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Title: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: warhawk on March 31, 2008, 09:30:48 AM
hello fellow chrome domes... just wondering... do U have a fear of public speaking?  R U good at it or are U terrible at it?  i'll start:  public speaking is my worst phobia (ever).  i hate it.  i'm a very good one on one type of person but when it comes 2 public speaking i'm speechless. :/O  my brother who is a high school english teacher is a great public speaker.  he states that he gets nervous b4 a speech or presentation but once he gets that "mike" he does well.

so... how 'bout U?  what R  your experiences with public speaking?  what's your story?  oh...and if U have any tips on fighting my phobia of public speaking...i would luv 2 hear about it.

WARHAWK O0
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Paul on March 31, 2008, 09:38:14 AM
As a high school teacher I get plenty of experience in front of an "audience" and ususally don't have a problem with speaking in public.   Though when I act and sing for various local performances I DO get the jitters THERE, but ususally it is more a fear of forgetting the words to the song or my lines than the fear of performing.   Once I get the first few words out, I am good to go.
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: schro on March 31, 2008, 09:52:35 AM
have spoken a lot. No real issues, as long as I'm prepared.
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: mojim on March 31, 2008, 10:06:29 AM
It used to be a problem, but not so much anymore since I have to on almost a daily basis...
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Marz on March 31, 2008, 10:44:37 AM
Doesnt bother me at all really. I guess if I am uncomfortable or unprepared I get nervous about that but the act of getting up in front of people has never been an issue for me.
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Tyler on March 31, 2008, 11:45:46 AM
I have to speak in front of large groups for my job quite a bit, so I don't get nervous much.  I've been told I'm good at giving a speech.
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Nick912 on March 31, 2008, 12:11:42 PM
Since I am a recruiter I do alot of public speaking to High School students almost daily. I used to dread it but now it is ok.
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Timmay on March 31, 2008, 12:37:05 PM
I think everyone has some sort of fear of speaking in front of large groups of people ifyou havent done it very much.  I know when the first time I got up in front of my church to speak..I was like nervous as all get out........youre talking about 800 people, sitting there watching you with a spot light on you.  I just kept telling myself...its ok..its ok....and to be honest...all i remember is a large aplause when I was finished...and I couldnt even tell you what I even said.  I had my outline in hand...but when I was finished...I hadnt even opened it. 
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: SLYinKC on March 31, 2008, 12:48:07 PM
No real issues, as long as I'm prepared.


That's the key for me.  As long as I'm prepared there are not any issues.  But to speak off the cuff, especially if I don't know what I'm talking about......That is when I have problems.

Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Andreas on March 31, 2008, 03:21:27 PM

But to speak off the cuff, especially if I don't know what I'm talking about......That is when I have problems.



Thats a great exercise, inventing long stories about nothing in particular that you really don't have a clue about. When i had my summerjobs at basketball camps i sometimes had to keep the interest of kids from ages 7-16 for a loong time while waiting for whatever it was.

Now i have no problem making public speeches at all.

Bet you didn't know the rubber in basketball shoes comes from the forefathers of those little aliens in spacejam  ;D
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: PBurke on March 31, 2008, 04:20:01 PM
being as shy as i am, public speaking is the worst.  ;) ;)
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: baldntat05 on March 31, 2008, 05:08:18 PM
No issue for me at all.  Actually I enjoy it.
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: jusbnme on March 31, 2008, 05:17:31 PM
Never really had to do it except for back in school and I couldn't stand it then.  I would like to think it would have gotten better by now but would be nervous as hell.
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Timmay on March 31, 2008, 08:53:54 PM
Lance...at the convention in july....we will have a stage and a microphone set up for ya......need any help preparing your speach....just give Mel a shout...he will help ya! 
Timmayy!
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: warhawk on March 31, 2008, 09:00:43 PM
Lance...at the convention in july....we will have a stage and a microphone set up for ya......need any help preparing your speach....just give Mel a shout...he will help ya! 
Timmayy!

timmy...maybe after a few brews i might loosen up and give the crowd one helluva speech. O0

WARHAWK O0
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Timmay on March 31, 2008, 09:03:25 PM
I think after a few beers ....we all might be standing up to give a speach! LOL

Timmayy!
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: cory_rudy98 on March 31, 2008, 10:44:04 PM
Warhawk, I am the EXACT opposite as you are.  I am great when it comes to speaking in front of large groups.  I was in drama club in high school and have been in many different plays, and I love giving speeches.  It doesn't really matter if I am prepared or not, I don't get nervous.  Then again, if you told me to give you a speech right now on something I know nothing about, I wouldn't know what to say, but if I am even slightly knowledgeable on the subject, I will do fine. 

When it comes to one on one, I freak out.  That is why I have such a hard time getting anywhere with the opposite sex.  I can only talk freely to them once I know I don't have a chance (like if I find out they have a boyfriend/fiance/husband).  If they are single, I will have a hard time getting to know them because I am always self-conscious about what I am saying and looking like an idiot. 

I guess I am not afraid of looking like an idiot in front of a large group because there is a pretty good chance that at least someone in the audience will find me funny.  When it comes to one on one conversation, my jokes only have a 50-50 chance of being funny...and I make a lot of things not knowing if they will be funny or not. 
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Robmeister on April 01, 2008, 12:01:14 AM
have spoken a lot. No real issues, as long as I'm prepared.

Me too !!!

Doesnt bother me at all really. I guess if I am uncomfortable or unprepared I get nervous about that but the act of getting up in front of people has never been an issue for me.

Yeah...me too!!!
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: herronm on April 01, 2008, 06:23:58 AM
Just like everything else, the more you do something, the better you get. 

I’d love to get into motivational speaking, but I procrastinate too much. :D

Max
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Sgt. Pate on April 01, 2008, 09:59:18 AM
I'm always a little nervous.  The better I have prepared my material the quicker I settle down and the nervousness goes away.  ;)
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Timmay on April 01, 2008, 10:01:04 AM
Its just like having sex...lol  the more you do it..the better you are! LOL

Timmay!
Title: Re: public speaking....fear or no fear
Post by: Sgt. Pate on April 01, 2008, 10:19:11 AM
Its just like having sex...lol  the more you do it..the better you are! LOL

Timmay!

Till you start getting older......

I remind my wife that although I'm not as good as I once was, I'm as good once as I ever was!  :o