Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => General Discussion => Topic started by: ncblue on December 31, 2007, 01:24:36 PM
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Well, it's been nearly two weeks and the wife is not budging :Xo!
She says she hates the look, has never liked bald men and is withholding certain necessary activities until the hair is growing back D@^^....
After twenty years of marriage, and me doing plenty of crazy things, I've run into a wall with this one. She's serious.
The big problem is I realy like the look, low maintenance and the feeling of being a little different. I'm digging the slyness!
So, if you've been through this, can I wear her down, or should I give up now?
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nc, you R-O-C-K the SLY! Hold firm and be persistant. Wifie's just testing you. Don't give in to her threats.
Sounds like my wife last year. At first she hated my shaved head. But with time she has come around and wouldn't like me any other way.
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Tough one brother.....
My wife ASKED me to shave my head clean after I was growing it out for our wedding...
so, I think Schro went through the same thing as you...
but you know if being bald makes YOU happy, that's something to consider..
good luck, I hope you stick to the slick look...it looks good on ya brother! O0
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nc, you R-O-C-K the SLY! Hold firm and be persistant. Wifie's just testing you. Don't give in to her threats.
Sounds like my wife last year. At first she hated my shaved head. But with time she has come around and wouldn't like me any other way.
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Good for you Tyro...looks great bro!
Agreed...NCblue, she will probably come around....sometime! ;)
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Hey NCBlue, Andre is right. The Lovely Mrs. Schro hated the look when I did the deed one year ago. Unfortunately, she still does. But for me, shaving my head has finally given me relief from a bad scalp condition that has afflicted me all my life (sebhorreic dermititis). Many SBG's have gotten similar relief from dandruff, itchy scalp, etc. For that reason, I plan on stying sly the rest of my life.
I really wish my wife liked the look, but she doesn't. Frankly, I've grown to accept this and don't feel like battling her anymore. When she makes a snide comment on the look (which is happening less & less these days b/c she realizes my look isn't going to change), I just remind her that I like the look, I like the relief from my SD condition, and I'm sorry she can't get on board.
Just give her time, NCB and be polite about it. You can only hope she'll get behind it over time. Don't "force" her to like it.
Cheers,
Schro
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She will come around....they all end up coming back. Stand firm......its not what you look like that should determine her love for you.....its your personality. So Stand firm bro...dont back down.
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Stand firm......its not what you look like that should determine her love for you.....its your personality. So Stand firm bro...dont back down.
Man, that's not a good thing, my personality ain't that great..... ^-^
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Two weeks ain't that long.....it's not like yer wanting her to get used to a second wife or mistress of yours coming into the picture.
Has she ever changed her hair style....or some other "style"? I bet you were 'flexible'.
My wife has never been crazy about it....but she's happy to see me diggin' it. The only thing she is hard-lined about is that I keep the basic vandyk goatee (like in the pic). She thinks that looks best with the bald look.
Give it more time....let her know how much you like it....how can she argue with that?
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Mine isn't happy, but she's slowed down on the bad comments. NC, why don't you take her out to a nice dinner, show her that you're the same, just happier now. I'm happy when my spouse is happy, and I want to her do the same, this makes me happy, so please let it be--sort of thing. It isn't so much of a conflict, as showing her that this is what makes you happy, and that you do things to make her happy that aren't necessarily what you would do, absent her. It's a marriage, not a contest.
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Thanks for the support guys. I'm still shaving and hanging in there, taking it one day at a time!
Plus, I just colored my facial hair (no more gray), so I've got to give this "new" look some time! I'm digging it right now! O0
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Thanks for the support guys. I'm still shaving and hanging in there, taking it one day at a time!
Plus, I just colored my facial hair (no more gray), so I've got to give this "new" look some time! I'm digging it right now! O0
ncblue....glad that u r diggin' the new look. stay strong and hope that the wifey supports your slyness. O0 O:O
WARHAWK O0
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If your hair (or lack thereof) is driving a wedge in your relationship, compromise may be in order.
On the other hand if it were me, I would make her ask herself "Why doesn't he love me for who I am on the inside?"
If I ended up growing my hair (would never happen in my situation but... hypothetically..) god help her if she gained a pound, didn't shave her legs or got a bad haircut.
