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Discussions About Being Bald => 30 Day Rule / Beginners Section => Topic started by: MarkusToe on February 09, 2013, 03:26:11 AM
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so I am in almost two weeks now and so far my confidence was rising slowly but constantly - I didn't shave the last 3 days just for convenience and my mother and father said it looks better with at least a little hair - so now I'm feeling a little insecure again, has anyone of you had such days and how did you deal with it?
here's a photo of my freshly shaved head, its strange, but shaving really makes me feel better (looking) - and please notice that great jimi hendrix poster :@`
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shaving really makes me feel better (looking)
This. I have been shaving for a while now and still love the feel and look of a fresh shave. What matters most is how you feel. It has only been two weeks, they have been used to you with hair for YEARS!! Eventually, your happiness with yourself will win them over.
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Opinions are like asses, everyone has got one :)
If shaving makes you feel better looking, forget the stubble encouragement. I still find your eyes and eyebrows are quite strong and you're very dashing when freshly shaved.
I've been up to this for almost 3 weeks and the insecurity comes and goes. At the end of the day, I feel best when I do what I want and embrace the look I've chosen.
Hair feels very personal, as does shaving; I'm trying very hard to treat it like clothing: if my mom said she didn't love my shirt, I'd shrug it off.
When I get really insecure I come here :) or spend some mirror time with myself and remind myself that I like how I look and that's what matters.
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Markus, it depends on a few things. I think you suit a freshly shaved head far more than the hair you first had when you arrived as it was obvious you were losing it. Being bald does suit you.
for me I like to be freshly smooth mainly because after a couple of days of growth, as my hair is dark, I get a shadow and that's when I start to feel less confident. It's not so much for me about the front and the receeding area, it's what I call the helipad - the circular bald spot at the back of my head. When I have a slight fuzz growing it's that you can see. I start to wonder if people notice it and then get the razor out!
However I see guys with 0 and 1's graded haircuts and you can still tell they buzz short because of their hairline so to me they are still sly as they are taking control of their baldness. They perhaps have a different set of insecurities to me and don't feel the need to be totally smooth and shadow free to be confident! so a buzzcut may work for you if it leaves you feeling confident!
Mothers tend to like the things we don't, it's in their contract! Base your decisions on what works for you
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I think its just hard that everyone suddenly has an opinion about your looks and everyone feels like its their right to tell you! Beign the center of everyones attention can be stressfull and being judged is never very pleasant
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It isn't but people will get used to it. It's a new look and people are bound to comment
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Hi Markus-
That confidence that you're seeking, and hoping to maintain, has nothing to do with how much hair is or is not on your head.
That confidence can only come from within. You have to know what you are about. What you believe in, what kind of guy you are, what do you do when nobody else is watching. Figure yourself out and that confidence will soar.
The shaving of a receding hair line is only one tool to help you find that everyday confidence that you seek. MAking that decision to shave that bad hairline is a small part of figuring out what you are about.... and that's why it makes you feel a bit more confident.
Stand tall my Friend.
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my mother and father said it looks better with at least a little hair - so now I'm feeling a little insecure again, has anyone of you had such days and how did you deal with it?
Marcus, you're a little older than me (if memory serves) but parents of our generation are ALWAYS like that, mine being no exception. Trust me, the people your own age will think it looks better shaved than with thin hair.
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Markus,
You look great sly. Hang in there. It will only get better and your confidence will grow.
Well said Saintc and Mikekoz.
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Hi Markus,
Most of us younger guys know what it's like to have our parents' disapproval toward our shaved heads. My dad was indifferent (he's got more hair on top than I do, lol), but my mom would give me a few passing comments every now and then about how I would look better with a little bit of hair (buzzed).
I only kept my #1 buzz for one week before shaving because I didn't care to have a well-developed horseshoe at 23. I just told her how that look was unacceptable to me at that age. The comments only lasted about a month and I haven't gotten a single word about my hair for 4 years. Just give it a little more time. Your parents will see how happy you are with a shaved dome and being happy is what they want for you.
Nice Jimi poster!
