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Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: Sath on May 20, 2014, 01:03:44 PM
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Hey guys!
Long story short, i been getting thinner hairlines on the front of my hair since i was around 18 (i am 28 now) so i decided to go really short since nothing decent long can do anything good, and its pretty embarassing at this point IMO.
I was thinking if you guys who has been bald or stubble for very long could give me an opinion if its just me or or not.
The back of my head, i dont feel its properly shaped to pull off really short so i dont know if i should go buzzcut or go stubble.
I love the stubble look from the front, but my profile shot i just get annoyed by the back of my head, i was wondering if you guys think its still good overal look or should i go buzzcut instead.
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Greetings Sath. Man, your head is what it is. And it's nothing to be bashful about. People are going to nitpik just about anything because, well, that's what people do. It's just part of human genetics except in the case of those who are very enlightened. And they are in a very small minority. In fact anyone who tells you that they are enlightened is almost certainly not.
That being said I think that you have a fine headshape for whatever degree of slyness you choose. If I were in your position I would just go ahead and go for the fill monty, scrape it all off. Give it a while to normalize in your head and see how it feels. What is usually recommended in here is the 30 day rule, scrape it and keep it that way for a month. If at the end of that period you decide that it just ain't your style you can let it grow out to a suitable length.
Ignore negative comments. Remember to breathe, that part is of utmost importance.....breathing I mean.
Above all remember that it is just a haircut, nothing more. If you don't like it just let it grow out and change it.
Oh yeah, and keep the goatee, dude. It's a good look.
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I will never shave it off completely yet until i i have alot of hair on my head to the point i dont even have the stubble.
I actually prefer some stubble, but thats just me.
And yeah i did read the 30 days rule here, I do try but unfortunetly when i see my own reflection on windows, mirrors randomly (especially with it being sunny these days) i do kind of get second thoughts.
The good part though between the stubble and that buzzcut look is, it doesnt take long to get that buzzcut if i do change my mind, especially if one has fas hairgrowth (as i do).
And dont worry, the circle beard stays for sure, i have had it for years :)
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Welcome to the board, Sath.
You are not alone in worrying about your head shape. It is a very common concern expressed by guys contemplating buzzing or shaving. One of the more common responses is that we are our own worst critics. I certainly am of myself.
Frankly, I would really like to have the curve the back of your head has. Mine is flat, but I found out no one but me seemed to notice or care.
You look fine sir. Quit worrying about it.
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Hey Sath, is buzzed or bald looks good!!
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Welcome to the board, Sath.
You are not alone in worrying about your head shape. It is a very common concern expressed by guys contemplating buzzing or shaving. One of the more common responses is that we are our own worst critics. I certainly am of myself.
Frankly, I would really like to have the curve the back of your head has. Mine is flat, but I found out no one but me seemed to notice or care.
You look fine sir. Quit worrying about it.
Want to change shape? (if only we could lol)
Bald + circle beard is a very common look, like you. Always remind me of Joe Kucan in the game Command and Conquer as Kane
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.cinemablend.com%2Fimages%2Fsections%2F18814%2Fcommand_and_conquer_4_debut_trailer_18814.jpg&hash=15e3beb9426d14ffbaa6a77a1ccbc756cc741869)
Or these two in The Island (i like the guy on the right, perfect combo)
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fs27.postimg.org%2Fezs6pxn5v%2FThe_Island7.jpg&hash=dddb6cd4f34d2961b16b9635b8dfed63caaa0c92)
Theres also Sam worthington in the new movie Sabotage were he has goatee and went bald, quite a bold look.
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.moviestillsdb.com%2Fmedia%2Fpictures%2Fm%2F20%2F2086eb726bea23a180881265a6905c1c.jpg&hash=1ff81bb92eed2316897deaf55096f81e0be40363)
But yeah I always think of this whole "you are your own worst critic", I guess its either accept it and deal with it or let it grow out into a buzz cut so it somewhat hides the shape.
But hearing you guys saying mine looks fine is good since i always think those who have the buzzcut/shaved dont think it looks "round enough".
