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Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: Tyler on November 14, 2006, 01:37:16 AM

Title: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Tyler on November 14, 2006, 01:37:16 AM
Someone Google'd this question and ended up at Sly Bald Guys...so what do you think?

Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: BaldRob on November 14, 2006, 05:18:18 AM
I think that one is a tough one to answer... some women love it, some don't.

For me, the dating scene has been hit or miss since I've been bald.  But I will say that every woman that I've dated has at one time or another told me that before me they would have never even considered dating a bald guy.  And after the inevitable breakup, they tell me they always seem to be attracted to and date bald guys!

So for all bald guys that date someone that I already have... your welcome!!  ;D
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: BaldRob on November 14, 2006, 05:21:53 AM
And one more point on that... typically if a woman is concerned about your baldness, she is probably a pretty superficial and shallow woman.  Women who like bald guys tend to be a little more down to earth...  Not true in all cases, but I'm sure there are a few guys here that would back me up on this!
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: VFRWolf on November 14, 2006, 08:12:23 AM
've been married since I started shaving, so I had no idea.  Asked a young lady here at work that dates, her reply was "balding, yes, bald, no.  Bald is a fashion now."

Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: PBurke on November 14, 2006, 03:32:13 PM
I have been married way longer than i have been shaving, but my wife loves it now. I also get more compliments now. Even the nice lady that did cut the mop said that it works well. I kinda feel like if you are confident, then hair doesn't really matter. if a woman won't date someone cause of his hair, then she ain't worth our time anyway. what do you say, guys?
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: BaldRob on November 19, 2006, 09:10:56 AM
So... there I was at the House of Blues in Chicago last night...  My sister knew the both the opening band and the headliner (Johnny Lang), which meant we got in for free and had a "Meet & Greet" with the band after the show.

Back to the story... there was a girl in the group of people next to us who was pretty cute.  I was making eye contact with her at various points of the evening... next thing I knew, she was standing next to me and we talked for a little bit, then she moved back to the other side of her group (I know, shouldn't have made fun of the fact she was from CheeseHead Land)...  Well, then the show finished up and she slips me her phone number!!

With that being said, I'm going to stand by my earlier statement that it all depends on the girl in question... some don't care that you're bald, some do care that you're bald, and some chicks just like the confidence.  I really don't think it's a disadvantage at all...
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: PigPen on November 19, 2006, 09:42:24 AM
That's why I'm gonna live vicariously through Rob. He's the man.
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: mongo on November 29, 2006, 08:25:15 PM
Rob, I think I will live vicariously thru you as well cause right now the well is as dry as a bone in the mojave desert. I couldn't get a date with a hampster and for the life of me I just don't know why
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: PigPen on December 01, 2006, 07:11:16 AM
Hamsters are notoriously stingy about sticking to their own species. J/K

That was the first thought out of my warped mind today.
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: mongo on December 02, 2006, 07:47:38 AM
Yeah I know they are very prejudiced but still you would think you could find one that want to go to the salad bar with you LOL
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: PigPen on December 02, 2006, 09:19:28 AM
Or maybe the organic supermarket at least
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: mongo on December 07, 2006, 07:29:32 PM
Hey that may be a cheaper date than the salad bar thing
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Tyler on December 07, 2006, 11:42:21 PM
Or maybe the organic supermarket at least

I get a salad fairly often at the upscale (organic) supermarket by my work.  I see more hot girls at one time there than most bars I go to.
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: PBurke on December 08, 2006, 11:03:13 AM
healthy food and eye candy. good combo!!!!!
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: wpruitt on December 16, 2006, 04:46:54 PM
Let's face it ... it all boils down to personality.  If she is turned off by our domes then ... to hell with her.  Likewise, if it is only the dome that is turning her on, then she may be superficial (or have a strange fetish!).  I know Ms. Right will not give a rat's ____ about my scalp and hair.  She does need to love me regardless of what hair I have.
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Robmeister on December 16, 2006, 05:04:17 PM
She does need to love me regardless of what hair I have.

That's beautiful, wp  :'(
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: wpruitt on December 16, 2006, 05:38:06 PM
thanks bro
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: David on December 16, 2006, 06:43:51 PM
Let's see: 23 year old male who feels good about himself and takes pride in his awesome bald look is at a disadvantage?  Not to mention he stands out from most of the others in the single pool because of his shaved head, which leads to intrigue and a bit of mystery about him from ladies.  Don't think so.   

