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Discussions About Being Bald => General Discussion => Topic started by: Uncle Fester on January 20, 2008, 02:48:17 PM
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Hey guys, Fester was just wondering, what's the absolute, stupidest move you've ever made in your life?
I'll start...back when I was 34 years old (now 44) I took a police test here in Jersey. This was something that I really wanted BAD! It was a chief's test, not a civil service test. About six months prior to taking the physical, I started working out for about 2 1/2 hours each day, at night, after work...mostly lifting weights and running. I got in the best physical condition of my life. I placed fourth out of about two hundred young studs and took the test on a fractured ankle that I got from running too much (a stress fracture). I actually was hired and got one of the two patrolman jobs that was offered. Unfortunately, I never told the LT about a fatal accident that I was involved in when I was 17 years old. It came back on my backround check and they told me that they had to let me go.
They viewed this as an act of dishonesty and told me that they couldn't take a chance with me.
Back when this accident occurred, I got really effed up. I saw a psychiatrist for a couple of years, was on meds,
went for weekly counseling, and was generally speaking, a complete basket case. I got my life back in order, and to be honest, think about the accident rarely. Not mentioning it to the LT was not a thought-out decision. It just never came up. I told him that I smoked weed when I was younger...I told him that I injected myself with anabolic steroids when I was younger...but the accident never came into my head. Nevertheless, I got the boot. At the time, this ruined my life. Anyone else want to share?
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Really dont know what to say there...Hope things are straightened out for you now.
Im sure tehre are plenty of stupid stuff we have all done in our lifetimes....some may not see them as stupid and others are probably wondering why they even associate their selves with me. One incident that I can remember is one time my wife called me from the road and said she hit a deer. At the time it was winter and she had our one and only child of about 15 months wiht her. She was bout 40 miles from home. Here it was night time and was worried about them sitting on the road at night alone...so i immediately jump up....thought i grabbed my keys and went out the door. Well as soon as I slammed the door shut i realized...i wasnt even dressed...all i had on were my undies and a tank top. So here i stand....middle of winter...on my deck....no keys....house is locked...so what do I do? I go to the neighbors house...he gives me a pair of sweats and a shirt and he drives me up to the accident site..ofr now on i always leave a key outiside of hour house somewhere.
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Tim, that's called panic and completely understandable; well maybe no clothes might be stupid, but leaving the keys and locking the door is totally reasonable in my books.
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The ABSOLUTE, STUPIDEST move?
I haven't told anyone yet, and I am not about to start now. Nope, not even my wife knows.
Hey guys, Fester was just wondering, what's the absolute, stupidest move you've ever made in your life?
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I've done some very stupid things in the past...VERY stupid. Though, I try to remember that we all make mistakes and this is an opportunity for us to learn from ourselves and move on, trying not to repeat history.
I do know how you feel. A guy I know made the crazy mistake of accepting some stolen stuff and happened to get caught at the exchange because some lady phoned in that people were swapping guns in a parking lot. These were not guns they were swapping, but the stuff was stolen. To this date he can barely get a job that pays over $15 an hour because every time someone does a credit check they find his felony theft on there.
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WELL...my most IDIOTIC assanine move was... done with the best of intentions but so is the road to he** ! my dad passed away 2 weeks into my senior year of college , so as a only kid i would drop out FOR 1 TERM ! to help out getting "stuff straight" . ANYWAY... its now 28 years later , family stuff is still as f***d up as before , ive lost all my scholarships and grants and the real KICKER IS... 2 more years i COULDVE BEEN retireing ! the SECOND dumb move ? I bought a TEMPORARY home across the street from my momz :px to watch out for her till she got back on her feet, well shes still on her butt and im STILL livin across the street ! and SO FAR , the ONLY thing i got from my DAD ? his last name , i NEVER GOT TO SEE THE WILL "everything was in both of our names , so i got everything " oh weell ya can pick yer nose, but ya CANT pick yer family !!!
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Too many to mention....
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I have done a ton of stupid things in my life. Many helped me become a better / smarter man... others were just stupid and held no lesson or example they were just points of remorse.
I actually ran with a pretty wild crowd as a young man and I actually am amazed I was the "smart" one alot of the time and that saved my arse. Many of those folks are dead, recovering, ill or were / are in jail.
Where I cant pinpoint one particular thing that was more amazingly stupid than all of the other stupid things I have done... I can think of many times my upbringing and personal focus kept me out of Jail, rehab or the grave.
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Stupidest... DUI when I was 22
What i regret most... Letting my Marine Recruter talk me out of Active duty and into the reserves (numbers game)
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I refuse to answer on the grounds that it might tend to incriminate me. :-X
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i have to admit lasering the dome....
its not quite sly yet....
i have veeery dark hair and very white skin and i have some "patches" if u know what i mean...
i have no prob being sly... but thought the lasering process would be faster..... and a lot painless....
now i have to go trough in order to be completely "patchless"! hahahaha
anyhoo, i have a lot of things to be grateful for
have a good one!!!
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I'd like to decline on two circumstances, I may incriminate myself, and I can't pick out just one thing.
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To quote ChallengeMe, "I haven't told anyone yet, and I am not about to start now."
Doesn't matter if you tell your best friend, or the wind. I will find the lips of someone else, its only a matter of time.
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:-X
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would be to mention it.
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Lets all just face it....at one point or many points in our lives we have done foolish things..and Im sure we are done with that......its life....but alot of those stupid things could be learning lessons for us all......................................
Timmayyyy!!!!
