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Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: BaldingSince16 on January 03, 2013, 08:46:11 AM
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Hello all how is everyone doing? So I am just trying to decide if i should go bald or not and needed some advice and or opinions on if and why I should go bald.
Now I know a lot of you are probably just going to say to shave it just because that's what you did and you think everyone should do it. And hey thats great for you. But i am seriously looking to better myself as a person inside and out by doing this.
Anyways, a little about me. My name is Chris. I am 26 years old and I have been going bald since I was 16. I have pretty much no hair in the front except a few bangs left and it is getting to the point where i hate it but i feel I will look dumb bald. I have a huge forehead and I cannot grow any kind of facial hair and when it does grow in it grows in splotches. Now i mention that because. a lot of the guys that have pics posted either A. are more muscular or heavier set which somehow accentuates the hair. Or B. have facial hair which draws attention away from the bald head and makes it look better. now i cannot do either of these things.
Anyways i have attached a picture to show you all what I am working with if you could give me some advice thank you very much. And have a wonderful 2013.
Ok so it will not let me attach any photos. sorry guys i tried.
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Now I know a lot of you are probably just going to say to shave it just because that's what you did and you think everyone should do it. And hey thats great for you. But i am seriously looking to better myself as a person inside and out by doing this.
By shaving your head you are accepting the fact that you're going bald. Accepting the truth will quite possibly make you a better person inside and out.
When you're clean shaven the large forehead is no more. Just all slick bald head.
To post a picture you need to post it into a photo hosting site then link to it.
Cheers,
Red
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Welcome on Board !
Your concerns are understandable. I am wondering if you ever tried a short buzz or so.
"Now I know a lot of you are probably just going to say to shave..." yes because it would be a way to find out which route you might wanna go. You wouldn't need to keep it shaved if there is no way you would like it. Finally the only relief of thinking to much for me was to try it, kinda.
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Be good to see a photo!
Like Ben32 said, you dont need to shave completely SLY, try a buzz cut or something really short and see how you feel about it.
Whatever you decide, support is great on here.
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I have to agree with Red by doing it pretty much all the problems that you have listed should go away and it will make you feel better about your self. I am still in high school don't have facial hair or muscles at all but I am skinny as can be but I love the fresh clean look and absolutely love it and you should give it a go if you don't like just buzz it down when grows back. The choice is yours and it is up to you in the end. Hope it goes well for you.
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Now I know a lot of you are probably just going to say to shave it just because that's what you did and you think everyone should do it. And hey thats great for you. But i am seriously looking to better myself as a person inside and out by doing this.
I'm not sure if I should be offended or not by the above comment, Chris. >:(
One thing you see prevalent in the responses to the "Should I or shouldn't I" question is confidence. Clearly there are some exterior factors that may play a part in confidence, but confidence mainly comes from within. How you feel about yourself, the image you project on others, how you deal with adversity, how others view you. These are all derived from your belief in yourself.
Prior to shaving my head for the first time six years ago, I considered myself a pretty confident guy. I was married (still am) to an incredible lady, have two great kids, and have a pretty good life. However, I was always grabbing a ballcap first thing in the morning. I hated the horseshoe around my head. Plus, I had a scalp condition that drove me nuts. Since shaving the head, the scalp condition is a non-issue, and I love the sly look on me.
Am I a muscular guy? Not really.
Is my head big? Size 7 1/2, so yeah it is.
You need to ask yourself if you'd rather have the "few bangs" of hair left, or give Mother Nature the finger and give it a shot. What have you got to lose?
And who knows, you might like it! And it you don't, your hair can grow back and return to where you once were a few short days ago.
Good luck with your decision.
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I'll just add, that if you either shave or buzz it short ... maintain it for 30 days so you have a chance to become accustomed to it. As with any change, there is a period of evaluation / adjustment.
Spend some time reading the other topics which may help you solidify your thoughts.
Honest opinion: Although I think it would be good for you, I don't think you're ready. (No offense intended.)
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So I am just trying to decide if i should go bald or not and needed some advice and or opinions on if and why I should go bald.
Not to sound like a total prick or anything bro, but momma nature already made that decision for you, as she did for me. The only choice any of us have in the matter is whether we accept it, own it, and make it look good or just keep on hiding behind those last few hairs and deluding ourselves.
Now I know a lot of you are probably just going to say to shave it just because that's what you did and you think everyone should do it. And hey thats great for you. But i am seriously looking to better myself as a person inside and out by doing this.
Yeah. Pretty much. As schro already said, I'm not quite sure if I should be offended by this statement, so I'm going to assume you didn't mean to offend anyone and just leave that be. Looking around at the fellas on these forums, they all seem to be pretty solid guys with great character and tons of confidence. I can't speak for them but I'm fairly certain that the one thing they all have in common, scraping the head, was an improvement for them.
