Sly Bald Guys Forum
New Member Section => Introductions => Topic started by: jd28619 on May 03, 2012, 12:37:14 AM
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Looking to get some feedback from you guys.
I see sly is the style on the forum and I know I won't be able to do that right off the bat, the damn buzzing is intimidating enough, time will tell...
Here's my story ... I'm 21, soon to be 22 in a couple weeks, and graduating from college next week.
I had a nice head of hair in high school and low and behold freshman year of college start to show signs of thinning ... Fast forward a couple years it is getting progressively worse and I'm becoming self conscious as hell ... Losing your hair really messes with your confidence.
I know hair loss is this is inevitable as the men in my family are all balding or bald and I'm not going to turn into a combover guy when I get to that age!
Anyways, I've been wearing my hair at the length where it touches my ears for the past 5 years or so. My hair is very thin as well, to the point when I'm walking to class and its windy, my hair is flowing all over the place and I'm sure I look awkward and/or frustrated at the same time!
For the past couple years I've just been putting the situation off which I know I will need to deal with ... For the past couple years many people have continuously told me I should shave my head, but I've been too much of a pu*** to pull the trigger.
I say all that to say, I think the time has come ... I start a full time job a couple weeks after I graduate and don't want to start off as the guy with the noticeablely long awkward looking bad hair ...
I can't even imagine what it will look like, but I think once I graduate I'm going to go ahead and buzz my head ... My current status is driving me nuts. I would almost call it obsessive how bad it has become over the last year ... I will sit in the back of class otherwise I feel people will judge me by my hair ... I've stopped working out on a consistent basis b/c my hair being long and thin looks awkward as hell when running lol (well perhaps some is I've got a bit lazy too ha).
So here is my plan. Graduate, move into my apartment, shave my head, get my ass back in the gym and get after it with the 3 weeks I have before I start my full time job and keep it short moving forward. I'm not out of shape, but not where I was in the past or would like to be ( currently 6'1 195 pounds, would like to drop some of the bad/beer weight, eat better, and be a lean 185).
There it is... I always have kept this sh*t to myself and just wanted to throw this out there as I'm sure some have been through this themselves.
Also, regarding timing, I think this is a prime time to try this as I will have a couple weeks before I start my job and worse case scenario I hate it, I'll have at least some of it back during this time.
Also, another thing I'm nervous as hell about is what people I know will think after I get the buzz as there is no guarantee it will look good. This whole process is pretty dang intimidating!
I look forward to hearing your comments and feedback, and don't hold anything back, I'm ready to hear some genuine thoughts here.
Thanks,
JD
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Looking to get some feedback from you guys.
Losing your hair really messes with your confidence.
I say all that to say, I think the time has come ... I start a full time job a couple weeks after I graduate and don't want to start off as the guy with the noticeablely long awkward looking bad hair ...
Read the various posts here about confidence. Shaving your head bald BOOST confidence. Lots of guys will testify to this.
And about starting a new job or applying for one with a bald head, ask Mr. Jules. He recently shaved bald. Applied for a job and got it. Everyone on the new job only know him as bald.
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Also, regarding timing, I think this is a prime time to try this as I will have a couple weeks before I start my job and worse case scenario I hate it, I'll have at least some of it back during this time.
Also, another thing I'm nervous as hell about is what people I know will think after I get the buzz as there is no guarantee it will look good. This whole process is pretty dang intimidating!
The plan sounds good, although I would suggest an alternate. You have three weeks. if you shave bald FIRST. Aim for the 30 day rule (shave daily for 30 days). I'd encourage you to stick with that. Now, if you really can't stand the bald look, in 3 weeks you can grow back to a fine looking buzz cut before you start work. But I think that you'll like the smooth bald look and embrace it. As you have said, you know that it is coming anyhow. Shaving bald is a big confidence booster. The smooth dome feels really nice. And these days, a bald head, even bald by choice like me, is in style.
From my experience of shaving bald when I did not have to. The intimidating thing is everything up to the point of shaving your head. Once you do it, you wonder why you took so long to do it. It's like pulling a splinter our of your finger. Oh, it's going to hurt. Oh, I don't know. And once it is out you wonder why you fretted so much. Just do it.
You'll look good and feel good. (Also, with three weeks of bald before work starts, if there is any color paleness, it will have time to fade before you start work.
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Hi and welcome!
Your not the only young one here! I'm 23 and have been wearing the buzz since I was 21!
Shaving or buzzing is the best feeling, finally free from worrying what others will think.
I think your plan sounds great, new job, new place, new you!
Best of luck, put a photo up when you can.
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I agree with the others here. I buzzed mine very short when I first entered college so many years ago. I kept it nearly shaved ever since. Real confidence builder - I knew I had the confidence to be different - this was in 1950 when shaved heads or real short buzzed was not common.
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What mrzed said. Perfect advice, follow it.
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Welcome! First, congratulations on the college graduation. Second, everyone has their own comfort level as to if/when to shave their head. If you think a short buzz just to see what it looks like, that may not be a bad idea. But at least you're admitting that MPB is going to be a part of you sooner rather than later, so wanting to go sly certainly is a good idea. Check out some of the topics and stories on the forum, and it may embolden you to follow through and do the deed. Good Luck!
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Congrats on graduation + job + bald realization + apartment ! Sounds like you have a full plate. Like guys said here, read other posts here and you will be better situated. Looks like you have a plan outlined. Now you just need SBG instructors to see you thru :)!
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Welcome, jd. You got a good plan. Like a new beginning kind of thing. I want to echo mrzed and suggest you shave right after you graduate. Hell, I personally suggest doing it the very next morning. Start the new YOU right away.
