Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: outsider82 on April 12, 2008, 09:15:25 AM
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Hey guys,
I need some advice/opinions.
Lately I've faced some comments by friends/family in regards to my slyness.
Just this weekend I was on a motorbike ride with my father, he was commenting on a picture of a few years ago when I had hair. He was saying that i looked so much better with longer hair. Also my friends have been saying the same thing.
Its made me start to reconsider my slyness.
You all know I love being Sly and I love the feeling of a smooth dome. I particularly love the look of it on me.
My question to everyone is this, A. should i keep the smooth dome. And B. Is there a way to improve the the look on me?
Here is the length my dad was refering to.
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi37.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fe95%2Foutsider542%2F23-nov-2006%2FDSC02096.jpg&hash=e5d0ba85480eae496244e35922ef941849f2eb68)
Here is the most recent pic i have of my slyness, (granted it could be a better photo)
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi37.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fe95%2Foutsider542%2FP4100135.jpg&hash=dd25a1602d68f29e2395a37acf183b10fc56c138)
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Hey bro, you need to ask yourself what you like. I think you look fine shaved but also with hair.
Your about to hit spring/summer, so you will be getting some sun on the dome. Not alot to improve on!
You can change your facial hair, shave the stash, keep the goat. Thin beard down the chin or none, etc.
Do what makes you feel good and forget everyones opinion, the bottom line is you live with it.
You may even switch from summer-bald to winter-hair. Personally, I do what attracts more women to me because I like the attention, and for me its definately the shaved look.
Either way you go, you just need to always keep it Sly! 8)
Good luck bro!
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Hey Brother, I would say It does,nt matter what any one else says or thinks about your look cos if your happy with the Sly look, then keep it ( I personaly think it suits you). If deep down your not then grow your hair back to how it was, but what ever you do, do it cos its what you want! Nothing else matters!
Jim
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I think you look good either way, and I'm a little jealous that you have the option. Maybe you could split the time... say 4 or 5 of the colder months grow some hair, and keep it sly the rest of the time. Glad to hear you're still hanging here. Let us know what you decide.
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plain and simple do what makes YOU happy not anybody else! 8) 8) 8)
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I am happy being sly, It just bugs me that most my friends started out saying it looks cool, but now they've changed their minds back.
Further to the story with my Dad yesterday, He went on to say that he thinks that i should grow it while i still can. He has a personal trainer who is a sly guy and he shaves his head because he doesn't like his bright red hair.
Dad did however ask me why I shave my head, I said "Because I can, and its something different for a while".
My dad refuses to believe that I have the beginnings of MPB.
Anyway, I always intended on keeping it Sly, just their comments get to me sometimes.
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It looks to me like you have 2 good options. Either look good on you. So just decide what you like and others will eventually adapt.
Best of luck.
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I am happy being sly,
Anyway, I always intended on keeping it Sly, just their comments get to me sometimes.
out: there's your answer right there: "i am happy being sly". that's all that really matters. i'm glad that U R doing what makes U happy and it looks like U R gonna keep the noggin' slick & smooooth. O0
WARHAWK O0
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Hey,
thanks for the reply posts guys.
My dad's comments just got to me yesterday, It makes me feel like i look rediculous with a smooth dome. I know i like the look on me, just that no one else seems to.
Before I moved out last year I had hair and no earrings, so i think they still see me as a kid and not the handsome man I am now.
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Outsider,I think you look good either way but I have to be honest and say that I think you look better with the hair.Of course that's just my own personal opinion.It does not mean that you don't look good without it.You can go either way.The bottom line is to do what your gut feeling tells you.Also you don't look like you're starting with MPB to me.I say enjoy the hair while you have it and then down the line if MPB becomes noticable you have plenty of time to shave it. However this is entirely up to you.
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Outsider,I think you look good either way but I have to be honest and say that I think you look better with the hair.Of course that's just my own personal opinion.It does not mean that you don't look good without it.You can go either way.The bottom line is to do what your gut feeling tells you.Also you don't look like you're starting with MPB to me.I say enjoy the hair while you have it and then down the line if MPB becomes noticable you have plenty of time to shave it. However this is entirely up to you.
