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Various Non-Bald Discussions => General Discussion => Topic started by: Timmay on February 16, 2008, 10:56:35 PM
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Hey all, I had this co worker at the funeral home who passed away about 3 months ago. He was a great person. He was in his early 70's and had some health situations that finally took its toll on him. He always had a joke for me when I would see him and he would always holler out TIMMAYYYYYYYYYY! when he would see me. He was always making comments about my wife ..saying he was going to take her out and show her what a real man was and blah blah blah. I miss the ol fart. He was really one of a kind. After a while I would tell him well Im just gonna go pick up your wife some night and take her out on a date. He would respond with ..Hell go ahead...get her out of my hair for a while...but....you gotta treat her for the princess that she is. They were highschool sweethearts and were married for 52 years. Great couple...and she was always dressed to the 9's.....in person she does remind you of a princess. Well I just wanted to post this so that everyone will know....including DON PEED.......I TOOK YOUR WIFE OUT ON A DATE TONIGHT!.......
She has been struggling with the fact that he is gone and being it is winter time it has really kept her down and just doesnt know what to do with herself because her and Don were always together. So I stopped in to see her the other day and she was just all in tears just struggling to make it thru the days. I asked her if she would like to go out for dinner some night with my family. She was over joyed that someone would do that. So tonight....we made plans to go out for pizza at a favorite local pizza restaurant. It wasnt until after we sat down that her eyes sorta teared up. She proceeded to tell us that she hasnt been back to this place since Don passed away. It really meant alot to her and brightened her spirits. We enjoyed the evening reflecting on things and she really enjoyed my kids as she use to be a 1st grade school teacher. Don...this is to you buddy......you were right....she is a Princess...may you rest in peace buddy!
Timmayyyyyyyyy!
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Great story Tim! It's great that you took a couple hours out of your evening that will turn into several days of great thoughts for Don's wife.
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TIMMJ.......... more than just a man in red and whites.
Great story Tim!
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tim....thanks 4 sharing that sly read. what a way start my morning. O0
WARHAWK O0
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What a thoughtful and caring thing to do Tim. Way to go. O0
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That's really sweet. I know she appreciated what you did more than she could possibly say.
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Tim, It's those simple acts of kindness that make life a little more bearable and usually we gain alot more than we give.
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Tim; That is a great thing you did.
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Tim that is an amazing and thoughtful thing for you do to for your old friend and for her. That simple thought of goodwill will mean the world to her. Well done buddy.
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Tim my friend that was a heartfelt thing to do! Sometimes we get caught up in our own lives and dont think of our fellow peeps. That makes me want to go to the VA hospital and talk to the old timers.
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Timmj, its great to hear a act of kindness over all this crap going on everywhere in the world today.
If CNN would do more reports on the good things done by odinary people than just keep blasting the death toll in front of us every 10 minutes it might actually spread some of it around!
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I didnt post this up to get congratulated. I posted it for other unknown reasons.
And Nick..by all means go talk to those older people. They have some of the most amazing stories. Most of these true life stories will go untold..never to be heard of again. I doubt it if any of these life experiences are ever written down by these folks. Its a sad thing to think that all of that will soon be gone some day.
We tend to think that the life we are living right now is going to have any effect on the future generations. You just wait though...some day when we are all in our 80's or so....we will have those younger generation people coming up to us and asking us questions about when we were little....what are you going to tell them? Maybe this is a time to start writing things down. I know I do. I have a journel I write in. Some of it maybe just stuff that I deal with on an everyday basis...and others might just be stuff that is laying heavy on me and I write it to God. Because one day....everything you have experienced in life will be gone. Just a thought to ponder on ....just be prepared is all I can suggest.
Timmay!
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Awesome Timm
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People don't realize how a small act of kindness is greatly appreciated.
Tim, that was so kind and thoughtful. You're the man! O0
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Tim, It's those simple acts of kindness that make life a little more bearable and usually we gain alot more than we give.
The "take away" from your post Tim is great. As we get past our 30's and 40's the fact of life is that everyone has friends who have lost their spouse or significant other to accident or disease. Because our society seems to go in pairs, these folks often get forgotten in the activities they enjoyed w/ their lost loves. You've reminded us how important it is and will be to include all these people--and regretably it happens with increasing frequency as we get older, thanks.
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WOW Tim, thank you for sharing. It makes you realize that no matter how busy our own lives are that we need to look out for each other. Sometimes it's the little things that make the biggest impact.
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Hey Folks, I think, indirectly, Tim has given us a challenge. There are a lot of older, lonely people out there who would enjoy our company and companionship. The other week, I went to see my uncle who is 101 years old. He asked me to bring some quail back from the hunt for him. We just sat around his kitchen and shot the breeze. Another favorite of mine (may she RIP) was an aunt in her 90's. I had more (and better) political debates with her than I did with my peer group. The insights some of these older folks can offer us, and the life lesson they give, are better that what we get from our peer group. Take some time to show a bit of interest in an older person. You'll be the better for it ... and so will they.
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Thanks Pruitt, that was thoughtful of you to say that. Really I guess if you get down to it....maybe I was indirectly suggesting. What would it hurt? If you have some elderly family members that you havent talked to in a long time, why not just pay them a visit. Even just a 30 minute visit to these people mean alot. And 30 minutes out of our time is less valuable than what you will learn from just listening to what they have to tell you. I dont know of one person who would say they walked away from it and was bored. Sitting there talking to them is Living History, something that will never be replaced. So here I go, Im gonna challenge you all. Go out, talk with a family member, or just anyone who has been there done that. It doesnt even have to be a family member. Go visit someone that you sorta know...but never really got to talk to them. Im sure they would enjoy it alot. Then come back here and tell us all what you found. I am sure you will have tons to unload once you get back. Is it a deal? Im not gonna put a time frame on it....just do it at your leisure. But I bet you that the sooner you do it....the more exciting it would be. I cant wait to hear the stories.
See ya
Timmj
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Tim, that was such a nice thing to do. It really hit home with me.
I know a lot of kidding goes on in here, but I think you are one of the nicest and thoughtful guys in here. O0
As many of you know, we've relocated to AZ from the east (NY). I left behind all of my family and I especially miss my Grandmother. She practically raised me and my sibs, but that's another story.
She lives in DE, she's ninety-eight, and my sister and brother in law pretty much care for her and my aunt.
I would visit with them at least once a month, and of course on all the holidays. We would always bring the things she missed from NY- good pastas, ravioli, breads and other things you just can't get.
Anyway, since we've moved I haven't been able to visit and when I speak to her, she always asks when are we coming back. I feel so bad, I think she thought we were just going to go try it out and then come back. I have been a bit lax on calling her, and when I read Tim's post, I gotta admit I got a bit teary myself.
Guy's, he absolutely right. Make it a point to visit or call if you have any elderly relatives or friends, you will make their day, and if you can spend time talking they have a lot to say.
Remember, they've lived a life and experienced many things, just like you are doing right now, even more so. One day we will be in the same situation, hopefully, and I am sure you would want someone to visit and talk and be interested in you.
Sorry for the long post, and thanks again Tim, for making people think.
Joe