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Discussions About Being Bald => 30 Day Rule / Beginners Section => Topic started by: Herp on January 24, 2013, 07:45:20 PM

Title: Another distressed head
Post by: Herp on January 24, 2013, 07:45:20 PM
OK, maybe not that distressed.

However, I'm quite curious about shaving my head. I would do it, but I still would like to clear some stuff about it before moving forward. So, I'll ask some questions and post some pictures and we'll see.

My father is completely bald, and I had the predisposition since before I knew about it. But then, I went through some stressful new situations that made me lose a lot of hair reasonably fast, since 6-8 m.o. pictures don't show me as bald as 1-2 m.o. pictures. So, I wanted to take some action. What I did was buzzing my hair up to a #2 razor, I guess. And it was the shortest I ever got. Take a look.
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I'm quite concerned about my hairline, since it is quite asymetrical. I was quite comfortable with the buzz cut, but the fact that it was quite asymetric made me a bit uneasy with it. And shaving is, for now, an option that still has to be weighted.

I'm also concerned with looking like one of the furless cats, or a bond villain. For what's worth, I'm 21 y.o.

So, what do you guys have to say about my head and baldness?
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Itall on January 24, 2013, 07:52:36 PM
I would look great on you. Go for it.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: VoodooSyxx on January 24, 2013, 08:47:31 PM
Hmm furless is unlikely. Bond villain is a slight possibility, but really the villains were always way cooler anyway.

I say go for it. The worst that could happen is you don't dig it, and you let it grow back. I think you're more likely to get hooked on the look and feel of it though.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Sir Harry on January 24, 2013, 09:38:17 PM
Welcome! I say give it a try; what do you have to lose? (except maybe more clumps of hair) Good Luck!
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: chgobuzzbald on January 24, 2013, 10:42:59 PM
Maybe try a no. 1 grade first and see how you like it ?  You hair in the photo looks too long and a shorter cut would eb very sharp. Then it an easy step to hit the razor and in 6 or 7 days it grows back to a buzz, if you let it :)
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Gary~ on January 25, 2013, 12:06:10 AM
Yes there is a small asymmetry in your hairline as there is in your face. It is however much less than the asymmetry in my face and many other people's faces.

I tend to agree with chgobuzzbald -- try a #1 buzz and see what it's like or shave it if you want to. After you buzz it you'll probably want to shave it anyway.

I gotta say though -- you look absolutely fine as you are and any asymmetry is not noticeable by others -- only you. There are lots of people that we deal with everyday that have asymmetric faces that we don't recognise as asymmetric -- just look at people you know with an eye critical to their asymmetry and you will see.

Actually, your face is way down the symmetrical end of the symmetric/asymmetrical continuum and is pretty handsome you lucky bugger. Stop worrying about nothing.

On the other hand it is good to be free from the tyranny of hair  -- you can feel a great feeling of freedom by cutting it all off.

Liberte-se da tirania do cabelo
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Crusher0209 on January 25, 2013, 01:53:06 AM
I see what you are talking about and I say go ahead and try it if you are thinking about doing it I am in the 9th grade and shave my head full time now and absolutely love it. So do what will make you happy, but don't let losing your hair take over your life I say accept it and be proud O0
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Lynchy on January 25, 2013, 03:07:59 AM
Welcome,

Looks fine to me!

Although sly would be better :P
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Herp on January 25, 2013, 08:32:41 AM
I went to the barber and buzzed it to a #1 guard.

My baldness became even more apparent. I didn't like it. Went home and shaved my hair off with a razor. It's funny and weird, and I'm still trying to adapt to the peer comments. I took a picture of it for you guys to see.

However, I'm a bit concerned with the mark I have in the back of my head, since is quite big. I'll post it on another reply because I'm having a hard time with attachments yet. So, the slylyness.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: zetaeffe on January 25, 2013, 09:19:33 AM
Looks good
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: stasiu on January 25, 2013, 09:33:46 AM
Welcome to SBG !  IMO, I think your 2013 new year just gotten better by shaving your head  :)

Looks good, remember the 30 day rule.  If not, keep it very tight buzz until you feel ready for sly. 

