Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: swede17 on January 01, 2008, 04:56:03 AM
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I don't feel like I'm worth anything, sick of going to parties and having people mention my head. Do I just get it over with and die? Or is it possible for a woman to find somebody without a full head of hair attractive? I havent met one. I'm so sick of it all. 21 years old and it's almost gone. I dont even feel like going out anymore,.,m.
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Whoa!!!!!!!!!!! dude....post up some more...........where are you from
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Well I just found this site and saw your post.
You're going about this all wrong man. Think about it for a second. You want to KILL yourself because you're going bald?Doesn't that sound silly to you? YES it's possible to find a woman. Keep trying!
You said you're 21 and it's almost gone, that's your problem right there. It's almost gone. Shave it all off and you'll feel better about yourself. When you shave your head it's *your* choice. It isn't something taken from you and it doesn't leave you with a half and half look. I think looking bald in the front with hair in the back looks horrible but a nice clean shaved head looks cool. I've had so many people comment on the way I look, it really makes me feel good about myself. It makes you look unique in a group but it doesn't make you seem awkward at all.
If you're really serious about changing your life for the better I'll give you some advice.
What women look for in men isn't their hair.... do you really think that's the most important thing for them in a man? What women want is someone who will care about them. Physically they want someone who screams confidence.
Do you see the problem here?You're talking about killing yourself right now. That isn't being confident. That isn't beaming with power or pride. You can't be like that. If you really want someone to love you, you have to learn to love yourself, and if you can't love yourself you need to change yourself.
The most important things you need to remember are women like men with personality, confidence and a nice body. So what if your head is shaved, you are FUN to be around and you have a nice body. C'mon like you've never thought bald action stars in movies looked cool?
1: Shave your head, quit living in shame. If you hate not having hair then get rid of all of it by your hand and not allow time to take something from you.
2: Start working out, women like men who are in shape BUT even more important than that it gives you the cofidence that you severely need. Everyone likes feeling strong.
3: Keep hanging out with your good friends. The worst thing you can do to yourself right now is become anti-social.
I personally love shaving my head. It's nice and smooth :) The way taking a shower feels, it's like raindrops, you feel each one. Or your girlfriend running her hands over you. It isn't bad man. You have to accept that you aren't going to have hair and that it isn't going to come back and just live your life.
If you want to talk some time just ask, I'll send you my msn.
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Man, Dazed has told you the truth, I can only add that in addition get involved w/ some activities helping others less fortunate that yourself---a whole lot of people. Habitat for Humanity is always looking for helping hands, and when you're working to solve the problems of others, it will put yours in perspective and you really need it. Don't delay, call and leave a message on Habitat's line today, you'll get a call back and be involved. Don't sit alone, there are loads of people who need you to help them. What you will get back will change your life.
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swede, swede, swede .... Stop, take a deep breathe and slow down. Losing your hair seems traumatic, and it is, but I think you will find that there's an easy solution - shave it off. I think you'll find that women will admire your new sly look. I've been surprised at the kinds of comments I've gotten from women since shaving it clean.
Once it's shaved, no more hair loss to deal with. This is the perfect time to do it - start the new year with a new look. Give it 30 days as a trial period. If you don't like it, you can grow it back again. But, I'm willing to bet you'll stay sly ....
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Read Dazed's post. Well done.
O0
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Swede there are plenty of women who find sly guys attractive. They are also attracted to the confident, self assuredness that comes from a man who has the courage to stand out and be an individual. Dazed gave you some great advice. Please take it to heart. Take charge of the situation and you can walk down the street boldly and confidently.
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swede.....i can't add anything else because "dazed" said it best. please...take his message 2 heart. if u still R still having negative thoughts about killing yourself than u may need some professional help. i hope that u R feeling better and wish u a happy new year. please stay strong and keep us posted. O0
WARHAWK O0
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I agree, listen and take to heart what dazed said. And please seek professional help if you are really considering ending your life, nobody should ever feel that way.
We are here for you if you need to talk out your issues.
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Everyone else has said it quite well. Just shave it.
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Dude... seriously... if you are judging your existence on the lack of attention fickle young women give you, you are missing out on a whole lot of life and setting yourself up for disappointment. You know how many marketing armies are out there that fail at judging the fickle nature of women?
Life is for livers buddy and allowing others to tell you how high or low you rank in this life is bad for the back as you will get walked on... repeatedly... untill you spine up and admire yourself for who you are and tell the world where you rank (the top, of course).
Chances are, its not your hair (or lack thereof) thats salting your game... throwing your hands up in dispair is a sign of weakness and women can smell weak a mile away.
