Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: outsider82 on September 17, 2007, 09:28:55 AM
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Hey Guys,
Thought i would drop you a line and tell you that i'm home now. I haven't shaved my head just yet. Before i left to go overseas (three weeks ago), I had to go to a family BBQ. My parents were there, and they saw me with the sly head (it wasn't fresh, i'd let it go for three days). They didn't say anything about my hair that day. All my other relatives said that i looked exactly like a younger replica of my father, to which they were kinda surprised. Later that week, i had to go over to get my passport from my parents place.
These were my parents words about my slyness. Mum: "I think your hair is too short, It should be longer, but..... if thats what you want...." Dad: "I think that your hair is too short too".
This spun me out because dad is naturally bald, and he shaves his to a #0 himself.
These comments and a few others by people make me second guess my choice to go sly. Even though one of the experiences i wanted to gain out of this was to not care about what other people think. I find myself going back to worrying about it.
After going to europe and seeing all the sly guys over there, made me want to be sly even more.
I just feel a little confused. Any thoughts?
Out
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These comments and a few others by people make me second guess my choice to go sly. Even though one of the experiences i wanted to gain out of this was to not care about what other people think. I find myself going back to worrying about it.
After going to europe and seeing all the sly guys over there, made me want to be sly even more.
I just feel a little confused. Any thoughts?
Out
That is natural to take negative comments to heart. My mother-in-law visited us this weekend and she harped on me the entire time she was there on how much better I look with hair. It made me want to go and shave it even smoother! You can never make everyone happy, and no matter what you do not eveyone will approve. I feel it is best to just do what YOU like and f*&^ everyone else. Just my opinion... This is what I do, and it works for me.
Personally I think you sport the sly look exceptionally well O0
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Do what makes you happy. It's your head.
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Be yourself Out. Like being sly?....be sly...stay sly. I too got negative reactions from family and especially parents but you have to be true to yourself. In time they will all come around. Besides, you know you can always turn here for support.
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Be yourself Out. Like being sly?....be sly...stay sly. I too got negative reactions from family and especially parents but you have to be true to yourself. In time they will all come around. Besides, you know you can always turn here for support.
Thanks Paul.
That's why i posted the topic, needed some healthy constructive comments from you guys.
It's 1:30 am here and i'm wide awake, damn jetlag.
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Do what makes you happy. It's your head.
This about sums it up, and I also echo what Paul and X say too. Good advice.
Out, if you're wide awake, then why not get to shavin' the dome, brudda! ;)
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Do what makes you happy. It's your head.
This about sums it up, and I also echo what Paul and X say too. Good advice.
Out, if you're wide awake, then why not get to shavin' the dome, brudda! ;)
funny you should suggest that, i've just buzzed it to a 0, ready for the mornings shave.
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Hell I was bald when I came into the world it's not like anybody hasnt ever seen it b4 it's just been maybe 28 or 29 years and they forgot juuuuust how magnifico it was LOL
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As, I'm sitting here on the beach, hungover, listening to the waves, I've had a thought on whey relatives and parents sometimes make comments like this. You guys can let me know if you think I have something here or if it's the foggy brain that's got the best of me.
I think parents and relatives that give comments like "I liked you better with hair" or "I think you should keep it longer" are remembering the days when we were kids with hair and they were young. Now that they are getting older, us shaving our heads because of hair loss, or whatever reason, reminds them that we are adults now and that they are aging. So, the comments are really to help them feel better, not us.
Just a theory. What do you guys think?
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Think there is an awful lot of truth in those statements, Ty. It is always hard for parents to think of there kids as grown up, regardless of the child's age. I also think it a fact that the older you are the less likely you are to deal with change well.
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Tyler makes a good point. Looking older makes our parents feel older. Too bad!
My mom is not a fan of my slyness at all. But I think it's more that she's resistant to change. And that may be your parents issue as well. They just want you to stay the same, sweet little boy they've always known. They don't want to change that mental image of you that they carry around in their heads. So when they see us, their memory and their eyes are getting conflicting signals.
Make yourself happy. I think you look great sly. Mom and dad will get over it, once they get used to it. O0
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I think parents just need something to pick at.
First I got, "when are you gonna cut your hair?"
and now, "are you gonna grow it out?"
Maybe they just like teasing us.
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I scaled down and buzzed my hair so much since '98, no one really noticed...and when they did, it was for the better!!! O:O
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There might be some truth to the theory of parents not liking the sly look because it makes them feel old. But I also believe that for some it's a control issue. For others, it's a thing where they think that hair is what all should desire and they find it weird that some like being bald. I have had plenty of pressure in the past about my shaving my head. My now deceased dad would say, "Marshall, it looks like hell". My stepmother initially cried when I did it. I had a female friend try to guilt me to grow it back saying that in the Bible I am to honor my parents. Since my stepmom doesn't like the look that I was to honor her by growing my hair back, if I was to be a good Christian. Usually, I have been a people pleaser. But for me it has been a great thing to shave my head in terms of being my own person for once. Also it looks better than my thinning, receding hairline.
