yeah! Just watch this and imagine a Sly guy doing it!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uIf8y0h3lH0
Please tell me you don't own any moon boots? :/O
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sweet, another wingman. ha ha >:D
Hell yeah! Just watch this and imagine a Sly guy doing it!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uIf8y0h3lH0
Please tell me you don't own any moon boots? :/O
Ummm, Uhhh, well, you know Eh, they are comfortable... ;D
Damn you Nomad and your display pic! now I'm wanting a crave case!!! :*))
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HotCajun wrote:
I'm leary of guys that say "I'm a nice guy" Usually that means they're not, no real nice guy would have to tell me they are...they can prove it, and the same goes for women!
I agree! Isn't that what they said about Jeffrey Dahmer and Ted Bundy - nice guys...
Actually, I was dating a girl in my early 20's that I was madly infatuated with - unfortunately she was a stripper and her lifestyle didn't mesh with mine too well - she wound up cheating on me with LOTS of men...and a few women - so that ended that - After we broke up she told me, "You know what your problem is...you are too nice. Girls want a challenge"
If you ask my lady I am sure she will tell you I am very nice - and a royal PITA as well!
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That's interesting about the whole nice guy thing, and how you can't be too nice. It's definitely a fine line you need to walk, between being nice and overly nice. I just need to find that line ;D
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Many women walk all over nice guys. They keep them as the "reserve guy" like a "just in case things dont work out with the jerks I am screwing, I can always fall back on (insert nice guys name here).
I have heard them cackle about it and discuss the lack of challenge.
Nice guys finish last... although they finish with a soul.
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Many women walk all over nice guys. They keep them as the "reserve guy" like a "just in case things dont work out with the jerks I am screwing, I can always fall back on (insert nice guys name here).
I have heard them cackle about it and discuss the lack of challenge.
Nice guys finish last... although they finish with a soul.
Yeah it kind of sucks. But oh well. I think it's good we're allowed to have a backbone and still be considered decent.
Another question for you online daters...you ever meet someone really cool with similar interests, but who you aren't physically attracted to? Just wondering how you all handle situations like that. I've never used online dating as a method to meet women, and I always wondered how I would handle a situation like that.
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Many women walk all over nice guys. They keep them as the "reserve guy" like a "just in case things dont work out with the jerks I am screwing, I can always fall back on (insert nice guys name here).
I have heard them cackle about it and discuss the lack of challenge.
Nice guys finish last... although they finish with a soul.
Forget that at your peril.
To women there are "casual sex guys" and "relationship guys". If you're pegged as the latter you may think you "got the girl", but the truth is: you'll be staying home taking care of the kids while she's out getting her garden plowed when she's supposed to be out with the girls on "Ladies Night Out". If you're OK with that, great.
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Many women walk all over nice guys. They keep them as the "reserve guy" like a "just in case things dont work out with the jerks I am screwing, I can always fall back on (insert nice guys name here).
I have heard them cackle about it and discuss the lack of challenge.
Nice guys finish last... although they finish with a soul.
Forget that at your peril.
To women there are "casual sex guys" and "relationship guys". If you're pegged as the latter you may think you "got the girl", but the truth is: you'll be staying home taking care of the kids while she's out getting her garden plowed when she's supposed to be out with the girls on "Ladies Night Out". If you're OK with that, great.
Well...glad I don't know many women like that.... :o
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Many women walk all over nice guys. They keep them as the "reserve guy" like a "just in case things dont work out with the jerks I am screwing, I can always fall back on (insert nice guys name here).
I have heard them cackle about it and discuss the lack of challenge.
Nice guys finish last... although they finish with a soul.
Forget that at your peril.
To women there are "casual sex guys" and "relationship guys". If you're pegged as the latter you may think you "got the girl", but the truth is: you'll be staying home taking care of the kids while she's out getting her garden plowed when she's supposed to be out with the girls on "Ladies Night Out". If you're OK with that, great.
Whew!! Talk about a pessimist.....
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Don't have much to say but just uploaded my picture and wanted to see if it worked excuse the face.
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Many women walk all over nice guys. They keep them as the "reserve guy" like a "just in case things dont work out with the jerks I am screwing, I can always fall back on (insert nice guys name here).
I have heard them cackle about it and discuss the lack of challenge.
Nice guys finish last... although they finish with a soul.
Forget that at your peril.
To women there are "casual sex guys" and "relationship guys". If you're pegged as the latter you may think you "got the girl", but the truth is: you'll be staying home taking care of the kids while she's out getting her garden plowed when she's supposed to be out with the girls on "Ladies Night Out". If you're OK with that, great.
Well hmmm, I am a nice guy and enjoy working the garden with many hoes.... >:D
I must be special..... lol :)
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What can I say........I'll always be brutally honest and I would want my friends to be the same way!!!! You wouldn't let your friend walk into a bar with a Boggie hanging out their nose would you!?!
I would, and then I would try to get them to talk to a nice looking girl! (is that bad?) ;D
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What can I say........I'll always be brutally honest and I would want my friends to be the same way!!!! You wouldn't let your friend walk into a bar with a Boggie hanging out their nose would you!?!
I would, and then I would try to get them to talk to a nice looking girl! (is that bad?) ;D
ok guys, anvil is not a great wingman. may be good to have around if a fight breaks out though. ha ha ha it would depend on my mood. i may tell him or just laugh when some hot chick tells him.
