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Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: schro on December 11, 2006, 04:21:14 PM
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Thought I'd share my latest chat with the wife about my idea of shaving the dome.
As some of you know, I am holding off shaving it until after the holidays (after family has left). This was mainly out of respect for the wife, for concern of her reaction. Well last night, my suspicions on her reaction were dead on. She asked how my scalp was feeling. I suffer from Seborrheic dermatitis (apparently hereditary) that becomes excrutiating during the cold months. Despite the fact it's hereditary, both my brothers are hanging tough with their hairlines and I'm the only one that is destined to look like Pops. Anyway, rather than surprise her, I told her that I plan on shaving the dome after the New Year. She HATES the idea!
She is convinced that shaving the head is A) not going to solve the dermatitis issue and B) is going to look bad on me. She said she has to respect my thoughts, but also wants voice her opinion. To me, it's kind of an unknown on both counts. Although I have no idea if shaving my head is going to do much for the health of my scalp (Noner indicated it's a myth that shaving will alleviate the condition). However, since oil from hair follicles is a contributing factor, it may make a difference. As far as the look goes, we'll just to wait and see. As I'm pretty close to bald on top anyway, it not much of a difference anyway. I'll update my profile picture so you can see what I mean. Who knows, maybe she had the hots for Gavin McCleod in her teenage years.
Just curious if any of you Sly Guys had this kind of reaction from your wife prior to doing it. Even though she's not at all happy about it, I still plan on going through with it after the holiday. It's just something I want to do for me.
Look forward to hearing what you all have to say.
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Not sure if the new profile pic got on there. Personally, I think I'm a damn sexy guy. In fact, I sleep with myself every night cause I'm so sexy.
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my wife was not real keen on the idea for awhile. but she came around. i feel like it is good that you told her your plan instead of popping it on her. maybe she will like it after you shave. if she really can't stand it and you choose to grow it back, it won't taka that long to get where you are now. personally i think it will look fine. my hairline was headed that way too. my dad has your hairline, has for quite a long while. i just thought bald was a better look for me and now the wife agrees. good luck. let us know if we can help.
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Thanks Paul... much better photo by the way.
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Schro, my wife wasn't crazy about the idea either. Â She was hoping I would just get through whatever phase I was in and forget about it. Â Now she hears about my communicating on a regular basis with the Sly Guys and she knows I'm serious.
The way we got around it was for us to make a deal that if I put forth the effort to lose 15 lbs, she can't protest any more and we give it 3 weeks after the initial shave to see if it suits me.
I've grown a goatee (which she thinks looks best with a chromer) and I've buzzed my hair shorter and shorter over the last couple of months. Â (I still have not shaved---have 14 more lbs to lose).
One of the things that brought her back to earth when she was protesting was that it will grow back to where it is now in a matter of weeks.
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Wish I could provide some insight on this one but I meant my wife with a shaved head. She convinced me to grow it out and try some styling with it. After that we both promptly agree a shaved head is best for me. I guess the best thing is show her you serious about it and she will hopefully respect your desire to shave your noggin.
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Appreciate the input. I've been toying with the idea for quite a while but never stepped up to the plate. I mentioned this on another thread, but for Halloween, we hosted a couple's costume party. We went as Sonny & Cher. Another couple came as "Deal or No Deal". Towards the end of the night when everyone was pretty liquored up, the husband who played Howie (yes, his wife is hot enough to be a case gal) and I decided to change wigs. He put on the Sonny wig and I put on the Howie skin wig. When I did that, some said "Hey Schro, you look like.....Schro!". Very funny line, but that was the beginning of my seriously reconsidering shaving it off. That's when I found this website. To me, there's really not that much of a difference from bald and what I've got after my wife cuts my hair with a #2 setting.
You guys have been great with the posts and topics. Thanks for being here.
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any time schro. thanks for the compliment on the pic. the wife said it looks better too.
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I haven't hit this dilemma yet... of course, I have no one to answer to and most everyone I know has only known me as bald or balding.
Maybe you two could come to some sort of compromise:
When you first do it, take it all the way down with clippers (no attachment blade) and shave it like that for a couple weeks... then if she's warming up to it, then grab the ol' headblade and chrome out!
If you could share, what is Seborrheic dermatitis?
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Appreciate the idea Robby Buffett, but my wife used to cut my hair with a #3 setting, now it's down to a #2. At first she was not hip to the idea of using #2, but has gotten used to it. Frankly, if I go any shorter, I might as well shave it all off. What's the difference between an eighth of an inch of and no hair at all?
Seborrheic dermatitis is a common skin condition affecting millions of Americans. It shows up as flaking skin, or reddish patches. Unlike people with dry skin, the skin in people with seborrheic dermatitis is usually oily. It can be unsightly, itchy and, since it is often on the face, may cause embarrassment. It is not contagious. Scales form on reddened skin.
