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Title: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: spaceape48 on December 20, 2006, 05:19:48 PM
I'll start with a lil bit about myself: I'm 22/m with thinning hair on the top of my head. I received this genetic gift from my grandfather, and I have been dealing with it since about senior year high school. Just the other day I was looking at old pics, some from just a year ago, and it is amazing how quickly it's all starting to fade. It's getting to a point now where in certain light it looks ridiculous, almost as if I am already bald on top. It used to bother me but I'm getting over it.

I've been planning to shave it off eventually, but till now decided to wait for two reasons; to enjoy the hair while I can, and secondly to try and loose some weight. I'd buzzed my hair down a couple times in the past to about a one or two guard, but due to being an overweight guy, couldn't help but worry that I looked like Uncle Fester from "The Adams Family".

In the past year I've lost about thirty pounds, putting me down to about 215lbs at 5'10. I'm still a big dude, but not like before. I like to think muscle weighs more than fat anyhow. I've been reading up on this site and others, and have decided to quit trying to hold on to the hair, and to simply let it go. The feeling of the wind through your hair is one thing, but the feel of the wind over a bald dome is a completely different and better feeling. This Friday I'm going to stop and get some shaving oil and some after-cair, from there it's happening.

I'll do my best to post pics of before and after.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Robmeister on December 20, 2006, 05:28:17 PM
Welcome, space....

Glad to hear you're goin' for it.  Wish I could join you...but I too am losing a bit of weight before I do it.

Congrats on the weight loss! that's not an unsubstantial accomplishment!

Try to get a pic in your profile and share your shave experience with us!

Peace, brutha
robmeister
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: PBurke on December 20, 2006, 05:29:03 PM
welcome spaceape. go for it brother. you will not regret it. but you have to tell us the story behind the name. it is funny and i gotta know the story.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: wpruitt on December 20, 2006, 05:29:32 PM
Welcome to the club, bro
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: happyharry on December 20, 2006, 05:34:27 PM
A warm welcome from me as well. :)

It's great you decided to give it a go. I had similar concerns (I too was overweight, and I too had inherited it from my grandfather - the thinning hair, not the pounds), so I can totally understand your point of view on this.

Give it a go, and you'll see it was totally worthwhile. Check out the shaving section for tips and advice on
how to shave your head, or just ask any of us, we'd be glad to help.

Looking forward to seeing your pics...
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Tyler on December 20, 2006, 06:06:34 PM
Welcome Spaceape!!  Looking forward to seeing those pics!  Congrats on your new decision.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: chadoweasel on December 20, 2006, 06:25:49 PM
Welcome

Let us know how it turns out. Its fun to read about someone shaving it off for the first time. Im happy for you.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: ar3inc on December 20, 2006, 06:51:36 PM
Well yet another great welcome from me as well, SpaceApe!  As many have alread said and as I have in the past, just do it!  You most likly love it and wonder why it took so long to take the jump.  If for some reason you don't like it, well the stuff does grow back. ;)
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: spaceape48 on December 20, 2006, 07:37:25 PM
Thanks all. The name is just something me and a friend laughed about back in highschool. I guess it's just stuck with me threw the years. I've been likened to an ape or monkey many times- that's really the only origin I can give you,lol.

Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Medic aka Rocko on December 20, 2006, 07:41:27 PM

 I like to think muscle weighs more than fat anyhow.


It does!  Congrats on the weight loss, and welcome aboard the sly express!!!
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: BaldRob on December 20, 2006, 09:20:45 PM
Hi and welcome spaceape!

As you said, you're enjoying your hair while you can... but don't wait too long and be one of "those comb-over guys"   :P
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Christian on December 21, 2006, 06:14:50 AM
Welcome!

Just shave your head and see if you like it. As you already have thinning hair I guess that it is the best idea and a lot of ppl will understand why you shaved and say: best idea ... that looks great now. :)
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Noner on December 21, 2006, 02:38:44 PM
Spaceape,

As your welcome present I will bestow upon you a new analogy that I just came up with for hair on a guys head.

Ahem...........


Hair on a guys head, is like a bra on a woman.

Once you take it off, you don't want it back on!

Noner
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: ar3inc on December 21, 2006, 02:41:23 PM
Once again Noner proves his wisdom!  That is why he is a famous guy.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: wpruitt on December 21, 2006, 02:45:13 PM
Spaceape,

As your welcome present I will bestow upon you a new analogy that I just came up with for hair on a guys head.

Ahem...........


Hair on a guys head, is like a bra on a woman.

Once you take it off, you don't want it back on!

Noner

We know you know about one, Noner .... now what do you know about the second .......................
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Noner on December 21, 2006, 02:53:41 PM
We know you know about one, Noner .... now what do you know about the second .......................

