Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: X The Hierophant on August 27, 2007, 01:40:07 PM
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Man ... I was sitting at the dinner table at my in-laws house on Saturday and my Father-in-law, Mother-in-law and Brother-in-law all bring up the topic of how much better I would look if I grew back my hair. Now this was not the first time they have seen it. I think the first time was a novelty, and they thought I was going to grow it back, and now it is sinking in that this is a permanent change. Anyway, I felt like I was at a hair intervention. Got a about 10-15 minutes of constant nagging at one sitting.
I say F%^$ them ... I like it shaved and that's the way it is staying :Xo! @c3 :Xo!
And before anyone asks ... no I was not wearing the Hanibal Lector mask at the time ...
Just had to vent to the sly brotherhood...
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Going with the shaved head is a radical change, especially if you are BBC (bald by choice). So, people's reaction to it can be pretty polarizing. I know I had a lot of people really like it, and a few did not. Unfortunately, my wife was one that disliked it the most. A compromise to a #1 setting buzz cut is what I agreed to with the caveat that if my bad scalp condition returned in the winter, I'd shave it off again.
Glad you stayed with your convictions, X. Who knows....once your family sees your slyness isn't a "fad" or short time trial run, they may come to like it. Time will tell.
Stay cool.
Schro
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My mom doesn't like it, she's touched my head once and was grossed out however, she's never once tried to talk me out of it. She loves me for me and cause I bully her around (she's 4'10" and 130lbs). She does love it when I leave it grow for a day or two though.
at frist my girlfriend loved it now she's bored with it but i ignore her.
stay strong
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X, I've had similar reactions from friends and family but once they see you are serious about your BBC decision, I think they will come around.
Shine on bro. O0
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Good for you X, for standing by your decision to be yourself. A great many of us have had reactions from family and/or friends that weren't always positive. Like JDog said they generally come around though or at least it becomes a non-issue. Hang in there. O0 O0
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Man ... I was sitting at the dinner table at my in-laws house on Saturday and my Father-in-law, Mother-in-law and Brother-in-law all bring up the topic of how much better I would look if I grew back my hair.
Who cares what the in-laws think? I can see caring about what your own family thinks, but as far as I'm concerned, the in-laws opinion would count for squat. That's not to say that listening to them isn't annoying ....
Hang in there.
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I guess I am lucky. I've never had anyone try to talk me out of it. :*))
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I say as long as it's not your in-laws daughter trying to convince you to grow it back, you have nothing to worry about. At least you don't have to see them everyday. (do ya???)
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Like the others said X, as long as you are happy then who cares? Good for you for not caving in. You know, next time maybe you should wear the mask? I bet that will keep 'em quiet. :D ;D
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X.... glad that u r sticking 2 your guns. stay strong, brah. as long as u like it.... that's all that really matters. what was your reaction or response 2 your in-laws. did ya tell them.... that u like the sly dome & that it was staying. if they continue 2 harrass ya on your slyness than maybe u should avoid the in-laws 2 keep the peace.
WARHAWK O0
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X, hang in there, man. Like everyone has said, it's your head and your choice to do what you like and are comfortable with.
If we all listened to what everyone else told us to do or what society (hollywood?) dictates, then I guarantee there would not be anywhere near as many sly guys on this site.
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Who cares what the in-laws think? I can see caring about what your own family thinks, but as far as I'm concerned, the in-laws opinion would count for squat.
Keep it slick and clean!
Joe
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Way to stay strong X! Next time they give you crap, just tell them you'll start wearing the mask that you have in the avatar.
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JEALOUSY :x!
My in-laws looked at me like I was nuts at first, but after seeing me the 2nd time they tell me it looks good. If they never get it then to hell with them brother...
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Thanks guys ... I agree with all the comments. ;D
Yeah, I only see them about once a month. I don't think my family likes it either, nor do my friends really ... but oh well. My wife likes it (though she does add she likes me more with a little hair), but she is very good about it and my new style doesn't bother her at all. She never gives me negative comments or grief about it.
I'm at the point where I just am going to ignore what people think and they can either get used to it or not. I like it (addicted is more apt really) and that's that.
