Sly Bald Guys Forum
New Member Section => Introductions => Topic started by: Mojopin on July 15, 2007, 08:48:29 PM
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Hi everyone. I'm new to this forum and, to be honest, I joined to hopefully find some support from others like me. I'm naturally going bald and I'm not dealing with it well. Depression has set in and I sometimes feel like my life with women is over. I don't think I pull off the close-cut look very well. The thoughts of losing my physical appeal are starting to dominate every minute of every day. You guys on here are all so positive and confident, and I wish I could follow that lead. I always depended on my looks to initially attract women, or have them approach ME.......it happened sometimes. I know now that I have to approach them, and I feel like I can't pull it off. I really hope women see me differently than I see myself. Sorry to ramble, but I need some support. Have any of you single guys found it harder to attract women after losing your hair? I feel like it's over.
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I know exactly what you're feelin'... you're in the right place, I just joined up about a week ago, and I'm doing great... about the worrying about being attractive to women thing, look around... there are a bunch of threads here about that very subject. it's all about confidence.
here's one that I started a couple of days ago...
http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=2298.msg39257
I think you pull off the look really well... you just need to believe in yourself
Ed
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Mojopin - welcome to Sly Bald Guys!! You found the right place.
I agree with Ed. Looking at the pic, you pull of the look very well. I think after reading many of the posts, you'll find that most guys tend to attract more women after shaving their head. Use us to build your confidence and women will be approaching you in no time.
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Thanks guys. I'm glad I found this site. I hope I can feel confident again.....because god knows, I love women and I'd like a nice one in my life.......or two. ;) By the way, are there any women on this site? I'd love some female perspective.
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mojo, i asked my wife's opinion and she said from a lady's point of view:" dude looks fine tell him to shave it. it looks shaved now" so now you have a lady's opinion on this. brother go out there and get your mojo workin. if women are so superficial that hair is that big an issue? do you really want her anyway? you will be fine. just hold your head up and embrace it brother. oh yeah welcome. stick around and let us get to know you. PAULIE
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Thanks again, You guys are already helping.
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Bro, you are pulling off the almost sly look pretty damn good. Go ahead and break out a razor and see how you look shaved. Since you have uncertainties, do it on Friday and give it a weekend. Your cut is close enough that by Monday no one will tell.
I say go for it. Then go out and look for the ladies!!
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mojo, i asked my wife's opinion and she said from a lady's point of view:" dude looks fine tell him to shave it. it looks shaved now" so now you have a lady's opinion on this. brother go out there and get your mojo workin. if women are so superficial that hair is that big an issue? do you really want her anyway? you will be fine. just hold your head up and embrace it brother. oh yeah welcome. stick around and let us get to know you. PAULIE
OK -- let me get this straight. He's supposed to trust your wife's taste in men?? ??? ???
Just kidding, of course. >:D >:D I agree with what everyone else has said; I don't think you have anything to worry about. It takes a little time sometimes to get used to the change from hair to no hair. There's more to you than just your hair. You look fine now and you'll look fine shaved. Don't sweat it.
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Welcome...you've landed in a great place for information and camaraderie.
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mojo....1st of all welcome 2 the forum. glad that u found us. i'm not gonna waste your time w/some b#ll$h!t.... so here goes....man.... just slap a good razor (headblade, regular mach3, or regular fusion) on that buzzed dome & make it a smooth dome. u will not have any regrets. if anything u will say 2 yourself "damn....i shoulda done this a long time ago".
and as far as attracting women.... why the HELL do u want a women because of your friggen hair. u r meeting the wrong type of girl. that's right i said girl because a real lay-day ain't superficial like that. man... there r plenty of cool looking sly guys that get a lot of attention from the lay-days. it's ALL ABOUT THE CONFIDENCE... & the way a real man carries himself. so... please... keep your head up & do the deed. no regrets & no worries!!!
besides.... take it from your sly brahs, here.... we feel that u will rock the look. anyways.... keep us posted on your journey 2 the sly life.
WARHAWK O0
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You guys are f****** awesome.