Try doing something to make yourself feel good about yourself and forget about impressing women (or anyone else for that matter). Get comfortable in your own skin, learn to love yourself and you will be amazed at how people will love you for it.
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If this is a serious post I feel for ya bro...
but you should read up on this place BIG time...stop everything you're doing this second and READ ALL the post from not us old bald by choice guys but the younger MPB and BBC dudes..
especially ChicoD's and ***sticks*** (read ALL their threads)...
those young dudes were hating life and the dating scene...they shaved their heads slick bald...then BAM!... new life and new better dating than ever...
bro there ARE women and girls that love a smooth head...but most do not like "balding, unconfident" men...
so shave bro!
We all speak the truth here..
Good luck !
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Hi Swede,
Brother i know exactly how you feel. i started balding when i was 19 im 23 now and the thinning was really noticable. i hated myself and wondered what did i do to deserve this.
(see my other post on this thread to see what reactions i got and for a before and after pic)
being near you age i guess i can relate a little more. although its life changing at any age.
When i first did it i was like what the hell have i done and waiting to see friends, family and co workers was a cringing experience. some people said they didn't like it at first but i gave it a shot. After only 2 weeks i started to really like it and then the compliments kept on coming. From always looking constently in the mirror to disguise my bald spots to looking in the mirror constantly saying who is this Sexy SOB. Confidence went sky up and i started to feel like the old me. I take that back i started to feel like a new me who was in control for the first time in my life.
people at work gave me more respect. Girls that gave me no play before were all of a sudden calling me to come out with them and a lot of co workers thought i was a good match for their friends.
I have been dateless for 3 years because of my low self esteem but i have had 2 dates this new year(in like 4days lol) and never felt better. Even if i dont get another date all year i have made up for 3 years in 4 days (lol)
Even if girls don't like the new look they would surely be attracted to your self confidence which in return would give you more play which in return give you more confidence which would give you even more play. And so on and so on.
Girls are not as picky with looks then guys. If a girl wants someone good looking in their lives tell them to date another woman. Shave the noggin and show her you are not a boy but a confident man and if she wants someone which will have hair all their lives tell them to find a lady to spend their lives with. Be a confident SOB and they will keep coming.
If your worried just do a #1 or #0 give your noggin a bit of a tan.
Give it a shot and give the finger to mother nature.
See how you go
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Life is for livers buddy and allowing others to tell you how high or low you rank in this life is bad for the back as you will get walked on... repeatedly... untill you spine up and admire yourself for who you are and tell the world where you rank (the top, of course).
Chances are, its not your hair (or lack thereof) thats salting your game... throwing your hands up in dispair is a sign of weakness and women can smell weak a mile away.
Try doing something to make yourself feel good about yourself and forget about impressing women (or anyone else for that matter). Get comfortable in your own skin, learn to love yourself and you will be amazed at how people will love you for it.
Marz, you're wise, far beyond your years. O0
You "speak the truth" in every one of your posts.
I hope the new guy Swede, appreciates what you've told him.
Life's far too short to let something like your hair hold you back from living a full and rich life. Show some "ganas", little dude!
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Dude, I have been there personally. With it shaved, it just won't matter.
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Dude: what makes you a man, what makes you a valuable human being is NOT what grows on your scalp. That's equivalent to dismissing a woman's inherent value because she's flat chested or some other equally superficial reason.
So. The empty headed bimbo's you currently associate with can't see past your hairline? Screw 'em. Work hard, get educated, save your money. I promise you, a quick trip to the phillipines or any of several latin american countries will expose you to women who not only value good men, they're actually proud to and happy to honor their families.
You owe it to yourself to explore the world and foreign women are a delightful part of that exploration.
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I would definately say that your hair isnt a problem, its the fact that you are letting it get to you. Men with thin/thinning hair get women and are happy, they just arent bothered by it. It is better to buzz it down or shave it though
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swede.....i C that u haven't responded 2 your thread after hearing all the encouraging repsonses from everyone. i hope that u R feeling better and have nothing but positive thoughts. i hope and pray that u R not having negative thoughts of hurting yourself. please....keep us updated and let us know how U R doing. O0
WARHAWK O0
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I want to say something and i dont mean to brag.
i have been sly for 6 years, and since i shaved the dome, i get more comments, looks, (i am married and can not do so much about it...) but i can say that i have been luckier.
just a thought
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I want to say something and i dont mean to brag.
i have been sly for 6 years, and since i shaved the dome, i get more comments, looks, (i am married and can not do so much about it...) but i can say that i have been luckier.
just a thought
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WARHAWK O0
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Swede,
Dude there's not much I can say that these guy haven't stated already. There's a lot more to life than just the ladies, although they do take up a large part of our focus I do admit, they are not the only thing bro. Since you seem concerned about the women I'll share my 2 weeks of sly experience.
