Sly Bald Guys Forum
New Member Section => Introductions => Topic started by: sahil15 on February 18, 2013, 11:32:27 AM
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Hi everyone,
My name is Sahil and new to the forum scene. I became bald at a very early age. Started thinning at 18 and now am 26 and completely bald. My options for hair transplant are very limited as my donor hair is also very thin. In fact I only have two options... Keeping my head completely shaved or doing a FUE body hair transplant
The first option seems simpler and less painful but Im just confused if a completed shaved look suits me or not. Till a couple of months ago I never used to shave the side or back of my head but now that my donor hair is also receding I did not not see any point of keeping it and as a result recently shaved every thing off. So I just wanted an honest opinion if this looks suits me or not. This is in no way a cry for acception but in fact the search for the truth. Theres no point in asking my friends or family as I know they will say it suits in order not to hurt my feelings. So if you guys think it looks sh*t then just say so. I can take it. Please see the pictures I have attached.
My second options is a body hair transplant which requires me to get thousands of grafts... I am considering it. I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on the matter?
Thank you
Hoping to hear from you soon
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Welcome Sahil,
You need to have a look that you are comfortable living with, so that is going to take some additional thought on your part.
Personally, I can't imagine the costs of hair transplant - not just financial, but also the physical endurance, the stress, and the worry about whether it will be long-lasting.
I looked at your photos before I read your message and I think your appearance is quite fine; handsome actually. The lack of hair draws more attention to your facial features. Great eyes.
It's a good look for you, but you need to become "at ease" with it.
Others will be along with their comments and suggestions. Please post back with what you are thinking/feeling, and any questions that perhaps we can help you with.
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Thank you for replying back and sharing your words of wisdom. I guess eventually I will come to accept my baldness. You would think I would have by now but I always believed a hair transplant was an option for me until I recently found out that my lack donor hair could not really support it. I guess thats just got me depressed ever since. I just have to be stronger about it I guess.
Thank you once again for replying. Very kind of you.
Sahil
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Well I am not someone who thinks everyone should shave their hair and hair is evil! So I try and an offer honest opinions. It's hard losing your hair, I look at pictures of how great my hair used to be and yeah I do miss it! In some ways I do feel less attractive than I used to but then saying that othertimes I like the fact I have shaven it all off.
It sounds like your hair has given up the ghost and it's true you have possibly two options. All the pain of a hair transplant to me is just not worth it, especially given what you have said, so the other option is to have a balding hairline OR to be sly! What do look like now as a sly guy? You look like a guy that has taken control and is making the best of a situation he cannot control.
That's the difference between being sly and bald. You are taking control and taking care of yourself to look BETTER, by the white t-shirt pic, it looks like you keep yourself in shape and are in control of your body, so why not what hair you have left.
I can honestly hand on heart say I think the look suits you. I think you rock the look.
It's a new look to you and it often takes us longer to get used to it than everyone else. New people you meet will not know you with hair (little or a lot), they will just accept you as you. Older people will recognise that this is something you are doing to improve how you look, some people dye their hair as they hate the grey, you are pretty much doing the same, making the most of the situation.
Keep the faith mate, you have nothing to worry about!
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Thank you for the great advice. There are days that I accept my baldness and days I cant stand to look at myself in the mirror. Hopefully one day I can embrace it with the same confidence as you have. By the way I gotta say you have a really cool look. I see youre from the UK. hope you are a Man U supporter. lol.
Cheers mate
Sahil
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welcome, you look great bald! go for the shave, you will so much better, and you won't be living a lie, I am 2 weeks in and am so glad I did it, my confidence is sky high, I have had no negative comments, quite the opposite, do it and start enjoying your life.
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Thank you for the great advice. There are days that I accept my baldness and days I cant stand to look at myself in the mirror. Hopefully one day I can embrace it with the same confidence as you have. By the way I gotta say you have a really cool look. I see youre from the UK. hope you are a Man U supporter. lol.
Cheers mate
Sahil
I'm origianlly a Londoner, so Man U is not my team! gotta say your new profile picture just shows a confident guy, suddenly I am the one feel insecure, man, you have nothing to be insecure about!
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Welcome, Sahil...
Save your money and save yourself from all the hassle. -you look great with a sly head.
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Personally I think you rock the look and if you go out with confidence everyone will be in favour. Having been to India a few times I know there are not many men with shaved heads but it is becoming more common. Now you are setting the trend.
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What are you worried about -- it looks great. More importantly it looks natural -- meaning that it looks like you have been that way for years.
Give it a few months after which you will be accustomed to it and it will appear "normal" and you will be at ease. Soon, you will be perfectly happy with the look.
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G'Day Sahil mate O0
Welcome to the Sly Bald Guys and sharing your story.
I personally think the Sly look suits you but you have to live with yourself each day.
Do what you think is right for YOU! Not anyone else just you.
Good Luck mate.