For myself, I can speak. Even though I haven't been at this long, it has been a massive improvement for me. I don't have to hide under a cap any more, or wonder if people are staring at my head and judging me as one of those guys who just can't be bothered to take care of himself and clean up that mess already. I'm bald, and frankly, I make this look good. That's the attitude I carry around with me, and people are noticing and responding to it positively.
You're right. I'm going to suggest you give it a shot. It isn't permanent, and what hair you have will grow back if you decide it just doesn't work for you.
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Why do you think you will look DUMB BALD???? - - -Do you think we all look DUMB BALD????
DON'T you know and see that BALD GUYS are better looking than guys with hair
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No offense intended to anyone but, unlike yourself and some of the others here, I wasn't suffering from mpb when I went sly. I was, however, suffering from some pretty serious dandruff.
I'd been thinking about shaving my head for a long time so, with the encouragement of a few friends, I finally made a conscious decision to just do it. And you know what? I like it. It hasn't been quite seven months yet but I've seen a major surge in my confidence and self-esteem. I've also noticed that I'm more outgoing than I used to be.
As a side note, out of the 900+ people I work with only one said she didn't like it. (As did my sister.) everyone else though (family, friends and co-workers) were either indifferent or said I look good sly.
Ultimately this is your decision and you're the only one who has to be happy with it.
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So I am just trying to decide if i should go bald or not and needed some advice and or opinions on if and why I should go bald.
Not to sound like a total prick or anything bro, but momma nature already made that decision for you, as she did for me. The only choice any of us have in the matter is whether we accept it, own it, and make it look good or just keep on hiding behind those last few hairs and deluding ourselves.
That's what I was thinking too. The choice has already been made, it's just a matter of accepting it and dealing with it the best way possible. Luckily, it is actually a better look! Also, I don't understand how being bald can make someone look stupid... (doesn't a balding head with a few bang hanging willy-nilly look kinda silly?)
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Everyone up there nailed it IMO.
You, like most of us here, don't really have the choice anymore. It is what it is, shaving it all off is liberating.
Try a buzz first and see how you feel, it will always grow back if you don't like it :)
Oh and Welcome!
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So I am just trying to decide if i should go bald or not and needed some advice and or opinions on if and why I should go bald.
Not to sound like a total prick or anything bro, but momma nature already made that decision for you, as she did for me. The only choice any of us have in the matter is whether we accept it, own it, and make it look good or just keep on hiding behind those last few hairs and deluding ourselves.
That's what I was thinking too. The choice has already been made, it's just a matter of accepting it and dealing with it the best way possible. Luckily, it is actually a better look! Also, I don't understand how being bald can make someone look stupid... (doesn't a balding head with a few bang hanging willy-nilly look kinda silly?)
Exactly! I have yet to see anyone sporting a sly head that looks stupid. The only thing that holding on to that rapidly diminishing hair look does is add a good decade to to a guy's age appearance. Who really wants that?
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Great advice Brothers YR*(k
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I think it is fair to say that many guys on here would have if they could have kept their luscious locks. And at the point of going sly felt they were choosing from the least worse option (that said I think George Bush was elected on a similar rationale!). I was the same, wasn't prepared to stick with the hairy toilet seat and so shaved to the bone (in Budapest in November - that was a serious baptism of fire in the temperature department!). However, and there is a however..........
Almost all of the guys who go through the above, find that through shaving, they stop worrying about their hair, concerns about head shape, lumps, bumps etc etc soon pass, and then very swiftly they focus on far more important things. Their confidence rises, they enjoy life more, people like them more.....repeat to fade!
If your hair is as depleted as you think it is then I think ultimately you have only two options and for me he best is always to shave. And I think you will find that the only person who notices, or indeed cares about your perceived flaws is you..... (At least I hope that is the case otherwise I am a proper freak show ;).
Good luck
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Welcome, Chris....a picture would have helped, but the good thing about bald is there is no such thing as age or head shape restrictions, but even if you don't go sly, there is still a place for you here even if you want to just vent. We can all make our suggestions, but it has to be something YOU want for it to work. Good luck to you and keep us posted!
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Thank you everyone for you support and comments.
I was not trying to offend anyone with me original post and I apologize if I did offend anyone. On that note everyone seemed to have given great answers and suggestions. And I know that I should just have the confidence to do it. Just the thing is I am not a very confident guy at all. I am 26 never been in a relationship longer than a couple of weeks or so. I am not very outgoing or social when it comes to friends or family. I am actually having a hard time writing this.