Got to learn to stop thinking about it ;)
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I felt the same way you do. I worried for a long time that I might not have the right shape for a buzzcut or a shaved bald head. My parents joked for years that my head was too pointy for me to ever go short. I believed them until here recently. I went on a leap of faith back in September and buzzed my head to 1/2 inch. I couldn't believe how good I looked and I got so many compliments. I could see the so called point at my crown but it wasn't as bad as my imagination made it out to be. Nobody has ever remarked over that so-called point. Over the next few months I experimented with shorter lengths and finally last month with the help of these good guys, I shaved my head completely bald permanently and I wouldn't dare think about going back. I love it too much! You'll be just fine. Uniqueness in your dome should make you feel special instead of possibly bringing you down. I'd wear it with pride and like the others have said, "we're on own worst critic."
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All of those shots of you look good, especially the stubble ones. There is nothing wrong with the shape of your head. As you have heard from the other guys, we all wondered this at one time or another. And as you said " got to stop thinking about it." I know that's often easier said than done. But I do think the thirty day rule would be good to apply. If you gave it time, you'd probably get used to the look and eventually not give your head shape or appearance a second thought. And hopefully, like most of us, you will like what you see in the mirror.
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Sath, you actually look good both ways. Your buzzcut emphasizes your dark facial hair (which looks good, by the way). I think that you eventually would look good with a completely scraped dome, but try the stubble look for a while and see how that goes.
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I very much appreciate all the compliments and wise words and i will for the 30 days rule, i have already gotten used to the look from the front, its just from the side that worries and i need to work on ignoring that part mentality.
But only my father who keeps going on and on saying how this look doesnt fit me at all, my sister says trim the beard down and my mom prefers the buzzcut.
However my aunt, uncle and one of my cousins (no other relative has seen me like this yet lol) say its good, and ones drastic look like this will get used to it...maybe they were telling the truth, maybe they were just being nice and not trying to hurt my feelings, i dont know.
But as i said before, since its such a short style, its easier to see hair growth into a buzzcut faster within 2-3 weeks if i change my mind.
One thing that i thought about is, in pictures the shape is more obvious and specific since in pictures you try to show off that specific part that annoys you but not bothered by the rest that doesnt bother you, but in reality, as in motion, you keep turning your head and angles and lighting changes to the point that specific part one takes a picture of, goes away and the overal look gets better.
Atleast thats how i see it at this point, i guess thats why it keeps bothering because i take pictures in profile and then i focus on that specifc angle but in motion my head and neck keeps turning around and overal its decent.
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Welcome, Sath! I think that the buzzcut looks good as well, but if you ever decided to go sly. you certainly would have a nice tan and the facial hair to rock the sly look! But if you're happy where you are, it's all good, I think just about any short hairstyle will work for you, IMO.
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Hello Sath:
I don't get why you are questioning the shape of your head? It looks great to me!
I think that you definitely look best with the stubble - it really makes the thinning part of your hair blend right in with the rest.
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Welcome, Sath! I think that the buzzcut looks good as well, but if you ever decided to go sly. you certainly would have a nice tan and the facial hair to rock the sly look! But if you're happy where you are, it's all good, I think just about any short hairstyle will work for you, IMO.
Sly is a no go for now, not until i am losing hair naturally too much but that wont happen for MANY years i believe.
But thank you for the kind words, i just wish my parents saw what you see when they look at me lol
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Hello Sath:
I don't get why you are questioning the shape of your head? It looks great to me!
I think that you definitely look best with the stubble - it really makes the thinning part of your hair blend right in with the rest.
Thats why i went with stubble look than buzzcut, you still see the ups and down with buzzcut (even though its not that big of a deal compared to longer hair) from the front, but with stubble, its all even out.
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I like the stubble look. I'd keep it...or go smooth! (I know, I know, you don't want to go smooth yet!)
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Welcome. Please stick around and make yourself comfortable.
The 30 day rule is as much for you as it is for the family.
The stubble style requires frequent trims. When my hair was that short (by choice), I'd run the clippers daily. Just to be sure that it looked the same every day. I'd go quickly over it. If I missed a spot on any given day, it really would not show. And catching the buzz daily, did two things:
1. It always looked the same.
2. Got me in the habit of trimming my hair daily. Now two years plus later, I still do hair daily, just that I use a headblade razor.
