Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: anton86 on October 19, 2011, 09:28:39 AM
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I met up with my old co-workers today for a meal to catch up. They havn't seen me since I have shaved my head and I was really anxious. Most of them were negative saying they preferred me with hair which has really put me on a downer. Did any of you guys receive negative reactions from people that saw you with hair?
Thanks
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You ddn't shave your head for them so what difference does it make... :D
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Question 1 Do you like it?
Question 2 Does it make you feel better about yourself?
Question 3 Does your significant other like it and/or support your decision?
Question 4 Of the former co workers who were critical about it - did any of them ever seek your opinion on a grooming choice of their's? Did they follow your advice?
in other words - be true to yourselfand the rest of the world can go...........
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Hell I did.
but it's a free world, so I can do whatever I want, whenever I want
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Do they like you or your hair ??????? :o :o :o :o
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I didn't receive much at all in the way of negative reactions. I'm thinking that waving the gun around helped with that.
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Yeah, makes me sort of glad that I'm perceived as a psychopath that would go off on anyone speaking badly of my appearance.
Red
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I didn't receive much at all in the way of negative reactions. I'm thinking that waving the gun around helped with that.
It couldn't have hurt. Funny how that quiets a room down.
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Who on earth takes advice from their co-workers? Do these people really have meaning in your life?
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Did any of you guys receive negative reactions from people that saw you with hair?
Sure Anton, there were several that said they preferred seeing me with hair. But the person that mattered the most loved the bald look.
8)
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Who on earth takes advice from their co-workers? Do these people really have meaning in your life?
No but some of them are woman around my age, and I would like to think that woman would think I still look OK not worse. I mean my haircut (hairpiece) was really bad when they knew me so being told I looked better then than I do with a shaved head must mean I look really bad now. :(
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Opinions are going to vary and not everyone is going to like your shaved head. That doesn't mean that other people won't, so don't put too much stock in the opinions of these people. You have to do what makes you happy. You clearly weren't happy wearing the hairpiece, so you did the right thing in ditching it no matter how many people tell you otherwise. What you need to do now -- and it's admittedly easier said than done -- is draw a line under the past and move on. Maybe you did look better a few years ago when you had more hair. Maybe we all did. But the cold hard truth is that going back to that is not an option. All you can do now is do your best with what God gave you to work with. And 99 times out of 100, for a balding guy, that means shaving his head. Dwell on the future, not the past. It will get easier with time, so hang in there.
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I first shaved my head many, many years ago. Not to please friends or co workers but to express my individuality - i got kidded but secretly enjoyed it. If I grew hair again (if I could) I would now go thru the same comments in reverse.
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Who on earth takes advice from their co-workers? Do these people really have meaning in your life?
No but some of them are woman around my age, and I would like to think that woman would think I still look OK not worse. I mean my haircut (hairpiece) was really bad when they knew me so being told I looked better then than I do with a shaved head must mean I look really bad now. :(
First, don't put too much stock in what female co-workers say. The reason? The old saying "don't dip your pen in company ink" comes to mind. These women are/should be off limits in terms of dating because nothing will screw up an otherwise good working relationship than dating. I'm sure I'll hear all kinds of exceptions to this rule and I'm sure that there are some legit ones. None the less it is/should be the rule. If, for no other reason, that you might not want to be dating someone that you have to see all day long at work.
Second, and I'm ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that I'm gonna hear about this but I'm saying it anyway. It is truly the rare woman who thinks of function ahead of form. What I mean is that what is most practical may not be the most beautiful in all but that rare woman's eyes. So the practicality of shaving one's head over how it initially looks makes perfect sense to the vast majority of men but all but those rare women worry more about how it looks and what other people may think about it than the practicality of ditching the overly expensive rug or the emasculating drugs in favor of scraping the skull.
Basically, don't listen too hard to any of the opinions of the women that you work with.
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Yup the Buddha says a mouth full...ain't no ramrod that wants his working stock bred. ;)
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Who on earth takes advice from their co-workers? Do these people really have meaning in your life?
No but some of them are woman around my age, and I would like to think that woman would think I still look OK not worse. I mean my haircut (hairpiece) was really bad when they knew me so being told I looked better then than I do with a shaved head must mean I look really bad now. :(
First, don't put too much stock in what female co-workers say. The reason? The old saying "don't dip your pen in company ink" comes to mind. These women are/should be off limits in terms of dating because nothing will screw up an otherwise good working relationship than dating. I'm sure I'll hear all kinds of exceptions to this rule and I'm sure that there are some legit ones. None the less it is/should be the rule. If, for no other reason, that you might not want to be dating someone that you have to see all day long at work.