I do not want to shave my head for the wrong reasons either. I am wondering if I want to do it because of what society portrays as sexy or what looks good. Or if i actually want to do it for myself. I cant quite figure that out yet. Because I love having hair just my hair i hate . its dull all it does is lay flat. I pretty much have a comb over all the hair in the back is combed up front and it is horrendous. But on another note I have shaved my head once when I was in the military and I never really got to many comments about it because we were all bald so it wasn't like it was strange or anything.
But i will dwell on it some more and I will let everyone know the status.
FYI still couldn't figure out how to upload pics lol. went to photobucket but cant figure out how to post them.
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It's possible your photos may be too big. I use Irfanview to reduce the size when I insert pictures in my posts. It's free and easy to download. If you want to insert a profile picture; go to profile and click on "I will upload my own picture" Then choose an image from your computer and click on it and it should upload. Good luck!
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Nice post, Chris!
The fact that you state writing this post is difficult is a good first step. Honestly, the way you describe your hair says a lot about how you feel about it. Here's a question....how can you hate something of yours you don't have???
I think you know what I'm getting at.
Here's a suggestion, find a cute female barber (I know female & barber are words that don't belong in the same sentence) and have her shave your head. It'd be a nice introduction to the sly side of life!
Good luck.
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I always had confident issues and still have. So i think i do understand this part, as well as it is hard to write about it. To talk/write about it is a good start and it's a good place here for support. IMO.
"... of what society portrays as sexy or what looks good." That would make it easier to go for it i suppose.
But it should be only for or self to get comfortable with your self, everything else come along with that.
Do do something that others might expects from you, doesn't lead you to feel good about your self.
Besides, i like schro's idea about the "a cute female barber" :D O0
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Here's a suggestion, find a cute female barber (I know female & barber are words that don't belong in the same sentence) and have her shave your head. It'd be a nice introduction to the sly side of life!
Hard as it may be to find such a beast, I have to admit the idea sounds awesome
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I used to go to a cute female barber. She was good at her job, too. I saw her a few days ago for the first time in about twenty years. She's still nice looking.
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Thank you everyone for you support and comments.
I was not trying to offend anyone with me original post and I apologize if I did offend anyone. On that note everyone seemed to have given great answers and suggestions. And I know that I should just have the confidence to do it. Just the thing is I am not a very confident guy at all. I am 26 never been in a relationship longer than a couple of weeks or so. I am not very outgoing or social when it comes to friends or family. I am actually having a hard time writing this.
I do not want to shave my head for the wrong reasons either. I am wondering if I want to do it because of what society portrays as sexy or what looks good. Or if i actually want to do it for myself. I cant quite figure that out yet. Because I love having hair just my hair i hate . its dull all it does is lay flat. I pretty much have a comb over all the hair in the back is combed up front and it is horrendous. But on another note I have shaved my head once when I was in the military and I never really got to many comments about it because we were all bald so it wasn't like it was strange or anything.
But i will dwell on it some more and I will let everyone know the status.
FYI still couldn't figure out how to upload pics lol. went to photobucket but cant figure out how to post them.
Firstly G'day mate, welcome to the forums. You and I have a lot in common my friend. Reading your story reminded me of myself. I shaved bald when I was 25. Up until that point I'd never been in a relationship at all, so you're 1 up on me there. Since going sly, I've had my first relationship, that lasted a probably about a month or so. But the girl didn't really seem ready for a relationship and it felt like I was having to put in all the effort to make it work, so I just left it be. Before when I had hair, I would never even thought of talking to this girl... let alone dating her... whenever I saw an attractive girl I'd think, yeah but why would she go for me, I look like an over weight middle aged balding man... at the age of 25... Since then I've put a lot of effort into the way I look and feel by going to the gym 5 days a week, and going sly. and honestly mate. Life couldn't look much better at the moment. Sure I don't have a girlfriend at the moment, and while I'd like one, I just haven't found the right one, but she'll come eventually.
On the confidence thing, I suffer a bit with this now still... that's something I rarely admit to anyone, because to me that will break the image a lot of people have of me haha. But let me tell you, going sly helped me greatly with my confidence levels, and I enjoy looking at the guy looking back at me in the mirror, and wont shy away from cameras or anything like that, and I think that going sly might help you with that kind of thing as well. But if you don't want to go sly, the buzz cut idea is a great one, and there are still some guys around here that are just happy to sport a buzz cut, and haven't felt the urge to go any further. It's all about what works best for you mate, and we'll help you to that end point as best we can! O0 Also as people have already said, kudos to you mate for taking step in the right direction, admitting this topic is hard for you is the first step to getting the answers you are after!
I'm just curious, you said you don't want to shave for the wrong reasons. What could you possibly think are the wrong reasons for going sly? I can only see there being the right reasons for wanting to go sly...
You want to feel more confident about yourself,
You want to look good for yourself.
