Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: beardedbaldgerman on August 04, 2012, 08:29:07 AM
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I plan to shave my head on thursday. I am planning this for weeks because it is my first day of vacation. I buzzed my hair without a guard several times over the last month or so. But my bf does not like it at all. He thinks I look better with hair. But my wish to shave my head bald is still there. So I am really really nervous about thursday and if I should stick to the plan and do the deed... :-\
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I plan to shave my head on thursday. I am planning this for weeks because it is my first day of vacation. I buzzed my hair without a guard several times over the last month or so. But my bf does not like it at all. He thinks I look better with hair. But my wish to shave my head bald is still there. So I am really really nervous about thursday and if I should stick to the plan and do the deed... :-\
Of course you will be nervous on "doing the deed" because this will be your very 1st time. I say embrace the nervousness and your journey to the sly life. Good luck and U can do it! Keep us posted 2 your road 2 slyness. O0
WARHAWK O0
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0mm, let me ask you: Which would you rather have: jitterbugs about your bf's reaction after doing the deed....or agonizing over not doing the deed? Whose happiness is more important yours or your bf's? Think about this: Accomplishments are better enjoyed when they are achieved for one's fulfillment and satisfaction than when they are achieved for others' expectations and approval...in short if you are going sly for your bf's approval/disapproval, that's the wrong reason. Good luck on Thursday, and post a pic if you can!
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If you really want to try sly, go ahead and do it. Nervousness is common. It's a combination of worry and anticipation.
Your bf's opinion may change once he sees you sly and sees that you like it. He may also enjoy rubbing your slick dome!
Good luck
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It will grow back to a clipper cut without the guard in 2 days so really nothing to worry about.
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Go for it! Your bf will get used to it. Mine did. Now he loves it!
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0mm ... you gotta try it. Do it for yourself. As written above, worst case is it will grow back in a few days.
Check in and keep us posted. We're here for you.
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I can only add my voice to the other guys and say 'Go For It' if you don't like it it'll grow back in a few days. My boyf doesn't like it when I shave my head either - he keeps saying 'Uh-oh here comes the thug' but it doesn't stop him from giving me lots of headrubs !
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What you must do this time is keep shaving, each day. Make it clear this is the new you. Be confident and happy about your decision. Your BF cannot be allowed to force a haircut he likes on you. You may want to consider if this relationship is a good one for you to continue if he cannot accept the haircut you want for yourself.
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My former girlfriend asked me more like demand from me to grow hair -then i knew she is trying to find an excuse so i let her go ,she could just say_ i don't like you....woman's mind is well different to say at least :D
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What you must do this time is keep shaving, each day. Make it clear this is the new you. Be confident and happy about your decision. Your BF cannot be allowed to force a haircut he likes on you. You may want to consider if this relationship is a good one for you to continue if he cannot accept the haircut you want for yourself.
Ding! Ding! Ding! We Have A Winner!
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I now a guy who thought that he will keep his girlfriend if he do what she demands -well what she wanted from him is to install a diamonds in his front teeth :/O ,he did just that and she left him anyway and now all he has is big dental bill and now he has become a potential target for a burglar with a wrench or pincers :*))
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Just don't get me wrong i don't wanna be "a prophet of doom" ;D -as you can see i just love just to kidding around but there is a little bit of truth in every thing i say ,your choice may be different and right one ,be in peace my brother as long as you are happy it is COOL ;) remember -you first it is after all your head ,your mind second and don't let anybody say different !
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I plan to shave my head on thursday. I am planning this for weeks because it is my first day of vacation. I buzzed my hair without a guard several times over the last month or so. But my bf does not like it at all. He thinks I look better with hair. But my wish to shave my head bald is still there. So I am really really nervous about thursday and if I should stick to the plan and do the deed... :-\
Don't be nervous. I doubt if anyone will notice the difference between buzzing without a guard and shaving your head.
Give it try. You will like the smooth head, too.
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Thank you for the encouragement! I hope I will have the nerves to do it. After all my boyfriends reactions affect how selfconfident I am about the bald head. But i think after the first stroke with the clippers the wish to go really bald takes over and I cannot stop myself from using the razor. Lets see.
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Omm, all the comments are pertinent here, but I like what Sir Harry said.
I would get it out of your systen, go all the way, I am positive you will love it...
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Go for it! You have almost nothing to lose.
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Go ahead and shave it smooth since that is what you want, the nervousness will eventually go away and will be replaced by confidence. I am sure the boyfriend will understand. After all he is in love with you and not with the stubble on your head.
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The nervousness may actually cease when you shave. At that point you've eliminated the task about which you were being nervous.
And truly, the visual difference between stubble and slick is essentially nil.
But the feeling between them is worlds apart. Although I don't mind the stubble at the end of the day, the slick feel just after shaving is nirvana. Your boyfriend might find that to be true also.
But as nearly everyone has pointed out above -- it all comes down to what you want. You owe it to yourself to shave it off and experience it. Then you can decide whether to maintain it or let it grow back to stubble-length (which will only take a few days).
