Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: jon92388 on May 16, 2007, 05:15:00 PM
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I'm 18 years old. I have been loosing my hair since I was 17. Soon I will be starting college and being on my own. Last night I got so fed up with it. All the worrying and checking how much I've lost. Finding it in the drain of the shower. I just got so fed up and shaved it all off. I don't like it or don't hate it but the more negative things I hear about it just make me want to hide from the world. One of my friends told me to wear a wig. I guess its really bad looking or I am. Here is a pic of me http://img527.imageshack.us/img527/4236/dsci0088xh9.jpg What do you guys think? The depression of it all seems to be hitting me really fast.
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Man, don't know what you''re talking about jon, you've got a great shaped head and wear the sly look very well. A great many guys have had reactions to the first time but if you give it a chance I can tell you that being sly becomes addictive and is very enpowering. Hang around here for a while, read other threads and get input from the rest of the gang. I am sure it will be positive as well. And oh yeah, welcome to the group O0
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Hey dude welcome to the group, I wouldn't sweat it, the pic looks good, I'd do as Paul suggested and give it a chance, My son is 17 and has been shaveing his head for a while now, you can see his pic he just made a post under Introductions "Let Me Introduce Myself"
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Looks good, you will probably be the only sly guy in school. How great can you get!
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Hi Jon, welcome to SBG's. You've come to the right place. You wear the sly look well, of course it takes some adjusting to the change, but keep it up.
Lots of good posts on this website.....and many of us have dealt with the same feelings you are having. Please stick around here, feel free to ask advice and share your feelings about making this change.
Glad you found us.
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My first reaction was "Man, did I do the right thing?" From what I've read, several others felt the same way about themselves. Stick with it, let it sink in, and you'll find it's a good look. You do have a good shaped dome.
Hang in there.
Schro
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Welcome Jon. I'm with most of the others...I don't know what you are seeing that we're not but the sly look fits you just fine bro. Don't listen to those "friends" of yours that are giving you negative feedback. Are they really your friends if they are treating you like that? Just give it about a month and I'll guarantee you it will grow on you. It looks good though man, seriously. Take care and stick around for some positive support. O0
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jon...stick with it for atleast 30 days.... also shave everyday if you can....the 30 day period will really let you test out the new look....i think it looks good sly and you will have a new persona and less stress, use this transition as a time to get in shape and sport your new look with confidence.....do not let your friends change your life with a few insensitive wisecracks.....do what is best for you and you will be happier in the long run.....welcome to SBG's ... O0
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Looks good! Go with it! Welcome to SBG.
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thanks for the support. sorry for the late reply but its getting dark and I had not gone for a walk or jog yet. I used it to get some things off my head(no pun intended). Is it weird for your head to feel tingly when you jog? maybe its the sweat and breeze going into the nicks but it kinda felt refreshing.
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Jon, you rock the sly look! Keep up with the walking and jogging as it can also be a confidence booster. Head into college with confidence and you'll be the man.
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Is it weird for your head to feel tingly when you jog? maybe its the sweat and breeze going into the nicks but it kinda felt refreshing.
That my friend is the numb feeling of a newly shaved head. It last about 2 days. I miss that feeling. 8)
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I'm 18 years old. I have been loosing my hair since I was 17. Soon I will be starting college and being on my own. Last night I got so fed up with it. All the worrying and checking how much I've lost. Finding it in the drain of the shower. I just got so fed up and shaved it all off. I don't like it or don't hate it but the more negative things I hear about it just make me want to hide from the world. One of my friends told me to wear a wig. I guess its really bad looking or I am. Here is a pic of me http://img527.imageshack.us/img527/4236/dsci0088xh9.jpg What do you guys think? The depression of it all seems to be hitting me really fast.
It's normal to have some mixed emotions about it in the beginning. Just resist the temptation to grow it back. I made that mistake a few times and all it did was delay the inevitable. You look fine and have absolutely no reason to be depressed. Give it the recommended 30 days and I'm sure you'll be feeling much differently about it.
Welcome to the group.