You want to stop stressing about the way you look all the time,
You want to feel good about yourself,
You want to look good to attract a partner,
Those are just some of the reasons I can think of for why I went sly. I don't see anything wrong with them?
You said you shaved your head when you were in the Military, how did you like the look then? Did you like it? Did you NOT like it?
About the posting of images thing, copy the link to the photo into the forums, highlight the link then click the little button above that looks like a little square with a white border. alternatively you can type {img}photo link{/img} replace the {} with [] and it should display the picture. To check and see if it works just hit the preview button.
Finally, I'd like to comment on something that the wise FG said. I agree you probably aren't ready to go completely sly yet, although as we've seen recently, people can turn that around really quickly! But for now, I'd try maybe buzzing it down progressively shorter, that way you can slowly become accustomed to the sly look, until you are finally ready to take that last step, it could take you months, days, hours, or even minutes to go through those steps, it all depends on how YOU feel about it all.
Good luck mate and if you need any more help with the links or anything else I'll do my best to help, either leave a comment below, or feel free to Private Message me :D
PS, sorry for the huge post, some people might agree that once I get going I find it hard to stop haha!
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So gentlemen it has been awhile since my last post. I have made some drastic decision making and decided to go sly lol. I know it is a big shock. I still scare myself sometimes when i go into the bathroom, I'm like wth who is that lol. Anyways I have got nothing but compliments from people who have seen it and that is really awesome because i am not sure of it myself. all except one guy who said i looked like a cancer patient. what an a hole. anyways im going to try and post a few before and after pics just let me know what you guys think.
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Mate, first off welcome to the forum! I don't really have any advice to add as the guys have pretty much covered all bases already; all I can say judging from your pictures is, well done to you O0 now take your time, get used to it and embrace it!
Re the facial hair issue you were mentioning in your first post: never underestimate your potential! I'm in the process of growing some myself, started off pretty much in the same situation as you (patchy, sparse etc) but after just a few weeks I'm already surprised at the developments. It's a patience game as all the bearded guys on the forum will tell you, so check out the relevant section if you need any advice on that. But even if it turns out that face fur is not for you, so what? Mr Clean ROCKS!
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Hey Cool ! You've done it. I think it's always good to try the shaved Head once at least. It works for you !
What or who got you the final kick to do it?
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Have to say that it's a MASSIVE improvement how you look in your avatar, than in the shot with the hair. How do you feel?
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Wow! Looks great IMO.
Do you love it or what?
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Chris, I think it's a massive improvement.
It will take time until you are no longer surprised when you see yourself in the mirror. It's a weird feeling, isn't it? Although I liked the change when I shaved initially, it wasn't until about 6 or 8 weeks had passed when I realized I was no longer surprised. You'll get there.
With the positive feedback you've received I'm guessing you are already feeling better about yourself. That will continue to build and very likely will create unexpected improvements elsewhere in your life - socially, how you dress, how you carry yourself, your sense of confidence.
I believe you are in your a great experience ... just because of a haircut.
Please keep posting as to how it's going, reactions, questions, encouragement, and all that.
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Hey Chris,
Im new here myself and to the sly look. I have my own issues and getting some great advice over here. However im just curious about something. I understand that your facial hair does not grow much but why do you say you don't have the option of working out??? Is it a medical problem. If it is then you dont have to say anything further.
P.S You look so much better with your head shaved.
Sahil
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Great accomplishment and awesome improvement compared to the before pic you posted. Just take your time adjusting and keep the 30 days and don't worry about your social life ... you just have to make yourself happy first ! Keep posting !
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From the pre-shaved to the bone picture I'd say one thing jumps out at you--it was time, and now get on with your life.
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Going sly was definitely a change for the better. Congratulations!
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welcome...and I have to echo what my sly brethren have said, as a recent convert myself, I know what a big decision it can be, until its done, then you wonder why you didn't do it years ago lol...you look great sly my friend, a humungus (that is so a word) improvement! if you weren't getting any female attention before, you sure as hell will now! I have to stop myself running up to mpb "suffer's" and shouting...BY ZEUS' BEARD, SHAVE THAT DAMN HORSESHOE OFF!!
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I think you should rename thethread. Need help in deciding to go sly.
Seeing the before picture you were going bald, you did'nt need help. By shaving it off, you are sly and you are in control.
Sadly our days of lucious locks are gone, my friend. But you know what from looking at your avi, you can now say "I look good now" and I really think you do
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You look much younger in the sly picture. Very nice. No wonder you're getting compliments on the head shave.
There are always a few dorks. Don't worry about the cancer guy.
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Hi, Welcome to sly bald guys. You look great sly. It is a big improvement in my opinion. Good luck to you. You have gotten some great advice here.