Sly Bald Guys Forum
New Member Section => Introductions => Topic started by: AdamzHedz on November 24, 2007, 07:12:13 PM
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Thanks for the welcome. You definitely seem like a good group of guys. Even if I'm not ready to take it slick yet it's cool to know there are others out there dealing with the same thing. After reading some of the postings I can't help but think about getting rid of what's left but I just don't think I'm at that point yet. Hell, only recently have I been brave enough to lose the hat. Looks like it will be baby steps for me.
If and when I get to the point where I am ready to go "SLY" any good suggestions on how to get the wife ready too?
Thanks again guy,
Adam
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Thanks for the welcome. You definitely seem like a good group of guys. Even if I'm not ready to take it slick yet it's cool to know there are others out there dealing with the same thing. After reading some of the postings I can't help but think about getting rid of what's left but I just don't think I'm at that point yet. Hell, only recently have I been brave enough to lose the hat. Looks like it will be baby steps for me.
If and when I get to the point where I am ready to go "SLY" any good suggestions on how to get the wife ready too?
Thanks again guy,
Adam
The fact that you're here proves that you're interested in giving "sly" a try, so the first thing you need to do is admit to yourself that it's something that's going to happen sooner or later. If going shorter in stages makes it easier for you, then that's what you need to do.
When you're out in public, take note of how many shaved heads you see. There's a lot of them out there, many of them belonging to guys your age. What's becoming less and less common is to see a younger bald guy who doesn't shave off what's left. It's become totally mainstream now, even in the corporate world.
As far as your Mrs. goes -- it depends on how receptive you think she'll be to the idea. Some women love it, others don't. If you think she might not be thrilled with the idea, then consider what many others who've gone down this path ahead of you have said -- it's easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission. And if you're going shorter in stages, you can always blame the final stage on the barber. Say he cut your hair shorter than you asked for. >:D
I'm sure that somebody here could Photoshop your avatar pic to give you an idea what you'd look like without the fringe.
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Adam, Razor makes alot of good points. You probably wouldn't be hanging out here if it hadn't caught your attention. It's not unusual that you're not ready to jump right in with both feet. That is probably more the exception than the rule with guys here. Feel free to take it slow and take it a step at a time. Several on here were fence sitters for a time. But one thing is consistent, when they finally took the plunge, they all said "I wish I would have done it sooner". So just hang around and you'll get a lot of good support and info. We're glad to have you here. O0
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You're right SLYinKC, the idea of going "SLY" has caught my attention. I probably will take the plunge one day.
RazorX, I like your idea of blaming it on the barber as an explanation to my wife. That might just work. I'll have to figure something out because she definitely hates the idea. You mentioned using Photoshop to get an idea of what I'd looke like without the fringe. Is that something I can do myself? If it doesn't look that bad I might be able to use that to convince her.
As I'm typing this I'm starting to realize that I'm more worried about her reaction than mine. Maybe I'm more ready to go "SLY" than I thought.
Thanks Guys,
Adam
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You're right SLYinKC, the idea of going "SLY" has caught my attention. I probably will take the plunge one day.
RazorX, I like your idea of blaming it on the barber as an explanation to my wife. That might just work. I'll have to figure something out because she definitely hates the idea. You mentioned using Photoshop to get an idea of what I'd looke like without the fringe. Is that something I can do myself? If it doesn't look that bad I might be able to use that to convince her.
As I'm typing this I'm starting to realize that I'm more worried about her reaction than mine. Maybe I'm more ready to go "SLY" than I thought.
Thanks Guys,
Adam
There's a site that will do it for a fee, but it looks like the guy is on vacation at the moment:
http://headshave.baldlygo.com/payment.html
I think we have a couple of members here that know how to do it. I'm sure one of them would be happy to give you a sneak preview. A lot of people are offline right now because of the holiday weekend, but most of our regulars will probably be checking in over the next couple of days.