Enjoy the stubble buzz. When you are ready, break out the razor. I was not sure that I'd like the completely shaved look/feel, but once I applied the razor I've never gone back to stubble. The shaved feel is so nice. I look forward to a quick head shave every morning. Why did I wait so long?
Your head shape looks very normal. If it looks non-normal to anyone, it's just that it used to be covered with hair and they could not see the shape.
This is the real you.
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I dont trim my hair everyday, its a chore.
Since its stubble (or buzzcut if i decide to choose that) if it passes like 2 days its okay, barely noticeable.
But I did notice on 3rd day when i trimmed it i was cutting very very short hair then i knew it grew longer than before, i could even feel it when I touched my hair back and forth it was longer.
On the 3rd day, thats when it gets slightly longer than its trim day, i got fast hair growth so thankfully if i decide to go buzzcut i wont touch the hair for a few weeks lol.
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Head shape concern is often the first question from guys contemplating buzzing or going sly. It is never really an issue. All heads are slightly different shapped and we all think our own shape is odd. It is a matter of the 30 day rule and becomming comfortable with seeing your head shape in the mirror.
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Heads come in a lot of shapes, and yours looks normal to me. I've got a thick neck and I have worried that with no hair I look like Dan Aykroyd in Coneheads. I let it go.
Geez! Family members saying things like "I don't like that look on you" after you're deep into adulthood! I guess that to a parent, a child is always a child, even when the child is 28 or 40 or 60. And for some parents, I guess that still includes trying to control your appearance.
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My main concern is only the back of my head, especially the lower part of my head with the weird bone sticking out and its bumps :-[
That part, as i said, profile shot is the only angle that i cant get over with, but straight ahead i love the look no issue.
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It's really a common shape, I have seen it many times. Don't stress over it.
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I have never seen it personally, and believe me...i looked lol
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You look great with very short buzz.
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Welcome, Sath!
My opinion is this:
I like the look with stubble better. The less hair on your head makes the contrast with your beard look stronger.. and more bad-ass. If you shave your head, this contrast will even be stronger.
Also, I really believe that a shaved head actually does more to hide head shape than short hair does. Short hair and stubble seem to show up darker in certain areas and outline the shape more. When a head is completely shaved, it seems to blend in more.
You could shave it weekly and let the stubble grow back during the week. This may be the best of both worlds for you. I shave mine every three days or so.
As you said, your hair grows quickly, so what do you have to lose if you try it?
O0
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Both buzzcut and stubble definitely makes the beard stand out more, clean shave well, even more.
But at this point in my life, i dont want to shave my head since i prefer stubble pattern than clean shaven, maybe when i am much more with much less hair or something.
For me it took enough effort to let it be this short as it is, clean shave is just too much for me.
And yes i do see your point that clean shaven might remove those small details because it adds a black outline.
But yeah, completely shaven is not going to happen anytime soon, i mean i am even debating if i should keep the stubble or let it grow into buzzcut instead, not shorter lol
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Everyone is different and you cannot change the shape of your head. For all of us here it looks very normal. We all dont like some part of our bodies and i would say to enjoy what you have done and be bald(ish) and be proud!
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I mean if you guys think its fine and nothing "bad" about the back of my head shape or overal look and the look fit me, then i guess its my stupid eyes/mentality that doesnt want to accept it (yet).
I guess because its such a drastic change going from hair to practically nothing takes time.
Though i wont lie, ever since i done this and NOT thinking of the small issue, i feel more energized, more confident, more "tougher" to hold my own, compared to before with hair.
Its weird since i been reading people lose confidence when going bald/ish i actually gain from it lol
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That's right Sath! I think that you; "Boke the code!" But don't give out our secret!
(P.S. I think that SlyMike is also correct that if you shaved your head smooth that tiny little bump on the back of your head could not even be seen.)
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Really Sath, I am looking at that area of your head you circled and I don't see anything abnormal at all. Had you not circled, I probably wouldn't have even looked there. I'm glad you are gaining more confidence!
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My main concern is only the back of my head, especially the lower part of my head with the weird bone sticking out and its bumps :-[
That part, as i said, profile shot is the only angle that i cant get over with, but straight ahead i love the look no issue.