Well I did steal my lay-day's cosmo once.  8)
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: wpruitt on December 21, 2006, 02:58:35 PM
and what did you learn, bro?
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: happyharry on December 21, 2006, 03:00:37 PM
I've lost track here. What's a cosmo? ???
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: spaceape48 on December 21, 2006, 05:36:37 PM
I think he means the magazine cosmo?
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: happyharry on December 21, 2006, 05:51:12 PM
Aaaah... I see.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Tyler on December 21, 2006, 05:56:16 PM
Unless he was being real mean and stealing her alcohol...but then again, I don't think Noner drinks cosmos... ???
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: David on December 21, 2006, 06:00:53 PM
Unless he was being real mean and stealing her alcohol...but then again, I don't think Noner drinks cosmos... ???

Sometimes it's for their own good though, as they've already had one too many.     ;D
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: wpruitt on December 21, 2006, 06:05:59 PM
And sometimes it good to steal her magazine Cosmo .... Lay - dees can get some crazy ideas out of those magazines.  And we usually learn about them from a sentence begining with "We need to talk ....."!
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: PBurke on December 21, 2006, 06:15:19 PM
And sometimes it good to steal her magazine Cosmo .... Lay - dees can get some crazy ideas out of those magazines.  And we usually learn about them from a sentence begining with "We need to talk ....."!
which usually translates to" i am gonna talk and you are gonna listen. i don't care if it the bottom of the ninth in game seven. i need to babble and you need to listen......." am i right?
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: David on December 21, 2006, 06:33:46 PM
And sometimes it good to steal her magazine Cosmo .... Lay - dees can get some crazy ideas out of those magazines.  And we usually learn about them from a sentence begining with "We need to talk ....."!
which usually translates to" i am gonna talk and you are gonna listen. i don't care if it the bottom of the ninth in game seven. i need to babble and you need to listen......." am i right?

If it's bottom of the ninth in game seven she can wait.    There are some things more important than relationship stuff at times.    No way i'm discussing that at that time.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: PBurke on December 21, 2006, 06:37:05 PM
If it's bottom of the ninth in game seven she can wait.    There are some things more important than relationship stuff at times.    No way i'm discussing that at that time. quote by david... i have to agree. only worse than that is trying to talk to me during LSU football.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Robmeister on December 21, 2006, 07:05:59 PM
If it's bottom of the ninth in game seven she can wait.    There are some things more important than relationship stuff at times.    No way i'm discussing that at that time.

It's clear you're not married, David.  ;)
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Robmeister on December 21, 2006, 07:18:20 PM
No offense, David...just messin' around.   

Marriage should never be viewed as an ending, but a beginning.  And if you find the right woman and lay a foundation of good communication and trust, those issues CAN be assuaged.

In 14 years of marriage, I really don't recall getting the "We've gotta talk..."

Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: David on December 21, 2006, 11:10:58 PM
If it's bottom of the ninth in game seven she can wait.    There are some things more important than relationship stuff at times.    No way i'm discussing that at that time.

It's clear you're not married, David.  ;)

Even if I was married, there are times and places for that.    What do you think your wife would say if you talked during her favorite sitcom?   Shut up, go in the other room, I'm watching my show.    No different here.   

I would politely say, I am watching the ninth inning of the final game of the World Series, when this ends, we can discuss whatever you want to discuss.   
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Tyler on December 22, 2006, 04:01:10 AM
If it's bottom of the ninth in game seven she can wait.    There are some things more important than relationship stuff at times.    No way i'm discussing that at that time.

It's clear you're not married, David.  ;)

Even if I was married, there are times and places for that.    What do you think your wife would say if you talked during her favorite sitcom?   Shut up, go in the other room, I'm watching my show.    No different here.   

I would politely say, I am watching the ninth inning of the final game of the World Series, when this ends, we can discuss whatever you want to discuss.   

I don't want to discourage you from getting married because it's much better than being single.  But, good luck with that!  Women don't think that way.  We would never talk to them about anything important when they are watching a sitcom.  But, when they want to talk to us about something important, in their mind, it's MORE important than ANYTHING you could be doing at that time.  Even the 9th inning of game 7.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: BaldRob on December 22, 2006, 06:29:33 AM
If it's bottom of the ninth in game seven she can wait.    There are some things more important than relationship stuff at times.    No way i'm discussing that at that time.

It's clear you're not married, David.  ;)

Even if I was married, there are times and places for that.    What do you think your wife would say if you talked during her favorite sitcom?   Shut up, go in the other room, I'm watching my show.    No different here.   

I would politely say, I am watching the ninth inning of the final game of the World Series, when this ends, we can discuss whatever you want to discuss.   

