Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => General Discussion => Topic started by: Scott on January 21, 2008, 12:09:29 AM
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Okay bros, so this quarter I'm taking my classes online due to work demands and I'm in an Intro to Psych class and we have to do a 10 pg term paper. We had to e-mail our professor our topics to get approval. I told him I wanted to do mine on the "psychological effects of baldness/hair loss on men." I told him about this site and how so many guys who join seem to have had self-esteem issues over their hair loss. He e-mailed me back and approved my topic then told me that the men in his family all have significant hair loss and he himself starting balding in his 20s. I asked if he shaves his head and invited him to join up - we'll see if he does.
Anyone read any articles on this topic or know of any research done on this? Tyler, surely you've seen something somewhere? I'd appreciate the help of my bros on this one. Who knows, if anyone's interested in reading the paper, maybe I'll post it up here after I've gotten it turned in and graded.
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Scott, I'll try to dig up some stuff for you tomorrow. In the meantime, check out the "links" section above for resources that I've posted.
You may also want to check out this article I wrote tonight - http://www.slybaldguys.com/serendipity/archives/174-Do-you-like-to-please-people-Its-probably-holding-you-back-from-success...and-shaving-your-head.html (http://www.slybaldguys.com/serendipity/archives/174-Do-you-like-to-please-people-Its-probably-holding-you-back-from-success...and-shaving-your-head.html)
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scott....good luck with your term paper. keep us posted on how it went. O0
WARHAWK O0
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Tyler, fantastic article! Well put. Now, lets put another dynamic into this formula for Scott; it might add a couple of "needed" pages (I'v always hated having to write to a specific minimum), and that is- others.
Once you get over the self part, the dynamics of others can be huge. I started with the MPB a few years ago and made the decision to go sly. My wife wasn't in agreement. I did all the, try it for a week or two, and even sent her articles somewhat like yours. She rejected it all and said if I didn't grow back some hair, she would divorce me, and it wasn't an idle threat. She believes in her heart of hearts that there is something wrong with me being sly. She says that basically every other man in the world looks OK shaved except me. This has been a stumbling block ever since.
Now that the MPB has advanced, I have been keeping what's left down to a buzz (closer than a #1) and she doesn't like it, puts up with it, and it is still a sore subject years later, and I'm starting to grey.
Ironically I shave a small portion on top and I look basically bald from the front, and most people think of me as bald, but not really sly.(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi260.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fii11%2FSlyDATBoy%2FIMGP1192mini.jpg&hash=23dea433e5755de4db560c5906b17922ebb632ba)
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Tyler, any help you could give would be greatly appreciated. I'm excited about doing the paper, but unsure of how it should be structured as far as what I should cover. Any scientific studies, books, etc. would be especially useful. PM me if you don't want to post it all on here. Thanks!
Warhawk, thanks as always buddy, for your encouragement!
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Thats cool Scottie too hottie..lol....yes keep us posted on how your paper turns out. I would be interested in reading it.
DAT Boy.....sorry you do not have the support of your wife. Seems like as time went on she would have grown more accustom to it...but apparently not. It just strikes me how people base things on appearance....Like my wife...I told her...well you love me for who I am ..right...not what I look like....and she proudly said Yes...but she still wishes I would grow it back..
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TimmJ,
Thanks for the reply. Well, just to push the envelope, I went sly again- for the 2nd time this month. I shaved for a few days earlier this month. At the end of supper, my wife finally commented and said that my hair looked like cr@p and is thinking about looking for a boyfriend. :x! I pointed to our dogs and said she had two already. :*)) I'm not sure where this sly thing will go. Sooner or later she will tell me to grow it back (all 1/4")! :Xo!
Ironically, I get compliments at work and elsewhere. A neighbor had stopped by this evening, and she silently said that she liked it, when my wife wasn't looking. O0 I'm sure that all the women that know my wife, knows where she stands on this issue and many others.
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TimmJ,
Thanks for the reply. Well, just to push the envelope, I went sly again- for the 2nd time this month. I shaved for a few days earlier this month. At the end of supper, my wife finally commented and said that my hair looked like cr@p and is thinking about looking for a boyfriend. :x! I pointed to our dogs and said she had two already. :*)) I'm not sure where this sly thing will go. Sooner or later she will tell me to grow it back (all 1/4")! :Xo!
Ironically, I get compliments at work and elsewhere. A neighbor had stopped by this evening, and she silently said that she liked it, when my wife wasn't looking. O0 I'm sure that all the women that know my wife, knows where she stands on this issue and many others.
Dat Boy: It's a "wife" thing. Mine has said, at various times w/ and w/o drinks, "You've lost your dignity." That's a hoot, as if I had some. Then last night a new one, she had been to the beauty parlor for a cut & dye job--she's been grey since high school, "You could have it dyed, lots of guys go to my beautician!" Dear Lord, at least she admits that there isn't perfection lurking in my scalp any more. She also didn't like the buzz that I did for a month, but to hear her now, those were glorious days. My plan is to wait until about 10 months, then start a little grow out (if I can get past the stubble and not shave!) to see her response. In any event it will be off before it gets to a number 2 buzz, she'll have a chance to get on the train, but if she doesn't it's leaving the station anyway. She doesn't have to deal w/ the MPB, I do--and I'm doing what I want.
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BRAVO!....What I like to know...excuse me..I love my wife and respect women...But where in the sam hell do they get off telling us how we are going to wear our hair. I dont tell my wife how to wear her hair. When we got married she had hair down to her back...now she has it shoulder length....she came home one day with it cut short. Yes I was shocked....and she was like afraid to face me and see my reaction. I told her ..well it is your hair...you can do with it what you want...but.....but.....I dont prefer it that short....add a few more inches to it , cause i got the gut feeling that she didnt liek it either. So now she wears it short....but its i would say half way to shoulder length.. I never once told her she HAD to grow it out. I would learn to come to terms with it. Just like one day when she said she wished I would grow it back ...i reminded her of how I reacted to her cutting her hair short.....so enough said.