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fs24.postimg.org%2F6hz1j5gxx%2Fimage.jpg&hash=98a3942e28ed3df7ad3a909878e2c34cb2f63d5a)
Not so unusual, look at my head shape ;) O0
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As days go by i am starting to not care for it anymore, or focus on it at all which is good. Closer step to keeping the stubble look 8)
@zetaeffe
I see, thanks for the image to show its not something uncommon and unusual and that its just not me.
Great beard too lol O0
Another way of accepting it easier is this...is it better to have longer hair and still see the thinning hair in the front and get annoyed and depressed by it, and waste money to go to a barber or find a good one and constantly worry about those things and hope it was ones money worth.
Or is it better to just accept the shape of my skull (which is very minor issue as days go by tbh) and not worry about any of those things and move on to other stuff so by the time i get much older and the expected happens by losing more hair, the transaction has happened long time ago and the stubble look looks already natural to me to not care about it anymore....to me and people i know.
I rather take the latter, save money, accept the situation i am going to lose more hair as years go by and just get used to it early on my years and build up more confidence early on with this new look and move on.
My family hasent said a peep about my head in yesterday nor today...guess they have slightly gotten used to it.
My uncles and cousins havent seen me yet so thats going to be interesting lol
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Dont worry what others think. Having less hair / bald is invigorating. You have the support of everyone on here. All the best to you
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"Atleast I was facing the right direction" lol, my thoughts exactly.
Max Payne 3 trims his hair
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=J_uiYqG-SZQ#t=75
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My main concern is only the back of my head, especially the lower part of my head with the weird bone sticking out and its bumps :-[
That part, as i said, profile shot is the only angle that i cant get over with, but straight ahead i love the look no issue.
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fs24.postimg.org%2F6hz1j5gxx%2Fimage.jpg&hash=98a3942e28ed3df7ad3a909878e2c34cb2f63d5a)
Oh, I have some of those bumps, too. Recent doctor visit, he asked about them, wondering if they were tumors, then upon inspection he realized they were 'just me'.
Don't worry about them. It's just you.
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That is some doctor :/O lol
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I just got to say that as of today i havent thought of my headshape at all, one being i dont focus on it even when i look in the mirror when shaving my stubble sides, and the beard is so obvious that takes more attention, and the eyes.
I am sure the thought comes and goes which is normal I guess, but its not as grand as it was in the beginning, i am feeling more and more comfortable with it now.
If i want really short stubble i have to trim it each 2 days, 3 days tops or else it becomes slightly darker than its trim day.
I just hope by the end of the month i have completely moved on and i have this style forever. And the stubble/bald + beard combo does have a nice "style" to it a defined one compared to a generic short hair with beard, i feel more like i have a "look" now compared to before when i had longer hair.
Though I still want to say i am very grateful of all the positive and honest comments you guys gave me, definitely uplifting to know the shape is as normal as any other shape (though the shapes shows itself if my head is "slightly" turned to the side, but direct profile shot its straight ;))
I am say 95% okay with the shape and soon to move on, but since its early on in the looks i still think about it, but i am very sure i will forget it and think of other stuff that is important.
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Its a new style for you. You will soon wonder what all the stress was about.
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Its a new style for you. You will soon wonder what all the stress was about.
I am sure it is bound to happen and just enjoy the look forever.
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I just want to announce that i have now officially like my scalp shape, i have grown so adjusted to it in these few days now that i dont think of it nor do i find any issues as i first went on a crazy-spree about.
And every 2 days i trim it with no guard, its basically one step behind shaving...which i am sure in the future i will do but for now i will let this style sink it for many years to come.
I got to say, i have never been more comfortable interms of look/style when it comes to "hair".
I also want to thank all you guys who gave me positive compliments and made me think positive (although my own family still wants me to grow it a bit longer, which i responded with "no offence, but i didnt ask you guys for ANYMORE opinions than the first time" lol).
Opinions and preferences, some like it, some dont...thats life.
Anyways, thanks guys a bunch O0
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Congratulations, man! Great to hear how comfortable you are with the look now!
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I didnt expect it to like it so early, but i am glad.
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Glad to hear you are feeling good about it, sir.