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Mojo... dooood... my girlfriend says that you should not have any trouble attracting women, Her friend thinks so too... You just need to shave that bean and hit the pubs (or where ever you go to meet women and approach them like you allready know that they want you.
Just passing it along
Ed
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Hi everyone. I'm new to this forum and, to be honest, I joined to hopefully find some support from others like me. I'm naturally going bald and I'm not dealing with it well.
Hi mojo ..... you've come to the right place bro. I don't think many people deal with it well to begin with .... after all, it's a big change ... & feels a bit like the person you're so used to being is disappearing fast only to be replaced by some one who looks quite different.
Depression has set in and I sometimes feel like my life with women is over. I don't think I pull off the close-cut look very well. The thoughts of losing my physical appeal are starting to dominate every minute of every day.
Try not to get too depressed about it. I don't say this lightly because I know how hard it can be. The irony of course, is that the more you worry about it ... the less attractive you will ACTUALLY appear ... as others have said, it's a confidence thing ... if you think you are no longer attractive then that is how you'll come across....people will pick up on it. So it can become a self-fulfilling prophesy!
It's not the lack of hair in itself that will make you "less-attractive" but how you deal with it. Strange but true!
You guys on here are all so positive and confident, and I wish I could follow that lead. I always depended on my looks to initially attract women, or have them approach ME.......it happened sometimes. I know now that I have to approach them, and I feel like I can't pull it off. I really hope women see me differently than I see myself. Sorry to ramble, but I need some support. Have any of you single guys found it harder to attract women after losing your hair? I feel like it's over.
It's not all over at all but it is up to you!
Anyway bro, stick around .... you'll find that the positiveness & the confidence here is catching! Don't worry about venting ... if you can't vent about it here ... well, where can you? .... To a degree that's what this site is all about! Hair loss isn't always an easy thing to cope with but this site can help a lot & you're not alone ... a lot of us have been in exactly the same place that you are now ... & we can tell you .... there is LIFE after hair loss! O0
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Welcome Mojopin to SBG.
Pretend for a moment that you had some full head of awesome hair. :px If you were to get a girl only to find out later that all she liked was your hair, how would that make you feel? Do you really want to be with somebody who only likes you for the way you look? I can't imagine that a relationship like that would last that long.
So, keep your head up and take it sly. There are tons of women out there that really dig the look and to them your bald head would probably just be the cherry on top if you know what I mean. In reality, they want a strong, confident man and like most of the guys/gals on here, once we did go sly our confidence soared! O0
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Welcome to the SBG family Mojopin, there realy isn't anything else to say, that hasn't already been said. So I'll just re-enforce what the others have said, Dude you will have NO trouble pulling off thr SLY look, and if you read some of the other threads you'll find that just about everyone who was once worried about their thinning hair, after they went SLY, they all wondered why they worried soooo much, and once they came to that realization, their confidence level went wayyyyyy up! So dude just embrace who you realy are and scalp the lid, and go get-em.
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Welcome to the gang Mojopin, the other brothers have already given you excellent advice. I will say that you already rock the buzz look so sly will be absolutely no problem for you. Just take some time to read the various threads and you will see that there are lots of ladys who love the sly look and the confident men wearing it.
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Welcome Mojo.
I don't think happiness comes from a full head of hair.... all the "hot" girls I see are usually with rich geeks who are twice their age.
Just be you, and the one or two girls who'll make you happy will adore you regardless of what's on yer head.
Cy
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Mojo, welcome! Most of us SBG's have been where you are now, so rest easy, because once you shave that dome, you won't believe the difference it will make! Just read around on the forums and you'll see that not one person has regretted their decision to go sly! You'll get alot more attention from the lay-days; I've gotten way more attention as a SBG than I did before going sly and the reason is that I'm way more confident about my overall looks! I'm not worried about my hair (or lack thereof) anymore and it shows to the females man! Go ahead and take the plunge, and as my bros have already stated, you'll definitely rock the sly look anyway! Keep us posted!