It's about being who you are anyways.   If you are yourself, good things will happen.
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: James on February 04, 2007, 12:06:55 PM
yea ever since i started shaving and wearing glasses, i have been getting alot of compliments....and i do agree with whoever said that the girls who only care about hair are superficial...like when i first did it, 2 of my female friends told me i was "no longer cute" and that the one girls boyfriend, who had previously been jealous of our friendship had "absolutely nothing to worry about"....i was just like "ok whatever"...idk but the bald noggin and the fact that im a hairstylist really helps me weed out the girls i wouldnt wanna date....if i hear "eew ur bald", or "i thought all hairstylists were gay" then i know how they are  :/O 

but yea on a side note about the girls liking hair thing...there is a guy i go to school with, and he is OBSESSED with his hair...hes like "all girls like hair" and he seriously acts like his hair is his being, his everything idk really how to explain it...so yea, that makes me feel cooler than him

in fact ever since i started doing this, i dont know why, but i just feel cooler....  O0

thanks for letting me get that out guys!

James
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: James on February 04, 2007, 12:11:18 PM
O ONE MORE THING.....

so i met this girl last week who came into my work, and ive been talking to her online alot the last week....

so she tells me she likes me and wants to hang out...

"well, your really sweet, and you have that cute shaved head thing going on."   ;D
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Tyler on February 04, 2007, 12:12:47 PM
"well, your really sweet, and you have that cute shaved head thing going on."   ;D


There you go man!!   O0
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: BaldRob on February 04, 2007, 12:13:20 PM
Right on James!  O0
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Robmeister on February 04, 2007, 12:19:38 PM
My take on that, James, is there are hot chicks..that are fans of just about every hair length.

Look at Heather Locklear and Pam Anderson -- they like the long-hair, rocker, bad boy look.

Then there are the hotties that like the GQ jelled, spikey, medium length hair...

And ya got yer hotties that dig on the bald look....not necessarily ONLY because of the look...but because of what it represents.....individualism....guts....confidence..

'nuff said
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: James on February 04, 2007, 12:40:34 PM
i see what ur saying there robmeister, and actually that reminded me...

the girl i was talking about said she always liked longer haired guys, she never saw herself liking a bald guy until she met me...

how about that!?  ;D

Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: James on February 04, 2007, 12:43:33 PM
i used to have that GQ medium length super styled hair, but i think i get more girls now than i did then....probably what u said about the individuality, attitude and all that  :)

and i like the girls i get now more....
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Robmeister on February 04, 2007, 01:38:10 PM
Alrighty then....there ya go O0
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: frostillicus123 on February 04, 2007, 03:29:44 PM
I work door at a bar, and I have more girls rubbing my head telling me it's sexy than I did when I had hair... I also get chicks numbers nightly (none of which I use). I'm not sure if it's my personality, the fact I do door and am a bouncer. I've nver been in short supply with girls numbers but i seriously think I get more now than before... maybe cause i've been in a solid relationship for 3 years... i don't know it's all speclation....
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Paul on February 11, 2007, 01:00:20 PM
I agree with the wisdom of the Robmeister on this.  A woman who is secure and independent herself is not going to care and may even prefer the individualist.  Have been Sly one month now and the lady I'm seeing is the same one who knew with me a full head of hair.  My ex on the other hand freaked when I wore high and tights in the Marines.  I'd much rather be dating someone who jtook me as I was, no changing.
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: socctty on February 14, 2007, 01:03:58 AM
I don't really agree with the sentiment that women who don't dig the bald look are superficial. Or rather, I don't agree with it to the extent that some other people tend to.

Like anybody, my previous relationships and other personal experiences have shaped my view of the opposite sex. I used to be the "nice guy", but I admittedly was a bit of a creepy nice guy. I was 16 and naive, so whatever. No shame about anything. Years later I've got a much better grasp on things, I think.

Going bald was a big deal for me, like I'm sure it is for others on this board. And one of the first things that comes to mind is the ladies situation. Six months before I finally admitted to myself that I was losing my hair - that I am truly my father's son, as I like to say it - was the first time someone said something to me about it. Me and my girlfriend at the time were laying in bed, and she half-jokingly said "Are you going bald?" I played it off with a shrug and said "I dunno, I don't care really." She responded with "I don't think I could ever date a bald guy." She must have seen my expression change, because after an uncomfortable silence, she gave a half-hearted "Well, I guess I could." The first girl that I ever cared that much for said that, so it had a profound impact.

That relationship ended dramatically, and I learned a lot. I hope the best for her, but I'm a completely different person now. I no longer put women on a pedestal like I used to; they're people, fer-god's-sake! And that's the basis of my philosophy towards women now: They Are People, Too. So I don't blame them if they don't like a certain look. Hell, I'm not attracted girls that weigh more than me, so who am I to point fingers?

