Post by: karlton on October 24, 2014, 10:12:57 AM
Has anyone ever felt like there head is just the wrong size / shape altogether? I'm struggling hard.
Post by: njbill on October 24, 2014, 10:30:27 AM
Post by: Razor X on October 24, 2014, 10:34:48 AM
Post by: karlton on October 24, 2014, 10:50:29 AM
I hate my hairline so I figured I would give the buzz a try so I can feel like I have an exit strategy later on. I think I feel worse now that I've tried it and don't care for it.
Post by: karlton on October 24, 2014, 03:31:01 PM
I feel like it looks ok in certain lighting, but then I go out into daylight/harsh lighting, and I feel like a conehead, honestly. Did you ever notice certain lighting or mirrors that make your head seem weird or too big?
I know someday I will have to get over this fear, unless I want to wear a piece, but I have zero confidence without my hair right now. I'm not feeling any better that 130 people have already seen my photo, but haven't had any positive things to say. Sigh..
Post by: TheSlyBear on October 24, 2014, 04:36:24 PM
One person said something that was mildly non-positive (and complete bullshit, in my opinion).
Your head looks good. You are a handsome guy and the source of your unhappiness with your appearance is baffling.
As Razor said, it's just new and will take some time to get used to it. And to be honest, if you think your forehead looks too big (it doesn't, but if you think it does), then a bald shave will actually make it look smaller. It may seem counter-intuitive, but without a hairline for contrast, heads actually look smaller when shaved.
I hope you get over this quickly as another thing that could make you look even better, in my opinion, is a smile.
Post by: Semi-Sly on October 24, 2014, 04:47:39 PM
BUT that is the purpose of the 30 day rule! Anytime you make a change to your physical appearance, like getting a tattoo, a first it is a big SHOCK when you see yourself in the mirror in the morning. You have to give your brain a break - you have to give it some time to get used to its new interpretation of "you". Once that happens, you won't even notice your head shape.
Your problem with the size and shape of your head is "all in your head"! You are a good looking guy with a really nicely shaped head.
My suggestion - the fact that you have left some hair and have a visible "high" hairline might actually be what is causing you to question the shape of your head. Since you are "test flying" this new look anyway - my suggestion is that you go the full Monty. I think that if you shave your head, the hairline will not be as noticeable, and you will actually get used to and like the look more quickly than you will with just the buzz cut. So my advice would be to just do the deed and do the the 30 days. keep in contact with us and let us know how you do. We will be here to ride through it with you.
Post by: Mike E. P. on October 24, 2014, 06:13:56 PM
Man, you look good in that photo. Give yourself time to adjust. Give yourself a break. It does get better with time. I know. I've been where you are.
Post by: Razor X on October 24, 2014, 06:40:41 PM
Thanks Razor X,
I feel like it looks ok in certain lighting, but then I go out into daylight/harsh lighting, and I feel like a conehead, honestly. Did you ever notice certain lighting or mirrors that make your head seem weird or too big?
I know someday I will have to get over this fear, unless I want to wear a piece, but I have zero confidence without my hair right now. I'm not feeling any better that 130 people have already seen my photo, but haven't had any positive things to say. Sigh..
Try not to spend too much time in front of the mirror obsessing over things. It will get better in time.
Post by: tobler1 on October 24, 2014, 07:18:16 PM
Post by: agentfortyseven on October 24, 2014, 11:48:39 PM
Post by: Goatee on October 25, 2014, 01:28:24 PM
Look, shave your dome mate. Dump any meds for hair loss and live your life. You are the only one that worries how you look. We are 'all' the same! 'We' are the only ones who care about how 'we' look.
You look fine. A bald head would suit you 100%. Shave it for 30 days and see your life open up infront of you. Move on from how you feel. Be bald and embrace the look and feel!
Good luck friend
Post by: mangosink12572 on October 25, 2014, 03:35:54 PM
Post by: Cave Dweller on October 25, 2014, 03:37:04 PM
Stop it. There is nothing abnormal in that picture you posted. You are accustomed to seeing hair where now you see skin. It is something new, but not at all abnormal or "alien" in appearance.
As the wise gentlemen before me have stated so well, your anxiety is the reason for the 30 days. Give yourself time to get over the newness of the look before you decide whether this is what you want.
Post by: njbill on October 25, 2014, 07:15:58 PM
Are you even reading the replies?
One person said something that was mildly non-positive (and complete bullshit, in my opinion).
Your head looks good. You are a handsome guy and the source of your unhappiness with your appearance is baffling.