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Welcome to SBGs, Mojo! 8) The SLY look is for you! O0
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Welcome MoJo. I would definitely defer to the other guys on here and what they say because they have more experience than me - I am on day 39 of the sly look. Trust me - 2 months ago I was where you are. Worrying about what other people think. Someone on this board, and I apologize because I can't remember whom, gave me some great advice. They said - You are much more critical of how you look without hair than everyone else. Once I realized that, my acceptance of being sly sky-rocketed - or would that be sly-rocketed O0 Then your confidence will be incredible.
Anyway, the best help you can get is reading previous threads. One of the many great things about this site is you can come on here, talk about things and get support - and I guarantee you no matter what situation arises someone on here has been there and done that and is willing to help you.
Go for it - you've definitely got our support.
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Welcome MoJo. I would definitely defer to the other guys on here and what they say because they have more experience than me - I am on day 39 of the sly look. Trust me - 2 months ago I was where you are. Worrying about what other people think. Someone on this board, and I apologize because I can't remember whom, gave me some great advice. They said - You are much more critical of how you look without hair than everyone else. Once I realized that, my acceptance of being sly sky-rocketed - or would that be sly-rocketed O0 Then your confidence will be incredible.
Anyway, the best help you can get is reading previous threads. One of the many great things about this site is you can come on here, talk about things and get support - and I guarantee you no matter what situation arises someone on here has been there and done that and is willing to help you.
Go for it - you've definitely got our support.
Right on Steve! By the way, you're rockin' the sly look in the new avatar.
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Welcome Mojopin to SBG.
Pretend for a moment that you had some full head of awesome hair. :px If you were to get a girl only to find out later that all she liked was your hair, how would that make you feel? Do you really want to be with somebody who only likes you for the way you look? I can't imagine that a relationship like that would last that long.
So, keep your head up and take it sly. There are tons of women out there that really dig the look and to them your bald head would probably just be the cherry on top if you know what I mean. In reality, they want a strong, confident man and like most of the guys/gals on here, once we did go sly our confidence soared! O0
I agree 100% what Beerbarron said...girls like a nice face, period. Now it just shows more...plus they are totally attracted to confidence and stength...
try to fake it until you believe it...and trust me you will!
Hang in there bro...you'll find some cool girls that dig bald dudes...they ARE out there and they are the ones you want to meet...they're funkier and much more interesting and open anyways! O0
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Welcome MoJo. I would definitely defer to the other guys on here and what they say because they have more experience than me - I am on day 39 of the sly look. Trust me - 2 months ago I was where you are. Worrying about what other people think. Someone on this board, and I apologize because I can't remember whom, gave me some great advice. They said - You are much more critical of how you look without hair than everyone else. Once I realized that, my acceptance of being sly sky-rocketed - or would that be sly-rocketed O0 Then your confidence will be incredible.
Anyway, the best help you can get is reading previous threads. One of the many great things about this site is you can come on here, talk about things and get support - and I guarantee you no matter what situation arises someone on here has been there and done that and is willing to help you.
Go for it - you've definitely got our support.
Right on Steve! By the way, you're rockin' the sly look in the new avatar.
Thanks O Great Fearless Leader. Just trying to keep up with the rest of the fellas. O0
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You sound just like me about a month ago...check out some of my other posts....anyway, with the help of the great guys on here, I went ahead and shaved it all off...and I feel greater than ever. I thought I was gonna look funny and stuff.
I first shaved it down with the clippers without a guard...to be honest I was kinda wishy washy, I guess I didn't like how much the receding hairline showed. Well anyway, went ahead and shaved it with the razor and loved it much more. Now I'm just (carefully and patiently) getting sun up there.
Nobody's mentioned it but there is like a 30 day rule. Keep it 30 days, honestly I've had my ups and downs with the new do (but not as much since I shaved it off completely). But I am by the day getting stronger and way more confident, and I see some major light beeming over th horizon.
On a side note, I went this weekend to a club Space in Miami, and one of my more memorable moments was having two hot ass chicks grinding one on each of my legs....and I was bald as hell! ahahahha.