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You are too young to know this and I know it is hard. I did not have to deal with hair loss at your [age but I had other life changing issues. You are young with your life ahead of you. Hair means so little really the guys here can help/color]
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my one female friend said I look a lot better bald :@`she told me i looked really good lol.
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jon...welcome to the site. This site will help with any questions and there are many people on this site that can share similiar experiences with you that will help...
I was thinning and it increased rapidly over a short period of time, I was young and upset and depressed all at the same, wondering what people thought of me, especially women, and it took over my life it seemed. I tried all of the tricks, rogaine, propecia, and even wore a "piece" to hide it, and after yrs of still being self-contientious about how it looked and if it was detectable, and if it would come off. It made matters worse, not to mention the $$$ that was wasted. I decided to take it off and sport the "sly" look, and I honestly can telll you that I am extremely happy that I did it and wish it was soooner. I finally realized that I am more than my hair or lack of it. You will too in time, trust me. I am very happy with where I am in life and am getting married to a beatiful woman in Sept., she loves my look and convinced to shave as well. 100% support.
My point, you are young, and it can be tough if you let it, it is not in your control so to hell with it. The look is normal these days and you see" slyness" everywhere, so you won't stand out, you will look confident and accepting of your situation...don't worry about being teased either, I am sure you have good friends that will help deal with that BS.
You look good and your head is shaped for it, take time to get used to it, and concentrate on more important things
Good luck and welcome brother!
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my one female friend said I look a lot better bald :@`she told me i looked really good lol.
enough said. if she likes it, then others will too. all those guys that are naysayers, when their lay-days are rubbing your head, it will be easy to just give them a sly grin and enjoy it. oh yeah welcome
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Welcome Jon, You look great. I hope you can hang around. I know from experience that you'll find alot of information and support from guys how have been there and experienced alot of the same things you're experiencing.
I look forward to hearing more from you in the future. O0
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Thanks for all the support. I don't know what I would do if i didn't have any.
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Is it weird for your head to feel tingly when you jog? maybe its the sweat and breeze going into the nicks but it kinda felt refreshing.
Jon....one of the many great things about shaving is the feeling of the breeze on my head. Before deciding to go sly, I tried the other alternatives for many years ( Rogaine, hair systems). Wish I could have gone sly instead and saved a bunch of $$. You will see over the course of the next few weeks what a good decision you made. You probably won't be the only sly guy in college.
By the way, don't forget the sunscreen!!
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Hey jon92388. Wait until you drive with the windows down! Enjoy the new feelings and live in the moment of them. Do some different facial expressions in the mirror, throw some shades on, discover yourself, and be confident who you are. People will take notice, and the positive will outweigh the negative.
Welcome to SBG's 8)
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It's a new lifestyle rolling without hair. I'll tell you what though, it takes some serious confidence to walk about with your head shaved. That confidence will begin to attract the right people ;). You found a solid support group if you need a squad to lean on.
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Jon
You are a handsome young man. Be confident and well groomed. Without the thinning hair there are no distractions so people will take notice of your face, give them a nice smile and you will be fine. Get to know everyone here and ask for advice at any time.
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it's just hair man. different people like diff things, no different with the people who compliment the bald look to those who dislike it.
just roll with the punches and people won't bother you about it.
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Jon ...a few tips on being sly...wear dark colored clothes...dark blues and black shirts...it goes great with the sly look......get a tan(totally optional)...go to a tanning salon if you can ..that way you can control the time exposure and tan gradually without burning......five 10-15 min sessions is plenty for a base tan.....then the rest of the summer wear sunscreen on your head...........hit the gym! hit the pool for some laps,go joggin..enjoy being able to be active,sweaty or wet without having to worry about your hair looking right..
and the most important thing to do.. is listen to your female friend who says you look better and really good, trust me on this one...ALOT of women love Sly guys ....don't listen to an immature high school friend who doesnt understand what losing your hair slowly can do to a young guy....your going off to college and becoming a man...go out there with confidence.
last tip....read every post on SBG's..theres tons of great info here on being sly.