In adults seborrheic dermatitis usually affects the scalp, eyebrows, ear canals, sides of the nose, and behind the ears. It sometimes affects the armpits, chest and in the groin area. Most people with it complain of dandruff, especially on the back and sides of the scalp (bad dandruff bad dandruff is usually seborrheic dermatitis).
Seborrheic dermatitis may start in infancy as cradle cap. It affects the scalp as thick, crusty, yellow scales. Children usually outgrow it by age 3 and do not normally get seborrheic dermatitis. Cradle cap is not contagious, it is not caused by poor hygiene, it is not an allergy, and it is not dangerous. Cradle cap usually does not itch, but it may. If excessive scratching occurs, it can cause additional inflammation, mild infections or bleeding.
The problem in seborrheic dermatitis is in the oil (sebaceous) glands and hair follicles. People with seborrheic dermatitis produce too much sebum (the natural skin oil). Later, pityrosporum yeast grows excessively in the sebum, sometime along with bacteria, making the dermatitis more persistent.
Bottom line, it sucks. Besides becoming "sly", I am hopeful that shaving the dome will help relieve some of the irritation.
Later.
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Robby Buffett? If only Jimmy was my dad... ;D
Thanks for the info!
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hey schro. i have had big flakes in the past. not sure if it that but have not had it since i shaved the noggin. it is worth a shot. heck, if it works then you have ammunition for keeping it smooth.
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:) :) Dear Schro: you're nearly there. A clean sweep would probably put an end to both your scalp and image problems. If you can convey to your wife how much better you feel about being honest, totally bald, and medication-free, you can turn a positive corner. Fortunately, my wife of 35 years perfectly understood my need of a new and bold persona. Embrace the future. Professor Melon
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The problem in seborrheic dermatitis is in the oil (sebaceous) glands and hair follicles. People with seborrheic dermatitis produce too much sebum (the natural skin oil). Later, pityrosporum yeast grows excessively in the sebum, sometime along with bacteria, making the dermatitis more persistent.
Bottom line, it sucks. Besides becoming "sly", I am hopeful that shaving the dome will help relieve some of the irritation.
For what it is worth, I've had some skin problems on my scalp -- nothing as severe as what you described, but I always seemed to be itchy and no shampoo I tried ever seemed to solve the problem. Once I shaved all the hair off, the problem went away. Obviously, everyone is different and shaving may not help your problem but it probably won't hurt, either. In fact, shaving might be a good thing because it will be easier to apply topical treatments once the hair is all gone.
Occasionally, I get a few pimples on my scalp. When it happens, I've tried not shaving for a few days to give my skin a chance to rest. It has never helped, and if anything, the stubble has tended to make the problem worse.
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RazorX...that is exactly what I was hoping to hear! I was applying Loprox (topical ointment, not a hair resotration product) to alleviate some of the discomfort, and it worked in a limited fashion. Still, I have a feeling that I'll experience the same thing you did....lose what will soon be lost anyway, and the problem will cease.
Prof Mel, thanks for the kind words, but I am not suffering from any type of image problem or personal dilema. I am quite comfortable in my own skin: I'm just looking forward to showing more of it! As I've read some of your posts, it took quite a while for you to make this decision. I have never tried any type of topical remedies, surgeries, or old wives' tales to fight off the inevitable. Lord strike me down for saying this, but I'm looking forward to the holidays (or as Glen Beck would call it "RamaHanuKwanzmas") being over so I can shave it all off. It's all good.
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I think you'll look younger and way more cool if you'd shave your hair all the way, but it may be my adversity to (my own) MPB peaking. :) But seriously, I bet your face lends itself to the chrome style very well, since I think your face will not look more aggresive because of it.
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I echo what most of the other guys have said. See if she will at least give it a chance. IMHO you can't judge it exactly on an individual until you see it.
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Thanks SBG and PigPen and all the rest of you guys. She knows I'm serious about it and you are right, she may grow to like it once it's there (or not there, however you want to look at it). You never know until you try. Personally, I can't wait.
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hey my wife thought i was crazy but i did shave it she loves it now so i would say go for it shave it.
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hey my wife thought i was crazy but i did shave it she loves it now so i would say go for it shave it.
Yeah some women just take some time to warm up to the idea. Just like Brother Agassi said "go for it, shave it."
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been a while since I was able to visit the forum, just wanted to let you know that you look awesome with your chrome dome schro, I gather the misses is convinced now as well? :)
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been a while since I was able to visit the forum, just wanted to let you know that you look awesome with your chrome dome schro, I gather the misses is convinced now as well? :)
Thanks for the kind words....I'm not sure if the wife is on board with it or not. She's an extremely stubborn woman and will likely never admit it looks good. Although, she doesn't bad mouth it either. She has heard numerous comments from people that say it looks great on me. Of course, her response is always "Well, what do you expect them to say?". If they were true friends, they'd tell me it looks like crap.
Bottom line; I like the look, my scalp has never felt healthier, and I think I do look significantly younger.