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Do your own thing man. Like many have said, if you like it then keep it. Don't let other's comments make your decision.
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hence "stepmother" isnt biological sooooo technically
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I think parents just need something to pick at.
First I got, "when are you gonna cut your hair?"
and now, "are you gonna grow it out?"
Maybe they just like teasing us.
Yeah; I had shoulder length hair in the '70s; and my dad and me had some real knock down drag outs about it (my mom didn't like it either). so it was a real trip when my dad said to me (a few yrs ago; when I had buzz cuts ) ; ' hmm ... your hair's awefully short .... " ..... it was like; "who kidnapped my dad and replaced him with an alien double ?!?! )
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I think parents just need something to pick at.
First I got, "when are you gonna cut your hair?"
and now, "are you gonna grow it out?"
Maybe they just like teasing us.
I can relate to this. When I had real long hair not so long ago, my mother always told me to get a "men's haircut", whatever that means... now when I'm losing my hair at a rapid speed she insists me to grow it long again. I'm like, what the hell, I'm losing it now and I can't grow it long anymore (thanks to your genes).
BTW JohnMont, it's really hard to try and imagine you with long hair :P.
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I too am a newly sly guy (Day 3 of at least 3 weeks). I did a heart walk head shaving fund raiser (for my son) and love the look and the reactions. They have been generally very favorable.
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Welcome BalDoug, that's great to hear!, and what a good cause to start you off on being smooth and sly! O0
Hope you keep the head shaved and smooth. If you haven't yet, post up in the introduction section so we can give you a proper greeting.
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I keep my head shaved for about 10 month now and I really like it. Most people at work think it looks great and that I wouldn't be the same with hair.
I love the smooth feeling - shaved for some month a couple of years ago and decided to be bal by choice from now on and won't let my hair grow back. I am 29 and have been at my parents home last week - my mom is really afraid and we had a couple discussions if I couldn't let it grow again. "You looked so much better."
I don't think the same and I feel much better being bald.
I agree with Tyler - maybe especially remember how we looked as kids or teenager. But the important thing is that we feel good being bald.
In addition to that - I git a new passport. Now with a bald head! I like it! It is really something different when you have a first "official" paper with you being bald. :)
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Everyone likes it except my mum. But hey can't please everyone.
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Everyone likes it except my mum. But hey can't please everyone.
Mums never like it... ;)
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Well then either my mum is a liar or she really does like it, lol!
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my mom is cool with it too.
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Out, you got to do what makes you happy, because parents are never happy. When I had VERY long hair my mom allways said I needed to cut it and when I started buzzing it she was shocked and freaked out now that I'm sly I can't wait to see her reaction, I don't care what it is because I love it but its goin to be funny one way or the other.
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Hey guys,
It's been a while since I checked in. I'm still here and still sly (most of the time). My parents still hate it, although mum rubs my head now when I'm over there. I was over there tonight infact, I'd let my hair grow slightly and my mum said "growing your hair back are we?"
I'm used to the whole shaving thing, I find it a relaxing part of my day/week.
I'm still working on the parents. Most of my friends haven't said anything lately which is nice. I've had some at work say "I can't imagine you with hair any more"
I've let my goatee grow out more makes it look fuller and redder. I'm also going to the gym as I think i need to buff up a little.
Keep up the sly look guys.
Out
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Hey out, great to hear that things are going well. As time goes on, more and more people will find it a nonevent. Just hang in there.
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I have been fortunate that my wife and other family members like my new look a lot.It might also be due to my moustache as it takes a lot of the focus away from my bald head ;D
Yes,hang in there.Time will change it.A few months from now they will forget what you looked like with hair!
Jim
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Outsider, thanks for checking in! It's good to hear that you're doing well!
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Yes,hang in there.Time will change it.A few months from now they will forget what you looked like with hair!
Absolutely. The key is to not give in to the temptation to grow your hair back in the early days. If you hang in there long enough, everyone will stop thinking about you as someone who recently shaved his head. Instead you'll be just another bald guy. They may never love the look, but they will eventually shut up about it.
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Just a bit of a side note guys. I tried for the first time, since going sly, shaving in the shower. I shaved with the Johnsons and Johnsons 24hr moisturiser Body wash and Shave. So far it was a success, no great irritation from the shave. There was one downside to it, I accidentally got the stuff in my eyes, and let me tell you. OUCH. I was using my head blade for the job.
I'll try no to worry about what other people think. My parents will calm down about it.
Out