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Just stop agonizing and do it. It will grow back out to its current length in about two days. Its really not a big deal.
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Just stop agonizing and do it. It will grow back out to its current length in about two days. Its really not a big deal.
This. DO IT! You will love it mate. Do it for YOURSELF.
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I did it. Went to the barber and asked him to shave it bald. "Razor?" "Yes". Feels great. Boyfriend will freak out when he comes home from work.
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Though it shouldn't matter, I am proud of you for conquering your fear and pushing through with this one.
I don't think I'd seen a front view before. Sly is a great style for you. I and a lot of my gay friends (heck, even the straight ones) would be glad to be out with you.
Perhaps your bf is just a little concerned that you're going to be "too" popular with your new Sly Style. Sometimes reactions are more about "their" insecurities. I haven't met him, so I'm just tossing this out as a consideration. (Having lived with a passive-aggressive guy for far too long I am usually suspect of responses from "well-meaning" friends who are not supportive.)
Now (and I intend this to be encouraging, and not pushy) ... will you commit to shaving daily for 30 days? I think it would be a shame to have come this far and go no further. Give it the full 30 days and then decide what's the right course for you.
Remember, there's a whole bunch of us here (and available via PM) if you need to unload, discuss, vent. At it's core, SBG is about support.
Be proud and confident. You've hurdled a major obstacle in your life journey.
Well done.
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I did it. Went to the barber and asked him to shave it bald. "Razor?" "Yes". Feels great. Boyfriend will freak out when he comes home from work.
Congratulations. That's a great sly bald look. Really suits you. Please keep it shaved.
Your are making me envious. Now I want to shave my head bald. Oh, but I already am bald. :)
Keep up your great new look.
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All I can say is HOT! HOT! HOT!
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Looks really good on you, 0mm! I'm glad you conquered your worries and did it. You knew you wanted to.
Be sure to keep us posted on your BFs reaction!
By the way, you look like you have the potential to grow a great beard. Every grow it out before? Willing to try it now?
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Hey I'm only sly for 5 days and loving every second of it. Sly really suits you and looks great. My bf was with me when I did it and he is nothing but supportive and happy - even though he was a little nervous at first. I have a feeling your bf will come around.
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My bf hates it. I don't know if he will change his mind. I shave again tomorrow to keep ist smooth.
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My bf hates it. I don't know if he will change his mind. I shave again tomorrow to keep ist smooth.
It's an initial reaction. Even from a buzz, shaving clean is a big change. Give it time. Glad to hear you are not going to let it deter you from keeping your noggin smooth. O0
This is obviously something you truly desired to do, and I personally think it suits you really well. If your BF is a good BF, he'll understand your desire to do it and will ultimately accept it as your look, once he gets over his initial "shock".
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0mm, hang in there. Remember to be true to yourself. We're here for you.
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Omm sorry to hear that your bf does not like you sly. Maybe you should ask him to shave it for you, maybe he will like it better once he sees his good work. Just a thought.
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Shaved it again 8)
@natedawg: I have the potential to grow a beard. I am actually thinking about growing it out. Not much but enough to give the face a more balanced look. Don't know what my parents will think about their "new son"...
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Excellent job on the shave. It's kinda exciting right?
I work with a lot people in my profession. On Saturday some people saw me with a lot more hair then they did on Sunday. On Tuesday I had to speak in front of approximately 150 of my top donors. It was amazing all the support I got. My mom not so much my dad was apprehensive but she loves the look and all the people who are supporting me including my bf.
I have spent a good amount of time working up to these moments and I am sure you have too. Be proud. You did it!
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Omm, one more thing. I asked my wife and daughter the other day whether they actually perceive me as bald. They both said no, they do not see me as "bald" anymore, they just see me...
The reason why I asked is because I have read this somewhere, eventually people get so used to your look that they literally don't "see" it (or realize it) anymore.
30 days should do the trick...
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The reason why I asked is because I have read this somewhere, eventually people get so used to your look that they literally don't "see" it (or realize it) anymore.
This is very true. You'd be surprised how quickly it catches on. Most people are fickle by nature. They'll move on to the next thing of interest soon enough.
...Some people are just not as tactful as others when it comes to outward reactions. No biggie.
@natedawg: I have the potential to grow a beard. I am actually thinking about growing it out. Not much but enough to give the face a more balanced look.
Sweet! Looking forward to the updates. REALLY glad to hear you are enjoying being smooth yourself. That's what's most important.
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Judging by your photo's you went and had it done and it looks good!
Actually reminds me a little of my partner with the beard, but without the glasses and a bit younger!
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The reason why I asked is because I have read this somewhere, eventually people get so used to your look that they literally don't "see" it (or realize it) anymore.
This seems to be true in my case as well. My wife and daughters have told me that they have a hard time remembering or picturing me with hair. The way I look now is "normal" to them. People at work don't seem to notice anymore either.