Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: sanctified on April 16, 2012, 03:47:40 PM
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I came to terms with the way I look head on.
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I don't see the problem. U look great.
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I came to terms with the way I look head on but am freaking out about the way I look from other angles, particularly the side. People see you in 3D. I hate balding and now I hate the future. Flat head.
You can see the problem here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xpe7LfdJF0Q&feature=youtu.be
Yes, you do appear to be 'freaking out'. And I have no idea why.
As Itall posted, you look great.
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People have told me I look like an ancient Egyptian. They had deformed heads.. :(
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fantastic......relax!
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Your head looks completely normal and ideal to be bald.
Looks great. Nothing abnormal in my eyes.
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You are seeing yourself with jaded eyes (believe me, I've done the same thing in the past). You look fine and your head shape is normal.
People that feel the need to comment have an issue that has nothing to do with you. It's THEIR crap, projected onto you.
If you buy into it, it feeds your insecurities (something else I know well).
Let it go. You look great, and if I knew you, I'd want to date you... ;)
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Your head looks absolutely normal in my opinion
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hey underdog2: u look like a natural with the sly dome but u can have five, fifty, or 5 million people say that u rock the chrome dome look but it would NOT matter because u have yet 2 embrace it. i have noticed that u had another topic that u started back in september that was titled something like..."feeling down and looking like sh!t".
i believe that was back in september 2011. evidently it's NOT your bald dome but the problem is inside your dome. if u are still feeling "uncomfortable" about your slick dome... u should seek a therapist to deal with it. we can scream and yell that u look fine but until u learn 2 embrace what mother nature gave u than we can NOT help u.
i wish u luck in learning 2 accept physical self. take care.
WARHAWK O0
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People see you as you are--and there's nothing wrong. You, on the other hand, have some issue with yourself that has nothing to do with the shape or appearance of your head. That's what you need to talk to your therapist about, and bring a copy of this vid with you and explain why you feel the need to have other people see something that isn't there.
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People don't scrutinize your appearance with the same intensity that you are. They look at you for a moment or two and then move on. The only thing they're likely to notice is that your head is shaved.
If you become fixated on the mirror, you're going to find some flaws. We've all got them. Rarely are they as big a deal as we think they are. And if you could magically change the shape of your head, I can guarantee that you'd discover some other cosmetic flaw and start obsessing about it instead.
You've got nothing to worry about, and even if you did, there's nothing that can be done about it, so stop wasting so much time and energy obsessing about it.
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I can't add anything that hasn't been already said. There is absolutely nothing at all wrong with your head. Nothing. At all.
Stop obsessing over nothing and start living.
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The shape of your head is fine. What's going on inside it is not. Something besides the shape of your head has you rattled. I hope you figure out what it is and can resolve it so that you can start enjoying life. You look great sly.
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:/O :/O :/O :/O :/O
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As I said earlier, we all see things in the mirror that we don't like. I've got a horizontal crease running along the back of my head that I really wish wasn't there:
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi318.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fmm407%2Frhorgan68%2Fback.jpg&hash=5e75babc05d8b894f72cbf0bd190df69121e16bb)
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I'm going to sound like a jerk here, but honestly, this is all complete nonsense. How many people need to tell you you look great for you to understand, you look great! This is the internet, there is no reason to lie or hold back, if you looked like garbage, you would have been told so by now. Think about it this way, there are some things we can control, and some things we cant. You will never be able to control the (completely normal, and fine looking) shape of your head. It will always look this way, so why spend so much time feeling crappy about it. Especially when countless people say you look just fine! Plus, feeling crappy, bitter, angry, sad, etc.. is no fun at all. Accept things for how they are, and start focusing on the rad person you know you can be.
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it all looks normal to me.
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looks normal to me
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For what it's worth, I add to the chorus. You look just fine; handsome, in fact.
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I came to terms with the way I look head on but am freaking out about the way I look from other angles, particularly the side. People see you in 3D. I hate balding and now I hate the future. Flat head.
You can see the problem here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xpe7LfdJF0Q&feature=youtu.be
Frankly not sure why you are worried about it you have a perfect head and will look amaazing sly if that is what you want when you say you hate balding , the loss of hair for guys that dont ahve a choice you have my sympathy . I choose to be bald and would not have it any other way
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It's demonstrated the fact that someone sees a bad thing about himself like 5 times rougher than it actually is
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I was talking to someone today and they just felt the need to tell me all the great things they and others see in me. It made me feel good but made me realize that to me I've lost a sense of self.
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I'm going to sound like a jerk here, but honestly, this is all complete nonsense. How many people need to tell you you look great for you to understand, you look great! This is the internet, there is no reason to lie or hold back, if you looked like garbage, you would have been told so by now. Think about it this way, there are some things we can control, and some things we cant. You will never be able to control the (completely normal, and fine looking) shape of your head. It will always look this way, so why spend so much time feeling crappy about it. Especially when countless people say you look just fine! Plus, feeling crappy, bitter, angry, sad, etc.. is no fun at all. Accept things for how they are, and start focusing on the rad person you know you can be.
I was talking to someone today and they just felt the need to tell me all the great things they and others see in me. It made me feel good but made me realize that to me I've lost a sense of self. I'm wired to think that looking a certain way erased how others perceive me as a man. I have become so focused on this that I forgot who I was especially when the confidence got replaced by an equally strong insecurity. If anyone has experienced something similar it is difficult and hard to break the negative pattern. Certain things trigger emotional responses and reactions. For example, a photo of my profile this weekend had me going :/O :/O :/O :/O :/O :/O
One approach could be re-training the way you think. Look for things to go right, not for things to go wrong.
When someone compliments you on your sly look: keep it in your head. Ignore comments the negative comments.
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As I said earlier, we all see things in the mirror that we don't like. I've got a horizontal crease running along the back of my head that I really wish wasn't there:
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi318.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fmm407%2Frhorgan68%2Fback.jpg&hash=5e75babc05d8b894f72cbf0bd190df69121e16bb)
Why not? looks good in my opinion
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I can't add anything that hasn't been already said. There is absolutely nothing at all wrong with your head. Nothing. At all.
Stop obsessing over nothing and start living.
"2"
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Always see the glass as half full......
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I was talking to someone today and they just felt the need to tell me all the great things they and others see in me.
So, we're not the only ones who don't see anything at all wrong! Talk this out with your therapist--you've got too much living to do for this issue to dominate your thinking, do all that's necessary to root it out and get on with living.
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Well said saint, I think the choice of your name under dog is interesting , how about super dog ?think you need to do some self cherishing