Keep in mind that picture of me with hair is about 3 yrs old when it was hardly noticable. Its a different story now
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I am happy being sly,
Anyway, I always intended on keeping it Sly, just their comments get to me sometimes.
out: there's your answer right there: "i am happy being sly". that's all that really matters. i'm glad that U R doing what makes U happy and it looks like U R gonna keep the noggin' slick & smooooth. O0
WARHAWK O0
Out! Glad to see you back bro! I think you answered your own question and WH pointed it out "I am happy being sly."
Hey,
thanks for the reply posts guys.
My dad's comments just got to me yesterday, It makes me feel like i look rediculous with a smooth dome. I know i like the look on me, just that no one else seems to.
Before I moved out last year I had hair and no earrings, so i think they still see me as a kid and not the handsome man I am now.
Sounds like you feel better about yourself when you're sly - so do what makes you happy man! We're here for ya either way.
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I think you look good sly, to me it is much more than just about the look. Non sly people just don't get it, so don't worry what others say, if you like it.
There must be a nickname for people with hair. Nudists have one for people who wear clothes, it is Textiles. "Here come some Textiles to take a look!".
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well i do have to say ...your fathers opinion is going to affect you more than your friends ideas...how you look is your choice..not theres....you could have hair and were the wrong cloths....then your father would have something to say about it...I have learned there is no pleasing anyone but my self.......and yes i scare kids..but my three kids love my bald head...so as for what other people think ...i say...do what you feel is better for you not other people...and as for the father thing they are the hardest persons to please....
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Non sly people just don't get it, so don't worry what others say, if you like it.
This quote is exactly correct in my experience. I just used this the other day. At my Little League practice one of the kids on my team who's dad helps me out was busting my butt about not having hair. Well one of other assisstant coaches is also SLY. I just looked at him and said," He just doesn't get it does he?". We both laughed and the other guy said "what do you mean?". Us two SLY guys just laughed again and I said" You better hope your wife never sleeps with a SLY guy". My other SLY coach and I cracked up and just walked aeay. The other guy ( a good friend of mine) just gave an uncomfortable laugh and looked kind of dumb founded.
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Sorry!!!! I didn't mean to hijack the thread! I think you are one of the rare guys that looks good either way. DO WHAT YOU WANT!!! It's your life.......
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Your opinion of your own appearance is the most critical thing.
If your current hairline is the same as it was in the 3 yr old pic you posted, you definitely have options. Like others have said, it's nice to have that option.
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I went through the same with my dad, my dad still prefers me with hair, but i have a tripple whammy, i have folliculitius 9 skin condition), thinning hairline, and a receding hairline, my dad has a full head of hair, no skin condition, and he still has his natural hair colour, and he is a senior citizen.
I say do whatever you prefer
I would keep it slick if i were you
I am happy being sly, It just bugs me that most my friends started out saying it looks cool, but now they've changed their minds back.
Further to the story with my Dad yesterday, He went on to say that he thinks that i should grow it while i still can. He has a personal trainer who is a sly guy and he shaves his head because he doesn't like his bright red hair.
Dad did however ask me why I shave my head, I said "Because I can, and its something different for a while".
My dad refuses to believe that I have the beginnings of MPB.
Anyway, I always intended on keeping it Sly, just their comments get to me sometimes.
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Dude, especially if you're balding more now..
DO NOT attempt a grow out...why..? to feel self conscience...
have a heart to heart with dad and anyone you care about..
tell them you feel much more in control when your head is shaved smooth..
no worries and a ton more confidence..
but grow it, if that's what YOU want..
i think you rock the bald head though bro!
Keep it bald brutha!
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Dude, especially if you're balding more now..
DO NOT attempt a grow out...why..? to feel self conscience...
have a heart to heart with dad and anyone you care about..
tell them you feel much more in control when your head is shaved smooth..
no worries and a ton more confidence..
but grow it, if that's what YOU want..
i think you rock the bald head though bro!
Keep it bald brutha!
thanks BaldAndre and others.
That pic is three years old like i said.
I did talk to dad then, he basically asked me why, I said that its what i want to do and its something different for a while. I actually should have also said that it makes me worry less about the thining/receding hair line.