Maybe bald reminds them of a guy who was a dickhead to them at their first job. Or maybe she buys into the social stigma thing - hopefully her best friend dates a sly guy and she sees first hand that sly guys are SLY guys. Women really aren't as superficial as us, but they're conditioned just like we are. Be the guy that changes their mind about bald guys - SLY guys. Take your swings, and if you strike out, you'll get to go to bat again, so don't worry. No one woman is like another, but no one woman is worth you belly-aching over "if only I had some hair".

Someone mentioned a quote from a female co-worker earlier: "Balding, no. Bald, yes." That's perfect.

Confidence is the KEY. And baldness can convey that. Imagine how ballsy it was of you to shave your dome the first time. Remember how liberating it felt? Carry yourself that way at all times! Every day is the first day you shaved your head.

Some women want not only confidence, but boldness. Not all do. But all of them want confidence. They don't want a boy, or a teenager - they want a man.

Confidence isn't being boisterous or being the guy that makes fun of everyone at the table over Christmas dinner. Confidence isn't getting in everyone's face at the bar. Confidence is being yourself and not having a single fucking problem with it. And as for sly guys? You're SLY - BE SLY. If you don't have a problem with being sly, then neither will most other people. And remember - girls (and women) are people, too.

Now, aside from confidence, I hear that a having a nice butt works pretty well, too.
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Slickdome on February 14, 2007, 01:40:21 AM
Now, aside from confidence, I hear that a having a nice butt works pretty well, too.

Oh man, that explains a lot.  All of these years...I thought it was a nice BUS...

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Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: gearhedguy on March 12, 2007, 04:07:13 PM
As a gay male I can only attest that most gay men seem to love my bald head. And if you combine it with something like a goatee they are even more attracted. It's always a conversation starter when I'm out at a gay bar and there's no doubt that my bald dome has gotten me quite a few phone numbers.  O0
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: PigPen on March 12, 2007, 04:42:27 PM
Gearhed!!! Long time no see, I think the only disadvantage that a bald head would be for dating is if you let it be one. ie, no confidence
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Tyler on March 12, 2007, 05:09:17 PM
Great to see you back gearhead! 
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Professor Melon on March 12, 2007, 06:02:34 PM
 O0 Gearhedguy, welcome home. Bald is no disadvantage in attracting a significant other. Stay safe. And stay sly, Professor Melon
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Professor Melon on March 12, 2007, 06:08:31 PM
 ;D Wife of 36 years loves clean shaved dome. It has injected some spice into our lives. Wish I had shaved it earlier. Females students make it clear, three to one, that they find it attractive. Professor Melon
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: schro on March 12, 2007, 07:13:20 PM
Is it a disadvantage? I don't know, I've never dated a bald guy.  :*)) :*))
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: Robmeister on March 12, 2007, 07:39:46 PM
Is it a disadvantage? I don't know, I've never dated a bald guy.  :*)) :*))

Well then....whatterya doin' Friday night, big boy?
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: PBurke on March 12, 2007, 07:53:44 PM
SCHRO has a secret err not so secret admirer. and she's a big girl too. :*)) :*)) :*))
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: schro on March 12, 2007, 08:00:21 PM
I, er, um, ......  :-\
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: flattop peterbilt on March 12, 2007, 10:20:50 PM
to define a disadvantage ... to being bald no it isn't....plain and simple ....is the fact your bald and still pulling your own TALL TOMMY ON A STICK everynight the reason.....I THINK NOT!!!!!

if a person does not like a person for who they are...or what they look like yes is a superficial and stuck up person male or female...

beauty is only skin deep...ugly is too the bone....


as for the dating thing or getting #'s at a bar....there is only one thing you need to know...have fun be yourself...the right on will come too you don't go too them.....I never chased a female ever they always chased me cause I never found a female that can tolerate not being persued...the lack of intrest only makes them want to get you more....
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: schro on March 12, 2007, 10:30:33 PM
You come strong, or you don't come at all !!!
Touchdown, Flattop!
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: gearhedguy on March 26, 2007, 06:21:35 PM
Just got around to reading these posts. Gotta admit, you guys gave me a pretty good chuckle!!
Title: Re: is bald a dating disadvantage?
Post by: MR. CLEAN on March 26, 2007, 07:59:42 PM
Tell you the truth, who cares?  This is the look that I am comfortable sporting.  If they are not comfortable with it, than I am not comfortable dating them. 

On another note, there's nothing like finding a woman at the Bar that is more than "comfortable" with it, always a good time  O:O