I don't want to discourage you from getting married because it's much better than being single.  But, good luck with that!  Women don't think that way.  We would never talk to them about anything important when they are watching a sitcom.  But, when they want to talk to us about something important, in their mind, it's MORE important than ANYTHING you could be doing at that time.  Even the 9th inning of game 7.

I wouldn't go as far as saying being married is better than being single... each has it's obvious advantages and disadvantages.  Which is better is a personal opinion.   :P

However, I will whole heartedly agree... when they want to talk, it's time to talk, no matter what's on, what time it is, where you are, etc!  When I was married a long, long time ago... she used to want to talk as I was falling asleep!  It's a different mindset than the way we think... Like you said, "We would never talk to them about anything important when they are watching a sitcom" because we would look at it as "hey, that's there favorite show, I'll wait til it's over to talk to her."

Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: wpruitt on December 22, 2006, 06:43:48 AM
Well, to summarize what we are all saying .... it's on her timetable and not ours!  The worst for me was a chick who choose Atlanta rush hour traffic to say "we need to talk".  The most I could do was say "uh huh" ... or wreck!
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: PBurke on December 22, 2006, 07:19:49 AM
I do agree that when she wanyts to talk we should talk.  but why do they sit quiet for hours and wait until the worst time( at least for us) to decide to talk. i just want to understand the reasoning for the timing.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: BaldRob on December 22, 2006, 07:47:33 AM
I do agree that when she wanyts to talk we should talk.  but why do they sit quiet for hours and wait until the worst time( at least for us) to decide to talk. i just want to understand the reasoning for the timing.

That's the universal unanswered question...  ???
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: PBurke on December 22, 2006, 08:43:28 AM
maybe one day??!!
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: ar3inc on December 22, 2006, 12:39:11 PM
Two things here;
First, Chris Rock has a pretty good routine on his Never Scared show about marriage.  He basically puts in to, “You’re either married and bored, or single and lonely.  There ain’t no happy about it.” (that may be a couple words off since I quoted from memory)
Second, simple fix: DVD-R.

In any rate it is just baseball, it's not like an important sport. ;)
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Tyler on December 22, 2006, 01:13:47 PM

I wouldn't go as far as saying being married is better than being single... each has it's obvious advantages and disadvantages.  Which is better is a personal opinion.   :P


Can you tell I'm still in the honeymoon phase?
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: BaldRob on December 22, 2006, 01:33:34 PM

I wouldn't go as far as saying being married is better than being single... each has it's obvious advantages and disadvantages.  Which is better is a personal opinion.   :P


Can you tell I'm still in the honeymoon phase?

Yep!   ;)
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: spaceape48 on December 22, 2006, 03:42:29 PM
Two things here;
First, Chris Rock has a pretty good routine on his Never Scared show about marriage.  He basically puts in to, “You’re either married and bored, or single and lonely.  There ain’t no happy about it.” (that may be a couple words off since I quoted from memory)
Second, simple fix: DVD-R.

In any rate it is just baseball, it's not like an important sport. ;)

At least when your married you get some once in a while- when your single there's always the dreaded dry spells. One of the other problems I have with being single is all of my friends are married or engaged, so when they invite me out with them and "some friends", it usually means couples and me,lol.

But like they say, the grass always appears greener on the other side.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: wpruitt on December 22, 2006, 08:05:42 PM
Yeah, but according to some of my married friends, it starts drying up after the honeymoon phase and a full blown drought hits after a couple of kids.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: spaceape48 on December 22, 2006, 08:24:17 PM
Being married should constitute at least once every two weeks. If it dries up all together then the woman isn't getting enough out of the effort to make it worth her while. You have to put in some extra effort when it gets to that point, or trade her in for a newer model.  ;D
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: schro on December 23, 2006, 03:04:02 AM
Being married should constitute at least once every two weeks. If it dries up all together then the woman isn't getting enough out of the effort to make it worth her while. You have to put in some extra effort when it gets to that point, or trade her in for a newer model.  ;D

Yeah. but trading her in would be a very expensive proposition. When you're single, it's "Hey, give me back my CDs and my jacket" and you're done.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: happyharry on December 23, 2006, 03:55:32 AM
Tyler's right, David: Being married is much better than being single.

However, as far as sitcoms are concerned, well, they're an odd phenomenon.
I'd be talking to my ex while she was watching her show, and she'd say "Yes, dear" and "Mm-hm" and nod. But I knew she wasn't listening at all - she would switch her vocal system in her mind on autopilot while assigning all available attention units to the show. And this automatic mechanism would talk to me - and oftentimes the responses would even made sense. What an amazing machine the human mind is...

And later that same day I'd approach her and say:
"hey, what about your promise?!".
"What promise?"
"What we discussed earlier today at noon time"
"No, I think you're mistaken. I was watching the show then, don't remember talking
to you..."