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I haven't seen any pictures of you with hair but I think the look suits you, looks natural to me. But I can understand that on some days you like it and on some days not. It took me at least a week to really like it and other peoples negative opinions made me insecure very easyly - but now I feel really confident and the best thing is I'm not constantly thinking about someone noticing that I am balding. Maybe you want to try the 30 day challenge - at first I just concentrated pn my bald head and now I am looking at my whole appearence - to concentrate on only one aspect and getting frustrated about it is also a symptom of body dysmorphic disorder and I understand that worrying too much about a little aspect of oneself can be depressing - so I would say give yourself some time to get used to it and then decide if you want to keep it - try to feel how you really feel about it - without the fear of other peoples negative reaction
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If you think it suits you, it suits you. If you don't think it suits you, it does not.
Why should you let the opinions of others determine what you should or should not do? Well, yes, there are "does" and "not does," but they are often only enshrined in various religious edicts such as the Christian "Ten Commandments," but I recall nothing in the Christian Bible about "Thou shalt not shave the head." Oh, yes, I know about Samson and his problems, but I think that was all about s*x and not sh*v*ng, so it had to be all made metaphorical to pass the censors. Hair or its lack is not a moral issue.
Ming thinks that the major problem with shaving your head is that so many head-shavers end up looking so similar--a stadium full of cantaloupes--and we compensate with pogonotrophy. That generally works out OK. Just a thought. Be a melonhead or not? Your decision.
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You look really natural sly, even if you don't feel that way yet.
I'd say give the nonpermanent option (shaving) a few months before going for something drastic (transplant).
You look great sly to me!
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Welcome mate, I think it looks fine!
Losing hair does suck, there is no doubt about it, now you have to get to a place you are happy/comfortable with!
Good luck
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You don't look good, YOU LOOK GREAT!!! O0
No need to worry, it's reaaly a great look for you!!
It could take some time to adjust, but you will be fine sooner than you expect!
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You look good! Give yourself a little time to adjust to the sly look. Hair transplants are expensive and fraught with problems - look around the boards and you'll see that they are not a great answer.
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Thank you everyone for the kind words. Im really glad I joined this great community. I have a lot to think about now before I make any serious decisions. Being a sly guy in India is not really common. People do not really accept their baldness over here with too much grace. And it doesn't help that people on the streets keep staring at my head on the streets... Im actually not being paranoid... people in India love to stare at someone who's different... its quite shocking. Any way I guess I will be taking this one step at a time.
Thank you everyone
Sahil
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Sahil ... why do you think they are staring?
Answer: They have not seen such a magnificent "clean" head. They are looks of admiration; in other words, don't assume the worst.
Have you not occasionally stared at someone you thought was extraordinarily attractive?
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Trust me, you look awesome.
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Welcome, Sahil! I think you look very distinguished with the glasses, goatee and you look like you have a nice shine to your head!....FYI, you are not the first Indian to join the site; we have another couple of Indian men who went sly and adapted with no problem...and you can do the same! Good luck and stay sly (hopefully).
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Sahil ... why do you think they are staring?
Answer: They have not seen such a magnificent "clean" head. They are looks of admiration; in other words, don't assume the worst.
Have you not occasionally stared at someone you thought was extraordinarily attractive?
This [^^^^^^^^^^^^^] is quite right. Some or probably most are looking because it looks really attractive. And in a hot place like India it is much better than having sweaty hair on top of you head. No more worrying about how you hair looks etc..
As you know there is also a long tradition of shaven-headed spiritual masters in India. It can't be bad to align yourself in this superficial way with this group. Maybe this is the first step to you becoming a spiritual master.
I wish I looked as good as you do.
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Shaved bald looks good on you. Nice shine on top. Very distinguished.
If you are really new to shaving your head, give it at least 30 days. Takes a little while to get used to the look. Stick around. Join the conversation. Enjoy being bald. There are lots of guys here who keep their heads shaved, some by choice, and some because the little that's left just looks better shaved.
And a bald head is much less expensive than a hair transplant. No guarantee that the transplant will last or really take and look natural. Shaving bald will do both.
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Shaved bald looks good on you. Nice shine on top. Very distinguished.
If you are really new to shaving your head, give it at least 30 days. Takes a little while to get used to the look. Stick around. Join the conversation. Enjoy being bald. There are lots of guys here who keep their heads shaved, some by choice, and some because the little that's left just looks better shaved.
And a bald head is much less expensive than a hair transplant. No guarantee that the transplant will last or really take and look natural. Shaving bald will do both.
Don't forget the scars that transplantation causes -- this can be a real problem for some and later they feel they have to get them treated in various [ridiculously expensive] ways.
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You don't look good, YOU LOOK GREAT!!! O0
No need to worry, it's reaaly a great look for you!!
It could take some time to adjust, but you will be fine sooner than you expect!
I second that opinion! The sly look suits you very nicely!
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Hey guys,
Thanks for some great advice. Decided gona keep the sly look for at least 30 days and see how i feel after that. Today would be day 2.
Just wanted to ask you guys if you shave your head everyday or shave it after every few days. What is the best way?
