Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: RobMia13 on February 28, 2012, 07:51:23 PM
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I started shaving my head a little more than a week ago. I've been losing my hair for a while now but i still had plenty. It was definitely more of an issue for me than anyone else because most people would tell me that I wasn't going bald until I started pointing out the problem areas and then they'd be like "oh yeah, wow I didnt notice that." So I made the decision to attack the baldness before it attacked me. Now people just meeting me for the first time actually say I wear it pretty well and my girlfriend thinks it looks good which I guess is the most important person but I hate the reaction I get from a lot of the people that are used to seeing me with hair and it goes something like this. "WHY DID YOU DO THAT!" They tell me that I didn't need to. Pretty annoying. I'm sure that a lot of you guys felt the same way I did before I shaved my head. I was always afraid someone would take off my hat when I was wearing one. I hated jumping in the water because of how crazy thin it looked when it was wet. And I hated wind cuz it totally messed up my strategic hair gel job and how calculated each hair was placed. But most of all those damn facebook pictures that People would put me in where the angle was just perfect for people to say, "oh sh*t he's going bald." I dont think any of these people with the "why" reaction could even understand. I definitely feel liberated but I need to just see all the people already that are used to my hair and get it over with! Just venting.
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welcome!
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Boy, does that sound familiar! Congratulations on making the right decision. It's best to just get it over with, even if others think you don't "have to" yet.
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Just put up my pic. Man it feels good to not have hair!!!
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Welcome. You look good. I went through the same exact thing. I wanted to do it before I absolutely had to and I'm glad I did. They'll all get over it :)
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I also got a pretty sick scar on the left side of my head that was holding me back. I wish i could post it but I dont know how.
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elo and welcome.
time will fix that. Many of us get negative reactions, it's not you, it's them whom can not deal with the idea of change.
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Welcome! Looks great!
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Looking good there, Rob. Scars, moles, and other assorted imperfections actually add character to the sly look.
As hard as it is to hear people moan about YOUR head (which is YOUR choice to do what you want to with it), it's their issue, not yours.
Be you. Learn to trust that. It's your life and you're the one who has to live it, not them.
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Rob, if you were going bald already, you HAD a reason for shaving your head. When someone questions you, you've got a good reason!
For those of us BBC, we don't have the reason, "well, I was going bald anyway". For us the 'Why did you do that', is probably a more legitimate question!
You sport the bald head well. Looks very manly. Wear your bald head proudly. It's quite a stylish look today. Notice the number of men in the community who also sport bald heads. When you look, you'll see more that perhaps you noticed before. Bald is such a refreshing look/style.
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I believe most of us feel relieved here and proud actually. enjoy. welcome
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Welcome!
So I made the decision to attack the baldness before it attacked me. Now people just meeting me for the first time actually say I wear it pretty well and my girlfriend thinks it looks good which I guess is the most important person
You nailed it-- O0
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Looks Great ! You are on that 30 day sly period for the rest of your life !
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Congratulation and welcome. Growing up I used to be very self concience about what people said about me. He this and he that. Then it suddenly hit me. This is me and I like myself. It is no one business who I am. Since going Bald by choice, never did I cared what people said. I would just ignore them and the problem stopped. If you continue the conversation about why you are shaving your head, it will never go away. Just be yourself, if you like the look which I know you do just enjoy it. Yes it feels liberating and it great not to have any hair. I'm loving it and I don't have to worry about wind, pools or any other thing that would affect hair. I'm having the time of my life without hair. But I still have a head full of it.
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Welcome aboard and enjoy. 8)
I think it looks great. Some people are just rude with their comments and like things the way they've always been. It's your head and you get to make the decisions about it. As long as you are comfortable is all that matters. I'm glad to hear your GF is supportive.
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You look good - - -If you are happy and your girl friend likes the BALD head - - -That's all that counts
Enjoy
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Looking good man. We all went through the same situations you are describing. Good to know you fell good and liberated with yourself, people will get used to it soon.
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I think the reaction that annoys me most (aside from the smartass "So what was the bet that you lost?") is the "Why did you do it? Huh, what do you mean you were going bald?" It's one thing when it's someone who's never seen me without a hat (though they had to suspect it) but it's just stupid coming from people who saw me without a hat on 5 or more days a week and yet act as if they never noticed how badly my hairline was receding.
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I think the reaction that annoys me most (aside from the smartass "So what was the bet that you lost?") is the "Why did you do it? Huh, what do you mean you were going bald?" It's one thing when it's someone who's never seen me without a hat (though they had to suspect it) but it's just stupid coming from people who saw me without a hat on 5 or more days a week and yet act as if they never noticed how badly my hairline was receding.
Don't entertain the stupidity, let the stupidity entertain you!
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Don't entertain the stupidity, let the stupidity entertain you!
Well said sir!
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Just put up my pic. Man it feels good to not have hair!!!
Congratulations and welcome to the world of sly.
Can totally relate to your new feeling not having hair.
Keep up the good work. :)
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Nice one Rob
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Recently a friend of mine's friend, John (who is apx. 21-22 yrs. old), who is Norwood 4 balding and wears whats left on top combed forward, asked how I handled premature MPB and the jokes. I said it was horrible and mentioned this site was not around "back then". I recalled going to my fifth year class reunion and some of the guys (w/o asking) ran their hand over the sparse stubble top (totally shaved heads not popular then as I had it buzzed tight) and joked "damn, could you not pull those hairs out of the shower drain and glue them back on?". It was not funny and I was EXTREMELY sensitive about baldness at the time but proudly held my head up and laughed. I told John to accept the loss and either buzz it or razor it and wrote down this site. Anyways, some people (both sexes) can really be very insensitive jerks and glad this site helps stop baldness bullying !
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Yesterday, had my first bad reaction to my sly look.
