Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: ScottGrim on September 15, 2013, 08:21:01 PM
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Hi All,
I posted in the introduction thread not long ago. I'm 26, been losing my hair (slowly) since 19, and I'm reaching the point where I can't hide it anymore. My hairline has a slightly uneven recession, and my hair is generally thinning.
I've been experiencing extreme anxiety and depression the last few weeks because of this. I've been hiding under a hat every day, and I'm sick and tired of it. I need to accept and love myself the way I am so I can get over this dark time in my life.
A few questions, and reasons why I'm hesitant:
1) Since I've been under a hat this whole time, co-workers are going to be pretty shocked if I buzz my hair down and come into work sans-hat. I'm not sure of the best way to do this.
2) I don't even know how short I should buzz my hair...
3) How long do you think it will take to get over this, and for me to be happy again?
4) If I don't like the way it looks buzzed, what are my options?
Thanks in advance!
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For some reason, the edit option wasn't working:
Also, I look very young for my age. I've been told around 17-18 years old. I cannot grow dense facial hair yet either...
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I saw your post in the introduction thread and the picture you posted. To be honest, your hair looks fine, so I don't think you should shave it all off. If you actually want to go shorter because you think it'll look better, then just go to a stylist and ask them to start at a certain length and to keep going shorter if you still want to. However, there's no reason for you to buzz/shave it completely.
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Scott - just read your initial post. I was exactly in your shoes many years ago. I started noticing my hair receding at 17 and stressed about it for many years without talking to anyone about my anxiety. I was constantly worried and wondering if people were noticing. The funny thing is that probably no one noticed the first years. But it was a constant source of stress. Some girl had once told me my hair was my best feature (uh oh!) I finally bit the bullet when I was about 31 after seeing a picture of me from the back. I knew I was losing it in the front but had no idea about the back! I couldn't feel it and was afraid to look at myself from behind!
I initially asked the barber for a "crew cut." I was still not completely bald and the buzz cut gave me the appearance I had more hair. No one really made any comments (although I had a 4 year old son and he wouldn't look at me at first!) I have felt so much better about myself since the day I buzzed my head. All the worry started to go away and before long, I didn't worry about my hair anymore. Over the years I lost all the hair on the top of my head, but I kept buzzing my hair shorter and shorter and so my transition to totally bald was not very noticeable since my hair was so short anyway.
Occasionally I shave it completely and I like the feeling, but most of the time I buzz it once a week with no guard.
You're not going to be unhappy about this forever. If you are like me, the sooner you buzz, the sooner you'll start feeling better. Good luck!
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To Mike E.P.: My journey has been like yours. I noticed my thinning crown at 38; switched to a #2 buzzcut at 52 from a short businessman cut when I could "see through" the front of the hair on top of my head. I should have done it much sooner. Now clipper shaved.
To ScottGrim: My advice: do the buzzcut now. It's really great, and will not be an issue at work after a day or two. Look around: there are lots of guys your age who are buzzed or shave...same for my age now at 60.
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To Mike E.P.: My journey has been like yours. I noticed my thinning crown at 38; switched to a #2 buzzcut at 52 from a short businessman cut when I could "see through" the front of the hair on top of my head. I should have done it much sooner. Now clipper shaved.
To ScottGrim: My advice: do the buzzcut now. It's really great, and will not be an issue at work after a day or two. Look around: there are lots of guys your age who are buzzed or shave...same for my age now at 60.
Clipped - what kind of clippers do you use? My cheap ones just crapped out. I'm looking for a decent clipper that will leave me almost bald with just a shadow of hair.
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Hi!
Don't stress anymore, bro. Take the clippers & do the buzzcut now whilst you are contemplating it. You will look fine. There are a lot of guys going for the buzzed & shaved look now, so it should not be an issue at work.
If you get fed up of having a buzzcut you can always let your grow back out.... Not a problem.
All the best,
Bilko
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As I have said before the employer should be more concerned about the prformance of there staff than whether or not they choose to be sly or not . The sly look is totally compatible with any uniform . Some guys dont have a choice , why nit pick against BBC guys ?
This could come uner the remit of bullying and harrassment at work
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To: Mike EP: I use the Andis BGRC with interchangeable blades. For blades, I have #1, #000, #00000 & #000000, and alternate as the mood strikes me.