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Dude, it looks good...you've got the big guy with a bald head thing goin' now! O0
It's too early to make any reasonable judgements...live with it shaved smooth for a month straight...then see how you and others feel about it...
betcha end up diggin' it..and listen to your one girl friend, she's got good taste! ;)
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Thanks for all the support. I feel better now. As for working out and stuff I usually walk 8-10 miles a day and do other things. I have really high cortisol problems that I never knew about until 3 months ago. Which basically made it like no matter what I did I only gained weight. My doctor could not understand. I have perfect health besides for being over weight. I am always active, I drink plenty of water and, always eat right. My doctor is helping me to correct this and in the last 3 months I lost 35lbs. Only 65lbs more to go until I am at my goal weight for now. When I reach it I may want to loose about 10 more lbs
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jon...welcome to the site. This site will help with any questions and there are many people on this site that can share similiar experiences with you that will help...
I was thinning and it increased rapidly over a short period of time, I was young and upset and depressed all at the same, wondering what people thought of me, especially women, and it took over my life it seemed. I tried all of the tricks, rogaine, propecia, and even wore a "piece" to hide it, and after yrs of still being self-contientious about how it looked and if it was detectable, and if it would come off. It made matters worse, not to mention the $$$ that was wasted. I decided to take it off and sport the "sly" look, and I honestly can telll you that I am extremely happy that I did it and wish it was soooner. I finally realized that I am more than my hair or lack of it. You will too in time, trust me. I am very happy with where I am in life and am getting married to a beatiful woman in Sept., she loves my look and convinced to shave as well. 100% support.
My point, you are young, and it can be tough if you let it, it is not in your control so to hell with it. The look is normal these days and you see" slyness" everywhere, so you won't stand out, you will look confident and accepting of your situation...don't worry about being teased either, I am sure you have good friends that will help deal with that BS.
You look good and your head is shaped for it, take time to get used to it, and concentrate on more important things
Good luck and welcome brother!
Well said YOSP!
Seriously though...it would be tough to picture you with hair....the look suits you and without sounding corny the you were bron to be bald and SLY!
Very cool, I'm glad you're so into it, it works well for you.
Keep it sly, my bald brutha! 8)
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The lay-days always can tell. Trust me she would tell you if you looked bad. You look good Jon. Keep at it for at least 30 days in order to get an honest idea.
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Jon, Welcome. It appears that you have totally taken control of your life and are doing all the right things. You are a good looking guy and really rock the look to be sly. Before long you won't even remember what life was like with hair and will only be concerned with keeping that dome gleaming. Stay strong, and you will be fine. Don't worry about any reactions from high school friends. Most people lose touch with those friends. Many of your friends will lose their hair too and will probably struggle for years trying to deny it. You, my friends, have taken the bull by the horns and have rid yourself of all those years of torment. Just read the messages on this forum about people who wasted a lot of years worrying for nothing. I guess I'd better stop now. b!@h
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Women know best O0
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The sly look looks good on you, as others have said give it some time. Big changes in looks take a couple of days to get used to. It will be fine!!
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Hey Jon,
Have just noticed your post and it is an interesting one. I'm 21, noticed my hair was going thinner when i was around 18 but ignored it, to the point where it had thinned a lot and i looked like a right idiot, (and a lot older for that matter). I found this site rather randomly, and then ended up, around 3 days after finding it getting the courage to post, within the same night i had "bic'd" my head as its known in the UK, shaved it all off.
It is definately better now, apart from the initial joking from friends, it looks a hell of a lot better, and the compliments have prooved it. I know its hard to lose it at a young age, but it defiantely looks good and it seems to suit you 110%, although not sure what it looked like before. Definately a Sly Guy Jon, and this website is great, as are the sound guys (an lass's) on it. Apologies for my use of language, im British so it may sound a bit odd, but honestly, you do look kewl with the new shaved dome.
By the sound of it, you have had the same funky feeling on your head as i did when i shaved mine, especially when going running it feels weird yet good with the wind through it, only downside is England is a damn site colder than it is for you guys over the Atlantic in the States.
Well done for taking the step, and if nothing else proves you've got a pair! (not sure if you use that expression in the US).
Jimmy
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thanks everyone. Im getting used to it and I like it more and more by the hour it seems.
Apologies for my use of language, im British so it may sound a bit odd, but honestly, you do look kewl with the new shaved dome.