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I did a quick photoshop of one of the images from the front on how i would look like if i shave it off
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That photo is your answer, Sath. You would look really great with a totally bald head. You know you want it, so go for it!
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Scrape that grape Sath, Earl is right it is a killer look on you
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There's not much difference in the two photos, so why keep the stubble? Shaved it all off; that's what I do.
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I do want to do it atleast ONE time, but my family hates the stubble as it it, god knows i wont hear the end of it if i shave it off lol
Who knows, i might do it sooner than i thought, atleast just one time to see how it goes, will see how what happens.
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Your head shape is fine... you really should just go ahead and shave it smooth!
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With your black hair, it will grow back to stubble in about 3 days.
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Yeah thats the thing, i have thick dark hairs (excluding the thin areas) and fast hair growth, within a few days it will show turn into the same no-guard stubble trim.
There is 3 things i think about though...
1. courage to do it, it may look great from the front, but from the side it may look somewhat different what i imagine it to be.
2. not to cut my head lol
3. constant nitpicking from family and relatives until it grows back.
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Well I finally shaved it after i came home from the gym...
The front image looks exactly like how the photoshop turned out.
But the sides, i dont know, was hard to imagine that but this is the result. Tbh i am 50/50 on it, i kind of liked the stubble more. Since i shaved it now i am gonna see how many days it goes buy until i get the no-guard trim stubble out of it, my guess is probably 5 days or so.
Yes the feeling AFTER adding some moisterizing cream to smoothen the head is great thats a given.
My family hasent seen me just yet since its in the morning, its going to be interesting, but i know they will hate it alot since they already disliked the stubble look.
PS. I didnt shave my stubble sides on my face, doing it later so dont mind the silly look lol
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OMG....you look like....how do I put it....you look like a regular guy who shaved his head....as for the side shot....it looks like you....but from the side....apply the 30 day rule...and the only thing you'll be worrying about is....(join in with me brothers) "why didn't I do this sooner"
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I had a hard time adjusting to the stubble look, this shaved look is bakc to square one if i decide to do it.
My mom and sister really dont like it, my sister said i look like a sick person ??? and my mom said grow it atleast back to the stubble...basically nothing but complete shave.
But I dont know, i might go back to the no-guard trim, yet to decide, but i am leaning towards that one.
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Nothing wrong with the no guard trim #0. Presently that's my preference.
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Sash, well, I think it's great that you shaved, even if you don't keep shaving for at least 30 days. I think it looks very good, but you have to do what you think is best.
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Atleast i can say i went with the ultimate "haircut", head shaving lol
I think a guy who is balding but still can do stubble look, shaving atleast ONE time in their lifetime should be done IMO.
Keeping it or not is another matter.
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Everyone has an opinion, including me.
I think the clean look is far better. I heartily encourage you to give the 30 day challenge a try - allow yourself and family/friends 30 days to adjust to the new look. The difference between the stubble and the shaved look, to me, is that you appear more "in control" and intentional. Another way I saying "confident" I suppose.
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I got a few days to decide if i want to keep it or not until the stubble shows up again.
One advantage I got to get adjusted easier and quicker to the shaved one is I already knew the shape of my head before shaving its just shinier now and no more "black outlines" as one of the members here said, the stubble is one step behind shaving.
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I think the shaved head looks great! It makes a statement. I'll bet you will constantly be thinking about shaving it again. One way to get family and friends to quit commenting is to just keep it shaved. A couple of my friends that hated my bald look, no longer even comment.
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Sath, no matter which route you take going forward, at least you can say that you did it instead of wondering "what if". You look great sly; nice tan, BTW!
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I think the shaved head looks great! It makes a statement. I'll bet you will constantly be thinking about shaving it again. One way to get family and friends to quit commenting is to just keep it shaved. A couple of my friends that hated my bald look, no longer even comment.
Yes i am constantly thinking about lol
Also the second statement, thats what i did with the stubble look, i kept on doing it because i liked it, even if they comment it became less as days went on.
Sath, no matter which route you take going forward, at least you can say that you did it instead of wondering "what if". You look great sly; nice tan, BTW!
Pretty much yes.