Most people, if they do comment tell me it looks good. Also check out the post "Do girls find bald guys ugly?" on here, that'll give ya a big ass boost
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Thanks again guys. You're all really good people! Glad I found this site.
I can't seem to find the thread "Do girls find bald guys ugly?" on the site. Any links?
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YI first shaved it down with the clippers without a guard...to be honest I was kinda wishy washy, I guess I didn't like how much the receding hairline showed. Well anyway, went ahead and shaved it with the razor and loved it much more. Now I'm just (carefully and patiently) getting sun up there.
Most people, if they do comment tell me it looks good.
Chico!
Dude the time has come...you say you're slick bald now...show that balded mug already, the group should at least get a view of the new and improved YOU!
Post the bald mugshot bro! O0
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no need to worry... you already look good with the close buzz,
the head shape and facial features are ok for the sly look,
shave smooth and you'll look great!! trust me...
Francesco
PS: by the way you are one on the few who will look GREAT shaved
and even with no facial hair...
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Thanks again guys. You're all really good people! Glad I found this site.
I can't seem to find the thread "Do girls find bald guys ugly?" on the site. Any links?
Here's the link bro..have fun reading
http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=2314.0
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Yo Andre,
I'm getting around to it. I'll wait till a really good one comes around, then I'll throw it up here.
Thanks for the support again tho.
Totally shaved is way better than even a millimeter of hair
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Mojo,
Sorry I'm late to respond (back from vacation). It looks like the guys have done a good job of 'pumping you up' already. You have great strong features to pull off the sly look, and I congratulate you on the close-cropped buzz. It really looks good as it is. There's no use trying to hide a balding head; it's not possible although many have tried. If it's any consolation, I would have a lot more self confidence if I looked like you instead of looking at my ugly mug. Anyway, I agree with the others; go ahead and take the blade to your head, and hold you shiny dome out for the world to see. You WILL find a huge boost in self confidence once you do. By the way, I agree that any woman who values you on whether you have hair or not is not worth the time of day.
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Welcome to SBGs, Mojo!
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Mojo, welcome. As for my 'two cents"; you have a very interesting/ handsome face, nice bone structure, proportions. You look good with the buzz, you will look particularly striking with a shave. I'd say stay away from facial hair; the totally clean look is for you. Also, if you don't already; start working out! Getting a little more buff will build up your confidence too. (and as the guys have said, this is what the ladies will notice).
I have been going real gradual toward totally sly . Very short buzz like you. I'm finding that every time I take it a notch down I not only look better, but I feel more confident. So if you need to keep it at a close buzz for a while, just do that until you are ready. But I'd say that sly is your destiny ! !
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Mojopin, you don't know how lucky you are....I am a member over at hairlosshelp.com and there are lots of guys there that wish they had the option of just shaving their head bald but they can't because like you, they were young and self conscience. But they made the mistake of getting hair transplants. The scalp can get very scarred up and it makes shaving bald not even an option. As others have said, you have a good face, be glad you HAVE the option of shaving bald and go for it. Wait till the dome has time to get some sun too before judging. I think it looks good at the length its at now too. Peace
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Hey Mojo. Losing your hair sucks. Feeling depressed over it sucks even more. Trust me, I know all about it. I wake up with it and go to bed with it. It can influence your feelings, confidence and mood, even though you have absolutely no control over the cause. I have to let you know you got my support!
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Thanks for all the support guys (even though it would be nice to hear from some ladies ;)). I've been suffering from depression for a very long time, and the hairloss is just another thing to enhance it. The feelings of hopelesness and losing my looks are very powerful sometimes. I'm glad I found a spot to talk about it, but I'm obsessing about it. I've had moments of confidence in the past and it's very hard to get back there. I seem to forget how I've sustained that state of mind. Maybe (because of past relationships) I have a bad view of women.......are they as shallow (into looks) as I seem to think? I don't know. I'm sorry to spout off like this. I feel like I bring people down, but it's hard to find someone to talk to.......and sometimes embarrassing. I've had a few drinks too... :/O
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Mojopin, the way your post reads you write like you think you're an ugly duckling. By looking at your picture you have nothing to worry about.I could understand your concern though.When I started losing my hair I was very young too. Although I was never worried about attracting the ladies because I'm gay. I didn't know how the guys would like me but now that's not a problem because lots of guys out there are either balding or sly. Whether you go sly or keep the shadow of hair you look fine.The ladies will line up to get to you.You're worrying needlessly. Like another poster said you could even pull it off with no facial hair while lots of us can't. Good luck to you and don't let your hairloss get to you anymore.You look great.