So far I've had 2 married women I know walk away from their husbands and park themselves beside me at the bar and talk about how good it looked (with the obligitory head rub) until hubby drug them back O:O
And I've had a girl your age range (24) who just saw a pic sent from her mom's phone offer to lick my sly dome (weird but whatever) and I'm an old dude to her i.e. 36! I haven't had an reactions like this in an extremely long time. It works as good as these guys say!
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I hear you there Veyron...i dont think i have ever had anyone massage or touch my head ( the one on the shoulders.....bro's) as much as i have this past year. Gonna start wearing a sign....you touch....you break....its yours!
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I hope this guy's all right.
Losing your hair can be a traumatic experience but I've been either blessed or cursed with a hard life during the beginning that I can put it into perspective and say that its not the worst thing in the world. As a matter of fact its quite a small matter if you look at it.
Besides I can attest that these guys know what they are talking about. Some women really do like the dome to a weird extent. I have bloody teeny boppers going for me... a very disturbing trend considering I'm a decade older than that group.
Good luck and I can assure you that spending more time here can give you a new outlook on life and hopefully overcome this obstacle.
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I hear you there Veyron...i dont think i have ever had anyone massage or touch my head ( the one on the shoulders.....bro's) as much as i have this past year. Gonna start wearing a sign....you touch....you break....its yours!
I don't like strangers touching my noggin'.
I should get a T-shirt that says, "you touch...you get an early dinner...a knuckle sandwich! @c3
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I hear you there Veyron...i dont think i have ever had anyone massage or touch my head ( the one on the shoulders.....bro's) as much as i have this past year. Gonna start wearing a sign....you touch....you break....its yours!
I don't like strangers touching my noggin'.
I should get a T-shirt that says, "you touch...you get an early dinner...a knuckle sandwich! @c3
awwwwwwwwww you mean you wouldnt want me to come rub your noggin???? gezzzzzzzzzz golly ..... Ward I think you were a little hard on the beaver last night!
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wanna know the worst thing ever said on tv?
..... Ward I think you were a little hard on the beaver last night!
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wanna know the worst thing ever said on tv?
..... Ward I think you were a little hard on the beaver last night!
I thought this was one of the BEST things ever said on TV. Gets funnier as time goes by.
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I think we are all talkin to a ghost here....he hasnt responded and he only has made one post....and hasnt been back to visit. But....if this helps anyone else who might be in the situation ....then we have all done good. .
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wanna know the worst thing ever said on tv?
..... Ward I think you were a little hard on the beaver last night!
I thought this was one of the BEST things ever said on TV. Gets funnier as time goes by.
good point andrew. maybe at the time it was the worst, but now it is nothing. even with the inuindo(sp?)
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Swede,
You just need to go ahead and shave it man. Chicks will take notice of you! Shaving your head makes a statement of confidence and class. Women will want to talk to you rest assured. This is a good place to come on here and let it all out. There a bunch of great guys on here. So shave that head, and enjoy the ride!
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I think we are all talkin to a ghost here....he hasnt responded and he only has made one post....and hasnt been back
A 'ghost'. :o
I'm calling for the first ever official SBG seance!
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I think we are all talkin to a ghost here....he hasnt responded and he only has made one post....and hasnt been back
A 'ghost'. :o
I'm calling for the first ever official SBG seance!
Seance!?!
Next thing we'll need is an exorcism!
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I think we are all talkin to a ghost here....he hasnt responded and he only has made one post....and hasnt been back
A 'ghost'. :o
I'm calling for the first ever official SBG seance!
Seance!?!
Next thing we'll need is an exorcism!
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If anybody's head starts spinning around, I'm outta here! >:D
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Well RazorX....i must be invisible to you then.........cause my head spins all the time............
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Well RazorX....i must be invisible to you then.........cause my head spins all the time............
Yes, but all I have to do to ward you off is glue two popsicle sticks together in the shape of a cross. >:D
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JUST OUTTA CURIOSITY, SINCE EVERYBODY IS POSTING ABOUT SWEDE , HAS ANYONE TRIED TO CONTACT HIM DIRECTLY TO SEE IF HE'S ALIVE STILL ? :o
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Now that you mention it, Porky ... I just googled the email address Swede has given ...
and it's a freshman at Pacific Lutheran University.
Maybe this guy isn't a ghost ... I left a voicemail and asked him to call back or post back on this site.