But anyways, with shaved, i dont touch my head much, it both feels great and yet weird lol
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Sath, It really does look good shaved, better in my opinion. It will take time for yourself and others to adjust to the new look since it is a change, but for others it instantly looks good. If you decide to stick with it, it will take about 30 days for it to seem natural to yourself (that is why we have the 30 day rule), but it will take longer for family and friends. And just as a bit of caution, if you go back and forth between shaved and stubble, it will take everyone longer to adjust.
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Yeah i am getting very slightly adjusted to it, my dad saw me all he did was shake his head lol.
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If your mum came to visit and had dyed her hair lime green, you'd comment lol....do what you want to do, if you want to keep the shaved look, keep it...everyone else will get used to it...or go back to stubble...whatever makes you happy....after all....that's what its all about
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Sath, you look just as good from the side as you do from the front. I only shave twice a week so I go from smooth to stubble constantly. At first, I was like you and I preferred the stubble look, but as I continued to razor shave, I came to like the totally bald look better (I'm just too lazy to shave every day!)
Do what you prefer and don't worry about anyone else. They'll stop talking eventually!
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my dad saw me all he did was shake his head lol.
Gotta love parents. My mom's first statement when she first saw my shaved scalp was, "You probably will want to grow it back."
It sounds like your dad at least took the change with humor and acknowledged it was your decision.
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I'm glad you made the jump, Sath! Now for the next hurdle... growing out the full beard! O0 O0 >:D
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I join the others. Sath, in congratulating you on your new clean scalp. It's up to you, but you should try it out for 30 days. If you don't like it, you can always grow it back.
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Thanks for the comments guys!
Yeah the bald look is catching up on me than the stubble a bit.
I shaved yesterday and already today when i touch my head i feel some roughness to it lol
If your mum came to visit and had dyed her hair lime green, you'd comment lol....do what you want to do, if you want to keep the shaved look, keep it...everyone else will get used to it...or go back to stubble...whatever makes you happy....after all....that's what its all about
Oh I would comment hehe.
At this point now that i have also shaved, i have gone through the ultimate "do whatever you want with your hair" now, nothing else can shock them lol
I'm glad you made the jump, Sath! Now for the next hurdle... growing out the full beard! O0 O0 >:D
I would but I get hair slightly above my cheeks and i just dont like the look, some guys have natural stop line on the cheeks which is below, I dont unfortunetly so i dont try anymore to do it.
Sath, you look just as good from the side as you do from the front. I only shave twice a week so I go from smooth to stubble constantly. At first, I was like you and I preferred the stubble look, but as I continued to razor shave, I came to like the totally bald look better (I'm just too lazy to shave every day!)
Do what you prefer and don't worry about anyone else. They'll stop talking eventually!
I am too lazy as well, IF i was going to shave i would do it every 2 days since some roughness doesnt hurt but not let it grow long enough to make shaving annoying.
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Funny thing is, today my head looks like a day one stubble, its rough (but i wont shave it today since its not long enough to bother with it).
My dad however said (suprisingly, dont know if it was good or bad) that I should let my head get some sun since its too pale lol
I do agree with him, i need abit of sun on my head, but its June soon so summer hopefully is very sunny and somewhat hot so i can go out and get some sun, but nothing extreme.
My mom said "this look isnt bad or anything, but previous one is abit better (stubble), not that there is a huge difference or anything".
But in the end i think they have come to terms that I do what i want and they can get used to it.
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looking good man....suits u..
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30 day rule, Sath.
you, your family and friends all need some time to adjust to your new look.
You look smart and crisp with your shaved head. Bold and confident. Very nice.
Keep it shaved for a month and see how it goes. You'll adjust to the look and feel of a shaved head. You'll pick up some head color. It won't look so pale.
Looks good.
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My cousin from london came to visit me and my family today and saw me bald and asked why I ambald? i said because i am getting bald-er and i like this a look i like and removes the thinness in the front of my hair (which she knows for years now).
Then she goes on a rogaine explaination that it helps if i apply it to the specific area on my head for a few months and see if it helps or not.
Now I dont know if i should go for it or not, she said I should take rogaine 5% strength and see how it goes. Though she said its gonna take a bit of time for her to get used to this look, thats all she said.