You look very confident and handsome in the sly pic vs. the balding pic.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: VoodooSyxx on January 25, 2013, 10:30:55 AM
It looks good to me, bro. Don't worry so much about a mark on your head. We all have marks or bumps or something less than perfect about our heads. Typically the only one who notices or cares is ourselves.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Switchy on January 25, 2013, 10:53:00 AM
Welcome Herp !  The sly look you wear very well  O0 8)
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Crusher0209 on January 25, 2013, 11:38:26 AM
Sly suits you very well. I say it is a keeper but it is up to you. O0
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: benlen on January 25, 2013, 01:54:34 PM
Sly suits you very.

Agreed! Most guys look good with a shaved head, but then there are those that look especially good. Count yourself lucky, the style totally suits you!
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Gary~ on January 25, 2013, 03:11:09 PM
I went to the barber and buzzed it to a #1 guard.

My baldness became even more apparent. I didn't like it. Went home and shaved my hair off with a razor. It's funny and weird, and I'm still trying to adapt to the peer comments. I took a picture of it for you guys to see.

However, I'm a bit concerned with the mark I have in the back of my head, since is quite big. I'll post it on another reply because I'm having a hard time with attachments yet. So, the slylyness.

It looks really good -- if it feels weird it will only be for a short while. Read the 30 day rule thread. I understand that for women who wear a lot of make-up not wearing any feels weird for a while also -- it's a bit like that for some people.

Post a pic of the back of your head and we will give you an evaluation.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: merase on January 25, 2013, 03:55:00 PM
I personally think that you look good with the bald look. And I wouldn't worry about the mark on the back of your head. Everyone has imperfections which make us unique. Yours just happens to be a mark. Not a big deal
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: theebaldguy on January 25, 2013, 03:58:43 PM
Looks fine to me!
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Itall on January 25, 2013, 05:37:31 PM
Looks great.  Keep it up.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Sir Harry on January 25, 2013, 11:25:59 PM
Looks great....As far as the mark on the back of your head, many of us have scratches, scars, etc on our heads, but we still wear our bald heads with pride...and so can you....There are concealers to help you hide the mark if it is a big concern, however....Welcome to the Sly Club!
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: shavedslick123 on January 26, 2013, 01:53:22 AM
Looks great, man! Keep it up!
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Kevin G on January 26, 2013, 02:56:33 AM
Looks good on you.  Give it 30 days(30 day rule) and then see how you feel about it.  I bet you will love it after you pass the 30 day challenge.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: mrzed on January 26, 2013, 03:42:03 AM
The hard part is over.you look very pleased with your head shaved bald. 30 days is a necessity. Gives you a chanced to get used to the new look and feel. 

Keep the photos to about 65k and they will attach.

July would look well to keep shaving your head for the rest of your life! Enjoy the morning routine.


Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Andrei on January 26, 2013, 06:32:05 AM
The shaved look is great, it's a keeper.
Just like others have already recommended you, give the 30 day rule a try.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Herp on January 26, 2013, 09:19:04 AM
I want to thank everyone for the support!

The experience, so far, has been actually pretty fun. First, no need for shampoo as combing or anything whatsoever. Second, the reactions are the funniest thing I ever came across. Third, I'm pretty much okay with it now. I'm still a bit eager for my head to tan evenly, but even then, many people agree that I'm looking quite good.

Now, about the mark on the head: It looks like this. It's not large enough to be a problem, but big enough to draw attention to itself. I'm not sure about the concealers, but I might try at some point.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: slyjoe on January 26, 2013, 01:50:05 PM
Lookin great!
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Gary~ on January 26, 2013, 03:49:43 PM
I want to thank everyone for the support!