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been a while since I was able to visit the forum, just wanted to let you know that you look awesome with your chrome dome schro, I gather the misses is convinced now as well? :)
Thanks for the kind words....I'm not sure if the wife is on board with it or not. She's an extremely stubborn woman and will likely never admit it looks good. Although, she doesn't bad mouth it either. She has heard numerous comments from people that say it looks great on me. Of course, her response is always "Well, what do you expect them to say?". If they were true friends, they'd tell me it looks like crap.
Bottom line; I like the look, my scalp has never felt healthier, and I think I do look significantly younger.
Can't please them all. I just find it funny that your wife would say that, because I have a sneaking suspicion if she decided to make a drastic hair change she would put you in the doghouse for saying the line you posted above.
At least you like it though, that's really all that matters.
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My wife is on board for my initial head shaving since it's for a children's cancer charity. Tough to argue against that. But I'm betting she will want me to grow it back toot sweet.
Depending how I look and if she is cool with it I'd entertain the idea of keeping it shaved through the summer months.
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Mine wasnt at first.....when I first shaved...and I am sure you all know the experience, the back of me head was a little "mangled"
SO...the next time I had to, I asked her to help out...to which she dreadfully agreed.
Now...she is the one telling me...."Geeze, you gotta shave that thing"...or "Okay, were shaving you tonight"
They'll get used to it.
You could also tell her that people you work with/interact with daily like it.. but she'll come around eventually.
Bronco...big O0 for doing that for Children's Cancer!!!! My wife and I have been heavily involved with the ACS and specifically the "Relay for Life". Good Man! O0
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So far, I haven't gouged the back of my head (I think that's where the Head Blade design excels...flipping it around and going against the grain). But, my lovely wife has joked and called me "Schrojak" a few times. I think she realizes the sly look is here to stay.
Hopefully she'll get used to it. If not, it'll be a long period of discontent for her.
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Thanks for the kind words jasandalb. I had thought about getting a team of my friends together to shave and raise funds but I got nothing but turn downs. So I ended up an army of one. ;)
But things are looking up I am at just about the halfway point of my fund raising goal and I have 29 days till my head is shaved bald. If any Sly guys or gals would like to donate on my noggin email me and I'll send you the link to the St. Baldrick's Foundation website. Thanks. O0
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Do you have a personal page on there?
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Yes jasandalb I have a participant page on the St.Baldrick's website.
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I don't think my wife likes mine.
But she will get used to it.
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I don't think my wife likes mine.
But she will get used to it.
Welcome Jay. Just give her a little time. Hell, I had to give myself a good month when I first went sly.
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I don't think my wife likes mine.
But she will get used to it.
Welcome Jay. Just give her a little time. Hell, I had to give myself a good month when I first went sly.
For what it's worth Jay, my wife still has not explicitly stated she likes it. However, she's stopped with the little verbal jabs (of course, I emphatically told her to "lay off the dome"). She actually gave me a head rub the other day. So maybe there is hope.
Good Luck, Jay.
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For what it's worth Jay, my wife still has not explicitly stated she likes it. However, she's stopped with the little verbal jabs (of course, I emphatically told her to "lay off the dome"). She actually gave me a head rub the other day. So maybe there is hope.
My wife is in the same boat. She doesn't really talk about it, and I do get the occasional rub. On the rare occasion where I don't shave for 3 days (and I do mean rare as I am a daily shaver), I think she knows I made a good choice when sees how much has gone over the two and a half years since I've been shaving. Heck, my dad has more hair than me. What's up with that? Actually I get the hair loss from my mom's side of the family.
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My wife will still ask me to grow it back every now and then. I tell her she's wastin her breath though. Either that or she likes to hear herself talk, not sure.
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My wife will still ask me to grow it back every now and then. I tell her she's wastin her breath though. Either that or she likes to hear herself talk, not sure.
I want to make sure you're not sued. In today's Politically Correct society, we can't make any reference to women nagging or talking a lot. The proper term is now "Verbally Repetitive". Just looking out for ya, PigPen.
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Thanks Schro, I'm not so very good with the PC stuff. Oh yeah, that and I don't really care.
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Pigpen, I like your style.
Lets all remind our spouses the next time they (color, perm, straighten, cut, grow, tease, or obsess about) their own hair.
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Heck, my dad has more hair than me. What's up with that? Actually I get the hair loss from my mom's side of the family.
I have an 8 week old baby at home that now officially has more hair than I do!
:*))
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Pigpen, I like your style.
Lets all remind our spouses the next time they (color, perm, straighten, cut, grow, tease, or obsess about) their own hair.
Yeah, exactly!!! O0
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Thanks Schro, I'm not so very good with the PC stuff. Oh yeah, that and I don't really care.
We should hang out brother. ;D O0
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Thanks Schro, I'm not so very good with the PC stuff. Oh yeah, that and I don't really care.
We should hang out brother. ;D O0
Sweeeeeeeeeet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:D :px O0