Sly Bald Guys Forum
New Member Section => Introductions => Topic started by: Robbie27 on October 15, 2007, 11:50:57 AM
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hi, im 20 years old, and its killing me.
its not that noticeable at the moment cos it only started recently, but its the fear of the future that i just cant take. i never realised it before i started losing my hair, but my entire self-esteem is rooted in the way i look. i am seriously close to admitting myself to hospital, because i am having panic attacks every day, etc, and tbh ive thought about suicide.
sorry to get all serious on you, i just dont know what to do
i wouldnt mind if i thought it could look in any way ok, but i have a massive head and am almost certain it will look very bad
if i send a pic is it possible to get it altered to show what i would look like? i dont know if i should becauseif i saw it and it looked bad it would send me over the edge
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Shave it, sounds like you already have the bug so just do it.
Welcome to Sly Bald Guys also 8)
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if i send a pic is it possible to get it altered to show what i would look like? i dont know if i should becauseif i saw it and it looked bad it would send me over the edge
Dude, post a straight on head shot...
i'll be happy to show you how much better you'll look bald!
Don't sweat it dude....it's really a lot more acceptable in every circle these days!
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Robbie,
Many of the guys on this forum have been through this same thing (myself included). I began loosing my hair at about 22 and bald heads were not nearly as accepted as they are now.
First thing, the way you look is not just your hair, it is your attitude, cleanliness, smile, eyes and many other aspects of you other than your hair.
Second, to save yourself a lot of heartache, scaring, depression, trouble and money, dont start grabbing at straws trying to reverse the effects of mother nature. There is no cure for male pattern baldness and there are a million things you can throw money at to achieve nothing.
Third, This is the first of many times throughout your life you will be faced with changes in your appearance. Learning now to accept these changes, (even embrace them) and reinvent your appearance to reflect who you REALLY are is going to help you tremendously.
Fourth, post a pic of yourself.
and last but not least, just shave your head. Your hair will grow back to what it is now and you will be suprised as to how over critical you are to yourself (we all are).
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Just do it! And give yourself 30 days to see if it truly suits you. I doubt you will regret it. Welcome to the forum!
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Welcome!!! from one Robbie to another.
It's hard to convey in a short message that you shouldn't be so consumed by your appearance.
When I was 20 (25 years ago :XX) yeah, appearance was critical but I certainly wouldn't rap my lips around a pistol or hearl myself off a cliff......I would have missed out on a lifetime of rich blessings that have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH APPEARANCE. Believe me, I have a lot more appearance issues now than I've ever had.
Anyway, give the shave a try, buddy.....either gradually clip it closer and closer while you get used to it.....or shave it off and give it 3-5 weeks to get used to while you hang with us. O0
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ok, so if i post a picture, can you just tell me what you think?
I DO NOT want to see a digitally changed picture at this stage, im not ready
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Yep.
Post it up and we will give you an honest opinion.
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I agree with the other guys. Many of us were in the exact same situation you're in. I know that shaving your head seems pretty radical, and I was as apprehensive as you are, but I think if you just go for it you'll find that it is the best solution - both for your appearance and emotional well-being.
The good news is that you found a group of guys that have gone through the same thing as you and can provide lots of sound advice and guidance ....
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Yeah mate. I'm 19, so 'still' into the whole 'my looks are bloody important' and all that, although my body aint so brilliant so my face/head look was extremely important to me. Turns out though going bald was the best thing i did. People all find it 'awesome', in fact from all my friends (and the 'ladies' ;) ) all i get is positive stuff and a whole new conversation starter.
Most girls my age, and slightly older - basically people someone my age would be hanging around with - go on about how it makes a guy look confident (which in turn = sexy) if he can pull off the bald look. I've got a goatie goin too, so personally, i've never actually felt better about my appearence.
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welcome bro.
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Robbie, welcome....... and my advice is to head on over to hairlosshelp.com and check out the hair transplant repair section. You will see that you are LUCKY to have the OPTION of shaving your head, trust me.
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Welcome robbie and listen to the other brothers, they know what they are talking about. Also continue to read the various threads on here and you will see you are in no way alone or unique in your concerns. You will find plenty of support here for checking out the sly life and how liberating it can be.
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Welcome Robbie!!! I was in a similar situation to yours in that around my senior year of high school/freshmen year of college I noticed my hair had receded quite a bit and I just wore it in varying lengths for several years until about a year ago when I started buzzing it closer and closer until finally I was at a "0" guard. Then about 5-6 months ago I decided I'd had enough and found this forum and received plenty of support and I haven't been this happy about my appearance in a long time! My other bros have already given you some great advice as well, so we're all behind you no matter what. I can guarantee you though that if you do become SLY you likely won't regret it - not many of us have. So you're 20 and losing your hair, honestly man, it's not the end of the world. I know it may seem that way, but embrace who you are now and give the SLY look a chance and chances are that you'll love the freedom.
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Dude, I've got a massive melon ... 7-3/4 hat size ... inherited it from my grandpa. Nothing wrong with a big head.