The experience, so far, has been actually pretty fun. First, no need for shampoo as combing or anything whatsoever. Second, the reactions are the funniest thing I ever came across. Third, I'm pretty much okay with it now. I'm still a bit eager for my head to tan evenly, but even then, many people agree that I'm looking quite good.

Now, about the mark on the head: It looks like this. It's not large enough to be a problem, but big enough to draw attention to itself. I'm not sure about the concealers, but I might try at some point.

Well, it's not taking long for you to adjust at all is it? That's really good. It's a great feeling  to be free from having to do this or that with our hair. Everything will become easier every day from now on.

With regards to the mark on the back of your head -- I definitely wouldn't bother trying to cover it up. Yes it is noticeable but  it's not really that big and it's quite handily symmetrically placed. It doesn't look "odd" or "bad" but it to someone who's attention is drawn to it [say by showing a photo] it looks "interesting". It adds a little something extra and unique to the package that is you. Rest assured though -- no one really cares if it's there or not and hardly anyone will even notice it on a conscious level. Most people are too worried about how they look themselves -- probably worried about their hair.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Switchy on January 26, 2013, 05:03:11 PM
I want to thank everyone for the support!

The experience, so far, has been actually pretty fun. First, no need for shampoo as combing or anything whatsoever. Second, the reactions are the funniest thing I ever came across. Third, I'm pretty much okay with it now. I'm still a bit eager for my head to tan evenly, but even then, many people agree that I'm looking quite good.

Now, about the mark on the head: It looks like this. It's not large enough to be a problem, but big enough to draw attention to itself. I'm not sure about the concealers, but I might try at some point.
Herp, fergetaboutit !  That is part of you , each and everyone of us are different in our own ways , most not made by choice.  But the way we were made.  Or what has happened along the way.  Stand tall and walk tall it is all good.  We often are our own worst enemy's .   O0 ;) 8)
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Sir Harry on January 27, 2013, 01:35:19 AM
I don't think the mark is a big deal, but if it is that big of a concern, you could always see a dermatologist for a prescription for bleaching cream to at least make the mark fade if not completely disappear! But your head looks great as it is!
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Kevin G on January 27, 2013, 01:47:15 AM
I don't think the mark is a big deal, but if it is that big of a concern, you could always see a dermatologist for a prescription for bleaching cream to at least make the mark fade if not completely disappear! But your head looks great as it is!

Yeah I was about to say the same thing.  Personally I think that the mark does not look bad but definitely go see a dermatologist if it really bugs you.  Like SlySirHarry said they can give you some bleaching cream.  You could even try a good over the counter spot bleacher just to see if that helps you first.  I got some that I am going to use on a few sun spots soon.  You can find it at any good drug store like CVS, Rite Aid, etc.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: lordpeich on January 27, 2013, 04:48:20 AM
Nice looking. And dont worry about the marks, i have two on my back.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: kalbo on January 28, 2013, 04:00:26 AM
You look great bald Herp. No need to be stressed about it. Wise move.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: balddaniel on January 28, 2013, 11:56:11 AM
I agree with the guys, you look very handsome.  Keep it up!
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Frontier Guy on January 29, 2013, 07:01:02 PM
Welcome Herp. It's a good change for you, and I'm glad you're enjoying it.

"The mark." Well, it's just going to get you more attention from prospective admirers. Helps you to stand out in the increasing crowd of awesome baldies.
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Herp on January 29, 2013, 08:25:51 PM
Once again, thanks everyone for the support!

There hasn't been a week yet, but this experience has proved very enlightening in my path to growth.

First things first: Shaving my head was an outstanding way of declaring ownership of my deeds. All of my life, I've looked for others for approval and guidance. We are raised to do such thing (I mean, it's part of growing up: You pay attention to your parents, your teacher and is rewarded/punished according to your behavior), but then, comes a time in your life where these persons have no longer any power over you...unless you allow them to. After a very interesting conversation with my best friend, I came to understand that the only limitations and obligations we perceive exists only in our heads. We can do whatever we want, if it pleases us and we're ready to face the consequences of our own actions. Self-accountability.