Anyway, it's a funny thing. Something to laugh about over a beer with friends, since we all have this in common. :) It's certainly nothing very serious, nothing that can lead to serious problems, I'm sure.


 
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Robmeister on December 23, 2006, 06:14:08 AM
...it starts drying up after the honeymoon phase and a full blown drought hits after a couple of kids.

Only if you let it

trade her in for a newer model.  ;D

That could go both ways....WE could be traded in for a newer model.....and deserve it!!
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: David on December 23, 2006, 12:01:42 PM
First off,  I never said marriage isn't better than single life.   I know it is.    Second, marriage or any relationship is about give/take/compromise.   Or the smile/nod look if you prefer  ;D

And lastly, i'm fairly sure that by the time this would occur in an important relationship of mine, the ground rules on both sides would have been set and we know when to not disturb each other.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: spaceape48 on December 25, 2006, 05:48:15 PM
I shaved my head Friday. It has that pale look to it so some sun is needed. Too bad it's been raining the past few days. It feels great, but I'm not so sure it's the look for me. I might just let it shadow out a bit more-haven't made my mind up yet. Will do my best to get pics. The reactions I've gotten from people is funny none the less. I find I intimidate people easier now. There is def more attention paid to me than before.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: PigPen on December 26, 2006, 07:43:48 AM
I shaved my head Friday. It has that pale look to it so some sun is needed. Too bad it's been raining the past few days. It feels great, but I'm not so sure it's the look for me. I might just let it shadow out a bit more-haven't made my mind up yet. Will do my best to get pics. The reactions I've gotten from people is funny none the less. I find I intimidate people easier now. There is def more attention paid to me than before.

A bald head does tend to stand out in the crowd a little more
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Tyler on December 26, 2006, 01:04:04 PM
I shaved my head Friday. It has that pale look to it so some sun is needed. Too bad it's been raining the past few days. It feels great, but I'm not so sure it's the look for me. I might just let it shadow out a bit more-haven't made my mind up yet. Will do my best to get pics. The reactions I've gotten from people is funny none the less. I find I intimidate people easier now. There is def more attention paid to me than before.

Congrats on making the shave!!  Have you gotten your first head rub yet?
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: ar3inc on December 26, 2006, 01:44:10 PM
Congrats on the shave, spaceape48!  With your head being pale it is understandable to want to grow it back out, but you might want to give it some time first or maybe hit a tanning bed for a few minutes to see how it really look on you.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Noner on December 26, 2006, 03:06:31 PM
I don't want to discourage you from getting married because it's much better than being single.  But, good luck with that!  Women don't think that way.  We would never talk to them about anything important when they are watching a sitcom.  But, when they want to talk to us about something important, in their mind, it's MORE important than ANYTHING you could be doing at that time.  Even the 9th inning of game 7.

You better not be lying to me Tyler.
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Noner on December 26, 2006, 03:09:08 PM
I shaved my head Friday. It has that pale look to it so some sun is needed. Too bad it's been raining the past few days. It feels great, but I'm not so sure it's the look for me. I might just let it shadow out a bit more-haven't made my mind up yet. Will do my best to get pics. The reactions I've gotten from people is funny none the less. I find I intimidate people easier now. There is def more attention paid to me than before.

Just make sure to get lotion with SPF in it. You don't want a sun burn on your noggin! UV rays will fry your brain even in the winter.

Cograts on shaving your head and welcome to the world of slybaldguys!

Noner
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: Tyler on December 26, 2006, 05:25:14 PM
I don't want to discourage you from getting married because it's much better than being single.  But, good luck with that!  Women don't think that way.  We would never talk to them about anything important when they are watching a sitcom.  But, when they want to talk to us about something important, in their mind, it's MORE important than ANYTHING you could be doing at that time.  Even the 9th inning of game 7.

You better not be lying to me Tyler.

I believe it to be true!
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: PigPen on December 26, 2006, 05:49:34 PM
It's already been said, they both have their advantages and disadvantages. There are times when I'm glad I'm married. There are other times I really wish I was single. Been with the wife six years now as of Christmas Day, and our wedding anniversary is in April.

I find it amusing that she gets mad at me when I do the same ol stuff I used to do that pisses her off. For example, first time she told me I was cut off, I responded with "You can't cut me off, you don't know where I'm gettin it." Wow she didn't like that so much.

In short, I'm not the best person to come to for relationship advice. However, if ya wanna piss her off, I'm your man...just ask my wife
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: ar3inc on December 26, 2006, 05:57:41 PM
hehe... I am writing that one down and placing it behind the Break in Case of Emergency glass for relationships
Title: Re: Deciding to give it a go-
Post by: PigPen on December 26, 2006, 05:58:25 PM
Glad I could be of assistance ar3!