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New Member Section => Introductions => Topic started by: Glottonym on September 20, 2012, 09:04:01 AM

Title: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Glottonym on September 20, 2012, 09:04:01 AM
If you are losing your hair as a man in your early twenties, then this might mean that you have noticed first signs even before that. And however standards of beauty have changed over the years, it really drags you down. I spent years avoiding mirrors whenever possible because I felt terribly unattractive, terribly self-conscious (interpreting any giggling as a sneering comment on my lack of hair), not worthy of the loving attention of anybody.

It somehow changed over night, I do not know why. Possibly Andre Agassi played a major part in this, because suddenly there was somebody genuinely bald, somebody my age, and somebody that not only many people but also I found really attractive despite or to a certain extent also because of his baldness. And one day I took a digital camera and took photos of my head, from every possible angle, from any possible perspective. What I saw was not what I would have liked to look like when I was 16, but what I saw was me, my authentic self, bald, but not completely ugly, not completely unattractive. I saw flashes of a beauty that was mine and mine only.

Today, I can face any mirror, I can face myself, I'm bald, but I'm attractive in my own way with it, physically, mentally and socially (hopefully ;-)
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Paul the Headblader on September 20, 2012, 09:34:04 AM
straighten up :)
bald is the way.
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: TheSlyBear on September 20, 2012, 09:42:49 AM
Welcome to SBG, Glottonym!

Good story. Good to hear that you've discovered yourself. Some guys have a hard time making that journey.
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: BaldRunnerFL on September 20, 2012, 10:30:19 AM
Welcome, Glottonym!

Hopefully your story is an inspiration to those on the fence.
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Skimdude on September 20, 2012, 10:57:26 AM
Welcome! That´s the right attitude ^-^
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: -Doug- on September 20, 2012, 11:16:32 AM
Glad to have you with us Glottonym. Fencers should read your intro.
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Hingatao on September 20, 2012, 11:24:19 AM
Welcome to the club, glottonym.
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Andrei on September 20, 2012, 01:49:00 PM
Welcome to the forum!
Nice post. It's important to be pleased with who you are, to feel comfortable in your skin. If a haircut helps then it's great, but usually greater issues are involved.
Glad you found your balance.
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Slynito on September 20, 2012, 06:44:38 PM
Welcome! Sitting on a fence can hurt...  :)
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: xnewyawka on September 20, 2012, 08:27:30 PM
Welcome to the forum.
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Frontier Guy on September 20, 2012, 08:28:14 PM
Welcome Glottonym ... if your comfortable, how about a picture? That's the great thing about bald - there's always room for one more photo in the Sly album.
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: warhawk on September 20, 2012, 09:00:23 PM
Hey Glottonym:  Welcome 2 the sly fraternity.  Glad that ya joined us.

WARHAWK O0
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Sir Harry on September 20, 2012, 09:04:09 PM
Welcome aboard. Nice first post!
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Glottonym on September 21, 2012, 01:34:30 AM
Thanks for the welcome.

I wished describing how I went from despair (it is very difficult to actually describe how great the problem was at the time) to some kind of confidence (still being self-conscious in some situations and catch myself putting on a cap) could be an inspiration. I just fear that you have to go through it yourself. If you had offered me propecia or one of the drugs that are a safer bet to actually have some effect, I would definitely have taken it (if I had dared to go to a doctor and somehow admitted that I knew that I was losing my head - I was in denial mode for most of my life).

As you can see from the photo, bald and glasses, my childhood nightmares come true. And I'm still alive and much more comfortable with myself than I was 20 years ago.
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: mrzed on September 21, 2012, 03:46:14 AM
Welcome! Sitting on a fence can hurt...  :)

Especially if it is a white picket fence, or has razor wire on top of it!

Welcome.  The guys here are very supportive of those with bald heads, or those wishing they would have the ... to shave their heads. 
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Frontier Guy on September 21, 2012, 04:45:25 AM
Welcome Glottonym ... if your comfortable, how about a picture? That's the great thing about bald - there's always room for one more photo in the Sly album.

Thanks for adding the photo. You've got nothing to worry about; you're a good looking guy. Nice, genuine smile which complements the total look. You can be quite proud and confident walking around with a shiny dome.
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Glottonym on September 21, 2012, 02:25:16 PM
Thanks a lot. You've made my day.

I'm neither Brad Pitt nor the Phantom of the Opera. And now my outside reflects who I am inside (partly, at least), with or without hair.
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: stasiu on September 21, 2012, 03:04:18 PM
Willkommen !  Your inspirational story is much appreciated and hope other young balding guys read and take heed !  Your glasses only help you realize how handsome your soul is !  Looking forward to your posts here !

Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Slynito on September 22, 2012, 09:17:42 AM
Thanks a lot. You've made my day.

I'm neither Brad Pitt nor the Phantom of the Opera. And now my outside reflects who I am inside (partly, at least), with or without hair.

Very well said...you speak for many of us.  O0
Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: Rourkesdrift on September 23, 2012, 08:37:59 AM
Hi,

Great story and certainly how many, many people have felt/feel. I've only just discovered and joined this site but it would have been great to find something like this when my hair first started going all those years ago. Certainly more useful than the FHM article telling me ALL baldness would be cured by the year 2000!!

Funny you mention Agassi!! My first gf had a massive crush on him and his hairy chest mind me feel less conscious about mine. Even better when he went shaved!! Still not sure how he managed to play tennis in a wig though!!

Title: Re: My short (but long) history with baldness and confidence
Post by: kalbo on September 23, 2012, 08:55:22 PM
Welcome to the bald brotherhood Glottonym. Thanks for sharing your inspiring story.