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i forgot to tell my wife happy birthday today. :/O
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i forgot to tell my wife happy birthday today. :/O
At least you're still able to tell us about it... :(
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i forgot to tell my wife happy birthday today. :/O
At least you're still able to tell us about it... :(
Yeah, usually that's punishable by death
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Ok guys, I don't wan't to put a downer on things here, however there are several of you on this forum, that I consider to be good friends, those that I correspond with on a regular basis (you know who you are) Not that I don't consider the rest of you friends, just some are closer than others. Boy I sound stupid (sorry).
Anyway this thread is about " The stupidest, most idiotic thing, you've ever done in your life..." So here it goes, the stupidest most idiotic and selfish thing I've ever done is, 10 days ago today I tried to commit suicide. I've been going through a realy rough time as of late and thought that I had no other way out. I'm not quite comfortable enough to get into the spacifics as to why, but I'm working on getting help. I hope that none of you think any less of me, for what I have said, and please accept my apologies for not turning to you for someone to talk to, when I thought that I had nobody.
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Tom...well all i can say is Im glad you are still here. I cant say that I have ever been bogged down that bad to try to attempt anything like that. We all have our bad times, some of us can deal with things better than others. I dont know the whole story about you and not that it is any of my business...but what ever it was that pulled you thru it....im glad. What ever power force of spirit or nature that grabbed ahold of you..im glad it did. YOu can always come here and talk with us here....we are all here for you and each other. God bless you Tom.....just glad you are here.
And here I can sound like a real hypocrit...cause really im not in the best of moods right now. Not that anyone has done anything ...directly to me in here....but I dunno...maybe Ijust feel like saying screw it all. Here I can tell Tom to come here and talk to us...and hell half the time I cant even do that myself..
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WELL..Tom n Timm I myself know Exactly how AND what you r feeling !some of us have these feelings fairly often and others NEVER go thru these periods.and sometimes it doesnt take anything MAJOR to pull "you" down, Myself, I suffer from S.A.D. seasonal affective disorder (winter time blues) badly i USUALLY start meds about thanksgiving and wean off about easter when the weather starts breaking.I hate being cooped up inside during the winter , This year in michigan hasnt been too bad , every week or 10 days we hit 40/50 so i can get outside and "enjoy life" a lil , They say at your low times its best to talk to someone , but when ya get REALLY down .... you dont want to deal with anybody PERIOD ! and the absolute LAST thing i need to hear someone say is " What do YOU have to be depressed about? you have SOMUCH going for you " and working nites in the winter is hell,BUT thanks to all of you out here in slydome it keeps my nite filled with :*)) just reading all the imputs , so THANK YOU VERY MUCH P.
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Hey guys,
I just wanted to thank you all for the kind words and for the personal e-mails. Rest assured I am doing much better that that weekend that is for sure. I'm also getting help, Porky you were right on the money it wasn't any one thing in particular, ti was a combination of alot of little things, along with a couple larger ones. My biggest problem was I never wanted to burden anyone with what I was feeling, and the one person I did want to talk to was shutting me out, and I just let the pressure build and build till I exploded. I tend to act as though there isnt a worry in the world when I'm arround other people, and try not to think about it. Then when I'm by myself those worries and concerns are all I can think about.
But again thank you all for just being there, tis is absolutly the best site on the net!!
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i forgot to tell my wife happy birthday today. :/O
At least you're still able to tell us about it... :(
Yeah, usually that's punishable by death
You can usually work out a good plea bargain arrangement in these situations. Will cost some $$$$ but at least you get to live. ;)
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Tom-
Back in my early 30's I went thru a real bad stretch....I missed my son from my first marriage, found out my second wife was a whore and left her, etc., etc....... I was pretty miserable. So I did some serious soul searching. I thought long and hard about things to try and figure out why my life was such a mess. I took a good look in the mirror and decided that I needed to decide what I had to do to change the things about myself that were adding to my miserable life.
It's not easy admitting your own short comings..... especially when there are others you can easily blame. But i did it. Then i went to work on changing those things about myself. It was like life started over for me. Life has been excellent ever since and I'm now 47 years old.
My advice:
1) Wake up everyday telling yourself, "Man, it's a great day to be alive". (It sure beats the alternative)
2) Get happy with yourself first. (If you're happy with yourself, others will feed off that positive energy)
3) Laugh HARD every single day.... even if it's at something stupid.
4) Take a few minutes a day to pray (or at least reflect)
5) Love with your whole heart....
6) Slow down and appreciate the smallest of things
7) Do the RIGHT thing..... even when it's the hardest thing to do
8) Surround yourself with positive people (You will feed off of their positive energy)
9) Don't ever really grow up..... that's right.... have fun! Be the adult that goofs off with the kids, do something silly that most adults wouldn't do....
When I was in that bad stretch years ago, a friend handed me a book without saying a word. I read that book and it changed my life. It is an old book but the message is timeless.
"The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale
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Tom,
Been there - done that. I'm praying for you.
Stephen
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Hey Tom...anytime you need to talk to someone...I'm here and I check my e-mail often. Been there...done that...as well...glad you didn't succeed. Whatever it is, Dude, it's temporary...believe me.
Best Regards,
Uncle Fester
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Again Guys, I want to thank you all from the bottom of my heart. I know I'm a guy but you are all going to make me cry :'(
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Tom: Tough times don't last; tough people do. Hang in there, bro.
BP
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Hello, hope u r ok now, you can always come and stay with my family if you are over hear, we will chear you up,Life is to short break the rules, never regret anything that made you smile
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There's nothing wrong with man-tears, Tom! Glad that you're still with us and know that we're always here for you bud!