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Welcome Adam ... You'll know when the time is right to shave it all off. But, hang around here often and it'll likely happen pretty quickly.
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Ya know Adam...if she really loves you...she wont leave you over it. My wife had mixed reactions at first...and I think to this day she still wishes I would grow it back..but I heard her mention to someone not long ago that she couldnt imagine me wiht hair. It just grows on you. I dont want to sound mean because you have to respect your wife and I respect mine alot...but its my head. I told her that and she was like well what ever...people will laugh at you not me. Well she has found that I get more attention in a social setting...and she is like im surprised that everyone comes to talk to you. Hey baby....its just the shininess of my head....it brings em in like a ship at sea during the night. LOL..
WEll you will come to the point Adam when you are ready to take the plunge...but always remember ..It will grow back...so we are all waiting! LOL....post up a pic when you do. Good Luck
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Adam,
My wife still hates the sly look on me, but knows it's the only way I get complete relief from the itching & scratching that comes with sebhorreic dermititis. Personally, I can't understand the reason for it. Although my dome is on the larger side (hat size 7 5/8), my head shape is pretty symetrical with no glaring bumps. The thing that is also going against me is that she's a very stubborn woman and (even if she did grow to like it) would never admit it looks good.
If your avatar is a current pic, I'd say shave it down a notch, wear it at that length for a short time, get used to it, and then take it down another notch. You'll eventually get down to no guard, and the actual shave will be a mere formality.
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Hey Adam!
Nice that you're considering going fully slick bald one of these days, you'll look great dude..
it'll hit ya one day, then you'll shave the lot clean...and THEN you'll say "I should have done it sooner"..
but do it when YOU feel comfortable with it bro..
You'll look great when you do it! O0
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Adam, you wil not look much different than now. To get accostumed, get #2 or #1 crops, then you'll be one litle step from #0 or even shaved smooth. Keep the goatee, it suits well on you.
As for your wife, at the end she will love it. Women tend to say "no you should not shave your head" but they are the first ones to say it suits you better when you do it.
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Adam, I say just go for it - After all, in what rule book does it say that bald men can't change their hairstyle too? I mean, if your missus fancied a change of appearance & wanted a new hair style would you tell she couldn't? I suspect not. I don't really see much difference - it's only hair after all. Not like you want to get yer sense of humour amputated or something! ;D .... & it does grow back (far too quickly for those of us who like to keep it sly in fact)
Anyway, at your own pace of course, but I am pretty sure that once you do give it a try you'll be wondering what took you so long! Good luck & keep us posted. O0
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Yeah: have to agree with slyshyguy: going slick is just another hairstyle, and it's one of the best hairstyles for a balding guy. Women and men change their styles all the time: why not just look on it as a change of style and go for it? 8)
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Sometimes you have to do what is best for you and the only person that knows what is best for you sometimes is , well... you.
At least shave it down to a #0.
I know that marriage is about compromise but shaving is not permanent and within a few weeks you can be back to having the hair you have now.
Whatever the case, be proud of who you are and you will always look good.
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Thanks Marz
Adam
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I can totally relate to you, dude. It's babysteps for me too this whole accepting the hairloss thingie. I noticed that I'm balding 1.5 years ago and it has progressed pretty damn fast. Only recently have I started to go out without a hat, and I gotta admit that it feels good. Last summer I buzzed my head to 4mm and everyone I know saw me that way yet didn't make any nasty comments. So I guess I looked ok. I'm still a long way from shaving my head though!