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I'm sure all of us has had your same thoughts exactly. Especially us guys who started losing our hair at 20 or earlier. You think a huge chunk of your masculinity has just vanished. But I can't explain it and the other guys here can back me, once you shave it off you feel like a new man. And being 21 your friends will no doubt give you a hard time, that's kinda what they're there for. Just know that it takes a bold man to go bald. As far as women, I had a hard time believing that there's actually women out there that like the sly look. Blew my mind. But there's tons! And really it's just being confident. That's a quality that's talked about on pretty much every discussion here. Confidence is key. So shave it off and walk tall.
Soaring high living Sly.
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Now that you mention it, Porky ... I just googled the email address Swede has given ...
and it's a freshman at Pacific Lutheran University.
Maybe this guy isn't a ghost ... I left a voicemail and asked him to call back or post back on this site.
Great move Padre. Be sure to post up and let us know if he is ok
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I'm sure all of us has had your same thoughts exactly. Especially us guys who started losing our hair at 20 or earlier. You think a huge chunk of your masculinity has just vanished. But I can't explain it and the other guys here can back me, once you shave it off you feel like a new man. And being 21 your friends will no doubt give you a hard time, that's kinda what they're there for. Just know that it takes a bold man to go bald. As far as women, I had a hard time believing that there's actually women out there that like the sly look. Blew my mind. But there's tons! And really it's just being confident. That's a quality that's talked about on pretty much every discussion here. Confidence is key. So shave it off and walk tall.
Soaring high living Sly.
you are very correct bulls-fan. every one on the fence should have to memorize that statement.
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I'll let you guys know when I know something.
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This has spun way out of control. I'm really sorry I made that post, I was drunk, I found your site and I was feeling sorry for myself after someone said something to me about my hair. I'm really sorry I haven't been back to the site on this name. I actually made another name because I was embarrassed about that post. Thank you all for your concern, I'm looking into seeing somebody about this. Sorry again for causing all this trouble.
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??????? No trouble here.....if you have a problem with your hair loss...that is what we are here for....moral support. Bring it to the table bro.....Dont ever feel embarassed about stuff like that and dont ever think you are causing trouble. So if im harsh here...i dont mean to be....but like I have been told....Man UP!...we can help you build your confidence....if you are willing to let it be built....
Timmy
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Whoa glad to see that everything is good Swede. Dude whatever you have on your mind, good or bad share it with the peeps here. We would like to get to know you and try to get u to become sly!! O0
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I understand Swede. We all have our moments, trust me. Glad you're OK.
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Lesson from the "Swede17" incident, this bunch of guys really cares. It's a REALLY nice thing to know, literally for each other, makes me feel good about the whole site.
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Great to hear that all is ok Swede. Just know you have a place to turn to for support and a great bunch of guys and gals willing to listen.
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swede....glad that u r okay. please...don't b embarrassed about your statements...u were just letting it all out. like paul said...u now know that u have a place 4 support. we got your back. O0
WARHAWK O0
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There's always someone here waitin to give some great support. hope you post back, Swede, and get to know everybody. They're a great bunch of guys. O0
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Hang in there ... Hope things are better
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Swede,
It is obvious you are 'reaching out' and you have clearly come to the right place. As many have already said; plenty of women find bald/ shaved men attractive . work with what you have to become more attractive and confident. start exercising , working out ; not to become a bodybuilder, if that is not your thing, but to get your circulation going; get you outside of your own head .
Live life !
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I second what John just said. And as Warhawk said, we've got your back.
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Swede, I'm glad you're doing ok! LIke the others have said, we're here to help you.
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Great to hear things are looking up Swede. The support you will find on this site is great. You truly have come to the right place.
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i wholeheartedly agree with what johnmont said, Do anything to get out your head. You can drive yourself mad obsessing over it. just keep busy.
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glad to hear you are doing better.
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WELL SWEDE , I'm gad "somebody "got it together enuff to email the address you had left in your profile to see if you WERE alive or Timm bait ! just glad your attitude was TEMPORAILLY alchol induced , but ya might consider talking to someone heart to heart . And like they said we ARE here to talk to and far enuff you can be open without worring too much about running into one of us on the street . When you FIRST posted you brought alot of te guys together as to what to do so AGAIN were glad you seem to be ok
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WELL SWEDE , I'm gad "somebody "got it together enuff to email the address you had left in your profile to see if you WERE alive or Timm bait !
Thats for damn sure...You dont want to end up TIM Bait....lol
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Glad to hear all is well. We all have our moments. This is a great site for moral support. Kudos everybody for coming together when someone needed it.
Always a pleasure to be involved with this great bunch of guys/gals!!
KC