Thanks. Don't worry about sounding odd. Most of my friends are from Japan they say some really odd things. I'm always helping them with English. I guess its why I decided to become an English teacher in Japan.
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Thanks. Don't worry about sounding odd. Most of my friends are from Japan they say some really odd things. I'm always helping them with English. I guess its why I decided to become an English teacher in Japan.
That's awesome! Where are you teaching in Japan?
I spent some time in Kitsuki on the island of Kyushu. One of the best trips ever!
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That's awesome! Where are you teaching in Japan?
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I'm only studying to teach there. I start school in September but Ive self taught myself a lot of Japanese. Its been tough but I'm finally starting to understand songs. Which people all ready think I am strange for. I was the only person at school who listens to Japanese music.
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Jon, I actually envy you because you've got the bouncer look going that so many people like. I can't even picture you with hair.
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That's awesome! Where are you teaching in Japan?
I'm only studying to teach there. I start school in September but Ive self taught myself a lot of Japanese. Its been tough but I'm finally starting to understand songs. Which people all ready think I am strange for. I was the only person at school who listens to Japanese music.
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Cool! I think you'll love the experience over there when you do teach. I went over to visit my buddy that was teaching in Kitsuki and he loved it.
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Hey Jon,
Welcome to the group. I can relate to how you were feeling at first. Stick around awhile. You will find the look really grows on you. So will this group of guys and gals. You are doing the right thing by working out and taking care of yourself. Also, adding a little facial hair can really change your look. I think you will find that you will get a huge boost of confidence from the whole experience. As your confidence grows, you will stop worrying about what others think and others will start seeing the real you. Best of luck, see ya around the forum.
Mark
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Don't lose faith bro!
It will be well worth it the longer you go Sly!
O0 O0
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jon, I hope this post finds you feeling better about shaving your head. It looks great! If you are getting some rude remarks about this, don't worry. Those remarks will stop. Some people will do this to justify their own appearance because they are actually insecure. They need to "blend in."
How many times have you heard someone say that they would "do this" or "do that" if it became "popular?" Meaning they are willing to do it when they can easily "blend in" . . . always easy to stand on the shoulders of giants.
The girl that told you that you looked good . . . trust me, she was telling you the truth. The fact that you decided to shave your head took confidence. hang on to that, because that look shouts CONFIDENCE.
Darrell
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jon, I hope this post finds you feeling better about shaving your head. It looks great! If you are getting some rude remarks about this, don't worry. Those remarks will stop. Some people will do this to justify their own appearance because they are actually insecure. They need to "blend in."
How many times have you heard someone say that they would "do this" or "do that" if it became "popular?" Meaning they are willing to do it when they can easily "blend in" . . . always easy to stand on the shoulders of giants.
The girl that told you that you looked good . . . trust me, she was telling you the truth. The fact that you decided to shave your head took confidence. hang on to that, because that look shouts CONFIDENCE.
Darrell
Thanks. I love the new sly me. I'm never going back love it to much. Everyone has noticed the new found confidence in myself. Thanks to everyone for the support
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Jon,
I'm glad that you like your new sly look. Again, it really does suit you. As for comments, let them roll off of you like water off a duck. I still sometimes get some negative comments. But that is not too common now. Also you said that you are trying to lose weight, check out our weight loss challenge on this site. I am hoping to be sly and in shape and support here along with other things help. So check that out. Also check out the HeadBlade and other head shaving products. That will help make the task eaiser. Again, welcome and keep it shining!
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Yo Jon, like others have said you look good sly and since we've never seen you with hair we cant imagine you with it. It would be weird :)
And since you're about to start college everyone you will meet from now on will think the same, that you're sly and look good that way.
That being said, I've done some google searches on teaching english in japan! How long are you going to school for? and where, etc? details!@
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Jon,
It's all about perspective and choice. You look good dude! I still have my hair at 56 and wish I didn't! Go figure eh? ;D
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That being said, I've done some google searches on teaching english in japan! How long are you going to school for? and where, etc? details!@
Im going to get my 4 year teaching degree because this is something that i want to do for the rest of my life. Im going to community college of philadelphia now but in my 3rd year i will switch to temple if all goes well. thanks.
thanks for all the support
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Don't worry about your noggin' looks great! Besides that
thinning hair isn't pretty! Sly is alot better and you wear it well!