You've already been given some great advice here, but I just want to also throw in that you simply just have to go for it (shaving your head). Remove all doubt and just dive right in. It may help to have someone else do it for you. I had to ask my wife to actually do it for me the very first time, because I simply couldn't bring myself to. Now, whenever I have stubble, I can't wait to take a razor to it.
Good luck with the life changes, my friend! And congrats on graduating!
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First, I'd like to thank everyone for their time and encouragement w/ replying, never imagined a place like this existed.
Looking forward to a change, but not going to pull the trigger until I graduate, got enough stuff going on now with school winding down, moving back, etc.
Is there a site of some sort where you can upload a picture of yourself and photoshop (not sure if that's the right word) and get an idea of what you will look like sly?
I geninely appreciate all of the insight from everyone here.
One other question I had for those that buzz their head, how often do you do this?
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I know hair loss is this is inevitable as the men in my family are all balding or bald and I'm not going to turn into a combover guy when I get to that age!
I say all that to say, I think the time has come ...
what people I know will think after I get the buzz as there is no guarantee it will look good. This whole process is pretty dang intimidating!
JD:
More of the same here with one observation--it doesn't matter what people think--you're a guy who's balding and will be bald whatever they think.
So, you can do it now according to your plan right after grabbing the sheep skin--or let Mother Nature do it, hair by hair by hair. What will it look like--one hell of a lot better than a fringe or bozo ring--count on it. You've go too much to accomplish over the next few years to let mpb hold you back--clean it up, get on with life.
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JD,
Congradualtions on graduation from college. mrzed and others have given you some good advice. Give it a try but do so when you are ready.
It took wmy awhile to get the courage to do so but I have no regrets. IT really gave me aboost to my self confidence.
God luck to you now and alwasy.
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Ah... confidence is the key for everything, isn't it? ;)
Cut everything away and I PROMISE many women will stare at you with augmented interest... you' ll see... you'll be surprised :)
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Do it.
My story is similar to yours, and I'm about your age.
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One other question I had for those that buzz their head, how often do you do this?
When I was buzzing to a #2 I'd do it weekly. For a #1 I'd do it at least twice a week. For buzz, no guard, I do it daily. Only takes a few moments (faster than shaving), and always looks the same.
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Welcome JD... Congratulations on your new job, not easy to get one anywhere these days! Id have to agree with the sentiments echoed above. If I were you Id at least buzz the hair short in advance of starting the new job. Doing it as soon as you graduate will give you a few weeks to get comfortable with how it looks and feels on you. Shaving your head is a scary step to take but all of us have done it and so can you. The confidence it will give you is huge. Would you prefer to go in to a new place of work insecure, timid and worried or embarrased of what people think or do you want to make a good confident impression from day one?
Ask any guy on this site no matter what age they are and they will tell you that their only regret is they didnt shave their head sooner. Being bald isnt bad, its the worrying about going bald that'll kill you. Once you take matters in to your own hands you will love the confidence it gives you!
You wont regret it. Best of luck in the new job and with your new look.
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Welcome to SBG. I know what it's like to lose hair so young. I was 16 when I noticed I was losing mine. Shave it off and you will never look back.
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Welcome to the board JD, you have a well laid plan. Go for it. We could give you a more honest advice once you have posted your pic.
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Congrats and welcome to SBG! The fellas seemed to have summed it up...take your time and move at YOUR own pace. I will tell you this, once Sly, your confidence will be sky high!
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Congrats and welcome
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The plan should be to buzz it down right away and try it out. But ideally never let the new job see you with any form of longer hair. That way they accept and expect you to be buzzed down or shaved smooth, so no questions or hassle. Just take that first step and buzz it down yourself. Watch a youtube video since there are so many. It is such a popular look today. I see many guys your age with full heads of hair buzzed down to the skin. Do it and have fun !
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Welcome JD
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Ask any guy on this site no matter what age they are and they will tell you that their only regret is they didnt shave their head sooner.
Hearty endorsement to this statement. Zero says it all. I think that we all say this! Just do it. Now it the time to shave your head.
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My second son started thinning at age 19. His Frat Brothers teased him about it so he buzzed it very close. They all complimented him about it and thought it looked much better as well as the girls. He didn't have any confidence or self esteem issues as I raised him and all my children to have self confidence. Getting back in shape will build your confidence. I agree with some of the others that you should do it now. You'll look much better. In fact you'll look great !!! 👍👍😄😄
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What chgobuzzbald said:
The plan should be to buzz it down right away and try it out. But ideally never let the new job see you with any form of longer hair. That way they accept and expect you to be buzzed down or shaved smooth, so no questions or hassle. Just take that first step and buzz it down yourself. Watch a youtube video since there are so many. It is such a popular look today. I see many guys your age with full heads of hair buzzed down to the skin. Do it and have fun !
And maybe this sounds ridiculous, but I used to look at pictures of bald bearded guys (I have a beard I'm rather attached to) to help inspire me to finally shave it. You can only see so many pictures of Patrick Stewart and Bruce Willis and Matthew McConaughey (from Reign of Fire) before you finally say, "Aight. Gotta do it." (To say nothing of all the sharp-looking sly guys on here.)
And having a shaved head does much more for your confidence than having a balding one, for what it's worth.
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Welcome and congrats JD, Sal has a really good point, in fact, I watched an interview with Patrick Stewart on Parkinson where he talked about balding in college and when he first shaved, it was a great inspiration, but the biggest was the guys on here and videos of people our age doing it on youtube. I can honestly tell you it makes the world of a difference to your confidence. get used to the buzz and go for it! We're all here for all the support you need whenever you need it!
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Welcome to SBGs!!! 8)