He went on to tell me that I should grow it while i can as i might not be able to otherwise.
The end point is this, i hate how my hair grows now as the sides grow fast as does the the middle, which ends up having a strange shape when you look at me from front on. Like someone has taken at me with clippers and not finished. It is true though, when i let it grow out (hardly ever now) I am always checking out my scalp and hair.
I'm gonna keep it sly for quite some time. 8) I dont like having hair now. I now need to work on shaving it daily without the irritation, :Xo!
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Hey Outsider,
Dude life's too short and you can't please everyone. You have to do what makes you happy. I'm gonna give my 5cents worth of advice here. Your avatar has you with a goat and so does the old pic you posted with hair.
The goat and hair combo looks fine. But the goat with your head shave makes your face appear long.
You ROCK the beard and shaved head in your "recent" photo. I say that's your best look, so stand firm and keep shaving your head (and not your beard)!
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I actually should have also said that it makes me worry less about the thining/receding hair line.
I'm gonna keep it sly for quite some time. 8) I dont like having hair now. I now need to work on shaving it daily without the irritation, :Xo!
I think ,when it's a natural conversation bring THAT point up...it's huge ,especially for a dad..why wouldn't he want you to be a strong ,confident person..I'm sure in the end he'll understand!
Awesome, you should keep it bro, bald fits ya brutha! Shave it daily and moisturize, it DOES help with the irritation!
Keep it smooth dude...it's YOU! O0
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Just my opinion. Beard. Make it go bye-bye. Then see what happens. If people close to you don't like the look, look at their opinion and see what you can change to achieve the true Sly perceptions from others. I didn't phrase that right, but you get the point. People will get used to it, just keep it up and watch how your loved ones will get used to it
No matter what, if you like your sly look that's what matters. Remember, it's all a matter of confidence in your look and how you feel.
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Yeah I did a double wammy - head and mustache.
I got rid of my crutches.....
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No matter what, if you like your sly look that's what matters. Remember, it's all a matter of confidence in your look and how you feel.
Exactly!
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That's it. It's all about what makes you feel good.
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While browsing posts I ran across the pic of you Sly with the full beard. Just wanted to say that is a really great look for you. Are you just sporting the goatee now like your avatar picture?
Red
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Originally posted by Simplyred
While browsing posts I ran across the pic of you Sly with the full beard. Just wanted to say that is a really great look for you. Are you just sporting the goatee now like your avatar picture?
Totally agree with Red. The beard and the sly look is the best for you. I like it better then the hair pic also.
Good luck Dude and do what makes you happy, the others will soon move on and get used to your new style.
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What do you feel better with?????
Your father and friend, are just used to seeing you in a different way. If they were used to seeing you with no hair, and all of a sudden you grew it, they would tell you to shave it.
It is mentally hard for someone to adjust to a strong physical change, such as this.
If you like the way you are now, tell your family and loved ones that this is how you are now. I'm sure they will accept and love you the same. And I'll bet in a couple of years, when you are riding with your father (awesome by the way), if you put a wig on, he would say you looked better bald.
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Amen to what Mikeoz13 said. One thing I have learned in 44 years is if you spend yoru time trying to please other people...YOU are the one who will suffer. Stand in a room with 20 different people and you will have 20 different opinions. And opinions change. The only one that really matters is the one you have of YOU!
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Amen to what Mikeoz13 said. One thing I have learned in 44 years is if you spend yoru time trying to please other people...YOU are the one who will suffer. Stand in a room with 20 different people and you will have 20 different opinions. And opinions change. The only one that really matters is the one you have of YOU!
You are wise beyond your years, grasshopper. What great advice for guys on the fence.
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Thank you Paul....I think no one said it better than Dr. Wayne W. Dyer...(another SLY guy)
"There is no way to happiness........happiness IS the way"
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You asked for my opinion, and I'll give it. That pic with you and the bald head and the beard is freakin' sweet. I wish I could rock the combo as well as you can.
But as it has already been said, you need to do what makes you happy, not what makes other people happy.
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You know you could grow out a wicked long goatee and braid it and put beads in it. That would be sick.
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Honest answer: with hair.