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Its OK fella's. Thats waht this site is for . Support. It will come to you all when you are ready. Just be glad that you found this site because we not only support you all but we will give you our honest advice. Everyone is different, there are no two people alike...and if there are...all they do is fight. :x! :x! Anyways....take those babysteps by all means....you will get comfortable with it. Some guys will just take the plunge sorta like I did and just shave it off, keeping in mind it will grow back in a few weeks. Yes it was a shock not only to my family but myself. I stood in the bathroom for like an hour I know...tryin to get up the courage to walk out. I did it and got alot of dropped jaws and Dad! WHAT DID YOU DO TO YOUR HAIR!.....My youngest daughter even ran to the neighbors house shouting MY DAD IS BALD MY DAD IS BALD! LOL actually it was sorta comical...but hey 5 months later...im still shaving it. Have gotten a few comments about how people couldnt imagine me wiht hair anymore. It growns on ya....so when you are ready....let us know...so we can cheer you on! Good Luck guys
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To "prepare" the wife, buzz the fringe really tight, a 1 or 2 max, and clean up the top at 0. After a few weeks, just do it, and if the pressure of the spouse is too much, let it grow back after thirty days. With the approval you'll be getting from third parties, friends and acquaintances in her presence, she may come around. What have you got to lose, but looking somewhat older than you need to for a 30 day trial?
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adamhedz.....welcome 2 the sly fraternity. glad that ya found us. taking baby steps is okay just make sure those steps r going 4ward. whenever.... u r ready 2 do the deed ask us questions so that we can help u get a gr8 shave just remember 2 use a quality razor like a fusion, mach3, or headblade.
WARHAWK O0
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Timm youre a killer!
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Adam,
You are exactly where I was last Summer (July) when I finally took the plunge after an eternity of sitting "on the fence" (( just ask the other guys ))
I had similar issues with the wife. RazorX is spot on with his "forgiveness rather than permission" approach. And going gradually shorter helps too. Do the fringe at #2 for a few days; then go down a notch over a two week period. By the time you are at .50 the actual razor shave will not even be that big of a step.
Since you are mpb already; I would think your wife would not take too long to get used to the whole thing. And then, she might gradually start to like the fact that you've taken a radical kind of step .
But I think the only solution with your wife is to "just do it." It's your head / hair, and she will just have to get used to it (after all, she had no say in the top hairs' falling out, did she?
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hey bro!!!
you look amazing with shaved head!!!
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hey bro!!!
you look amazing with shaved head!!!
Wow, JP, bro.... YOU look way cool with the "extreme shave" in your avatar...
very bald.....very cool! O0 O0 O0
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Welcome to SBG's Adam, glad you joined us.
I can only echo what all the guys have already said, and it's some very good advice.
I was in a similar position about 8 months ago, and I was a fence sitter for about 3 of them.
I had the mpb in front and the "hole" in back, as my daughter called it.
All I can say is take it down gradually, from #2 to 1 and even 0. I know you will want to eventually shave it all off because the closer I got to the scalp with my regular buzzing, I just knew it was inevitable. (I had actually always said if my hair starts going, I would shave it off).
If you do it, give it some time to become familiar with seeing your smooth skin. Use a good razor, as Warhawk stated. I think once you do, you will utter the same words as many of us;
"Why didn't I do this sooner".
Good luck and keep us posted.
Joe
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Baby steps is all right!
Wifey will come around! Its something different for them to get used to!
Besides that my wife said that she didn't marry for just my head!
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Looks like I am a little late but welcome and congrats Adamz, the sly look suits you well! 8)
Also, welcome to SBG's craighunter.
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Thanks for the welcome. You definitely seem like a good group of guys. Even if I'm not ready to take it slick yet it's cool to know there are others out there dealing with the same thing. After reading some of the postings I can't help but think about getting rid of what's left but I just don't think I'm at that point yet. Hell, only recently have I been brave enough to lose the hat. Looks like it will be baby steps for me.
If and when I get to the point where I am ready to go "SLY" any good suggestions on how to get the wife ready too?
Thanks again guy,
Adam
Adam, welcome to SBG! I wore hats for a long time and almost everywhere I went. I suggest you do what I did - gradually shave it down over a period of time and then by the time you decide to go SLY both you and your wife will be used to the look and it won't be that big of a deal. When I finally went SLY, no one really noticed until I said something because I had buzzed it down so low anyway. Good luck!