An (unamed) close relative said I looked awful, made me look older and looked like I had chemo. Said he wanted to wear his sunglasses to cut down on the glaring shine from my head.
I nearly crumbled and thought about growing the hair back...
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Mr Jules. Why do you care what one person says? My mother said the same thing to me but that was almost the only negative comment I received. Not once did I regret my decision or think of changing it. Bottom line is if you're happy, it doesn't matter what anyone else says.
I think you have a good look. Now my comment counter acts the negative comment so it's a wash.
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Thanks Acme !
I like the look. Been shaving now for nearly two months and absolutely no regrets.
It's worth recalling that when I did have some hair, I got regular comments about a receding hair line and being grey. Apparently, being grey makes you look distinguished. No, it makes you look older.
I choose to shave bald. It makes me more confident and have no thinning grey hair to worry about anymore. And I have far fewer comments about being sly than being grey.
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File under A for asshat and get on with enjoying your slick dome.
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Jules the pictures speak for themselves , you look years younger sly , sounds like very conservative comment
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Jules the pictures speak for themselves , you look years younger sly , sounds like very conservative comment
Good point and thank you.
Had only one bad reaction from one person. Before I was bald, had plenty making comments about my hairline and grey hair.
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An (unamed) close relative said I looked awful, made me look older and looked like I had chemo. Said he wanted to wear his sunglasses to cut down on the glaring shine from my head.
I've seen this post and waited for someone to ask what I think is the obvious question, a relative, does he have issues with mpb? If so, I'd say it could be an indication of his internal conflicts and desires, whether or not he acknowledges it, to have the gonads to do it himself.
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An (unamed) close relative said I looked awful, made me look older and looked like I had chemo. Said he wanted to wear his sunglasses to cut down on the glaring shine from my head.
I've seen this post and waited for someone to ask what I think is the obvious question, a relative, does he have issues with mpb? If so, I'd say it could be an indication of his internal conflicts and desires, whether or not he acknowledges it, to have the gonads to do it himself.
Think you've hit the nail on the head - the relative in question has MPB.
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I shave to 0.5 with a clipper (still not got the balls to go sly yet :-[ )
but I can honestly say how liberating it feels not to have to worry about bad hair days, weather messing my hair up and what I'll look like when I come out the barbers...
Having a shaved head is so liberating...there's no way I could grow my hair back out now.
My family still don't like it...but I do, and I feel 100% more confidant this way...
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I shave to 0.5 with a clipper (still not got the balls to go sly yet :-[ )
Do you want to shave your head clean ?
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Yesterday, had my first bad reaction to my sly look.
An (unamed) close relative said I looked awful, made me look older and looked like I had chemo. Said he wanted to wear his sunglasses to cut down on the glaring shine from my head.
I nearly crumbled and thought about growing the hair back...
Never let anyone have that kind of power over you.
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You'll reach a point, pretty soon, where people barely remember that you once had more hair. Then you'll become more comfortable with it and confident in the way you look. Then, further down the line, you'll meet people who haven't seen the new you, but they'll be meeting the stronger, more confident you, and you will exude that confidence, and people will tell you you look great. It's coming soon, I assure you!
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Razor X - wise words about the power thing.
Bluebriz - it's happening already. Had a job interview 2 weeks after going bald. Got the job and started a month ago. So all my new colleagues have ever seen me with the sky look !
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I shave to 0.5 with a clipper (still not got the balls to go sly yet :-[ )
Do you want to shave your head clean ?
I do yeah. I already shave to a 0.5 on a weekly basis with my clippers, but to me, there's still a big jump from that to shaved clean.
I KNOW I will do it at some point, it's inevitable really.
It's just hard to get the confidence sometimes :-[
And I think, even though I may have receded a little, in a weird way I wish I suffered MPB just so I had the excuse more...
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And I think, even though I may have receded a little, in a weird way I wish I suffered MPB just so I had the excuse more...
#1--mpb doesn't cause "suffering" unless you let it do so--it's not a disease or disability
#2--you do have mpb, that's what the receding hairline that is evident in your picture really is, early stages of mpb. Google up the Norwood-Hamilton baldness chart and look for your degree of receding. If you did nothing as the years go on you will continue to recede.
#3--control the situation, shave it, you can do it neatly, Mother Nature is relentless, but she sure is sloppy! Take control.
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Saintc,
You took the words right out of my mouth, with your post.
"in a weird way I wish I suffered MPB just so I had the excuse more". Sounds like you want to shave bald right now ? You just want someone or something to encourage you. Why wait for the excuse when you can take complete control now ? Saintc is right. Mother nature is sloppy when it come to MPB.
What exactly is stopping you from shaving your head clean ? Reactions from other people ? Wondering if won't look good ?
If it's reactions from other people, you'll be pleasantly surprised. Most will be curious, envious, think you look better / younger or will just say "wow, you shaved your head". And that will be that.
If it's wondering that you won't look good, well you will ! And wait till your rub your head after shaving smooth. It will bring you the biggest smile and give you the greatest wow factor.
Shave now. You'll remembered for what you did. Not for what you thought about doing.
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I do yeah. I already shave to a 0.5 on a weekly basis with my clippers, but to me, there's still a big jump from that to shaved clean.
I was where you are, a few months ago. In hind-sight, it's a big deal going into the shave. It's not a big deal afterwards. It's the new look. It's satisfying and you wonder what you fretted about. Guess it's like the first ride on a roller coaster. The anticipation is horrible. The ride is fun. Then you want to do it again. Shave it sly.
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Today, people must be seeing through my bald head and reading my mind.
Because, I was going to say that shaving your head is like a ride on a roller coaster. Anticipation, thrill and the urge to do it all over again.
At the last count, I did all over again 58 times in a row. 59th tomorrow. :)