Good luck on the teaching thing, you look like you'd make a good teacher!!
God speed my friend!
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That being said, I've done some google searches on teaching english in japan! How long are you going to school for? and where, etc? details!@
Im going to get my 4 year teaching degree because this is something that i want to do for the rest of my life. Im going to community college of philadelphia now but in my 3rd year i will switch to temple if all goes well. thanks.
thanks for all the support
Gonna be a Broad Street Bully eh.?
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Jon perhaps you see it as a disadvantage. but I wish I was going bald.. I'm 37 with a full set of hair.
I've been shaving for 8 years now, I've gotten my share of comments.. beleive I live a in a small town.
Family, friends, relatives.. have been really negative.. except for my wife and 4year old daughter who thinks
her dad looks good without hair.
In my situation I starting loosing patches of hair. all over my head. witch I decided to shave it off instead of having patches.. people tell me well go see a doc. did that the 1st time 99 injection of cortizon.. OUTCHHHHH.. no more..
You have a perfect head to shave..
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You rock the sly look bro. Congrats on the fitness goals you've reached so far and good luck on the future ones. O0
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: :)Dear Jon: give it a chance! at least a month or two. If you arrive on campus as the only sly guy in your class [which you won't], you'll find that you're ahead of the curve and will soon be joined by others, as the bald and BBC trend is cresting. You can go back to the misery of letting Mother Nature take her slow course, or embrace the new Jon and develop an upbeat attitude. Having injured my dome in a fall [15 stitches to close the gash] and having had to endure growing stubble for a whole week, I can tell you that shaving the noggin absolutely clean is the first thing I am going to do once I get medical clearance. Let us know how you're doing. All best, Professor Melon
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im going to get my 4 year teaching degree because this is something that i want to do for the rest of my life. Im going to community college of philadelphia now but in my 3rd year i will switch to temple if all goes well. thanks.
thanks for all the support
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Jon...welcome my fellow Philly brother, there are a lot of us in the area rockin the look, as I 'm sure you will see in any big city...Shave up, you will blend(no pun intended) right in O0
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im going to get my 4 year teaching degree because this is something that i want to do for the rest of my life. Im going to community college of philadelphia now but in my 3rd year i will switch to temple if all goes well. thanks.
thanks for all the support
Jon...welcome my fellow Philly brother, there are a lot of us in the area rockin the look, as I 'm sure you will see in any big city...Shave up, you will blend(no pun intended) right in O0
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Good for you bro. We need some more good teachers in this world. To bad they, as well as cops and fireman, don't get paid what they're worth.
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Having injured my dome in a fall [15 stitches to close the gash] and having had to endure growing stubble for a whole week, I can tell you that shaving the noggin absolutely clean is the first thing I am going to do once I get medical clearance.
Professor I wish you a speedy recovery and a clean shave real soon.
Thanks for all the support. Ive only had one problem I forgot to put sunblock on and got a sunburn could not shave for like 4 days. It was driving me crazy not being shave. I have to say I'm really loving the look. As for Philadelphia I may not be able to go. which sucks because of not being able to afford to live there on my own. I'm from the Poconos which is a really small area and really isn't that great. The only things we have here are Great Wolf lodge and Camelback. I wish I could have gone to school in Philly but it seems I'm not meant to. Once again thanks for all the support
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Ive only had one problem I forgot to put sunblock on and got a sunburn could not shave for like 4 days.
Bud, that happened to me too, wasn't funny at the time but I laughed about it later. Sometimes you don't think of putting sunblock on your head, just your face.
Chin up my friend, the photo looks fine to me! O0
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Jon my brother, we are all in this together. I started thinning at around 18 and have been trying all the hair loss treatments along the way. I'm still coming to terms with it but the folks here have really helped me out, I was having some major depression issues but with these guys' support I was able to rise above it. Just know you have the support of one of the greatest communities on the net. Keep your chin up and stay sly bro.