Secondly, I found out that hair is not a big deal at all. I can let it grow and I can shave it whenever it pleases me. It's my head and I do it like I want to do it. Looking at the reactions I've received, shaving my head was no different than keeping my hair. Some liked, some didn't. I don't care either way, as long as I feel comfortable with myself. If, one day, I feel I should change, I can do either and be happy with it.

Third, I may admit that shaving my head was a bit of attention seeking. I was feeling unremarkable with the way my hair was and wanted to bring some change to the table. I did it. But I somehow feel that, after shaving, I had to put up an attention seeking behavior to show everyone about my head. And only because I wasn't so sure about it. Kind of contradicts with what I have said in the first paragraph, but I have only achieved that thought after realizing this.

Finally, I'll tell you guys: I'll let it grow back for now. I have killed my doubts and no longer fear my head, and at the same time, the experience has been enlightening and fun. But ultimately, the decision is mine, and I am feeling bad because, for this time in particular, shaving my head was an act of attention seeking and I am feeling wrong by keeping my head shaved.

(Hair will grow back and everyone will forget. And then, one day, I will go and shave it again. I already know how it feels and I'm completely comfortable with the looks of it.  8) This time was an experiment in self growth and I feel I got what I sought in the first place.)

And finally, I plan on doing a time lapse of hair/beard growth during this growth period. I may post it here when I'm sly again!

For the Nth time, thanks everyone for being incredibly supportive and allowing me to have this outstanding experience!
Title: Re: Another distressed head
Post by: Gary~ on January 29, 2013, 10:03:11 PM
Once again, thanks everyone for the support!

There hasn't been a week yet, but this experience has proved very enlightening in my path to growth.

First things first: Shaving my head was an outstanding way of declaring ownership of my deeds. All of my life, I've looked for others for approval and guidance. We are raised to do such thing (I mean, it's part of growing up: You pay attention to your parents, your teacher and is rewarded/punished according to your behavior), but then, comes a time in your life where these persons have no longer any power over you...unless you allow them to. After a very interesting conversation with my best friend, I came to understand that the only limitations and obligations we perceive exists only in our heads. We can do whatever we want, if it pleases us and we're ready to face the consequences of our own actions. Self-accountability.

Secondly, I found out that hair is not a big deal at all. I can let it grow and I can shave it whenever it pleases me. It's my head and I do it like I want to do it. Looking at the reactions I've received, shaving my head was no different than keeping my hair. Some liked, some didn't. I don't care either way, as long as I feel comfortable with myself. If, one day, I feel I should change, I can do either and be happy with it.

Third, I may admit that shaving my head was a bit of attention seeking. I was feeling unremarkable with the way my hair was and wanted to bring some change to the table. I did it. But I somehow feel that, after shaving, I had to put up an attention seeking behavior to show everyone about my head. And only because I wasn't so sure about it. Kind of contradicts with what I have said in the first paragraph, but I have only achieved that thought after realizing this.

Finally, I'll tell you guys: I'll let it grow back for now. I have killed my doubts and no longer fear my head, and at the same time, the experience has been enlightening and fun. But ultimately, the decision is mine, and I am feeling bad because, for this time in particular, shaving my head was an act of attention seeking and I am feeling wrong by keeping my head shaved.

(Hair will grow back and everyone will forget. And then, one day, I will go and shave it again. I already know how it feels and I'm completely comfortable with the looks of it.  8) This time was an experiment in self growth and I feel I got what I sought in the first place.)

And finally, I plan on doing a time lapse of hair/beard growth during this growth period. I may post it here when I'm sly again!

For the Nth time, thanks everyone for being incredibly supportive and allowing me to have this outstanding experience!

What an outstanding, insightful post. Yes, we are free to do what we want as long as we are happy to pay the price. Well done Herp.