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Your parents will see how happy you are with a shaved dome and being happy is what they want for you.
maybe you are right, it just bothers me that almost all relatives I met in the last days (except two) asked me if I really want to keep it that way??? :/O that was a reaction I got very often, but as you sad, a horseshoe is so not acceptable for me too
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... a horseshoe is so not acceptable for me too
So there's your answer. Remind yourself of that during moments of doubt -- which are quite normal in the early stages.
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here's a photo of my freshly shaved head, its strange, but shaving really makes me feel better (looking) - and please notice that great jimi hendrix poster :@`
With good reason you feel better looking--when was the last time you ever saw any guy with a dying mop that looked happy, healthy and truly confident?
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For some awful reasons relatives feel like they can be rude and say insane stuff to us.
Take everything they say with a grain of salt, process quickly and then dismiss!
If my family had their way I'd have 4+ kids, live in the heartland and be wearing huge fluffy bangs. Thank god they don't get a say!
I let my relatives get under my skin, but it's not their right. We both need to stand up for ourselves!
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Hi Markus. I am a basically shy person but I get an extra boost of confidence when I am freshly shaved smooth. You have a great head shape and should be proud to show it off. I take every opinion in stride, what matters is how you feel about yourself. Nice poster by the way. :)
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Confidence will get back, believe me. You look really good bald, you rock the look seriously!
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Markus, I've been away for a few days ... but when I saw your updated avatar this morning I was genuinely impressed. You look so much better and comfortable.
You're only two weeks (or so) into it, so you are still adjusting as are the others around you. It does take time. If you maintain this style it'll be a few more weeks before you realize that even you don't notice the "new" look. Once you assimilate that into your core, what other people say won't have any impact on you.
As (Sly Sister) bella wrote, you look great. Your eyes and brows really stand out.
You definitely are suited to the style ... it's just going to take a little time until you truly "own" it and believe it.
Continued success.
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You're only two weeks (or so) into it, so you are still adjusting as are the others around you.
thanks for the nice words to all of you - today I met my aunt again, after we visited her yesterday and she said "when you were gone we said that we like the new style, we noticed the we got used to it very quickly" :) I can't blame them as I too needed some days to get used to it
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Markus, as the guys were saying, parents are going to be, well, parents. Glad to see that you are adjusting nicely to being sly. I'm sure that others will adjust to your new look in no time. I still get a few comments and I'm 40 years old but as an adult, I take them in stride. Nice poster BTW!
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Every one feels good about your new look on this site! Don't take offence to this. But don't care what your parents think! Be happy with yourself. Its better than worrying about it.
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Hey dude, you look awesome. No joke. Maybe your parents sense your hesitation which makes them think they should offer advice?
I dunno, hard to say. But you look rad. Own it. Once they sense that you're 100% awesome and owning it, they'll follow :)
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Markus, I looked back at some of your earlier posts. You've come so far, you should be very pleased with yourself.
You were worried about the girls. I think you still should be - the difference being "back then" you were worried about being alone, I think "now" you're going to be overwhelmed.
Like shaving, you're up to the challenge.
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I had a couple of days when I wavered with my confidence but I think it's a natural part of the transition from hair to sly.
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I had a couple of days when I wavered with my confidence but I think it's a natural part of the transition from hair to sly.
so now everything is good?
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Just remember that whenever people are teasing/criticizing you -- it's because they are insecure themselves.
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Dude I completely see where you are coming from..... Im from India and the Indian society is incredibly vein.... if you dont have hair then you are somehow not normal... having a shaved head is not a common practice over here as it is in Europe or America...
and yes there are days some one will say something about your baldness that will get to you... most of the times its not meant in a horrible way but to us it sounds as if they have said the worst thing ever..... but you have to remember they are just words.... feeling insecure about somebody else's remarks and dwelling over what they said wont help you to move forward...
Im slowly starting to learn that a persons confidence isn't measured by the number of hair on their head but by their generosity, by their sense of humour and their good nature.... and Markus you have all these qualities...
Sure there are some days that are gona be more tough than others but you you just have to forget about those days and move forward
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I had a couple of days when I wavered with my confidence but I think it's a natural part of the transition from hair to sly.
so now everything is good?
Yup MarkusToe, its all good now as far as I'm concerned mate! Just one person not happy about it all but time will tell. It's my head after all!