It's also only been a month, so maybe after a year or so people will get used to it and quit yammering about it every time they see me. :x!!
Just thought I would post this and vent.
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Vent away; that's what we're here for.
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And I'll bet NONE of them were Sly were they?
All they can imagine is their own fears. Fears of rejection because they are slaves to doing what others expect them to do!
Individuality isn't very popular amongst such folk! O:O Thus saith the Sarge! :*))
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It's also only been a month, so maybe after a year or so people will get used to it and quit yammering about it every time they see me. :x!!
It may just take about that long. It will be 10 months sly for me this weekend and this week was the first time my family actually made a positive, joking reference to my sly appearance. Amazing, it takes no more than 30 days for most of us to love being sly, takes friends and family months. Go figure
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I can relate to having that kind of pressure. When I first shaved it off, my deceased dad said, "Marshall, it looks like hell." My stepmom didn't like it either, although she no longer mentions it. Also at my 40th birthday dinner, when I had grown my hair back for a time, my best friend now ex-wife said I looked much better with hair and my stepmom was clearly happy. The last comment took the cake, and that was when a controlling female friend from a old church said that I need to honor my stepmom by growing my hair back since she is almost 90. She thought that since the Bible says to honor your parents, that I needed to grow my hair back. I thought that honoring your parents meant to treat them with love and respect. I didn't think that went as far as hairstyles. Taken to the illogical conclusion, if my folks didn't like my car, home or cat, does that mean I have to get rid of them! Sorry for the tangent!
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Vent all you want, Hannibal, just keep that mask on, lol.
;D
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O0 Paul has it right. Honor your integrity, not others' doubtful aesthetics. As Razorx has often commented, most men look better bald. Bald=free, manly, honest. Professor Melon
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Taken to the illogical conclusion, if my folks didn't like my car, home or cat, does that mean I have to get rid of them!
Marshall, you are exactly right. You give in to somebody for no rational reason, and that person(s) will then expect you to do the same thing again somewhere down the road on another issue... and on and on -- gathering power and sucking it from you. The same can happen when we give up some power to the government, a little here, a little there until we reach a point where we no longer have freedom or liberty. It starts at home (the individual), and you have to take a stand.
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I can relate to having that kind of pressure. When I first shaved it off, my deceased dad said, "Marshall, it looks like hell." My stepmom didn't like it either, although she no longer mentions it. Also at my 40th birthday dinner, when I had grown my hair back for a time, my best friend now ex-wife said I looked much better with hair and my stepmom was clearly happy. The last comment took the cake, and that was when a controlling female friend from a old church said that I need to honor my stepmom by growing my hair back since she is almost 90. She thought that since the Bible says to honor your parents, that I needed to grow my hair back. I thought that honoring your parents meant to treat them with love and respect. I didn't think that went as far as hairstyles. Taken to the illogical conclusion, if my folks didn't like my car, home or cat, does that mean I have to get rid of them! Sorry for the tangent!
Not a tangent as far as I'm concerned, Marsh; just some very pertinent comments. It's amazing how some people feel they have to impose their own ... what's the right word? ... taste; values, aesthetics; because they don't think you are up to their standards. Talk about a convoluted argument ! You are right about its "illogical conclusions." Glad you could see the falacy of it, and of course you realize this person's opinion doesn't matter .... What I find with these situations, is that it is just mind-boggolling (Sp??? ) ... that people even come up with such stuff.
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Man! That's horrible bro! Glad to hear you're keepin' A (sly) level head about it! O0
BTW bro, you ROCK the bald face "Mr. Clean " look!....keep the bald face too!
Very nice!
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X, I had the same reaction from my family. Both my parents said that it was "Too Short!". I think it was a pretty rich comment coming from my dad who is bald himself.
On the other hand, all my family said that i looked exactly like my father with my head shaved and goatee trimmed. My brother said that he loves it and wants me to keep it. I want to keep it too.
Out
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X - They're all just scared of the SLY POWER man! O0
I'd say "Stick t' y' guns!" but I know y' will anyways! O:O
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Start foaming at the mouth grab your razor and start threatening to shave them lol they'll leave you alone for maybe day anyhow