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Welcome to the board Rob,
It truly is a hard time for people who start balding at such a young age including me (lost my hair at 22). I tried everything from Rogaine, Revivogen, Saw Palmetto, Emu Oil, and other nasty potions that claim they can reverse the effects of baldness, what a bunch of BS! I had no success with any of these. Realizing that none of the drugs mentioned were helping me I became depressed, really depressed to the point where I became very secluded. Knowing that I couldn't do nothing but watch my hair as it gradually fell off my head was truly one of the worst experiences I have ever had in my life. But with the help of the great men and women I found on here I SHAVED IT OFF ONCE AND FOR ALL. Once I shaved it off I started thinking of things I could improve on in terms of my physical appearance and so I started weight lifting, running and just being an active guy. My life has truly improved ever since, I apologize for rambling on but you should get something out of my little story. Don't let "baldness" conquer you, you have one life, make sure you live it to its fullest. I hope this helps you out.
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I echo all the advice given to you...just do it, you won't regret it!
Hey, most of all...welcome to SBGs, Robbie! 8)
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Welcome to the site, Robbie. Great group of people here. Take your time and soak in the knowledge.
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Hi Robbie,
Welcome to SBG's. I think a lot of us who started losing our hair at a young age probably felt similar feelings to what you've expressed. I started losing my hair at about age 20 also & it wasn't a lot of fun but ...... things do get easier. I think that the early stages of mpb are by far the most traumatic. So hang in there bro ... & rest assured, it may seem hard at the moment but things do get easier. I think also having a place where you can open up & talk about it can help a lot. I know that when I was going through the early stages of hair loss one of the worst aspects was feeling very alone & as if there was nowhere & no-one I could go to to open up to about how I was feeling - SBG's provides such a place - check out some of the other threads, post up & become an active member - I'd be willing to bet that after a few months hanging out here at SBG's you'll feel a whole lot better about the whole issue regardless of whether you decide to do the deed & shave it all off or not O0
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Welcome to the board Rob,
It truly is a hard time for people who start balding at such a young age including me (lost my hair at 22). I tried everything from Rogaine, Revivogen, Saw Palmetto, Emu Oil, and other nasty potions that claim they can reverse the effects of baldness, what a bunch of BS! I had no success with any of these. Realizing that none of the drugs mentioned were helping me I became depressed, really depressed to the point where I became very secluded. Knowing that I couldn't do nothing but watch my hair as it gradually fell off my head was truly one of the worst experiences I have ever had in my life. But with the help of the great men and women I found on here I SHAVED IT OFF ONCE AND FOR ALL. Once I shaved it off I started thinking of things I could improve on in terms of my physical appearance and so I started weight lifting, running and just being an active guy. My life has truly improved ever since, I apologize for rambling on but you should get something out of my little story. Don't let "baldness" conquer you, you have one life, make sure you live it to its fullest. I hope this helps you out.
I was in Saw Palmetto for 6 months, no effect!
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O0 O0 O0 Ahoy, mate Robbie. Marz and the Guv said some valuable things to you. We all realize your pain but back off, mate, and get some perspective. Your brain works, your smile works, your manhood works. Hair is hair. The list of great, sexy, self-confident bald men is sooo long that you should perceive that attitude is almost all. Your boyhood self-image is going. Let it go; mourn it, if you must. Suicide, going over the edge? Do not even consider such an overreaction. Many thick-haired men CHOOSE a clean shaven dome for aesthetic reasons. Post a picture. In all likelihood, your anxiety is unjustified. As RazorX has commented, most men actually look better bald. I am coming on my first year anniversary of slyness. All reactions have been positive and I should not even think of abandoned my daily shave to achieve total smoothness. All best, Professor Melon
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O0 O0 O0 Ahoy, mate Robbie. Marz and the Guv said some valuable things to you. We all realize your pain but back off, mate, and get some perspective. Your brain works, your smile works, your manhood works. Hair is hair. The list of great, sexy, self-confident bald men is sooo long that you should perceive that attitude is almost all. Your boyhood self-image is going. Let it go; mourn it, if you must. Suicide, going over the edge? Do not even consider such an overreaction. Many thick-haired men CHOOSE a clean shaven dome for aesthetic reasons. Post a picture. In all likelihood, your anxiety is unjustified. As RazorX has commented, most men actually look better bald. I am coming on my first year anniversary of slyness. All reactions have been positive and I should not even think of abandoned my daily shave to achieve total smoothness. All best, Professor Melon
Robbie: Tke the advice of the good professor and run with it ... and try a "balderized" photo. It might help make the decision easier.
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hi, im 20 years old, and its killing me.
its not that noticeable at the moment cos it only started recently, but its the fear of the future that i just cant take. i never realised it before i started losing my hair, but my entire self-esteem is rooted in the way i look. i am seriously close to admitting myself to hospital, because i am having panic attacks every day, etc, and tbh ive thought about suicide.
sorry to get all serious on you, i just dont know what to do
i wouldnt mind if i thought it could look in any way ok, but i have a massive head and am almost certain it will look very bad
if i send a pic is it possible to get it altered to show what i would look like? i dont know if i should becauseif i saw it and it looked bad it would send me over the edge
Not to trivialize your delimma, but what one person sees as a tragedy, another see as good fortune. Give shaving your head a shot. Since you are balding you have nothing to loose. I would be totally shocked if you didn't like it and want to keep it. I have a full head of hair (and others here like JDog have much more hair naturally than I do) and shave every day. It's addictive man, and you will love it. Give it go go man. I consider you lucky in that you will have less of a shadow O0
Defintely not worth panic attacks or suicide. I wish I had been pushed into it when I was 20 ... I'd have 10 years sly under my belt.