She is a barber and knows her stuff, she studied a while for barber stuff.
But this rogaine stuff sounds like another scam of nonsense, but I dont know if any of you have tried it or know. i barely got money to use for the gym, i dont want to use more money for something that i can deal with for free (shaving or trimming my hair).
And i told her, its not just because i am going bald, its also a look/style i like with the beard, makes me look tougher with a stronger appearence, like Mark Strong and Bruce Willis for example, even Matt Damon in Elysium lol 8)
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No, you don't want to use rogaine. If she fusses on that, just tell her is un natural. Being bald is much more natural. The meds and chemicals can have bad side effects. The only side effect of shaving your head is if you are careless and you scalp yourself.
You look good bald.
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I been checking up on this rogaine stuff and i have read about this side effects, and that the result is different from person to person.
She didnt mak a fuzz about it unless i asked, which is respectful IMO.
i told her that this bald/stubble look is catching up on me and I dont mind it as much. I also dont want to use rogaine and get false hopes from it, atleast when i shave/have stubble I know where i stand interms of look and preference.
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I been checking up on this rogaine stuff and i have read about this side effects, and that the result is different from person to person.
She didnt mak a fuzz about it unless i asked, which is respectful IMO.
i told her that this bald/stubble look is catching up on me and I dont mind it as much. I also dont want to use rogaine and get false hopes from it, atleast when i shave/have stubble I know where i stand interms of look and preference.
One of the bigger risks with that is "performance issues" if you know what I mean O0
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Sath,
Why complicate things? You seem happy being sly. And your money is better spent on a gym membership. I have known a couple of guys who used Rogaine, to no great effect. I think it's a waste of money and gives guys false hope.
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One of the bigger risks with that is "performance issues" if you know what I mean O0
Thats what i been reading on forums too, yeah no thanks lol
Sath,
Why complicate things? You seem happy being sly. And your money is better spent on a gym membership. I have known a couple of guys who used Rogaine, to no great effect. I think it's a waste of money and gives guys false hope.
Yeah that was exactly my thought, the bald/stubble has become pretty much natural to me now that i dont care for it. And I told my cousin I am not like one of those fruity-boys who freak the hell out when hair is going away from my head, never cared. They act like women were hair is too precious to them and they try to salvage so much as possible lol.
Paying so much for shampoo, hairgeles...etc. be a man and "deal with it", and get rid of the thing.
I also thought about this and told my mom (she was there). Why waste months and money on this stuff and have false hopes just to see it doesnt work and then i lose my hope and have to keep this new look.
Atleast I know where i stand and what i am doing, no hope...just confidence when i trim/shave my head, for FREE.
PS. Gym membership>>>>>>stupid hair regrowth, by far!
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I have decided that i will continue with the no-guard trim instead of shaving, i feel i am more happy that way than completely shaved. And the stubble look had a nice combo going with the beard IMO which was nice.
Its been 2 days since i shaved and the stubble look is kicking rapidly, i would say another 2 or maybe 4 more days and i am back to the original no-guard trim.
Though it was definitely a unique experience and feel when i shaved it off no doubt about that.
It doesnt mean i wont shave my head again in the far future, i dont know if i will or wont, but never say never i guess.
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Hey, a super tight buzz looks good too.
If you read the clipper discussions, there are a number of 'balding clippers' which are designed to cut very very short. They cost a little more than the 'walmart' variety, but they work.
And if you go very very short, you may still want to clipper every day or every other day as at that length, the daily growth can be felt.
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I just remove the guard off my beard trimmer, it does the job very well, has so far anyways.
And yeah i know i have to trim it every day or every other day. 2 days tops for me. But I dont mind it goes by very fast anyways and i go take a shower everyday after gym at home so no harm done.
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Sath just you need your time....and your family also.
I remember my sister when saw me bald :) :) (what you done to your hair? Why you done this?). After little days opinion changed..."hmmm you look good".
My opinion is to "play" between zero and 2-3 days trimming. After one month you will see with which style you look better.
Everybody needs time when something changing.
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I have pretty much passed the entire family and relatives here, they seen me in stubble but no bald but thats not a big difference between the two tbh. They are used to the look now so its no longer an issue.