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Hey Mojo, I don't think women as a whole are as shallow as you think. Actually, men are probably much worse. What they do care about is confidence. I can't tell you how to beat your depression, since I'm not a doctor, but I can tell you that there are steps you can take to build your confidence with women.
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Thanks for all the support guys (even though it would be nice to hear from some ladies ;)). I've been suffering from depression for a very long time, and the hairloss is just another thing to enhance it. The feelings of hopelesness and losing my looks are very powerful sometimes. I'm glad I found a spot to talk about it, but I'm obsessing about it. I've had moments of confidence in the past and it's very hard to get back there. I seem to forget how I've sustained that state of mind. Maybe (because of past relationships) I have a bad view of women.......are they as shallow (into looks) as I seem to think? I don't know. I'm sorry to spout off like this. I feel like I bring people down, but it's hard to find someone to talk to.......and sometimes embarrassing. I've had a few drinks too... :/O
Mojo, Mojo, Mojo....where do I begin. First let me say that your gonna rock the sly look. Your not losing your looks, your stepping into rockin your looks. Before I went sly I thought I had some game... HA! I gotta say that since April, 2007 has been a kick ass year. I started working out, shaved my head, and partied with some great chicks! Everyones had past relationships that were bad, maybe thats why they are called past?? ??? Anyway, there are shallow chicks out there, there are brainless chicks out there, watch Rock of Love with Brett Micheals.. whole bunch there!! r*% But there are alot of good women also. As far as approaching women, I use my slyness to start a convo. I have to say that if you keep it smooth it helps alot, I had one chick almost melt <--- being nice ;) when she rubbed the nogging and commented on how smooth it was, and I threw her the line, just wait till you feel it between your legs!! Bottom line is that bald is popular with the ladies this day and age, so join the movement, you won't be disappointed! I have no regrets. Have fun with it and let us know how things go.... remember, we got your back! 8)
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Welcome Mojo. No offense to you at all but you sound just like all the new people that join this forum. They always worry about how they look or how life may change for them. Then they always end up having more confidence in themselves and wishing they had shaved years before. Don't worry bro. You'll see that having a shaved dome will grow on you as it will plenty of women around you. Besides I don't know why you are worried...You are rockin' the sly look very well. O0
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Lance couldnt have summed it up better.
The Sly look is truly life changing and will give a confidence you never knew you had. And ladies LOVE confidence. Just look at any tough talking badass either from the 50's greaser days or now. They always have a gorgeous girl hanging off them because they are happy with who they are and being Sly will give you that.
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Hey guys,
I haven't posted in a long time. I've been stressing a lot about the hair loss and decided to try going completely sly. To be honest, I'm a little freaked out and really concerned about what women are going to think. It's been a couple days and I'm pretty self concious walking around town. Am I overreacting? Do some (or alot of) women really find this look attractive? Does it look silly or freakish on a thinner guy like me? hate to sound like a broken record guys, but I need a little help. Any positive experiences from women with you single sly guys?
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Mojopin, you have not lost your mojo by shaving your head. You rock the sly dome my friend! If you can find a way to be confident in your new look, you will be successful with women. Chicks do dig the sly look on guys, but more importantly, they dig a confident guy.
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Mojo, welcome to the site, and I can't say anything more, the bro's have already said it all.
The shaved head looks great on you, and if you give it the time frame we normally recommend; usually 30 days, you will become more and more used to it and feel much more comfortable as it being part of who you are.
If you just keep the confidence level up, you will find it will feel natural, and if you give the ladies a smile like on your avatar, you will be aces!
Good luck, and keep the Mojo workin'! ;)
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OK.....I can do the female perspective part....