Second, and I'm ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that I'm gonna hear about this but I'm saying it anyway. It is truly the rare woman who thinks of function ahead of form. What I mean is that what is most practical may not be the most beautiful in all but that rare woman's eyes. So the practicality of shaving one's head over how it initially looks makes perfect sense to the vast majority of men but all but those rare women worry more about how it looks and what other people may think about it than the practicality of ditching the overly expensive rug or the emasculating drugs in favor of scraping the skull.
Basically, don't listen too hard to any of the opinions of the women that you work with.
Ha, well I have done that before and it was a disaster so never again.
What I meant is that these woman are the same age range that I would meet say in a club or something. So that's why there opinion put me on a downer a bit. My thinking is, if these woman my age have a negative view of my appearance now, that that will be the same view that woman the same age in a bar would have.
I am just hoping that maybe it was just because it was such a drastic change that is why they didn't like it so much.
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Completely different environment, and women you meet out and about will not have seen you any other way.
Decide what you want to do and do it. Living your life trying to do what everyone else wants isn't ever going to make you happy.
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SlyBear's comments are on the money. Women who you meet when you go out will not have seen you any way other than sly. The women at work are probably reacting to the "big change", but give it time and most of them will come around to your new appearance. The important thing is that you choose what you want. If you like being sly and feel better about yourself, that's all that really matters.
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I met up with my old co-workers today for a meal to catch up. They havn't seen me since I have shaved my head and I was really anxious. Most of them were negative saying they preferred me with hair which has really put me on a downer. Did any of you guys receive negative reactions from people that saw you with hair?
Thanks
100% negative; best comment I received was "well, it doesn't look THAT bad...". Been 14 months now, nothing has changed. A few female friends I've had for years just dropped of the radar after I went 'sly'.
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My folks hated the fact that I had shaved my head. My dad is gone now and my stepmom still doesn't care for it. But since she now knows how much more hair I have lost, she no longer gives me any grief for it. But I also had some friends who gave me a bad time for it! But as you keep your head sly, you will probably have people start shutting up about it!
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welcome VEgas!
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I really think its just because its a shocker for someone who's used to your hair. I never saw you with hair and you like fine to me bald. I've noticed that the only people with negative reactions are the people who knew me before the change. People don't like change especially the ignorant ones. Don't take it too hard man everyone will get used to your look.
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Keep sly it looks fantastic , and if you like it keep it , be confident about yourself
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Anton86,
You are a very attractive guy. Don't listen to thos stupid women, they don't know what they are talking. you probably don't want to hear this from another guy, but you are HOT!!! Don't let anyone tell you any different.
Bald is Bold
balddaniel
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I went sly during a week away from the office while on field assignment and stopped by just before work ended as it was the day for the company bowling tournament. In my case the reactions were overwhelming positive, though I got tired of "so what was the bet that you lost?" by the 4th time I heard it and just ignored anyone who asked that question. As for the women, there was only one who implied that she missed my hair but she still liked the new look.
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For some reason coworkers seem to be the worst. Today is my first day back to work since shaving, got a mix of "Wow", "Looks good", and about half "Did you lose a bet?" / "What happened to you?" / "Why did you do that?". There are plenty of guys who work here who were already BBC, and it's different because they've always been that way. Even when I look in the mirror I'm still surprised a bit, so I'm sure it's the same for everybody else... just give them some time to get used to it :)
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just give them some time to get used to it :)
BINGO, the sly man scores a bulls eye on the bull $hit! b@n*
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I just thought of something else since marty said people don't like change. People will try to keep you from doing things that are good for you. I don't know why, but it seems to be human nature. You buy a new car, and you hear about how Car & Driver thought xyz car was better. You go on vacation, and you hear about how you should have gone to abc country instead.
When my dad was younger and first married, he had a menial job and went to night school to learn a trade and get a better job. A coworker of his told him not to bother, and said "Man, guys like me and you just stay in a job like this for life." Luckily he didn't listen to him, and eventually owned his own business doing electrical contracting.
So, in short, screw 'em.
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People will try to keep you from doing things that are good for you.
So, in short, screw 'em.
So true, but I have a question. I've asked this of some others who had mixed reactions to their new found freedom from mpb, do the people, or at least the guys, who gave you grief have obvious signs of mpb? Do they need to get real with themselves?