As Razor said, it's just new and will take some time to get used to it. And to be honest, if you think your forehead looks too big (it doesn't, but if you think it does), then a bald shave will actually make it look smaller. It may seem counter-intuitive, but without a hairline for contrast, heads actually look smaller when shaved.
I hope you get over this quickly as another thing that could make you look even better, in my opinion, is a smile.
LOL what's bullshit is shaving magically making a large forehead appear smaller... didnt work for me.. my sh*t still looks like a billboard.
Post by: TheSlyBear on October 25, 2014, 07:19:34 PM
Post by: Goatee on October 26, 2014, 02:33:18 AM
LOL what's bullshit is shaving magically making a large forehead appear smaller... didnt work for me.. my sh*t still looks like a billboard.
Vey negative post that. Doesnt help one bit!
Post by: meanderthal on October 26, 2014, 03:52:52 AM
Post by: invaray on October 26, 2014, 04:59:18 AM
Im not ok, your not ok, no one is ok but that is ok because no one is and that makes it ok.
If you have a big head, then you have a big head that is ok have a big shaved head and feature it. With hair or without it is the same size.
The is no right shape or size it is yours do with it what you want. You look fine and if you want to shave it, shave it.
Post by: kalva76 on October 26, 2014, 07:29:56 AM
I think quite a few of us have gone through this phase. And yes, I sport a rather large noggin...probably bigger than yours, and I can still pull it off. I think the 30 Day Rule will make a huge difference for you and I really encourage you to do it. I'm shy one year sly now (November), and it all started with the 30 Day Rule for me. Now I love the look and can't imagine going back. Try sly with the beard, I think it'll be a good look for you. Good luck.
Post by: karlton on October 26, 2014, 01:14:09 PM
That said, when I buzz it close, it seems ok in some mirrors, and in others it seems like I see nothing but head. It's almost hard to believe how big it seems to me, and so I have a hard time with imagining how it actually appears to other people, especially in overhead lighting.
Here are two more shots: One is outside with afternoon daylight, and the other is inside under a harsh light. Does it seem kind of big at all? Do my beard and facial features balance things out enough? Should I maybe step it up in the gym to add some mass in my shoulders and neck? Any suggestions are welcome. Be honest!
Post by: Razor X on October 26, 2014, 02:18:59 PM
Post by: TheSlyBear on October 26, 2014, 02:23:39 PM
Post by: Sir Harry on October 26, 2014, 02:52:56 PM
I don't know what you looked like with thicker hair, but the buzz cut blends in nicely with the beard. I think the beard takes some attention off of your hair, though I don't see too much recession right now. If the hairline keeps creeping back, you could try for a full headshave, but I think it looks good as is for now....but it's all in what you want to do.
Post by: slybeard on October 26, 2014, 03:49:54 PM
There is nothing wrong with the way you look, either with or without hair. Getting to the gym will help any guy look a little better if that is what you want to do. Having facial is good combination for short, buzzed, or shaved hair. I would not have thought your head was big if you had not pointed it out. If someone is giving you a hard time on your looks, then I would say that person is not the friend you need.
Post by: invaray on October 26, 2014, 05:04:16 PM
This got me looking at mine to compare size. Maybe we should all use a tape measure to see who has the biggest head and you'll see how silly it is. What if your head diameter is bigger? Is that a bad thing? I don't think so.
I measured in at 23" :)
What is your head size?
Post by: tobler1 on October 26, 2014, 05:15:53 PM
Post by: njbill on October 26, 2014, 07:06:52 PM
Post by: Cy on October 26, 2014, 07:08:16 PM
I deal with body dysmorphia issues myself, and my stance on how others view you would be that most people don't really care or notice the things that bother us the most. I could weigh 90 pounds and still perceive myself to be morbidly obese. Give yourself a break on some things.
Post by: karlton on October 27, 2014, 04:16:49 PM
Looking at your picture I don't notice anything wrong about size just a picture of a nice looking guy.
This got me looking at mine to compare size. Maybe we should all use a tape measure to see who has the biggest head and you'll see how silly it is. What if your head diameter is bigger? Is that a bad thing? I don't think so.
I measured in at 23" :)
What is your head size?
My hat size is about the same as yours. The thing I obsess the most about is the height and the pointiness of my head. I think most guys heads are around 8" to 9.5" from top to bottom. Mine is a little over 10", so I'm really afraid of it looking unusually long without hair. I know I can't change it though. I'm glad you guys don't think it looks too bad.
Post by: Razor X on October 27, 2014, 06:57:07 PM
Post by: Mike E. P. on October 27, 2014, 07:26:04 PM