But as i said, i will just settle with the no-guard trim and trim my hair everyday or 2 days and I will be fine.
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Bodies can be oddly configured and shaped, but if they work, why sweat it? Aside from the good changes we can make through diet and exercise, or bad changes we can prevent, using sunscreen and not smoking, it's good for your mental health to relax.
Besides, change comes eventually, unbidden, and our bodies get weirder and less functional. In the last ten years I have experienced changes to my function and appearance that simply have to be lived with. Not uncommon in one's 40s. Inevitable, even. The sooner we decode it's the happiness of the man inside the machine that counts, the better.
500 (!) years ago, Michel de Montaigne wrote, "Nature forms us for ourselves, not for others; to be, not to seem."
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Well i shaved today, again lol
Its been on my mind for atleast 2 days to shave again, but my issue isnt on headshape, i am way pass that.
But on the front of my hair on my right there is much more thinning and patches compared to the left which is more covered.
And everytime I would lean my head forward you could instantly see the pattern which is annoying, even if one looks straight you would notice it a bit.
Thats when i tried to decide if i should shave it one more time and see how the clean shaven looks and feels like compared to no-guard stubble, so i did it today.
This time, since it wasent long time ago i did it, the look didnt shock me, the touch of smooth head wasent anything new and the difference wasent that big from the no-guard trim i did early in the morning.
Only difference is shaved has no uneven patterns on the head, its shinier (not by much which i like), smoother, quicker to do and its cleaner and no black outlines around my head.
And tbh my family has already seen my with shaved head so nothing else is going to shock them as it did at first, they know i will get the stubble look within 4 days, 5 days max.
And I have passed the time were i care what anyone else in my family/relative thinks.
I dont know if i will keep the shaved look or not but we will see.
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I'm glad you made the jump, Sath! Now for the next hurdle... growing out the full beard! O0 O0 >:D
I would but I get hair slightly above my cheeks and i just dont like the look, some guys have natural stop line on the cheeks which is below, I dont unfortunetly so i dont try anymore to do it.
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I don't know if too many guys actually have natural stop line on the cheeks. I have been leaving my beard high on the cheeks, but do trim it from going higher (as it wants too).
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i have been trying a few times but i dont like it when it has that "straight shape" if its not natural, i look like too dirty if i let it grow out for more than 2 days...1 day stubble is okay.
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fs27.postimg.org%2Fezs6pxn5v%2FThe_Island7.jpg&hash=dddb6cd4f34d2961b16b9635b8dfed63caaa0c92)
See the guy on right, i like his look. Bald + circle goatee with that uniform, good style IMO lol.
Has that very clean yet bearded look.
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Congrats on shaving again, I thought you would be thinking of it a lot, it gets habit forming.
I agree on the photo, I wear black often, just seems to look good on bald guys!
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I wouldnt worry what others look like as everyone is different. Be happy with yourself and make the most of what you have. Not everyone can look as cool as reddog! lol 8)
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That's for darn sure!
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Congrats on shaving again, I thought you would be thinking of it a lot, it gets habit forming.
I agree on the photo, I wear black often, just seems to look good on bald guys!
It was just because of the front thinning on my right that made me consider shaving it once more to see if i can get into it.
I dont know if i will do it again, but i will never say never.
My mom said her reason why bald look doesnt fit me, and i find it hilarious lol.
She says that because my eyebrows and beard is so dark, it doesnt fit being bald haha.
I told told her that then she hasent seen some other guys who are bald with beard, yes, dark black beards and eyebrows, they are tons of them out there...in real life and even in movies.
Then she said "you shouldnt do what other do". My respond "i didnt shave my head by choice but because of my hair situation, and the beard will never go away, you know that".
This is the same person who watched the tv show Vikings, saw Breaking Bad with me, seen Samuel L Jackson as Nick Fury...etc. theres so many of them.
I think she says this to me because i am her son and knows me all her life, if it was some random dude she met she wouldnt care.
I finally told her, the days of me caring how short my hair to others is long gone, now i am either shaving it (if i like it) or i will keep the regular no-guard trim as usual.
Atleast she was honest why she dont like it, and considering i know her reason i think its ridiculous to not have it this short because of that.