Also whats the easiest way to shave the back of your head in order to make sure you don't miss anything. Holding a mirror at the back of my head is not really comfortable
Thanks all
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I shave every 3rd or 4th day, thats better for my scalp
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I totally agree with ISleepInThe Buff! You look absolutely great, the look really suits you.
Dont panic and go down the body hair transplant route, those things NEVER look good, even if you have the body hair of a yeti to tansplant onto your head, it still looks like chest hair!
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Thanks Leigh. I guess its not the bald head that bothers me so much but the massive bald crown I have. Even with a sly head its extremely noticeable. For me it is the most important factor wanting a transplant. Since I have my crown hair I have actually been more worried about people standing behind me rather than front but the cost and the unnatural look from a body hair transplant just makes me feel its not worth it. I know I keep going on about it but like I said let the 30 days pass and maybe I will become a true sly guy.
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Sorry meant to say since I have lost my crown hair...
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Sahil ... everyone is different, of course. But I shave daily and have since the first day of shaving my head. Key in the early days is to go slow and gently. But other guys are alternating day shavers ... up to you. I think the daily shave makes it part of your routine more quickly.
I shave in the shower and have this fogless (wall-mounted) mirror which I really like: http://www.amazon.com/Squeegee-ToiletTree-Products-Guaranteed-Customers/dp/B003BQ6QXK/ref=sr_1_1?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1361315568&sr=1-1&keywords=toilettree+fogless+mirror (http://www.amazon.com/Squeegee-ToiletTree-Products-Guaranteed-Customers/dp/B003BQ6QXK/ref=sr_1_1?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1361315568&sr=1-1&keywords=toilettree+fogless+mirror)
And for shaving I like: http://www.amazon.com/Headblade-Sport-Ultimate-Shave-razor/dp/B000NFEX46/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1361315638&sr=1-1&keywords=headblade (http://www.amazon.com/Headblade-Sport-Ultimate-Shave-razor/dp/B000NFEX46/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1361315638&sr=1-1&keywords=headblade) - search on youtube for "headblade" and you can see videos of it in use.
You look great Sly, and I think once you become accustomed to it you will actually be quite pleased with the look and the simplicity.
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Give the 30 day rule a try as you have agreed and by then I am sure you will want to keep the look which incidentally really suits you.
I have travelled a lot in India and also China and I think although a sly head is not all that common it really looks good. Incidentally as a much older sly man (with white beard) I am often asked to take part in photos with locals who probably think I am some strange alien. I always wonder what they do with the photos.
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Hey Nuts,
Perhaps they see your photo as good luck and worship you. Haha.
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Hi Sahil and welcome to the forum!
Even without having seen any pictures of your with hair on I think you have nothing to worry about: you really look great with the sly look, it really compliments your facial features and your goatee. A transplant really sounds like an awful lot of trouble (physical and financial) to put yourself through for an uncertain result.
Now you've decided to try it out for 30 days, stick to it, and let the people stare in envy and admiration :) I'm sure by the end of the month you'll have found it's a keeper :)
As for the shaving routine, it really depends on how sensitive your skin is and how comfortable you are with a bit of stubble. When I shave I usually do it every second or third day as my skin can't really handle a daily shave.
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I think you look like a baller.
I know A LOT about HT's, I basically have a Master's Degree in them. I really don't think that you are in a position to benefit from one. BHT HT's look like you shaved your pubes and dropped them on your head. HT's CAN be good for some people, but those guys are in their 50's or older with very little loss. The vast majority of people, like 99 percent, are better off being a sly guy. I wish didn't make that mistake. I had one and once you draw that line you are stuck or you have to show off your scar. It limits your options. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions.
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.... I am often asked to take part in photos with locals who probably think I am some strange alien. I always wonder what they do with the photos....
lol, nobody wants to take pictures with me :*))
hey sahil, I think you look great with the sly look, I think the HT route is a painful and difficult one... I had a buzz cut and some friends that I haven't seen in a while ask me "dude, what did you do?" or the next one is "wow, you look so bald"... it's not fun at all but if you feel better and you like it the opinion of other people won't matter much...
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You look great SLY BALD - - -Enjoy it - - -Bald guys are better looking than guys with hair. Mother nature created just so many beautiful heads -the rest she covered with hair. We are the lucky ones.
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Thank you Mango Sink, giuliani, Todo Doru and anyone else I might have missed for your advice. I have to say all of your kind words have touch me and make me feel more confident about going sly every day. Day 5 and going strong....
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Keep it shaved bro, it suits you.
O0
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Hi Sahil, I have to agree that you are looking great sly, and do not need to worry about an HT, the permanence and scarring is not worth it! Best if luck my friend
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thanks slyfive
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Watch the TV series "Breaking Bad" -- that will make baldness seem not only normal but stylish.
Also, shave you scalp by feel -- forget about mirrors -- too difficult and too much mucking around.
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Watch the TV series "Breaking Bad" -- that will make baldness seem not only normal but stylish.
Hi Gary,
I love breaking bad. seen all the episodes. You kinda look like walter.