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Yup, just stand firm. Maybe she'll come around, maybe not. My wife still asks me to grow mine back. I just politely remind her it ain't gonna happen.
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My 2 cents.
Well. This IS a personal grooming/lifestyle forum. However, we seem to visit the personal relationship area with great frequency. That said, your situation sounds very familiar situation.
Red Flag: sexual blackmail so cupcake can get her way? Oh HELL no!!! This isn't about your head, this is about power in the relationship. I won't bore you with MY response to this tactic, but you might want to really analyze what game is being played here.
Time for a manhood check?
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...sexual blackmail...you might want to really analyze what game is being played here.
I dunno about "manhood check" but the game being played should definitely be checked.
....god help her if she gained a pound, didn't shave her legs or got a bad haircut.
Another good point...and sorta what I alluded to above.
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Time for a manhood check?
Not accusing ncblue of this....
It's just been a while since I "whipped" these out...and the "manhood check" thang was irrisistable.
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ncblue, Just hang in there.
Don't listen to some of these guys. They're still recovering from their drunken New Year's Eve stupor. It's the mean spirits that are doing the talkin'.
Chalk this up to change. No one has an easy time adjusting to change.
You opted for a change in your appearance and that's a good thing. Be cool about this and everything will go your way. O0
Ben
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I highly doubt her love for you is skin deep, so just stand firm and things should work themselves out.
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She will come around....they all end up coming back. Stand firm......its not what you look like that should determine her love for you.....its your personality. So Stand firm bro...dont back down.
Like the Johnny Cash song ;D
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Like the Johnny Cash song ;D
HAHAHA!!!!
Boom chucka boom chucka boom chucka boom chucka boom chucka boom chucka boom dub dub dub.
O0
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Whipped is not a good place to be.
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I really hope NC didnt give in....I would like to see him around
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Hey NC, welcome from another NC member.
I'm just curious, how can she cut you off without cutting herself off in the process? O0
Hang in there bro.
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Hey, let us know what's going on Blue. A lot of us have more support outside the home than at home. My wife's latest, "You've lost your looks and all your dignity!" That was after going to dinner w/ friends a couple of Martini's, wine and after dinner drinks. What really set her off I think was the two couples we went w/ all liked the look, and one was an artist who my wife admires. She went on about the great headshape--actually a subject I worried about--etc. So, my wife's mourning a memory of yesterday, and I won't go there, I'm aimed straight at the future, and for me it's a Sly one. She will ultimately get on the train, there isn't any other transportation to the future.
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She will ultimately get on the train, there isn't any other transportation to the future.
Love that line!
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Blue, I feel for you, man. Been there, done that; still dealing with it since I first tried being sly in '06. It's an individual thing between you and her; part of that relationship thing.
My wife has a thing against me being bald. Before the first time I shaved, I started the MPB thing and was messing around with about a #2 on top and close on the rest. My wife threaten with the big "D" (divorce) if I didn't grow some hair back.
Finally I blinked (lost the staring contest) and grew it out to about a #1 and have slowly gone shorter.
Advancing MPB makes me want to go sly but she still insists on having a shadow of hair, which is the sides and back at this point. Ironically, most everyone thinks of me as bald and don't notice what hair I have (except the other sly ones).
If it becomes a huge stumbling block, you need figure out how important your happiness is and hers, and let her know your thoughts- something guys don't usually do very well.(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi260.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fii11%2FSlyDATBoy%2FIMGP1192mini.jpg&hash=23dea433e5755de4db560c5906b17922ebb632ba)
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nc, you R-O-C-K the SLY! Hold firm and be persistant. Wifie's just testing you. Don't give in to her threats.
Sounds like my wife last year. At first she hated my shaved head. But with time she has come around and wouldn't like me any other way.
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Hey Tyro,
I thing your wife looks a bit like Angelika Houston. Anyone else ever mention that?
John
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NCBUE-
Hang in there Dude......change isn't easy for most people (your wife in this case). Remind her that she didn't marry you for your hair and that you're still the same great guy. Tell her that it makes you feel good, that it makes you look and feel younger, and that you feel it helps your self esteem to feel so good about your new look. Also, let her know all the positive comments you get from people about how great the look is on you.
Mike 8)