GIRLS DO FIND BALD MEN ATTRACTIVE!!!! just in case you missed it...... GIRLS DO FIND BALD MEN ATTRACTIVE!!!!!
Seriously you are worrying about nothing there are loadsssss of woman that find bald men attractive.....it's not about the hair its how you carry yourself, confidence etc....
My husband is BBC and I love his bald head......mostly because of how it makes him feel - there is defiantly a difference in how he carries himself since he became sly.....
If you are feeling under confident and worried thats all a woman is going to pick up on when talking to you! Woman look for many other qualities in a man before hair.
Like Stew said, any woman that is only thinking about hair is not worth your time....you would not want to know her anyhow!
Sounds like you need to really think about your own self worth - think about all your great qualities that you DO have! Thats what a woman is going to be interested in!!
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Welcome, Mojopin, glad you've joined us. The SLY look seems good for you. Just give it awhile and give yourself some time to get used to it. The freedom you will gain from not having to worry about thinning hair will give you confidence. Just give it a chance. Try not to be overly self-concious and be open-minded and I think you'll realize how positive your reactions from people will be. Best of luck.
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OK.....I can do the female perspective part....
GIRLS DO FIND BALD MEN ATTRACTIVE!!!! just in case you missed it...... GIRLS DO FIND BALD MEN ATTRACTIVE!!!!!
Seriously you are worrying about nothing there are loadsssss of woman that find bald men attractive.....it's not about the hair its how you carry yourself, confidence etc....
My husband is BBC and I love his bald head......mostly because of how it makes him feel - there is defiantly a difference in how he carries himself since he became sly.....
If you are feeling under confident and worried thats all a woman is going to pick up on when talking to you! Woman look for many other qualities in a man before hair.
Like Stew said, any woman that is only thinking about hair is not worth your time....you would not want to know her anyhow!
Sounds like you need to really think about your own self worth - think about all your great qualities that you DO have! Thats what a woman is going to be interested in!!
Wow! no offense guys, but finally some encouraging words from a beautiful woman!! Seriously though, thanks everybody for your support. It's nice to know I can get some advice and a little boost from other guys like me.
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Mojopin -- you heard it directly from Jdogs Better Half ..... Read her response over and over.
The sly look is great on you. Don't give it a second thought. Wear that bald head proudly and you'll have no trouble attracting women .
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OK.....I can do the female perspective part....
GIRLS DO FIND BALD MEN ATTRACTIVE!!!! just in case you missed it...... GIRLS DO FIND BALD MEN ATTRACTIVE!!!!!
Seriously you are worrying about nothing there are loadsssss of woman that find bald men attractive.....it's not about the hair its how you carry yourself, confidence etc....
My husband is BBC and I love his bald head......mostly because of how it makes him feel - there is defiantly a difference in how he carries himself since he became sly.....
If you are feeling under confident and worried thats all a woman is going to pick up on when talking to you! Woman look for many other qualities in a man before hair.
Like Stew said, any woman that is only thinking about hair is not worth your time....you would not want to know her anyhow!
Sounds like you need to really think about your own self worth - think about all your great qualities that you DO have! Thats what a woman is going to be interested in!!
Wow! no offense guys, but finally some encouraging words from a beautiful woman!! Seriously though, thanks everybody for your support. It's nice to know I can get some advice and a little boost from other guys like me.
Yep, one comment from a beautiful women on this subject is worth about 100 comments from guys.
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Welcome Mojo. You rock the sly very well don't think otherwise. There are alot of women that REALLY dig the slick look. Go get some brother, and get those spirits back on top where they need to be, you got this.
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Mojo, I haven't posted in a while but I just gotta tell ya that since I have went sly I have met more interesting ladys than I have in the last 5 years. Maybe its the confidence, but the headrubs have been plentiful. The problem I have now is there is not enough time!! Best advise I can give is be aware, the stare a woman gives you is not because she is having a bad thought about you, its the opposite. Walk over, start a convo, and you will see the difference. Look at it this way, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain, if nothing else its a ego booster!!