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Hey guys, I'm new here.
Forgive me, because I'm not sure if I should have posted this here(but I figured it'd be better than starting a new thread) or if I should even be posting here.
I'm not a Sly Guy (yet). I'm 24, and I began going bald when I was 17-18. I now have a receded hairline almost to the top of my head, but I keep my light-colored hair very short (1-2 on the buzzer).
I hope the lack of Slyness doesn't preclude me from posting here. I figured alot of you guys have experience in dating while not-yet-Sly.
I've been trying to find a date online because I'm trying to find a girl that dislikes the very bars and clubs at which most people meet dates.
I've had a really hard time with online dating. In the past couple months, I've responded to over 30 girls(with whom I definitely had much in common) on a few dating sites and Craigslist and have gotten less than 3 replies or so, and I'm almost positive it's because of the way I look. The few replies I did get have been from very overweight girls to whom I simply was not attracted.
I guess I have 2 questions so far:
1) I think one of my biggest problems is that in responses to girls, I generally put a disclaimer that I'm going bald and I can't expect them to overcome a lack of physical attraction, because I don't believe anyone should be expected to do that. I figure that the disclaimer would weed out girls with any doubt, because I'm actually looking for a relationship, not casual dating. I'm looking for someone who is sure she likes me for me. Is this disclaimer a bad idea?
2) Have any other guys here dealt with trying to date while balding at such a young age? I'm dying here.
3) (optional) Can anyone, in an unbiased fashion, conclude that going Sly is the only way? It's not really something I want right now.
Thanks guys.
PS- There are indeed girls my age looking for a serious relationship, regardless of some of the out-of-touch talk I've heard on various parts of this board.
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1) I think one of my biggest problems is that in responses to girls, I generally put a disclaimer that I'm going bald and I can't expect them to overcome a lack of physical attraction, because I don't believe anyone should be expected to do that. I figure that the disclaimer would weed out girls with any doubt, because I'm actually looking for a relationship, not casual dating. I'm looking for someone who is sure she likes me for me. Is this disclaimer a bad idea?
2) Have any other guys here dealt with trying to date while balding at such a young age? I'm dying here.
3) (optional) Can anyone, in an unbiased fashion, conclude that going Sly is the only way? It's not really something I want right now.
Hey man. Welcome. Balding at a young age is tough; i know what you've gone through and are going through. First off, i think it will be tough to find a woman until you somewhat comes to terms with yourself. It's not your hair that's holding you back, it's your brain. I think we all know what it's like to have those daily battles in our heads, regardless of what the topic is; it's natural. But we can overcome that.
You will find it SO much easier to find the perfect lady, when you are happy with yourself. I know, easier said than done. Honestly, being part of this site, has helped me a lot. I am a different baldy, than I was the first day i found this forum.
1) Personally, I would not put the disclaimer. It presents you as a depressed dude. I know of ladies that do not prefer the bald look, but have been surprised that they prefer some bald men after getting to know them, mostly based on their confidence. Then, there's ladies that DO like the look, and you don't have to worry about getting to know them >:D.
Anyway, I think the disclaimer takes the focus off of you as a person, and makes you seem like a robot with a balding head.
2) I've been depressed about being bald, but the reality is, no one cares. If they do, its a small speed bump in their life, and they just wasted 5 minutes thinking about it.
3) I won't put the blade to your skull and say SHAVE YOUR DOME. But I will say that you may be happily suprised with how it looks. It might pick you up from the mundane repitition of everday life. It's not about having a bare head. Like many guys have said, it is about taking control of the situation.
PM me, I have a lot of thoughts about balding at a young age. Most may be innacurate theories.. but their still thoughts :)
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hey b-b: 1st of all welcome 2 the sly fraternity. post up in the INTRODUCTION section of the forum so that we can give ya a proper welcome. it is BETTER 2 embrace your baldness & just "shave your dome". embracing your baldness is better than balding. so... take control of your baldness & erase your depression by getting a quality razor like the fusion, mach3, or headblade.
as far as getting dates... women will notice your new found confidence once U take control. again...welcome 2 the sly fraternity & keep us posted 2 your road 2 slyness. O0
WARHAWK O0
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Welcome to the Forum B-i-t-B! Post up in the intro section... you may get more responses...
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Many women walk all over nice guys. They keep them as the "reserve guy" like a "just in case things dont work out with the jerks I am screwing, I can always fall back on (insert nice guys name here).
I have heard them cackle about it and discuss the lack of challenge.
Nice guys finish last... although they finish with a soul.
Forget that at your peril.
To women there are "casual sex guys" and "relationship guys". If you're pegged as the latter you may think you "got the girl", but the truth is: you'll be staying home taking care of the kids while she's out getting her garden plowed when she's supposed to be out with the girls on "Ladies Night Out". If you're OK with that, great.
Well hmmm, I am a nice guy and enjoy working the garden with many hoes.... >:D
I must be special..... lol :)
That's why you got to be CONFIDENT in yourself as a MAN.
I don't think I'm some super stud, but I'm not about to let B**ches play games like that. You can't be spineless, and you gotta read the signs... if you're getting played, get your sh*t and get out. Don't treat them like they are the only woman you could ever marry, and they might be the "one" you want to marry, but even a twerp has to draw a line somewhere