Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => General Discussion => Topic started by: JMMARICH on April 02, 2008, 10:03:33 AM
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I was sitting here thinking how self-conscious I am about being newly sly, and what its going to be like to go out and be in public, go to church sunday, etc... and I started really thinking about the source of this discomfort.
Society has fu<ked with my mind. No doubt about it. I was looking at all of the pictures of other members, and 100% of the time I thought "that dude looks badass bald". Then I thought about people I see on a semi-constant level who are shaved and I have never thought once that one of them looked stupid.
But why do I have so many self-doubts about how I look? Thanks society! F it. Think I am going to go for a run and show off the dome. Enough rambling by me. :)
--Josh
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Josh-
Remember... this is new to you and you have to get used to looking at yourself with your new look. I think most, if not all of us, went thru this to some extent. That's why so many of us recommend giving the look some time.
Believe me, the shaved look is good on you........Hang tight Bro' O0
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I think you're just being human and certainly not vane. As a cop, I routinely appear in the newspaper or TV news, often in the background at car crashes, crime scenes, etc and I dont like looking at myself. Im always thinking Im just a "Widening" middle aged man that needs to run even more than I do now to get rid of the 10 extra pds I also dont like listening to my own voice. I,ve heard actors say the same thing-thye dont watching they're own movies for the same reasons.
Most folks are too critical of themselves-we view ourselves in a way that others generally dont.
Welcome to a better way with the headshave. I took mine off way back in 1983.
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Welcome Josh!!! Read some the post and you'll see that SLYness is the attitude. Not all shaved guys have it. Your pic looks great, don't worry what others think.
Max
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Yup bro...consider yourself in a big time of change....
every year it gets more and more in the norm...
where it proud and with confidence and the only looks you'll get because your bald are because people love the look you're rockin'!
Keep it smooth !
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josh...it's okay 2 feel that way but sometimes U can't let it consume U. i mean what R U gonna do...seclude yourself in your house. hell no... i say go out there and show it off!!! like U said: just go out 4 a run and show off that sly, slick dome. take care and keep us posted with the reactions. O0
WARHAWK O0
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It happens bro. Especially for a while right after the shave. Just because it's something new to you. But like the others have said, don't let it consume you and get to you too much. It's much more widely excepted now and the people that aren't excepting it are the ones with the problem. O0
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Josh, you definitely rock the look. Just give it some time to sink in. The shades also look good.
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Welcome Josh... O0
So how does it feel, I mean when you look at yourself?? That is the most important thing, F society...It's a good look for Ya.... O0
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Hello, Josh!
Of course, it's a new feeling for you. But your sly head looks very good. Go out and lighten the world with your shining dome. O0 O0 :D O0 O0
As most of us you will get very few comments, and when only positive ones!
J
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I didn't have any problem w/ it, but I can understand some guys do. I'm one of those guys who was SO self-conscious about the "hole in the back" the weakening comb-over etc., that I felt more FREE than anything else. I don't understand the guys who can go out w/ the dying remains of their "hair" at some point I have to think they're going to come to their senses about how half-A$$ed they look and run and shave it off.
You look great, and I bet the feel of the "wind on the skin" made that run feel great--and pushed you to do a better time. "Air through sparse hair" ain't the way to travel, is it?
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Josh...congrats man. Looks good. We have all been there...and when you do go out....you will feel like everyone is staring at you..even people who dont even know you. After a few outtings you will soon forget all about it. You will walk with your head held high and saying THIS IS ME DAMNIT! LOL Bald and Proud! Wear it with PRIDE dude....cause you got it.
See ya Timmayy!
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Josh, you're rockin' the sly dome!
Though, society does eff with us. Just look how media treated the bald guy up until a couple of years ago. Now, we're starting to see a shift in that and you see several sly guys on the screen in a positive light.
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True. Too long we were the bad guy.
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Everyone is looking for a BEACON in their life. Shine on Josh. The SLY in you will truely expose itself once the brief adjustment period subsides. You're looking top notch my man!
RustyRuss
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Welcome Josh: Self-conscious? Yup. Me too. I was more worried about it before I shaved my head the first time than I was once I did it. Like you mentioned, I was stressed about what people would think/say at work and even church!
Then reality set in after I took it down with a Mach 3. Newflash: no one seemed to really care or notice. It was all made up in my foolish pre-SLY head. Enjoy the newfound freedom and confidence, bro. Looks like a keeper.
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Hey, Josh, We've all been there with the self confidence thing. It really comes down to what you want and if you're happier with yourself with or without hair. I choose w/o and have more confidence because I'm not hiding anything and I like myself better this way.
Best of luck
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Looks good, enjoy the freedom from the past, this is a chance to start a new beginning and it will be, enjoy it.
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I too was concerned when I first when out into the bald, many people didn't even say anything, most who did were very complimentary. After a few days it will become more normal for you. Now people don't remember me with hair, I have always been a bald guy to them.
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Why do I have so many self-doubts about how I look? Thanks society! F it.
Think I am going to go for a run and show off the dome. Enough rambling by me. :)
--Josh
Hey Josh,
Did you encounter any hot chicks giving you the thumbs-up during your run. O0
Give it a few more days. Those self-doubts will evaporate quickly with each successive headshave.
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I was a bit self-conscious too, but I really enjoyed the compliments from the ladies and older people. My cousin who is also balding saw me for the first time in 3 years and told me how cool it looked.
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The difference between being sly and having hair:
Having hair is a gradual thing. When I retired from police work I let my hair grow, uncut in any way, for 3 years. At that point I had hair down to my shoulder blades. People who knew me never noticed a difference from day to day.
I got p!ssed one day as a result of an encounter with some of God's little parasites known as Deer Flies and cut off all the hair that had been there for 3 solid years. Cut it down to the scalp and then shaved it. People who saw me one day with the long hair literally saw me the next day shaved. There was some shock expressed. The difference was night and day and that was why it was so noticeable. Nothing subtle, hair today-gone tomorrow! I felt a little self-conscious at first but it passed quickly. Plus, I sent the braid to Locks of Love in Florida where they make hairpieces for kids who have lost their hair due to cancer treatments. Amazing how many women bought me coffee when I told them that part!
You do take an excellent sly picture. Hang in there, man, it gets easier.